| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/24/2009 6:42:24 PM | | It freaks me out when people still live at home. It makes think they do not want to be out on and their own . They sound cheap too! There is no freedom when you live with mom and dad!! | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:27:56 PM | It freaks me out when women assume a guy is mooching off his parents, when he is helping them out. But then again putting your parents in a seniors home is a better thing so you can have freedom.
When my mom gets sick I will have to let her know 'Sorry mom, you will be a liability to my dating life and so I cannot help you and no you cannot move in with me. The women would never like that." | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:41:07 PM | | Yes, fell in love with a yank who is now living off mommy....he is capable of working but don't have the drive to improve his situation. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:50:17 PM | It's a total turn off. Although I know one guy at work who cares for his aging parents(I commend him) the guys I get are the mooches.
Usually Mom is the lone survivor, does not get a dime to feed and house Baby Huey. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:52:59 PM | I always seem to find the women who are in thier late 30's and older, still living with her parents, not paying a dime, working full-time, driving an expensive car, always broke, mooching off her parents and then mooching off the guys she dates. Tells the guys not to call the house after 10pm because her parents are in bed. Total turn-off. Get a life I say.
Oh wait that is right, acceptable because it is a woman...now if a guy is doing this? What a loser right? It don't matter, unless you are helping your parents out, then ok. But contribute at least. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:17:48 PM | Well, moving back home with my mom so I could go to university full time and only have to work part time was a good move for both of us. With my class time and working everyday, my days are 13 hour days, 5 days a week, and that's before I even start doing my "homework" and gazillion papers that are due. I don't mooch from my mom, would never do that, I pay rent and help her out the best I can. She fully supports my desire to better myself and get my BScN so I can be an RN, and when the time ever comes that my mom needs ME to be there for her, it's a given that I will be.
Yes my dating life has suffered (what dating life? lol) but all in all, it's worth it and I wouldn't change a thing. If someone can't accept that I temporarily have to live with my mom, then I really don't want that person in my life anyway. Someone living at home may "offend" others who don't take in the whole picture, but it kind of ticks me off that those people are so judgemental of others. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/25/2009 4:28:27 AM | Not always, but sometimes the guys who do this are moochers.
If you look closely at their relations with women you can still see the
pattern underneath of being moochy.
Do they ever buy gifts or flowers, even for their mothers when they are
in the hospital? Ive said to both of the guys I know who live with their
parents why don't they buy their mom some flowers or take them out
to a restaurant and they change the subject quickly.
Never in a million years would they spend a dime on their parents to
show appreciation or caring but they will spend a bundle on something for
themselves if they want something. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:11:00 AM | | If you were living at home with mom and dad, how the heck can you bring home a chick and screw her brains out? That's the reason why I moved out of the nest. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:38:25 AM | I think it depends on the individual and that particular one's circumstances. Several things have to be taken into account, such as: Is mom and dad making decisions FOR that person(as in co-dependency to the extreme of it being a comfort zone)? How long has it went on and for what purpose? Does the person have themself together in an independent capacity to handle 'dating' someone long-term and possibly progressively moving into something MORE(i.e.: Living together with that person, etc.)-which work history, other relationships with friends and past women goes into account on this as well. I don't think you can judge that person based on the fact that they live at home with mom and dad, but to look at the complexities will enable you to make a true opinion as to whether or not this person's personality is that of a 'moocher'(as some mentioned on here). I'm a single mom and have been on my own for 17 years, but have dated one in my lifetime that 'still lived at home at 38' and there's ALOT MORE to look at then the outter shell there ;-). Happy fishing  | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/25/2009 12:08:36 PM | | I would do it just because I am in that sitauation but what if they aren't living at home with mom and dad but mom and dad or ex's pay for the place where they are staying? | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/25/2009 1:47:59 PM | Almost a year ago I lost my job and although I didnt want to I had to live with my parents for a couple months until I got back on my feet.
If they live with them just to mooch then yes huge turn off but if they have a good logical reason then I would never hold that against someone. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:53:21 PM | usually when a woman is living at home with her parents she is mooching. She may say she isn't, but she will tell you not to call after a certain time. She will be driving her parents car and driving them around places too.
Oh wait, that is right, this is a toally acceptable thing and women never mooch do they? Seems women think men mooch when they are living at home. Better look in the mirror then ladies. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/25/2009 9:27:37 PM | one rotten apple spoils the bunch. *sigh*
I saw calling after 10 mentioned a few times. Don't you think that's a matter of respect to not call a woman (or visa verca) after a decent hour? Unless of course that person says to call that late or you are in your early 20s 10pm is awful late to call someone. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:24:16 AM | 1. I have my own home now and I still don't want people calling me after 10
2. I have always OWNED and PAID for my own car.
3. My parnets have their own cars and drive themselves around. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:36:06 AM | I only find it appropriate when one is sick (parent or child) and taking care of the other...
