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| | Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?Page 3 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Well for myself my family is interacial i really mostly deal that way myself i beleive it has to do with one up-bringing like a few people responed I luv the mix of people i think it's the best thing in this world
And i would luv to thank my Great parents for starting the trend my life being interacial has made me a star in my own rite
And here I NYC everyone is just about dating that way
But u r right some culture of people stiill have alot to learn
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 7/11/2006 8:38:30 PM | The farther you go back in time the darker the paintings of Mary. Jesus was NOT a EUROPEAN the message for ALL PEOPLE TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER We can now ALL DESTROY EACH OTHER with Nuclear,Biological,Chemical or old fashioned RACIST etc behavior. Are our weapons of MASS DESTRUCTION greater than our love for the future of our children ? you gotta get pass the racism first to communicate and begin to understand its all about love its a small planet! | |
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chinua
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 7/13/2006 10:25:26 AM | I know so many people who look 'white'.........but somewhere back......... who knows what 'colour' their kids will be.......so the rascists.......better do a backround check.....on anybody they're interested in........ | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 7/13/2006 10:46:58 AM | I think it's generally because most black people and most white people are and have been american for generations back. This is why I think the whole "african-american" thing is a crock. Unless people start calling me german-irish-english-polish-dutch-american indian- scottish-american, and as long as I'm considered white, you're considered black. I digress...
They understand and have the american culture of diversity. I think the people who aren't accepting the interracial dating/marriage are ones who are from the "old country," or have parents or grandparents who are from the old country; and are keeping their cultural mores, even while living here. I could probably word that a lot better, but eh. I'm tired.
That said, my first boyfriend of 2 years was half black, a quarter white, and a quarter indian.
Every guy I've dated since has been pretty white. There's no reason, they've just happened to be what i'm attracted to at that time. Usually they have the same features: dark hair (I don't care for blonds,) and usually green eyes (sometimes brown, very rarely blue.)
I think for most americans it's just a preference like any other (hair/eye) color. It's what's attractive to them. But for the families who are recently, within a few generations, moved to america, It's a cultural thing. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 7/13/2006 7:47:43 PM | Wow, empress1978f
Did you not understand a thing I stated, or what ?
You seem to of just jumped on the racial bandwagon and whipped out your "Race Card",...just like a lot of black people do when they feel threatened, or go on the defence when someone thinks differently.
I didnt make any racial comments concerning decent honest people of color,...I mearly pointed out that in my neighborhood there arent any. All we have around here are thugs.
You must not understand the mentality of these punks,..and yes,..they come in all colors,..all they want to do is score with someone,..and move onto the next victim.
Lets see,...you stated....
"To bikerbiker53, the poster who seemed to think that blacks are all gangsta rappers waiting to seduce some poor white girl.....2 points"
I didnt say anything about them being "rappers",.....I mentioned they have a "Rap" that they spread on the girls they seduce,...and now your gradeing me,..."2 points",...is this on a slideing curve, or straight across the board ?,...LOL
Then you say,...
"assuming this behaviour is limited to black men"
I didnt say that,..you did,..you are the one that is "Assuming",..not me,...and thinking your way,..not mine,...I just stated my thoughts on the subject matter,..and you are adding a whole different train of thought,...LOL
Slow down, or you might jump track,...LOL
The you state,...
"Somehow white women are stupid like children and not responsible for their own actions with black men"
You said it empress,...not me.
Then you "Assume"
"Its funny to me that any one person knows lets say at most 50 black people maybe even 100 and yet they will make a blanket statement based on your severely limited knowledge of the race, that doesnt even make any sense."
Im glad its funny to you,..cause I know a lot of good decent hard working black people that wish they could shed that image and stereotype that the "Bad" blacks create for them. You see, you just made another assumption, and tried to put your thoughts across as mine.
I have known, lived with, and worked with , many fine people of color,...that dont complain, and try to point the finger at "Whitey" every time something go's wrong, or they dont understand anothers ideals.
I understand your proud of you family, and their achievements,..that great,..but you dont have to try and belittle my post, or my ideals,...just because you dont like them, or dont understand,...I was just stateing my point of view,....not asking for a personal attack.
Now you say,...
"The girls you describe sound like morons anyways and since this is the type of person you seem yo know, I hope you persuade them not to date black men"...............I would be horrified if either of my brothers or any of my friends got involved with people are moronic as the ones you seem to associate with.
