| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:16:49 AM | So.... do you know ANYTHING about USB cables?
Sorry, buddy, I don't..What is USB stands for anyway?? Remember I just recently learned how to quote, and still messing that up sometimes.
Plan A-Go to some electronic store,and ask them for help.
Chicken recipe..I don't have time to cook, sitting front of this computer, waiting for women's to answer my mail...Another sarcastic comment of course.
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:47:04 PM | If that logic is pursued, then eventually no one will be left on PoF. ;)
For example, I write you, you don't reply. I give up and go away. You have no one left to write to and you go away. :)
I vote for a no thanks button! It is clicked - the writer is informed and cannot write that person again.
That way there is nothing personal and even if someone's feelings are hurt it's final. I've had it way passed "up to here" with read-deleted - that can mean it was a mistaken click. Read and nothing - is the person going to consider a while first? etc. etc.
What say you? | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:37:32 PM | Good idea in a way........
Saying something is only good manners. In an ideal world, we would all have a bit more couth I suppose.
That said, even angels and eternal optimists get tired of saying "No, no thanks, take care and good luck"...and we don't want to hurt ppl's feelings...........Cutting and pasting a general message may help.......
I only block ppl if they are creepy . Blocking is my version of "BEAT IT". Usually not necessary for MOST of the awesome guys on here. Also, sometimes someone who follows up reminds you........if you don't reply or are curt AGAIN, then they should get the hint.
Sadly, yet truthfully silence usually IS the message. If someone wants to get ahold of you...they will. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 4:58:58 AM |
For example, I write you, you don't reply. I give up and go away. You have no one left to write to and you go away. :)
I disagree...If I write to someone, and see Read/Deleted, I won't give up writing to someone else...Don't even wonder why she won't even answer..I used to, but not anymore...And she has many guys writing to her, so she might answer to some.
So, no one will go away.
But I agree on Read and nothing...WTF?? | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:03:53 AM | problem with the thanks but no thanks email is that it is still an in (think the pushy shales person getting the foot in the door.
So someone reads/deletes your email it can mean:
They are rude
They are not interested in you
They are jadded because of some crazy person in the past that did not take no for an answer
They are not interested in you
They have received 100 emails like yours in the last 5 minutes and do not have the time to reply
They are not interested in you
So the key thing is that they are not interested in you, nothing bad, just the facts.
Yes that could change in the future but it really come on!
They are not interested in you | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:18:39 AM | I reply to 95% of mails. The ones I dont bother with are from 'prefer not to say' and only have two -three words. Those, I give absolutely no effort to.
I have been cussed out by some. After I get one of those, I will admit my response time is way slower than normal.
I dont ignore people who speak to me in real life, and I want to keep it real online, so I respond.
I also have sent a couple first contact emails, and was pleased that I got a response, it felt good....even if it didnt create a date...at least I got the reply. Pass it forward I say. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:51:46 AM | | I have seen unread, deleted on a couple I have sent, but I just say they were not worth my time anyways. I do the same as you do, instead of leaving someone hanging, I will send a polite message back saying we would not be a good fit. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:11:32 AM | | Nope..you're not!! I will always try to answer all emails..I have accidently deleted some...and usually if they are interested they will write back..in my book,the polite thing to do is to say/write..thank tyou,but I am just not interestyed at this time...not dating...etc...and hey,thats okay to!!! But some people are just down right rude!!! I know where you are coming from....thank you for putting in this thread!! | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:23:06 AM | Hi Sweetheart are you sure its nothing to do with your name ''No batteries'' lol
Just joking , Just the name made me giggle ,
Please dont take it to heart , I have not replied to all my messages at the moment but , I will , Its the least i can do when someone has taken the time to send me one ,
Today is my only day off , and am trying to answer messages I have not had time to reply to from last week , some times I think people maybe do not mean to come across as rude , They are just busy in their everyday life and work , Keep your chin up sweetheart , those who dont reply maybe its destinys way of getting you off the hook from a bad future partner  | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:47:00 AM | Sometimes a person will send an email that just says "how are you?". I feel strange saying "thank you but no thank you" if they haven't actually proposed anything.
Since I've been here only a few guys have bothered to tell me they weren't interested. One was incredibly rude and I wish he hadn't bothered. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:27:26 PM | | I don't see the need to send a thanks but no thanks letter back. Put yourself in an attractive woman's shoes (not literally). I'm a hideous monster and I get at least 5 emails a day. I imagine a good-looking male gets maybe twice as many at 10 emails a day. A gorgeous babe probably get's 15-20 a day mostly from new men. If you were her, are you going to write back to every man that writes to you just to say that you aren't interested? I wouldn't either. Read/deleted is good enough for me. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:27:26 PM | It'd be nice, but I can take a hint if she doesn't respond back.
Seeing as women get more emails than guys, she doesn't have time to write back with a "No thanks" to 10-20 guys who might be emailing her each day. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:44:29 PM | Hold a door open for someone as you enter/exit a shopping mall and see how many of them actually acknowledge you and say "thank you"! You'd be surprised how many don't. Some even just give you a funny look (as if they've just gone senile and lost their mind completely). > Raven1
This is interesting, and it is happening so often today. It is becoming commonplace.
