| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:27:31 AM | Zuglo,
this is twice you have said that something is getting out of hand...
NOthing is getting out of hand...lol... For some reason, there is always someone who thinks that a thread or conversation between two people within a thread is going to hell in a handbasket.
This happened with *a* and myself a week ago where neither of us were upset with the other: just 2 guys having a go. The entire thread was deleted because it was Done 2 Death ( D2D )but the complaint that initiated it was that he and I were " going at it hard "- not a good mental picture mind you but the point was taken.
So I will go not with Sarcasm but with the fact that something is being lost in translation by the internet or language. Even if you aren't being sarcastic, it is fun for me to respond to a person who i believe to be sincere in the manner in which you appear to be.
That 'wouldn't cross the street to p. i .ss on you if you were on fire" and " doesn't care if you live or die" is exaggeration for effect. THe idea of peeing on someone in order for something GOOD to come from it- to save a person who is on fire, even though you don't like the person and perhaps wouldn't mind such a thing happening to a person - is FARCE.-
you understood that the 'p on you if you were on fire " was not meant to be taken serious but you took the first comment as being utterly serious: not caring if you live or die.
It isn't terrible or portray someone in a negative light to believe that a completely unknown person ( stranger A ) simply doesn't concern himself with thinking about another completely unknown person Stranger B.
So in that sense, A doesn't care if B lives or dies as it doesn't impact upon his/her life.
NOw if A discovers B to be in a perilous situation and can offer help to him, then she cares if he lives or dies.
Ones a general statement and the other pertains to a specific situation.
AS for the men complaining and the millions and millions of people on the board and the thousands and thousands of men who suffer the heartbreak of 'sore eye ass is !"
There has ALWAYS BEEN MEN and women WHO NATTER ON AND ON TO EVERYONE EVERY CHANCE THEY GET about how they are great fellas who are getting the short end of the stick when it comes to relationships.
The internet is a great equalizer in this regard as it gives a chance for these men to showcase their particular platform. These men ( and a few women ) are essentially a SPECIAL INTEREST GROUP within the male category.
People who post on these boards are similar in effect if not mind to those people who always take time to give their opinions to poll-takers or who appear on very polarizing shows as either viewers or guests. THEY HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY AND THEY WANT THE OPPORTUNITY TO SAY IT.
The internet is immediately available to them for such a purpose and they use it with lusty abandon.
Too bad they didn't use that same passion energy they use to complain about their plight to better use in improving themselves so that they would have nothing about which to complain.
This complaint reaches back farther into the past than 2006 or 2003.
There has always been some men who seem to be able to attract more than their fair share ( who said anything about life being fair?) of women/ money/ friends/ goodies.
The other guys can't figure it out. And are left on the sidelines, scratching their ass, muttering nonsense to themselves, picking their nose in full view of everyone and wondering what is wrong with them.
Those could be literal events or figurative events . in any event, they are doing something wrong that is obvious to everyone (who is more successful )but themselves.
The threads about this sort of thing ALWAYS have several thousand views but only a few hits. we are at 360 or so posts, and several thousand views.
The people viewing are a mish mash of the complainers who don't want to appear for what they are, and a mix of people who either enjoy the threads for the FREAK SHOW FACTOR or have a vested interest but don't want to post for whatever reason. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:19:40 AM | okde,
your profile says that you are looking for talk email.
your description says not much about yourself yet this in itself says volumes about you to any astute or pseudo-astute observer.
Ask yourself if this 'batting average " or 1-2 per year is any different from what you experience in the real world.
YOU MUST ANSWER ME ON LINE, WITHIN 30 MINUTES. I took the huge effort to respond to you - even though you didn't ask me to- so you are obligated to answer all my questions within the time frame that I have thought of.
If you aren't on here answering my question, then I know exactly why you are not getting any- you are a rude ignorant loser who doens't deserve good things to happen to him.