Now I want you to understand what you just said,...look at it closely,...you are the one making a "Blanket Statement" trying to include me as some one who is "moronic" and to "associate" with. I describe these girls as neighbors,...not my friends,...I have nothing to do with them, or how they live their pathetic lives....yet you want to "lump" us together..
It looks to me,...that you are doing the accuseing and pointing the finger, defending your "Race"..even tho you have tried your best to dissassociate yourself from them....
Have you lived in a ghetto type neighborhood ? Have you had to endure the sound of gunfire 24 hours day and night,...and no,....Im not being dramatic,..it really did used to be that way,....now,...we hardly ever hear a gunshot. Has you car, or you familys car been broke into and stolen repeatedly ?
I grew in in this community,..it used to be all white, nice and clean,...very little crime,..till the blacks started moving in,..then the muggings,...the shootings,..the burglerys,..the murders started,...till just recently a black thug shot and killed a family of 7 here in Indianapolis,..you may of sen it on the news,....
The young 5 year old was hit with a blast from a shotgun,..the cops didnt even need a body bag for him,...they carried what was left of him out in a plastic sack.
What Im trying to say is,...dont go on the defence and start attacking something posted,....unless someone is disrespecting you.
When you assume,.."You make an "Ass out of You - n - me"
Peace be with you,..and beleive it or not,....I LOVE Black people,.....its the ni**ers I cant stand,..no matter what color.
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 7/13/2006 8:33:43 PM | | I am Indian and agree with the OP's comment that we are not as open to interracial dating. I believe that the reason for this is primarily practicality. For some reason, our culture is so rich that it just makes it easier to date people from the same culture. Food, language, values, traditions are all virtually the same among Indians, and while dating outside our race is fine, getting married outside our race is sometimes looked down upon. I believe the Asian (Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc) cultures and some European cultures are the same way. It all comes down to making life easier, especially when it comes to raising kids. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 1/26/2007 3:55:30 AM | | well, you still have traditional folks man, not everyone is going to jump on the peace train, lol. I have a few friends that are not black or white, but they want to keep in the same race, personally I see no problem with people who want one of their own, it's their choice. as far as the just balck and white thing, I think that is not true, other races such as asian I see their women with white men, and let's not forget spanish they hop down with other races as well. I think it's more of a culture thing now, but that does not make us better than whoever wants to date their own though. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 1/27/2007 6:24:31 PM | we were made to be different by the one who creates everything and everyone, and if he wanted us all the same he would have done so ,but in his wisdom of all things he know we are all curious beings, we like change . If this isn't true ,then we would still be living in cave 's . If god does not say, not to date someone of a different color ,who is it of man to say not too!!!!for those whose thinking is like that your no different than the ,kkk,the nation of Islam ,and all those other hate groups.  | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 1/28/2007 9:53:01 PM | Speaking as a Los Angeles native, I see interracial relationships daily. My best friend is an (east) Indian who seems to only date Jewish girls, while another friend (white) is married to a Chinese girl. As for myself, I tend to be attracted to dark haired women with pale skin. Within that grouping, I've dated Persians, whites, Hispanics, and Asians.
Race only matters within certain cultures. American culture downplays race. Indian culture and some Asian cultures increase the importance of race. The longer a family has been part of mainstream American culture, the more likely it is that they will accept interracial/intercultural/interreligious relationships. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 1/31/2007 10:23:49 PM | | Ill agree with some things said here,i live in england and grew up on a council estate and had a black man white woman couple nxt door my best friend for the first 5 years of my life was half cast/mixed whatever but we got on. the nxt side was indian who moved from kenya when the blacks there kicked them out. Im white and have slept with indians,whites,mixed,blacks and aisans.my generation over here doesnt really give a f**k as long as there is respect for each other.the 'rap' culture looks glamourus but is based on the struggle of african americans but in the western world education and oppertunity are widespread, people try 2 indentify with something that fundamentally has nothing to do with them. jay z came to london and said that the people here have no struggle and needed to grow up.london is the multicultural melting pot of the world (fact) with over 300 languages spoken i have allways treated and been treated with respect from these cultures.I used to smoke dope,take coke and cause trouble but i 'grew up' when i was about 17 it was just a rebelious phase most off my friends that didnt are in priosn or dead throu car crashes.As for girls(all races here)these are the nieve idiots (and its not just black lads but whites indians arabs and aisns)but here they are called 'chavs' and come from all walks off life these are the people who never escape government housing.My friends come from all backgrounds and we all do our thing regardless off colour. The comments u said were not racist, they were just based on the observations u have seen. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 1/31/2007 11:04:55 PM | I have a simple answer to this question, and it's the simple fact that North American media is all well... "Black and White" TV... LOL! Mainstream music too, for example is either hip hop or rock, which = black & white IMHO.
