| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/23/2005 10:46:32 PM | | I don't like chasers, either, but a little is expected, just to let me know how much they want to be with me; too much is just too much. I don't keep it secret if I'm interested, so then there's the mutual chase, which can be fun with flirting, then fu*king... LOTS of fu*king!!! | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:46:51 AM | | chasing whether it is a man or a woman is not chasing something you want but something you are losing. the chasing normally begins when one rejects nicely or not including no futher conversation. letting anyone know you are chasing only furthers the distance between you as the one is is being chased with out distancing the chaser. before one begins to chase understand what you really want if you have any desire in you to have a relationship with whom you wish to chase. wait a few weeks and see if you can respark the relationshipship at which point it was broken. review all communications, your profile before the break and correct your errors. let the new chase begin as there are new opputunities to turn around the blunders and point yourselfs in the right direction. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/25/2005 10:51:12 AM | It really all depends on the girl, some girls are a safe chase others are too complex, you figure that before you chose to chase or not.
How to explain, some girls you are almost better to chase someone near them, if you engage someone who is insecure, she may think? Why would anyone of value want me? Therefore you do not chase those girls the same way.
Girls like that are a complex chase. So if you want them you don't chase them. Girls can be very backwards, knowing if you have a straight forward one or a reverse polarity one is a good place to start.
A confident mature girl I will give the chase to however, and honestly, it is much more fun to chase a girl who knows when to stop running. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2005 2:07:22 PM | I have to say I don't like the idea of chasing, though it has happened. And, most times the woman doesn't like it much. I figure if I approach her at all, (on here or with eye contact somewhere else), she will either respond or not. If the response is negative or non-existent, then I move on. Like someone else said here, there's too many out there to be chasing someone who isn't interested in you.
However, there have been a couple of women that I sent emails to and then tried again some time later. They still didn't answer! (LOL)
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 1/5/2006 9:19:59 AM | | I wish more women would try and risk rejection... it would give you a better idea about what men have to go through and probably would make us all appreciate one another more. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2006 3:59:02 AM | Go to 20 bars on 20 different saturdays, try talking to nobody, see how many girls come up to you and start talking to you.
If a girl goes to 20 bars on 20 different saturdays, dresses even a bit sexy, how many people are going to approach her do you think? A lot more then none is a pretty safe bet.
Guys approach women, fact of life, we are socialized to act these ways. As a guy you wana meet people you have to get used to rejection. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 1/7/2006 5:29:13 AM | Go to 20 bars on 20 different saturdays, try talking to nobody, see how many girls come up to you and start talking to you.
If a girl goes to 20 bars on 20 different saturdays, dresses even a bit sexy, how many people are going to approach her do you think? A lot more then none is a pretty safe bet.
Guys approach women, fact of life, we are socialized to act these ways. As a guy you wana meet people you have to get used to rejection.
the same differance way back to the 50's except bar scenes and clubs were the exception instead of a rule. Maybe the numbers were different way back when, like hitting into a groups of 5 might have netted you 1 or 2 if you were goodlooking, dressed to pickup and you were cool with your oneliners and respectful to say the least you got to do more than the average joes who were shy and didn't know what to say and wearing sneakers instead of wearing cool shoes with socks.
Where was the places to meet? dances, pizza joints, church at social times, beaches, even in school, hallways and classes. Supermarkets, grocery stores and laundry locations started to move up in rank for pickups. If one paid to get into a club one most likely preferred the entertainment inside. If there was a female line outside, then it became a pickup line to offer them admission to getting inside. There was lots of interviewing taking place before any male committment as experience taught a fool and his money will depart if there isn't any agreement before entering the club together. I would sure like to add to my list of pickup places. One which I forgot was just driving your convertible down the main drag. Enter here your personal input. Male and female are both equal here.
I never heard anyone say how about a beer after school unless you were talking with your buddies and your lived in a state allowing 18 years and up to buy beer and booze. The pint bottle probably had much credit in pushing a good relationship forward.