Do you mind me imposing my will upon your choice?
if not- then you may be a minority as some, few many people on here engage in flame wars over issues far less important than this.
Some people will have noticed immediately that I switched over to the vision that many guys desire- repsond to anyone who writes no matter what they content or intent or whether it was even solicited in the first place. Impose my demands on them as if they were contractual obligations.
Some people will have blinked and said " Wow, what happened to him? Did he get a fart stuck in sideways or something?"
Some would have "got it" and smiled.
Others would continue to believe that I am an a's's ole and nothing changed for them.
There are a number of guys for whom 1 or 2 per year is their maximum.
There are a number of guys for whom 1 or 2 per week is their number.
Spending time complaining about " oh the humanity " of it all, how it all ties in with a person's upbringing, politeness, humanness, manners, global warming, killing baby seals, personal integrity, family values, unravelling the fabric of society if not the time-space continuum itself seems to be a waste of precious time that could be spent trying to figure out what it is that could be fixed within the individual.
For the record, I do no believe that OKDE is anything other than some guy trying to make his way through all of this. Idon't know him, I don't believe that he is rude. I don't believe that he is ignorant. I don't believe that he is a loser.
The comments were made for effect. It most likely didn't work as most people have figured out my thoughts on this topic. And saw immediately what I was doing.
Zugalo- please don't go on about how things are getting out of hand with this comment.. 
\/ so much for personal integrity.. polite to respond but good to lie with the excuse that you don't want to hurt someone's feelings. It may also nip in the bud any potential for blowback as in the guy returning with a nasty email.. I really don't care as it's your strategy and as long as it works for you and keeps you happy.
Some guy is bound to respond " So if you are in a relationship, Why are you still on POF looking for guys to date? Why didn'tyou change your profile status?"
but whatever. another thread in the fabric of society just unravelled..
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:29:02 AM | I always respond because its polite. If I am uninterested I tell the person I am involved in another relationship and want to pursue it even if its not true. i don't like telling a person Im uninterested because thats kinda mean too. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:48:21 AM | Zugalo- please don't go on about how things are getting out of hand with this comment.. ...
OK, OK...Maybe I don't get sarcasm. (is that how it's spelled?)
And it's ZUGLO, mister..Now I am trying to be sarcastic, since I KNOW that was a typo...LOL | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:07:46 AM | Zuglo,
lol..
You ARE a good guy..
you're a good man buddy.
I would have understood that you were being sarcastic based only on your previous posts. As it would have been out of character for you and so I would believe you were just having a laugh...
no blood , no foul.
Sarcasm- yup.. Ironic comments, sarcasm, farce and many of the other intuitive abstract styles of conversation are often lost or misinterpretted on the internet.
It could also be a cultural & language thing as well. Mid East European people, I am thinking Ukranians, Latvians or Estonians especially , don't 'get' many English expressions/idioms and especially our professed fondness of sarcasm. Or the style of sarcasm we use. ANd our misuse and inappropriate use of the nasty sarcasm.
And the internet lends itself to this as I don't often remember to put in the "sarcasm" smiley thingy. :sarcasm: we need one of those.
I am looking for the $WHINERS thread du jour and don't yet see it.. But it will go something like this:
Him: I send out X number of emails and get nothing but read/delete or the worst offense, delete unread. What am I to make of this insufferable btihecs who do these things?
EVeryone else- Do nothing . carry on with your life.
HIm: oh no.. i just have to send her an email telling her of all the things she missed. here's an example:
2nd email :
"you just missed an opportunity to meet the greatest guy in the world. You don't deserve a guy like me . YOu are nothing but an ... insert derogatory comment about something you hope that bothers her about her body or call her an offensive name ....
you smile to yourself in all your glory for this.
2 days go by with still no response:
his 3rd email:
You idiot! YOu come here to meet men and yet you don't respond to the men that do. Don't you know you are obligated to respond to everyone and you have to do this immediately? Didn't you parents/momma bring you up right? Don't you know that the entire fabric of society rests upon your shoulders? Where is your compassion towards humanity? you have no idea how close to death I am and your non response is not making me feel any better.
