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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/1/2008 8:02:04 PM |
But what it comes down to is, bad manners tells a person a lot about the type of person they are and the lack of class they possess in their character. In other words, if they do the READ DELETE, they probably aren't worthy of dating you.
In showing the other side of the fence here.....if someone doesn't respond, they more than likely feel the person they do not respond to is not worthy of dating, otherwise, they would respond wouldn't they? | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/1/2008 8:20:03 PM | I generally respond to all emails I receive with at least a polite "thanks, but no thanks." However...if the email I receive is so rude or obnoxious that it doesn't warrant a polite response, then I will simply "read/delete"...NEXT.
Rudeness from someone else doesn't mean I have to try to build a bridge across their stupidity. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2008 8:47:17 PM | To all the all people who have nothing but time on their hands, thats great, but some of us are lead very busy lives and simply dont have time........ Time in front of the computor can be minimal and believe it or not time is a valuable commidity to some people, and jsut because you have it to spare, does not mean everybody else does.....
Take it personal or take it what it is........ | |
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Posted: 5/1/2008 8:55:58 PM | To all the all people who have nothing but time on their hands, thats great, but some of us are lead very busy lives and simply dont have time........ Time in front of the computor can be minimal and believe it or not time is a valuable commidity to some people, and jsut because you have it to spare, does not mean everybody else does.....
If you don't want to respond to people you aren't interested in, then that's your prerogative. But please don't make excuses such as "I don't have time". Unless a person gets a large amount of emails, then it wouldn't take that much time to respond to at least all emails that were well written. I doubt that many people are always busy from the time they wake up until the time they go to bed at night. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/1/2008 8:57:15 PM | | Waaa! I cannot even see if you are true to your word. You aren't accepting emails from people from my country. I live in a country where most emails get a reply. Rarely one is read/delete. Their loss. I move on. They were probably brought up in another country. LOL What do you think? (tongue in cheek) | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:45:19 PM |
feelin' kinda hot for "Z" now................whew....[/qoute].. LOL..  ..Again, why all these wonderful women's live so far from me??? I have recently found a very polite "thanks but fuk you" works very well.....;) ..At least you said "Thanks"... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 5:00:22 PM | In showing the other side of the fence here.....if someone doesn't respond, they more than likely feel the person they do not respond to is not worthy of dating, otherwise, they would respond wouldn't they?
You have a good point...As always..
Maybe they play hard to get...
Hey, I have a joke that fits in this subject.
What is a difference between a hooker, and a b.i.t.c.h?.
The hooker sleeps with everyone, the b.i.t.c.h sleeps with everyone, but me..
How is this joke fits here? Glad you asked...
It seems like if some of the guys got a read/deleted, or even a *gasp*, unread/deleted,
they think she is a bad person. She might get tons of mails,(hooker), but she doesn't answers mine,(b.i.t.c.h)...Hm...I thought it makes sense..Now I kind of..confused..
Momarks, help me out here... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 5:42:26 PM | Z,
that is too funny. .
I have long thought of putting that joke up on this thread, and the countless other similar ones ad infinitum.
For most people, calling a woman easy, slut , hooker, whore then ****btcih seems to be an increasing scale of insults. **** Btcih has a sense of purposeful maliciousness that whore and hooker simply don't have.
the men are giving the impression, however unwarranted it may be to them, that they consider this site a veritable buffet.
When they don't get what they want- they pout.
Some of these men go all out nutty ( emphasizing the exact reason why she didn't respond to him in the first place )- and send back nasty email or continue to hound them.
It gives the impression that the guys thought that the women were "easy"- women with such low standard that they'd respond positively to any one at all.
Thus a slut or a hooker- in the guy's mind.
Then, after having supped at that entree- the appetite sickens and so dies. The men figure that anyone who would stoop so low as to be with him must not be worthwhile and off he goes to the next unfulfilling conquest. anyway,, that's for another time.
The men would prefer that they have NO standards or better yet, simply take the man's standards as her own.
This is only an "if" as in if this is the way that some of these guys think"- although it would appear to be true for some of the men whose responses pretty much say this .
Then for those guys, any hooker/slut/easy lay who turns him down is not fulfilling her promise- she's a bctih for not doing what he expects her to do. She's not holding up her part of the bargain- the bargain he set up in his head and one that she knows nothing about.
People will argue that this doesn't apply to them - that is to be expected.
The more articulate ones will launch their diatribe in magnificent words, longish ones, words that would make Conrad Black wonder what was said.
Yet many guys on here have claimed that they expect the women to respond to everyone, then if not everyone, then most, and to do so " sooner " as opposed to " later" and if they get the unreaddelete - well all hell breaks lose in their mind.
Some seem quite bitter about it.
So, to quote buddy " they are mad as hell and aren't going to take it any longer"
A few simply wish it were different but have givenup worrying about it.
Although they were less than stellar in their performance in the real world- they thought that they would do much better in here. THey quote the number of women as being evidence that they would do better.
They seem to forget that THE WOMEN HAVE THEIR OWN STANDARDS that the guy must meet. And if they knew that, they didn't care- they deluded themselves into thinking that the cyber girls must be stupid. Or desperate.
