| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/18/2005 6:20:07 PM |
her telling me "i feel so comfortable around you, like i can just be myself, i wish we could be together all the time" coming into my room and wakeing me up and saying"can i just lay with you for a while"
Oh man, women don't say things like that unless they are messing with your head. You have to be on your toes. You should have acted slightly irritated and said: "Okay, as long as all you do is lie there and don't grope me or anything like that! I'm not one of those easy guys!" Always be alert, and be funny and challenging. You probably just caved in to her, didn't you? In other words, you behaved in exactly a predictable way, like a typical guy who can't resist a girl who wants to lie next to him.
EVERTHING in my gut told me that "she was the one". loved her to bits
There is no one. It takes millions of blades of grass to make a playing field, man.
late march/05: was at the point where i HAD to tell her what i was feeling and that i loved her knowing that it was a huge risk..
There is no such point.
Any time you tell a girl you love her, you better be lying! If you do love her, shut up about it.
she is now dating someone that she found on POF, will probably be engaged before the new year.
Bahaha. Be sure to watch how that one develops, if you have the opportunity. | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/18/2005 9:29:37 PM | | Women only want to be friends when there is no passion or chemistry felt. That's how I feel...I keep my male friends at a distance ( no matter how hot, or smart they are ), simply bc there is no chemistry. | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 5:56:30 AM | | Which is fine^^^^^^^^^^^^As long as you are straight up with them up front...Not 3 months down the road,,,,Sorry it does not take 3 months if you have chemistry or not...Why do women do this...I really think they get a kick of hurting men...Like a man does not have no feelings....Why suould they care ..It is not their feelings they are hurting...i really become to dislike women. | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 7:41:29 AM | cusack,
I found this little gem on the net a while back:
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SURVIVE A BREAKUP
Did she say "Let's just be friends", "I am not in love with you", "I still care about you" etc.?
Then:
1. It's over - as in FINAL. She's gone. She's NOT coming back.
2. Her FOCUS in life is someone else already. You're nobody.
3. You're no longer welcome. DO NOT MAKE CONTACT. Do not call, do not write - EVER. You're annoying her.
Dumpees, Wake Up:
SHE'S ALREADY MOVED ON. SHE'S HAPPY. LEAVE HER ALONE. DON'T BOTHER HER.
4. You MUST break the attachment by focusing on YOURSELF.
5. Don't even THINK about being "friends" with her. Don't torture yourself.
6. Get her OUT of your life. Get her pictures, letters, and other reminders OUT OF SIGHT. Pack them away or trash them.
7. Acknowledge your grief - wail out loud, punch your pillow, let your heart mourn. Let the pain out.
8. Express your anger. Write a farewell letter to her, but DO NOT SEND. Write out why you were or are angry at her. Get them all down. And why you are angry at yourself for what you did not do
9. Exercise A LOT.
10. GET OUT of the house. Go do things YOU like to do.
11. Stay away from alcohol.
12. Determine the qualities she had that you want in future partners, and the qualities she had that you don't want.
13. List the lessons learned - What you should have done differently.
14. It is tempting to hold on and scary to LET GO. Say to yourself that you're letting go of her. LET THE PAST GO.
15. Structure your time and stay BUSY.
16. INTERRUPT yourself whenever you get stuck thinking about her and REDIRECT your focus onto something productive.
17. Take it ONE day at a time.
18. It's better it happened NOW rather than later down the road.
19. It's GOOD that it happened, because you're now FREE to find someone BETTER.
20. A NEW and BETTER life is waiting for you. You WILL find someone BETTER. So MOVE ON!!! - BECAUSE SHE ALREADY HAS.
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:00:50 AM | sigh.. love does suck doesn't it..
she has been clear that she only sees you as a friend.. trying to talk her out of being with the person she is with.. well thats not going to help you case.. irregardless of how stupid her choice maybe..
my suggestion.. move on.. and find someone else who is available to love. | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:08:17 AM | | Which is fine..But not 3 months later...Tell the person upfront...Do not lead on...This is how people get hurt...But then again why should they care..It is not their feelings getting hurt....People only think of theirselves!!!!!!!! | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:47:17 AM | | tarheelman: Well, things happen. It's not uncommon for people to jump in bed and then later decide on something else. That's why one-night stands were invented. Just because a girl sleeps with you doesn't mean she'll continue to sleep with you. Evidently there was some chemistry - or maybe the girl was just horny and was just shopping around, sexually speaking... Anyhow, I agree this girl is a low-life skank. | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 10:01:09 AM | | @ spidy...great post...cusack listen to spidy he's dead on...i haven't read all the posts but have been where you are at one time and did apply spidy's advice...it works...I live by it...Good luck...tarheelmans losin it...lol.... | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 10:14:50 AM | | To tgif2005...It all depends....If 2 people meet in a bar and agree to have a 1 night stand..Then their is no problem...But if you take a man in his mid 20s looking for someone to share his life with in his house and the woman sees that..Then it should be upfront with the man...In other words no games...If a woman goes to a mans house she should think differently than if she was in some red-neck bar...Sorry i do not believe in games..It should all be in the open..I was always that way in my 20s...I am 39 now and i pretty much gave up on women..It is to complicated on their part...And by the way if i go to bed with somebody i do not wake up the next morning and think who can i go after next and forget the one i just was intimate with...It seems to be the norm this day and time!!!!!! | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 1:33:35 PM | yip everything is usless except for what spidey said. google for david deangelo and get the owners manual to a woman. yeah I said it, owners manual!! spanl me!! | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 1:34:33 PM | | yip everything is usless except for what spidey said. google for david deangelo and get the owners manual to a woman. yeah I said it, owners manual!! spank me!! | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 1:48:07 PM | If a woman says she just wants to be friends. What that actually means is that she wants everything from you, but there is NO WAY she is ever going to sleep with you.