Where is your personal integrity anyway? ARe you this rude in real life?
Her response:
...... the sound of her clicking delete and the ..... which is the sound of her clicking block.
She is thinking " ARe you this much of an a$$hole in real life? you just did me a favor.
HIs response:
creates a new profile.
re-establishes contact with the women he is now stalking.
" ah,, you nasty slag. I see you blocked me. I will fix you... I will start up a thread about how nasty all these women are. how they all lack manners, have no morals and they are all behaving wrong.
thread number 2 978 657 on the subject:
Why are people so rude? It's only being considerate and polite to respond...!"
it gets 6 pages in .. everyone points out what everyone else has pointed out on all the threads before. millions of people on the net, 1000's of men whining and complaining about the same thing. Just like in real life where some guys have all the luck and get all the loot while other guys are left holding the bag... and it has a rip in it...
Then the entire thread disappears into the ether... leaving it for a new dawn until it starts all over again.
No one reads any of what is written within the thread. Stuff that would have revealed everything to everyone from everybody who cared to talk about this subject. THey either read the very first post or the last post.
Then the comment that leaves everyone at a loss and yet he person posting this one has unwittingly displayed exactly the behaviour that the people have been talking about.
personal integrity: we hardly knew ye...
Did I leave anything out..?
oh yeah.. the polite rejection... . oh well,, i'll leave that for someone else . | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:31:20 AM |
your profile says that you are looking for talk email.
your description says not much about yourself yet this in itself says volumes about you to any astute or pseudo-astute observer.
Actually, I don't use this particular profile for dating purposes  | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:58:30 AM | I will volunteer my services to send men/women the rejection emails they crave. Let me know, Better hurry while supplies last!!!!!
Your choice of rejection emails are as follows:
1. *uck off! (The most economical response)
2. Thanks but I have an appointment for a dental extraction, maybe some other time. (I charge extra for sarcasm)
3. I would not talk to you even if I were blind! (You have to pay extra for cruelty)
4. If you were the last man on earth, I would become a lesbian.
5. Thanks for sharing your family genealogy with me but I have my own family gene pool.
6. Not just "thanks but no thanks",,,but *UCKING NO THANK YOU!
7. I am actually married. Yes, I know my profile says I"m single but I"m obviously lying to you so you won't contact me again.
8. Please shoot y ourself.
9. I would not kiss you with someone elses lips.
AND FOR THE FINAL SELECTION AND THE MOST POPULAR.
10. PLEASE START A THREAD ABOUT HOW WOMEN DO NOT REPLY TO YOUR EMAILS.
Due to the diversity of our company here at "LOSERS UNITED", we also offer services for men and women in replying to rejection emails. We care about both sides of the email controversy.
Why settle for "UNREAD/DELETE" when you can stalk someone on the internet? Do Not allow someone to reject you according to THEIR standards, get rejected on YOUR OWN standards. GET REJECTED IN ALL YOUR GLORY, SHINE LIKE THE LOSER YOU ARE. CALL TODAY. 1-800-GETALIFE
SPECIALIZING IN REJECTION EMAILS FOR THE FOLLOWING GROUPS OF PEOPLE.
HETEROSEXUAL/HOMOSEXUAL/LESBIAN/BI SEXIAL/TRI-SEXUAL/A SEXUAL/TRANSVESTIES AND PET POODLES (Hey, one never knows). A NEW FEATURE WE HAVE INTRODUCED AT NO COST. ....INSULTS TO FAT PEOPLE.
*DISCLAIMER:
WE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANY RETALIATION THIS MIGHT CAUSE. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:11:17 AM | heck, I can't get my pictures to download ( or is itupload ) from my camera to my laptop...
the usb thingy says it is looking for the pictures but is finding none.
