| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/12/2005 8:28:48 AM | | There are too many women out there for me to waste my time playing chasing games. If she's not interested then I'm wasting my time. If she is interested then she's just playing mind games, so she's just a waste of my time. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/12/2005 8:30:45 AM | Still, keep on trying.
These days, men, like me, are not responding that fast anymore or dont give a first mail because it gives the feeling we are desperate and sometimes we really have no clue how to start a convo because sometimes nothing seems right to say to some at first..
Its not easy. I wait myself...not that I never give an email first, but because some females get tons of emails its better to wait and see if they are interested.
Much easier for us lmao
Trust me, not that romance is dead but why give you an email when you get 100 a day and delete anyway in a second without responding
Oh heck I dont know. Do whatever you like to do. Like me, but I wait most of the time...till someone gives me a msg lol
Am not that desperate to get new contacts...and its all a game in here...
Then again, if you see someone you are interested in, and you wait with the email, soon he/she is taken by someone else lol..or not...who knows...maybe lol
And then you think for a while "what if"....
All a game... | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 9:31:08 AM | Rejection just happens. It's the thrill of the chase though that makes your blood grow hot. I think I like it both ways....both chasing side by each........ | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 9:35:14 AM | | hate the chase,used to the rejection.time for someone to come chase me for once lol. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 11:16:06 AM | It really IS all a game, hoping to run into them etc., WEARS me out. I guess I'll just wait until the next time I see him and be like "Let's do something hot stuff" teasing, kinda. Seriously though, it's in my nature to be very straight about my thoughts etc., I know no other way (sigh). K, this is me, commiting to sticking my neck out there, cross your fingers!
Kudos to all you men who assume the chase role... we LOVE that $hit! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 11:27:30 AM | @ superdame - I do believe we are quite possibly sisters "in spirit"  | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 11:29:16 AM | | I go for what I want... if rejected-- oh well, life goes on. you gotta take chances...I don't go wandering "what if"... | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 3:28:27 PM | It is amazing how so many women expect men to put their egos out on the line and whenever a broad acts sh*tty as hell, they tell him to just brush it off and move on. Ok. Excellent advice. However, if that advice is so excellent, why don't they put themselves out there more often as well?
Statistically, it seems, that a womans success rate at approaching men averages from 80-95% success. For the average male, the success rate is probably from 30-50%. But women won't do it. Nope. They think "well, some guys think a woman is being too forward...." and? What's wrong? Can't take rejection? Can't just "be a man and move on!" Like they tell us? Figures 
Ok, now I'm off my lil tiny soap box. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/12/2005 4:29:27 PM | | It's less ego-bruising to be rejected online, so more women are more comfortable contacting men online. I had lots of contacts when I was looking, and I never initiated them. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 4:47:38 PM | if there are women out there that want to chase me i say go for it because i am not running that fast.as a matter of fact i'll stop if your sexy and i really like you  | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 9:02:28 PM | arabquene: "Oooh, looks like you had a spill there good looking, let mama take care of you..."
Hee Hee... this amuses me ^ | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 9:03:34 PM | | Glad I could be of service...anything to amuse you. LOL | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 10:19:02 PM | | I learn something everytime from not being compatible with someone or the rejection comming from the guy... you can't have light without the dark. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 11:03:04 PM | | A mix of chase and run is pretty good...but if you are doing all the chasing, time to step back and look at yourself. Some men may like to play hard to get...but realistically, what men play hard to get now, if an attractive, smart and funny woman is after them? | |
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Posted: 12/13/2005 5:46:55 PM | Sparda.........we meet again. LOL You are so full of it, you know that? I put in a chase and got seriously burned. Took my situation to the posts, now chasing more. I think it depends on the attraction you feel. If I want him, gotta have him, I'll try my best. In the end it's at least a lesson learned. I am a forward woman and will proudly say so. Am I hurt over my recent rejection, hell yes. But at least I know I tried.
Now stay off your soap box dang it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/13/2005 6:02:50 PM | | There is a truth to what you said, I admit. I feel 100% comfortable with women that I'm strongly attracted to, but I know I have no chance in hell with. I.E. married women, someone not single, ect. But the gals I am interested in that I know I have a chance with, its those women that get me all nervous and shy. Even if they're equally nervous and shy around me. I know, scary thought to me is that a woman may actually be shy because of me! But I think that's where the charm comes in. There is a huge difference between shy/bashful and hard to get. Hard to get is once they know you're interested, they run off to play games with you. That sucks, I hate it, its pointless, and women who like to play hard to get are losing out on a lot of great guys out there because men don't like to "play games" anymore then women like dealing with that crap from men. The games are different, but the end result is the same. Now, timid/bashful/shy, that's just initial reaction, anxiety, typically that's just natural. I think that's charming myself, it's a physical reaction, a "I really like you too..." kind of thing which is a great thing to bring a couple together. | |
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Posted: 12/13/2005 6:22:46 PM | its funny a friend and I were just talking about this the other day....why would you want someone to chase you? Infact when most break ups occur people seems to get upset because they can not get rid of this person...when in the beginning thats what you wanted was them to chase you...to not give up...was more fun then why not NOW? To me its all games...chase till you catch... then what? You won the game! game over? What ever happened to just calling and asking someone out for coffee?
Confused is all! lol | |
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Posted: 12/13/2005 7:00:43 PM | I learn when you chase someone,your not in control of the chase,they are.Ev1 one been rejected.It's part of life.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.I sit back,and watch a group of women out to see the one I like.You can tell from the loud one,the wild one,and the shy one.But,every man is differ.Being rejected just let me know she is not the one.I move on. | |
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Posted: 12/13/2005 7:15:40 PM | thanks arabquene
(as i am slowly dusting myself off after my little "accident")
you ladies can help me up anytime you wish after you trip me up. lol | |
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Posted: 12/14/2005 12:23:10 PM | Still stunned after Curley's group analysis info. DEFINETLY the "loud one" here... although, I do appreciate that over obnoxious... teasing, kinda.
$hit, when you start one of these bad boys (threads) you feel like you should make comments, put some appetizers out and throw the coats on the bed. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2005 7:59:53 PM | Chasing can be fun to a point. Tease a little... to let him know you are
interested. Hopefully when you do it ~ it's going both ways for you.
They maybe afraid of rejection too. You need to feel them out a little..
As for what your friend said...personally I don't play the game of being
the mean girl to get a man like some think they have to do.
It's not often that I do meet someone that I want to pursue, I think it's
best to be strait up about what your thinking. If that's to much for him,
then he's not the man I'm looking for. That's just my point of view. Hell I
have been single for 9 years.. Maybe I should get b!tchy...lol
~M~ | |
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Posted: 12/23/2005 9:21:50 PM | I would chase more but I am too busy with my hectic slack schedule.
I will chase as long as I can, say 20 minutes, then I tend to back off to see if it was worth it. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2005 9:54:21 PM | Rejection...one of the worst emotions....
It's under rated how much rejection men have to face....girls tend to get approached all the time, but if a guy wants to get a date, he has to face the reality of rejection.
I always tell my boys that if you can laugh in the face of rejection, you are well on your way to being successful with women...after all... you have to swing to hit, and no one ever bats 100%
That being said, I think the guy should instigate dating and what not, but it always works out better if the girl does the chasing....I mean, a guy chasing a girl to me sounds a little weak and needy.
JVG | |
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