If the person isnt financially independent to be on their own or least have a plan (getting schooling, etc).....no thanks... | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/26/2009 6:07:56 PM | I own my own and paid for my own car.. had my own apartment, but gave it up. Mom has her own car but isn't able to drive herself around at the moment. I have my own phone and don't use my mothers line, I still don't appreciate late night phone calls.
judge not lest ye be judged. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:02:20 PM | No no it is women can judge men and coem up with assumptions because women are always right.
Men should never judge women under any circumstance nor assume anything, because men are always wrong. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:25:55 PM | | umm in this economy it's becoming common and even you might be one of them that has to do that. If you do then we'll all laugh at you to for being down on your luck and ignore you then | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:42:26 PM | Amazing how even this topic has turned into a battle of the sexes for some ...
If someone is at home with mom and/or dad and it's for a legitmate reason (parents are ill or in poor health, parents cannot afford a healthy lifestyle due to horrible retirement allowances, the son or daughter is actively looking for a job in this economy or attending school/university full time), I don't see the problem, whether it's a guy or a girl living at home with the parents.
Doesn't matter to me what others think of my situation, I know when I am finished my degree, I will be able to afford a lifestyle that would surpass a lot of those that presume to judge me anyway (not that money is a motivating factor). And my mom is more than welcome to live with me when she feels the need to, no matter what her financial situation is at that time. Without her, I wouldn't have anything. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/27/2009 6:28:47 AM | There are so many valid reasons for living with your parents or them moving in with you especially in a bad economy.
There are people looking for work in my town right now who have been looking for months and many who are being fired vs. laid off (yes, the employers are looking for ways to fire their employees instead of laying them off this time. I would imagine that is so the employee cannot claim unemployment).
If one of my 4 adult children was laid off they would not be able to live on their own very long. My oldest daughter would be able to live a few months longer than her siblings but only because she is 8 years older then the next child in line and has a master's degree with a good job. Her financial obligations would far exceed her ability to survive very long though.
The two next in line age wise have moved out on their own and had to move back home as they found that boyfriends/ roommates are not always so reliable. I remember those days as I went through situations like that myself. All of a sudden your roommates/boyfriend/girlfriend decides to quit their job and either lays around thinking you can take care of it all or job hunts but doesn't seem to ever have any success finding another job. You being the nice guy/nice girl keep trying to take care of them only to find them bilking you for more and more till you cannot afford to pay your bills.
I will admit that my youngest doesn't have a good enough clue yet as to how much it does cost to live on your own and how unreliable a roommate can be (not to mention how much of a mooch they can be) but I'm sure he will eventually make that move out too and find out.
All of my adult children have worked since they were 14, 15, or 16 years of age. They have all had to contribute financially to my household and they do their own laundry, more than not cook their own meals, and have to clean up after themselves (although sometimes they don't do it as quick as I would like them to).
They take me out to eat on occasion as I take them out to eat on occasion. They buy me things when they can or when it is a special time. When I am too sick to do things they do it for me. When my gallbladder became inflamed and emergency surgery was necessary they were all at the hospital worrying and waiting for me to come through it okay.
I love being a parent and I'm proud of how hard my children are trying. I understand that they are doing the best they can given their knowledge and experience and can forgive them for errors in judgment when I know that it is simply a time when they are still growing and learning. Sometimes you have to make a few mistakes to understand how to take it slower and do it right the next time.
There is a particular ethnic group here who live together in large groups so that they can all afford better things in the end and I think that is quite a smart move on their part. | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:53:38 AM | I'm 37 and still at home so I'm more than qualified to chime in on this emotive topic.
Firstly not everybody could live with their parents, seriously I'm not taking the piss some parents would not have them in their house.
... but when he's just moochin off his folks, that's a turn-off, do u agree? Could not agree more. Home or away you are an adult and must contribute to the pot - literally in some cases. "Till you've walked a mile in my Hat you don't know my story" as WWE pundit Jim Ross once said. I could go into a million and one reasons why I'm still at home but it's nobody's business but my own - I'm not here to pu$$y please or vagina worship I don't need anybody's approval to live as I do. Love me or hate me you can't ignore me.
The woman I have dated know the reasons why and when they see the way we interact as a family they actually overcome their initial concerns and 'Get it'. There are reason Why some grown men still live with their parents . . . The health of their parents, They may contribute finacially to the upkeep of the house or they may just want to. Considering there are women whose Boyfriend's still live with their Wives and children you need to get the Why's before you dismiss it out of hand and of course you have free will. If you are not happy with the reasons why or they sound like too many cheap excuses - leave nobody is holding a gun to your head - That's real talk! | |
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| Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 10/27/2009 7:39:22 PM | | Mooching is never good. However if he's trying to save money to get a house or something like that then I wouldn't mind that he lives with his parents. | |
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