I got it connected properly... little help???
this thread might as well be used for something useful..
AS for the choices available.. I am going to go with whatever is behind door number 3.
I know it wasn't a choice offered but...
lol....
Y'all enjoy yourself, ya here?!
till next we meet again, probably sooner than you'd imagine.
We will always have Paris. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:15:08 AM | | I respond to every email sent to me as well. I think it is just good manners to answer whether your answer is favourable or not at least the person knows. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:30:54 AM | | LOL This madness just won't end. Well, if "y'all" keep at it they'll eventually can this shenanigan and we can await pursed lips and baited hearts for the next one to come along! Nona, I like the Losers United thing, but I personally think it should be Losers Unlimited. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:57:38 AM |
" with the y'all comment
are you making fun of me?
Are you making fun of me?
you must be making fun of me.
said in the best voice over from TAXI DRIVER!
sometimes the men on here remind me of travis bickle.
Robert Deniro... where are you man? you'd set these guys straight!
I am going to hound you now.. I'll send you email from here till high water....
then post endless comments ( much like I am now so not much will have changed but the topic ) about how you did me wrong.
just kiddin' .
or I am not...
whichever makes you happiest or most miserable... miserableest? miserablest?
I really don't care one way or the other.
Deuce, peace brother.. I feel your pain.. I really do.
I just got over this rejection business back when I was oh... about 16.
the manner in which I was rejected then - or currently rejected now, doesn't bother me.
unless it is with a stake through the heart..... if I had one..
meanwhile I am too busy out destroying the fabric of society.. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 12:34:45 PM | nah.. mostly we are now just having fun with it all, swapping chicken recipes and spinning yarns, fixing computers and just laughing with each other..
and I think you must have missed the other THREE threads that started up ( since deleted as D2D ) about the exact same thing. ONe person complained that he only received 12 emails per day..... but he still had time to answer all of them..
and the outfit he wore was just hideous.... wait.. i said too much..
that one HAD to be a joke.
There is no one getting their panties all bunched up in a wad over this anymore.
I am quite confident that Zugla, Deuce and the rest are just laughing as well.
Now the OTHER guys,- the "not ready for prime time fellas",, well, they are still mad as a wet hen. So nothing had changed. They just have had to reorganize, and plan other tactics for their continued attack..
gentlemen, affix your bayonets.
that part of the war will never end.
Yet for the most part, the remaining cast and crew are a genial bunch.
pull up a chair and I'll call rusty..
man,, i miss the FRiendly Giant.... great show..
anyone else watch that ? | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 1:20:51 PM | zuglo... sorry man.. I did it again..
I will blame it on.... lets see.... who can I blame my own actions on when I want to delude myself that someone else must be at fault...
anyway.. I apologize for the spelling errors with your name. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 1:46:17 PM | | I'm not sure why my name keeps popping up. I guess someone needs to be blamed for things and I'm usually an easy target in these forums because of my opinions and force. I was never a part of this war nor did I get excited about any of it. Nona and I had a few exchanges, as I did with a few others but it was all hearty and light. But question...what happened to the T H U N D E R from down unda? His profile is gone and so is he. Ban? Run scared? Run out of hot air? | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 2:48:05 PM | *
I only mentioned your name as I figured you'd be cool about it. Although I don't remember reading your posts- shows how much I care- I believe that you must have been one of the 'milder guys" and one whom I thought would take no offense. You weren't obsessed about it. I figured that you'd be okay about it.
More importantly though, I couldn't remember any of the other people's names and I am far too lazy to go back to see who said what. You name and picture was there on the page and thus your name was on it.
Your "name keeps coming up" simply because you keep responding to this thread.
You know, YOu post something, your name appears. It's not as if your name was pulled out of a hat. YOu name was there one or two posts above it. It's as simple as that.
I apologize for bruising your fragile ego.
sort of like...
For a fat chick, you don't sweat much.