I am 54 years of age. I remember an incident that occurred about a year ago. I was in another town, picking up a book, and went for a coffee before driving back home. I finished my coffee and rose from the table. I then went towards the cafe door and opened it to leave. There were some people outside, and they wanted in before I could get out, which is the way of things today. These people weren't messing about with trivia like politeness or manners. I held the door open for the incoming people, most of whom were elderly. Not one person even looked in my direction or gave me a faint nod of acknowledgement. At the tail end of this storm of foul manners was a man in his late teens, I would say. No more than 20. He motioned me with his hand to come out, but I opened the door wider to let him in to the cafe. He smiled, tilted his head in acknowledgement, and in a quiet but sincere voice, said: "How kind."
I swear to you all, I have never encountered such sincerity from a stranger as I did at that moment. It was the way he spoke, his mannerisms, his gratitude for such a small and seemingly insignificant act of thoughtfulness, while the rest - the elderly, the experienced denizens - barged through as if I was the doorman.
That young man? I will never forget him.
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:26:16 PM | I bump into that alot too where it either says read or deleted unread.
I think its rude not to answer a person back specialy when someone says in thier profile that they always answer ppl who email them.
All i want is a reply saying no thanks not interested. Cuz when i am in that situation i email back saying not interested and good luck in your search. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:34:19 PM | I try to respond to every message but some people write back to argue or to berate others for rejecting them without "giving them a chance". I'm sure you don't do the above but there are many that do. That is probably why alot of folks just delete without responding because they don't want to deal with this.
Then again there are times when I might be interested later but just don't have time to respond at that moment so I just leave the message unanswered.
Actually, at this site... I don't get many emails. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:48:57 PM | I'll say it once again, since so many on here are so bent on getting a reply, I do my best to do so.
I don't particularly care if I get one or not (unless it is someone I have gotten to know and we had not come to the actual meeting stage, then I will send them a 'WTF?' message, but that only has happened once. )
He still messages me even. And I am glad he does.
I think too much emphasis is put on this whole 'read delete' thing.
Obviously the person doesn't want to reply and is not interested.
Yes, it is polite to reply and yes it is the internet and not really necessary to do so.
I personally would rather take the hint than get a disinterested reply. What? You want rejection put in your face?
Is that because you want a chance to ask 'why?'
I don't get it, who really cares if some anymous person on the internet you send a message to on a singles site doesn't reply.
If you are one of those that feel it is rude not to say 'thanks but no', then don't you think the ones who don't reply are not for you in the first place?
Because of this attitude on here, I try to reply to all and I guess it actually has gone well as I have not had any come back telling me what a mean person I am.
But seriously, why would anyone even care?
I have had people I chatted with every day on the internet, not a single's site even, but people who hit me up on other internet venues that I had good conversations with for years just up and dissappear.
I figure they got a life outside of here and good for them.
Or they died. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/26/2008 9:16:48 PM |
I don't get it, who really cares if some anymous [sic] person on the internet you send a message to on a singles site doesn't reply. > kariharte
I don't get it. Who really cares if some anonymous person on the internet says, Who really cares if some anonymous person on the internet you send a message to on a singles site doesn't reply?
~ Peter | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:35:27 AM |
I don't get it, who really cares if some anymous person on the internet you send a message to on a singles site doesn't reply.
If you are one of those that feel it is rude not to say 'thanks but no', then don't you think the ones who don't reply are not for you in the first place?
That is true. But I don't think of her as rude,maybe she doesn't think it's worth her time,since she is sooooo much better than every one else.
I can't help it, sorry I just feel that way. Just from the answers from other posters on this subject. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:58:42 AM | | Yes there is thanls but no thanks or the not interested. But the worst are those who delete my message without even reading it. It say's "unread deleted." It so rude not to read a message that someone put their heart into. Or reading a message and deleteing it without even giving a courtesy message even if not interested. I;ve rejected women but always had the common courtesy to write back. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:57:24 PM | So you agree a Thanks but no thanks button, as a form of reply would work? The reply would be generic. I think the person that wrote should be blocked. That way they do not get an opportunity to razz the person for saying thanks but no thanks.
I also just requested a change. If someone is blocked, they should not waste their time writing a long email and clicking send, only to then find out they've been blocked.
A lady telephoned me after more than a month. I told her I took the advice I've been getting here. Since she didn't reply for so long, she is not interested. She says I should not jump to that conclusion. Obviously there is a problem here. Thanks but no thanks, let's one person close the door on the other, cleanly, simply and without retaliation. I don't understand why anyone would argue against that. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:01:41 PM | | Which is exactly what my idea of a thanks, but no thanks button would do. It would go further and prevent subsequent replies by blocking the person. Clean and effective. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:18:07 PM | Man did you hit the nail with the hammer with that response. So true, how hard is it to say Thanks or even ty. Wow a whole 2 seconds. If someone complements me, and I don't feel attracted to them, I still will always say thanks. Now if the people continually kept sending me E-mails, then I may draw the line and not reply back, but at least a thank you for a first compliment should at least happen. These people that that think their crap don't stink or something of that nature makes me glad they deleated my E-mail in the first place. It just shows me what kind of person they are anyway.  | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:34:37 PM | | I've gotten rude replies to 'thanks but no thanks.' Now, I don't reply at all if I'm not interested. But I have never imagined that the guy is sitting, waiting hopefully for my response. I guess I imagine they've got several bait thrown out are are just looking to see who bites. Especially since I've gotten first emails that are exact replicas of those sent to my friends! The old copy and paste trick. | |
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| what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:10:24 PM | I have only been on the website a few days, and I did message a lady, and did not receive a reply, one does wait a few days to see then realize they are not interested.
I did not feel ignored or rejected and realize not everyone is going to be interested in you, whether it be picture or profile or both. | |
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