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/4/2006 7:30:15 PM | | whenever i have done the chasing, i usually get rejected,...oh well, more fish in the sea i supose...maybe i should let them chase me? | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 7:55:01 PM | | I wonder what the responses would be if it were a woman chasing a woman. 1 girl says she is interested but it seems she is keeping the other at arms length. What to do, what to so. lol | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 8:22:47 PM | | Personally, I like the thrill of the chase...the hunt is a challenge...unfortunately the guy isn't always worth getting but the pursuit itself is fun...If he's not interested, it's his loss he never got to know me...I'm very direct and outgoing and some guys just aren't man enough to handle a little intensity...Don't misunderstand me...I don't put that much of an effort into chasing someone now that I've gotten older...but something you have to work to get is always more rewarding in the end ;) | |
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Posted: 9/19/2006 7:27:45 PM | I would love to be chased by a normal guy, who is not married/insane/ underage, I seem to attract grandfathers who are looking for a young mistress, horny teenage boys, or crazy men who have been rejected by God & Men, and…… Lesbians. Of all of these groups, lesbian woman are my favourite, because they always write the best emails to me, but unfortunately I’m not attracted to women sexually.
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/19/2006 8:06:31 PM | | I'd chase, but only if led. A woman has to show a genuine interest in me before I really go and chase her. An actual call me tonight, or an actual twitching of the forefinger towards them, or a smile that is directed at me. While I've been called, so far the only women I've been called by seem to call other men too. That's not who I want! While I don't mind being friends with them, I don't want to mince words further. Chasing is left for those who mean it. The rest I might say good morning to. I'm not falling for any old gag. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/19/2006 8:39:54 PM | I don't chase men, but I have been known to ask a man out. After that, it's up to him.
My thoughts are that if you have to chase him, he's probably trying to get away. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2006 9:09:53 PM | a fine line between eye contact, and the piercing stare of a psychopath!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/20/2006 6:11:21 AM | I think a lot of people have different ideas over what chasing is. Chasing is simply the progressive courting of one mate with another. One or both can initiate and engage, but usually one is more dominant in this role.
I like women who court me, but do so moderately, pursuing me by calling me, asking me to go out, bringing me small gifts, visiting just to give me a hug and see how I'm doing -- all in moderation.
Now I may not do these things as much as she, thus she's courting me. Want proof that chasing and courting are indeed interchangeable?
(1) Reference: Dictionary.Com
v. court·ed, court·ing, courts
v. tr.
To try to gain the love or affections of, especially to seek to marry.
To attempt to gain the favor of by attention or flattery: a salesperson courting a potential customer.
Zoology. To behave so as to attract (a mate).
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/20/2006 7:59:12 AM | | Chase after women to get laid. Chasing turns them on. They get to feel desired, which makes them feel sexy and they think of you wanting to have sex with them. It is a form of psychological foreplay. Don't chase after someone you want to fall in love with. If she isn't standing there welcoming your affection, it won't happen. Choose the approach that matches your goal. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/20/2006 10:24:46 AM |
Chase after women to get laid. Chasing turns them on. They get to feel desired, which makes them feel sexy and they think of you wanting to have sex with them. It is a form of psychological foreplay. Don't chase after someone you want to fall in love with. If she isn't standing there welcoming your affection, it won't happen. Choose the approach that matches your goal.
Wow. I don't even know what to say to that. Why would you want to have to chase after a woman just for sex? Like you said, if she isn't standing there welcoming your affection, it won't happen. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/20/2006 10:40:45 AM | Call me old fashioned but here it is.... I hear alot of advice saying that it's ok for women to pursue, that men fear rejection too, But in reality.... I can't think of one relationship that I ever had where I chased, that worked out. I always felt like I had to keep "proving" myself to the guy. I never felt treasured or secure in a relationship that started out that way. the dynamic was "off". I really think it works out better when the man is the one to instigate things. And I believe even the guys that swear that they would love to be asked out by a woman...deep down, prefer to be the "hunter". That's just my 2 bits :)
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Posted: 9/20/2006 11:20:22 AM | Mesg 67
Good luck with that. ( Seriously dude, that is about the most IDIOTIC think I've ever heard a guy say. I'm 53 years old and I've heard guys say a lot of pretty idiotic things but your comments take the cake!)
Of course there are so many women out there who seem to be a couple fries short of a Happy Meal, that for all I know your approach gets results of some sort...
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/20/2006 7:34:59 PM | Actually I disagree in todays society it is not only safer to let a woman do the chasing (sexual harassment) but it is also sexier and the thought that men are or have ever really been the instegators of any relationship surprises me because i think we can all agree that women like to be chased and that results as them being the chasers. Point blank, a woman cannot be chased until she runs which makes her the chaser . Even in wild life it is more often the female who does the chasing. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/21/2006 5:14:09 AM | | I initially chase, establish something "excellent" -- something impressive, mysterious, interesting -- then I reverse the rolls allowing her to pursue me [chase, court, whichever word you choose] | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 9/21/2006 11:05:35 AM | I do that technique with my girlfriend. It's still working.  | |
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