Funny how a couple o f people pointed out that Nona's name and picture was on the thread several times and commented about her presence and her posts but you didn't say a word in her defense then.. But you are concerned enough to post something now when someone mentions your name....lol..
NOt that nona needs defending. she is more than capable of that herself.
now before you start to put finger to keyboard, think about what I just said. Don't get angry.
I am certain that I said nothing negative. I wrote that I was confident that you were laughing and simply enjoying all of this. That no one was continuing with this - at least none of the people who had posted previously.
You took offense to that?
My comment about your quoting the "y'all" was in fun. I thought that you did that just in fun as well. I was playing with the joke- continuing the joke.
unless you were truly making fun in which my usual response is.
so Do you know how to plug in a USB cable to get the pictures out or not?
Zuglo- not yet brother... not yet...
but you can start munching on popcorn anytime...
pass me a pepsi while you are up.. | |
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| The oncoming Flood
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:01:03 PM | Fredericton is sinking....lol..
no.. however the Saint john river is over flowing. The mactaquac ( MACK- TAH -KWACK ) dam is almost spilling over so they are opening the gates a bit. This will cause a rise of 5-15 centimetres apparently.
The Downtown core has water up to the riverfront on ramps to the bridge.
The river was at 6.2 meters late last week and is projected to hit in the high 7 to low 8 meters.
People are coming in swarms to the downtown to watch the river rise. And you can see it coming up the road.
The last big flood was 2005. People's houses collapsed down in the low lying areas.
Prior to that, 1973: 3 feet of water down Queen Street and waterloo row. There is a photo somewhere of a guy in a canoe going down Queen and under the train bridge.
stay tuned....
now back to our regular program.. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:26:06 PM | But question...what happened to the T H U N D E R from down unda? His profile is gone and so is he. Ban? Run scared? Run out of hot air?
some lucky lady answered a message from him...and he fell in love....he is now living happily-ever-after on the "right" side of Society....in between hosting sermons to the disobedient-insubordinate-non-compliant rabblerousers, of Society, which...I think includes the rest of the world with the exception of his new love and a righteous other few...I love happy endings...*sigh*
Now, I am happy to announce that after reading this thread in it's entirety, I've changed my position on the topic at hand....I am now in the mind of returning every single message, remark, innuendo, scribble, illiterate, down right-dirty, "hey baby", "what's up mama", "wanna screw", ", "I like you", "heya", etc etc and on and on forever, message that I recieve....even if there are absolutely no words, or it's written in an alien language....
Peace and tranquility is soon to be upon me, and I invite you all to join in the bliss.....!
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 5:11:44 PM | DEUCE "READ/DELETED" MY EMAIL!!!!! LOL
:)
Why be inspired to answer the emails? Just simply use my service. Let us piss people off for you!!! RUN DON'T WALK TO THE PHONE!
Thunder probably got beat up by a girl. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 4/30/2008 5:30:06 PM | you know, I sent out an email and it was read then deleted... no response so far...
So I called that number to see if the line was busy. And it was..
People are out to stop me from getting what I want. SHe was probably dialing that number keeping it busy to stop me from getting thru.
{ wait a second... the voices in my head won't let me think.....
okay.. i am fine now.. .>
So I have no option but to keep emailing.
ON top of being rude, she must be cheap as she could have simply used YOUR services and I wouldn't continue thinking she was rude.
At least I would have gotten a response.
So how many items from that menu does a woman get for 5 bucks.?
IF she was truly cheap, would 5 bucks cover 10 rejections?
or is the one about becoming a lesbian more expensive as I hear that they are a hot commodity on the internet.
note_ i am not trying to imply that I think that people who whine about not getting what they want, from an internet dating site, from women they don't know, in email that they don't receive, are crazy.
if you infer that, then you have completely misinterpretted what I have written. MIsconstrued even.
my usual disclaimer. i claim no responsibility for my thoughts, words or actions and it's everyone else's fault when things don't go my way.
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