If you have nothing to offer in the RW , your shit ain't gonna work in here.
So , yes, the men must think so little of the women overall, that they believe them to be so easy that they are almost sluts/whores . With that mindset going in, they are completely puzzled by the women rejecting them. To be rejected by a person whom you perceive as easy is a huge blow to their ego. To be rejected as being inadequate by a HOOKER- is the ultimate rejection.
So rather than look inward- the guy writes her off as a b.cht .h
It is not this way for every guy that is complaining.
There will be some guys who nod their head, some women nodding their head, some women who will completely disagree with this assessment. it's okay.
Those guys that write in response to this to voice their complaint: you can bet dollars to donuts that in spite of their protestations, it certainly does apply to them. They will say how much they respect women and that it isn't like this at all, that I am insane and that I must think women are whores and b*tchees and carry on like that.
Since most of the whiners don't read my posts as they are too long or wordy, I have no concern at all about pointing out what they will do- they simply won't read my post.
so yes, Z, that joke may indeed sum up some of the thinking that goes behind the complaints, under the guise of politeness, civil society and parental upbringing- or lack thereof.
usual disclaimer.
and when I say "men" i mean -"the men who are doing the complaining". and if not all of the men do whatever I wrote, then put in a " some " or "a few" or many " or most" of whatever offends you the most.. of offends you some. or whatever.
too long.. where is that edit button...
Chapter 2 of the tome is next week..
out dancing for the rest of the evening.
good night all. fight fairly. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:45:13 PM | Geeze, You guys still beating this dead horse? Let it go. Breath in, Breath out If a woman doesn't want to talk to you move on. To heck with her. What do most guys do when they have a woman that will not give them sex? They go find one that will. There is plenty. So if a woman ignores you go find one that will not. Theres plenty. God made millions of them. For every woman or man out there that will not talk to you there are 10 that will. You just gotta figure out what to do. It ain't rocket science you know? | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 1:28:44 AM | Smothered Chicken
1. 1 large onion, cut into 1/2-inch dice
2. 2 teaspoons olive oil
3. 1 whole head garlic, unpeeled
4. 1 red bell pepper, ribs and seeds removed, cut into 1/2-inch chunks
5. 1 tablespoon tomato paste
6. 4 (6 ounce) boneless, skinless chicken breast halves
7. 2 teaspoons paprika
8. Coarse salt and ground pepper
9. 3 tablespoons reduced-fat mayonnaise
10. 2 teaspoons freshly squeezed lemon juice
1. In a 2-quart microwave-safe dish, toss onion with oil. Place garlic in the center. Cover; microwave on high 5 minutes. Stir bell pepper and tomato paste into onion.
2. Rub chicken with paprika and 1/2 teaspoon each salt and pepper; place on vegetables, with thickest part of breast facing edge of dish. Cover; cook on high until chicken is opaque throughout, about 10 minutes. Remove chicken.
3. Remove garlic; slice off top, and squeeze cloves into a small bowl. Add mayonnaise and lemon juice; mash with a spoon. Stir into vegetables; spoon onto plates, and serve chicken on top.
Yield: 4 servings | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 3:33:37 AM | | Hey Nona. I love love chicken fixed in all kinds of ways. "Wanna Chat" about it sometime? Believe it or not i am a pretty good cook. As a matter of fact i love to cook. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 4:39:35 AM | i know what I am having for din din this evening!!!
Smothered chicken ...sounds delish..
OMG , I said Delish...
since I will be having garlic anyway, baked brie served with Crushed garlic makes a wonderful appetizer.
I would serve this with a nice red wine - yes I know, white with chicken but I am going against convention here anyway so I may as well apply it to my dinner choices. After all, it is MY choice and I am FREE to make it....he heh he 
XOXO makes a wonderful chiraz/chardonney combo- yes, it's a little like slumming but it is a fine tasting wine.
For those who prefer white, those people at Little penguin do make a nice table wine.
I believe that its a pinot gricchio or grigio. mmmm yummy.. maybe it isn't but some kind soul on here will thankfully point out the error of my ways on this selection. thanking you in advance.....
small portions as fun & dancing may ensue.
MAking a new thread.
go to the main page. select a forum .
DATING ADVICE.
RELATIONSHIPS.
SEX AND SEXUALITY
bROKEN HEARTS
OR WHATEVER ELSE IS THERE.
Pick the forum you wish to put your new thread where you believe your topic is best served or is appropriate.
you will then be taken to that subject page.
There is a click thru button to the top left of the page that says " new thread" or " new post" or whatever it says.
Put your title; Make sure that you spell everything correctly as the spelling nazi will be after you.
Try to highlight your question as some people don't read or can't or won't.
YOu will be hounded by people who write that they don't see a question if you don't make it clear.
good luck and have fun. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 7:20:46 AM | Plan A -Hot dog-
1. Take hot dog out of the freezer.
2. Get a pan, put water in it.
3.Put hot dog in a pan.
4.Boil hot dog til it's done.