Move on
Maybe she's "Just not that into you" | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 3:15:46 PM |
lol tell her you don't make friends with women.
Nope, that's too negative, sound like you are upset or something, or have some problem regarding women!
Remember, when you say something to a woman, you are effectively saying it to her entire gossip club. Pretty soon, all her acquaintances will know that you are the guy who doesn't make friends with women.
Don't do that. Just say, that would be great, maybe we can hang out sometime and discover whether we have common interests and complementary personalities that could lead to friendship! Then, just split. Your schedule is packed and you are needed somewhere else.
You're a cool guy. You never get upset, don't let anything bother you, never complain. When she says she just wants to be friends, it shouldn't even register on your facial expression, which should continue to radiate warmth and confidence.
Act naive a little bit, in a child-like way (not child-ISH!). Being offered friendship is a good thing, act as if it makes you happy! You're such a great guy that rejection is completely foreign to you. All your life, whenever someone wanted to be your friend (which was lots of people, of course), they always meant it sincerely, and so you don't know anything else! | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/19/2005 4:44:23 PM | | As soon as the words "just friends" come out of their mouth, that's THE END. Get the heck out. The movie is OVER. Do not hang around to see the credits. Do not hang around to see the copyright notice. Do not wait for the cleaning crew. | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/23/2005 2:09:54 PM |
Women only want to be friends when there is no passion or chemistry felt.
I'd agree with that, my problems (see earlier) stemmed from I hadn't seen my fiance for about 6 months whilst I was waiting for my visa. In that time, I'm pretty sure something happened with another guy, her girlfriends where taking her out to help her stop missing me whilst I was away. Girlfriends. They always know best don't they? Anyway, once again most of the stuff said in this post is quality and accurate, but as I said earlier guys are to blame too. Learn the lessons and don't repeat the mistakes.
All the best cusack, hope you have a merry xmas, get laid, and don't get suckered.
I shall be taking a break from the madness and going into hiding, need plenty of peace and quiet to start the New Year, and partying is not going to help that.
Merry xmas to the rest of you, I personally don't agree with the Pagan festival, I think you should be happy and kind to each other all year round, but hey, if it rocks your boat, rock on! | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/29/2005 9:11:37 AM | [QUOTE]I was reading another post from someone in a similar topic and that person said that if you ever have had sex with that person ("the friend") then it makes it worse. Well just to carry on with my story....we only had sex twice and that was the very first night we met. Like I said before...I never got any type of affection after that except she would always talk about how good looking I am and funny and yadda yadda yadda...but yet she loves another man?!?!?!?![/QUOTE]
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but from what you posted here. It sounds like she wasn't satisfied with what you offered in the bedroom, hence the "sexual encounters" with the other guy. I'm not saying you're small or can't use it, but it's simple arithmetic. Think about it dude. You sleep with her once or twice, then she says she only likes you as a friend. There's obviously something she didn't tell you. You believe she was using you. You are absolutely right. She had the nice guy willing to do anything for her and the non-caring guy who gives her a good **** to be plain and straightforward. Talk about having her cake and eating it too...
I say lose her. She isn't worth your time, nor is she worth the greif you are putting yourself through. Just be happy you got some nookie out of it  | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 12/31/2005 9:07:18 PM | Been there and it's nearly impossible to go back. Once you've tasted honey, it's pretty hard to forget it. If you really loved her, for a very long time, that knot in your gut will get in the way of what "friends" is supposed to be.
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:36:32 PM | well people, remember what i predicted for the end of the year( her getting engaged)?
well, was just told today..
surprise, surprise..NOT!
engaged she is...
hope she has a nice life..
maybe i should send her that shinia(spellin?) twain song "your outa here" blahahahaha!
thought ya'll who were interested would want to know.
lata!
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:56:12 PM | Rather than wasting your valuable time walk away and break off all contact. Invest your time in a woman who wants to be more than just friends.
Myself.....I keep away from the "let's just be friends" zone. I'm 46 and that's all I've heard since I found an interest in girls (12 going on 13 - Dec 1972).....
And their idea of so-called friendship is to treat you like chopped liver (if you know what I mean).
It seems that no one in today's world knows the true meaning of friendship. | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:02:54 PM | | gemini3232 you are exactly right! Women do no respect men they can walk all over... you men have to be strong and hold your ground... that's what makes us want you guys! | |
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| When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:14:41 PM | | spidey 1807 that advice sounds awfully familiar i wonder where you got that from lol. You're right though when a woman says let's just be friends its time to say "good bye and have a nice life" to her unless you actually do want to be friends with her. But friends almost never turn into lovers not impossible but not worth trying to change. better off to start fresh with someone new. Once you get in the friend pile its nearly impossible to get out. Wuss way is a one way street i am afraid (with the same woman that is, always a new start with a new woman). One-itis is a common problem with guys and i have suffered a few cases of it myself we all have. The important thing here to realize is that you can't convince a woman to like you with logic. Attraction is not a choice. Time to move on brother. | |
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