| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:20:17 AM | I think Arri got a taste of why she's called blastfemme. He got tollllllllllllld.  | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:22:40 AM | I could NOT have said it better myself blastfemme.
I bow in your general direction.
I had to break up with two people this year. It wasn't easy but it had to be done. Because I was honest and respectful of their feelings I managed to maintain a friendship with one of them. In fact, I set him up with one of my dear friends and they have been dating for a month now.
I truly believe that they way you treat people will come back to you later on. So if it comes back to bite you in the butt later on you have no one to blame but yourself. | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:23:05 AM | And here I thought all you women wanted "bad boys"! Not so hot when you get them, are they? Yeah, I know "bad boys" are really "good" boys. OK, whatever you say.  | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:26:09 AM | ^^ Ha, not me. I'll take a nice guy that calls when he says he's going to, and looks at me with goo goo eyes, than some heartless shmuck any day.
~sprays herself with bad boy begone spray~ | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:50:16 AM | Arri hit the nail on the head. I also think he struck a nerve is some women who overrate themelves (Oh, I've never been dumped, not pretty ol' me *bats eyelashes*) when he suggested that maybe they were dumped all along. Nice notion to contemplate, eh?
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:50:51 AM |
~sprays herself with bad boy begone spray~
LOL, Brazen. Maybe if you could patent that stuff, there's be a lot less "dumping" going on in this world. | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:54:28 AM | Smart men prefer to be the dumpee than the dumper and its easy. We just stop being attentive, come up with lame excuses to avoid making time and vola .. we are dumped.
We figure, if the women do the dumping, they won’t have any reasons to be mad, discuss things to death or demand reasons.
..A Lazy man's way out if You ask Me................with a side order of low self esteem.... | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 4:20:07 AM | | Livewire.....it happens with females too, but more often with guys......They always want what they dont have. Period.....immaturity | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 4:24:02 AM |
(Msg 51) The thing I've found frustrating is when you think a guy has dumped you.. But then comes back ((a month, months later))... wanting everything to be like it was...
Huh? Comes back a month later? If you don't see your partner for a month you have been dumped. What do you tell these guys? It doesn't make any sense unless you just keep taking the guy back each time. I've never heard of that before. Lay out the usual scenario for us. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 62 | |
| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 6:19:02 AM | ..A Lazy man's way out if You ask Me................with a side order of low self esteem....
It is a nice and subtle way of letting a woman know I am not into her anymore and the opportunity to be the dumper.
Since when letting a woman save face in front of her friends and protect her fragile ego is a sign of low self esteem?? Were you thinking with the one eyed dragon again ;-) | |
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| Dumper vesus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 7:02:46 AM | I know,,,girl next door...my list is long of those I dumped. Many of them for stupid reasons. Wish I could have a couple of those guys back now. I was entirely too picky.
I wish I could tell them I am sorry. OK,,,here it goes,,,sorry, Danny, you were cute, but too unaware of world events. Brent you were a stoner,,,but now I don't care about that so much. And Gary,,you were a blast,,,,wish I would have slowed down a bit and taken a look at you.
There,,,I feel much better now...I've made amends.  | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 64 | |
| Dumper vesus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 7:08:39 AM | ^^^ Are you really sure .. you were the dumper and not the dumpee  | |
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| Dumper vesus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 7:16:53 AM | | i don't know...i think there's a lot of women and men out there who would prefer the "not so honest but kind" approach...and really...does anyone ever truly believe the "its not you honey it's me line"???... | |
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| Dumper vesus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 8:00:41 AM |
i don't know...i think there's a lot of women and men out there who would prefer the "not so honest but kind" approach...and really...does anyone ever truly believe the "its not you honey it's me line"???...
There's lots of talk about honesty when you're dumping someone, but most of the "honesty" is a lie, like the line above.
Statement- "It's not you honey, it's me"
Translation - "It IS you, you moron. I can't stand being around you anymore"
Statement - "Let's be friends"
Translation - "I can't stand you, but if I can sell you on the idea of being friends, I won't feel so guilty about crapping all over you."
Statement - "I just need some space"
Translation - "I need you as far away from me as possible so I can bang other people without feeling guilty."
Statement - "I need to find myself/figure things out for myself"
Translation - "I can't stand having sex with you anymore and need to find someone else to bang. I figure that'll be way better than spending any more time with you."
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| Dumper vesus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:14:46 AM | [I've been dumped just as much as I've dumped. HHmm. That sentence is ambiguous, and you could read it as "I've been dumped as often as I crap." The English language rocks!]
The drums just slay me.
Have a beer....  see no one cares, about who dumped who. It's always more ambivalent when you don't keep score. | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:38:26 AM |
I also think he struck a nerve in some women
Laver, you're only here to stir the shit, am I right or am I right? *grin*
Of course Arri's post struck a nerve, that's why I commented. It's been done to me before, and it's just wrong. Nothing good can come from lying to someone, and treating them like crap until they reach their limit. You may think that you're avoiding conflict by doing this, but when you consciously choose to hurt someone in order to save yourself grief, that only means one thing: NO INTEGRITY. If you've come to terms with being that type of person, then fine. So be it. I'm not here to change your views, oh god no. You're the one who has to live with yourself, not I.
Goth, now YOUR post is healthy! Good for you!
Brazen, I agree with you. Nice guys all the way.
By the way, I just read your profile - right on!  | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:45:44 AM | | life is way too short to worry bout who dumped who. | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:49:15 AM |
letting a woman save face in front of her friends and protect her fragile ego is a sign of low self esteem?
Whoa, I just read this post. S'cuse me while I laugh out loud for a minute.
So, lemme get this straight ...
You treat her like crap, and send her subtle signs that you're not into her anymore, so that hopefully she'll "get it" and will eventually want to break up with you ... all this so that her "fragile" ego won't be shattered and she'll save face???
So, you're doing this for HER benefit???
Oh dear lord, you're more messed up than I thought. *chuckle*
But kudos to you, for being such a martyr. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 72 | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 3:20:31 PM |
Arri hit the nail on the head. I also think he struck a nerve is some women who overrate themelves (Oh, I've never been dumped, not pretty ol' me *bats eyelashes*) when he suggested that maybe they were dumped all along. Nice notion to contemplate, eh?
The only thing that struck a nerve with me is how devious that tactic is. It's not in any way being a 'nice guy', in fact it's despicable. But sure, you guys go on living life thinking you're doing women a favour... because if it's saving our gender from yourselves, then please do continue.  | |
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| Dumper versus Dumpee
Posted: 12/16/2005 3:25:21 PM | | I don't agree with that tactic either. Arri, you're just wasting your time and hers by dragging it out. Just break up and be done with it. If a woman asks why, tell her. Confrontation is not a four letter word. | |
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