Plan B -Pizza-
1.Pick up phone.
2.Call your choice of pizza place.
3.Wait for it.
Plan C
1.Call Nona, ask her if you can join her for dinner.
2.Hear her say- Thanks but no thanks.
3.Tell her she is making a biggest mistake, by turning you down.
4.Hear her say-Fuk off-, than hear -Click-, as she hangs up on you.
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 7:45:08 AM | | I think a "thanks but no thanks" is warranted no matter what the situation, so the other person isn't sitting there for 3 days wondering if you don't want to reply, you don't have time to reply, you're thinking about whether or not you're interested, etc. If the e-mail you get is rude, just send them an equally rude one back and block them. But if someone's nice, and they think you are interesting enough to want to contact you and get to know you, I think they at least deserve some kind of reply just for that. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2008 7:50:28 AM | | Nope, you are not the only one. I too respond to all of the messages I recieve with the exception, of course, of the angry replies to my ''thanks but not thanks'' as I see no point in arguing with someone who responds like that. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:26:20 AM | Yes a "Thanks but no thanks" is much better in my opinion than a Read /Deleted. It is the proper thing to do in my opinion.
This is one that peaves me. Some woman will email you first telling you they like what they see in your profile and then you go to email her back and she never responds back and does the "read/Delete after she was the one that made the first contact. I think "some" women just want a guy to chase their skirt around and do a couple kart wheels and a couple back flips then they might talk to you. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:31:30 AM |
MSG#403-tigarlily wrote:To all the all people who have nothing but time on their hands, thats great, but some of us are lead very busy lives and simply dont have time Yeah right lol. How longs it take for a simple "thanks but no thanks" Might save you the trouble of getting a bunch of repeat sendings. Would result in time saved in the future. It's called "the responcible thing to do". Or "ignoring the issue" | |
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Posted: 5/3/2008 11:47:09 AM | Thanks but no thanks is fine. I don't always do it, but I see the point. However, if someone keeps sending messages after they have no response, that smells of desperation, not curiousity. They can easily see if their messages have been read, unread, or deleted and any combination of the three.
Why did you spell responsible with a c? | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/3/2008 12:17:28 PM |
Yeah right lol. How longs it take for a simple "thanks but no thanks" Might save you the trouble of getting a bunch of repeat sendings. Would result in time saved in the future. It's called "the responcible thing to do". Or "ignoring the issue"
It's only a waste of time for those that repeatedly send emails even though it's obvious no one is responding to you! It's not a waste of my time at all...if I don't reply, take the hint and email someone else....that simple.
I too noticed you spelled responsible with a "c". I hope the spelling Nazi's get you. lol | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:12:37 AM | OP, The problem is that people are ruder than we would like them to be. Plain facts, niceness takes time out of my busy life I have to after all, answer my cell phone 24/7 no matter if I want to talk to them or not, it might be GOD calling and his number is unlisted. It might be my stock broker telling me I lost another 4 million at Bear Sterns on that run a few weeks ago. Whatever their reasons they can't possibilly be bothered to be nice, it might ruin their personal rep....
I have in the past been rude to people... I still work for the US Government, at times I have had a really deadly day, friends gone from earth, and I forget that things are peachy keen in your life, but not mine. It does get harder at times to smile when your best friends, or others you knew are not there to tussle your hair as you run by each other in the halls. My Second wife cured me about for good my rudeness, she was always polite even when they were not. I got told a time or three and being harder headed than most I got the messege finally.
I gave out 100 dollars in tips today on 65 dollars worth of food, drinks, and coffee. My name is Charles and now more people know me than I had ever hoped for yesterday when I was just going to be rude to myself in my mirror cause I did not want to leave the house. Death and Taxes are sure things, no, Death is sure and slow or fast it happened friday to a good buddy, but today 3 were saved, I went out and was nice for the sake of being nice, and to play pool.
There will be no way to explain the bad behaviors, without first understanding who and why their are so mad about some.... only mad makes rude,,, in my life anyway, your mileage may vary, or very, or variously very vary..... Be nice to someone you may never see them again.
Charles.
Aka, The Red Dragon, Big Bird, Death at 65,500 feet and falling fast.
I go pooooooooooofy!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 3:22:13 AM | Plan #D,,,,, Call Charles, I think my Phone number is in my profile and I will give you free tips, on cooking, dating, or generally most anything you ask about... but cooking is my hobby I get paid to kill bad guys...
If I am going to use garlic nothing is going to be fat free. But there will be lots more Garlic and Butter to add to the X-V Olive oil to make things nice and tasty.
I rarely use fat free in anything I cook unless their diet needs it and someone else planned their diet for them and they can't trust me know know better for them on the taste and texture and the way their body will work better on things like full fat and heavy bad things for them.
Laughs,,, not everyone will notice me on the flip side, but see you there in about three seconds.
Charles | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/4/2008 4:37:30 AM | After reading all that and STILL no new chicken recipe.
on a more positive note, it was a good read though
very varies variously... vicariously?
So.... do you know ANYTHING about USB cables? | |
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