Being Asian, I simply don't see too many Asian males in the media. There are quite a few Asian females, but Asian males are either goofy (Jackie Chan) or cold (Jet Li). I guess we're not perceived as "datable" to other races simply because we lack "proper" media exposure, which leads to xenophobia due to negative stereotypes. The same can be said for Asian or East Indian media (what do you see except a similar people?). At least India was once a British colony (not to mention the fact that the Middle East is also right next door... I guess race mixing is slightly more common there. If you go further East, it gets less and less diverse. Most people in general (no matter where they come from) are just not that cultured or accepting in spite of what they may say in their defense.
My dating history is only with white women (all of whom either like anime or had some alternative lifestyle). I guess these women are more open minded about an Asian guy (who prefers to dress 100 years out dated).
Personally I can't see myself fitting in completely to either the White world or the Black world. In spite of my appearance, I really don't fit into the Asian world either (culturally, I'm "North American" but naturally, I tend to exist in my own fictional "reality"... LOL).
I don't know, there may be no "proper" explaination. The only thing I know for sure is that I've come to terms that my chances of dating (whether it be out of my race or not) is a slim 20%. I'm not being negative by any means, just practical. I am willing to accept who I am and wait for that "hundredth" girl to come along and happen to accept me for me. I guess in the end, mainstream culture will always determine who is attractive to whom. Me, I prefer to a woman to think outside the box, but then again, if I'm not good looking in a particular cociety's standards, I'm just going to have to deal with it. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:44:56 AM | PiscesCoda hit it on the head... at least in America. The blacks and the whites have lived together, side-by-side, one behind the other and every which way including loose now. At the root of basic primal vision (blind and ignorant) we see ourselves together and against the foreigners who migrated later from the islands, Asia and South America.
It takes generations for a people to become accepted. If you hold citizenship here, you are an American (undefined by race, color, creed, ethnicity and gender). If you don't, you are simply a foreign national. Personally, I will date an American over a foreign national simply due to the exceedingly slim chance the American will be deported... Silly, I know.
Generally speaking, I enjoy dating, talking, interacting with and meeting people of all cultures. It's all good kids!!!
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 3/14/2008 11:09:46 AM | | I have no problem dating outside my race. I have dated mostly Caucasian women and think they're great. I have been told to stick to my own race (Latin, Puerto Rican) beautiful people too but, it comes down to personal preference. Besides a woman is a woman and they all want to feeilng special. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 3/14/2008 2:30:34 PM |
But when it comes to "Blacks" and "Whites",.....
I would,..and I will,...say,....Leave it alone.
every boyfriend i've had was white. and every single one of them either cheated on me or treated me like complete shit. they made me do all the work in the relationship and pretty much figured i should be THANKING them for letting me be around them. they were rude, childish and the worst boyfriends i've ever had.
now i'm with a man that treats me like a queen. he gives me the respect i deserve and treats me like a human being rather than treating me like a dumb woman. i'm not some redneck's arm candy. i've worked very hard to be a local celeb and feel that i deserve someone in my life that realizes this and will share all the pros and cons of what a relationship is. he's kind, considerate and wonderful... and he's black. | |
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| Interracial dating accepted by Blks & Whites only, how come?
Posted: 3/14/2008 3:33:30 PM | Do you realize that if you were saying that every single boyfriend you had before was black and that they all treated you like garbage , and that now you had a white boyfriend who treated you like a queen you would be branded a racist.
She was replying to a post ( msg 35 ) where a man made negative generalizations about black men. I think her point is that there are jerks from all races. I don't think she was implying that these men were jerks because they are white. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 3/14/2008 3:45:48 PM | | Bikerbiker53, why are you targeting black men, white men have done the same stuff, think way back when the slaves masters were making babies with the slaves all the while they had wives or over in vietnam when all the soldiers were making babies and leaving the kids behind to go to their white families at home? I am all for interracial dating, I just don't like guys who like to experiment with other races. | |
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| Interracial dating accepted by Blks & Whites only, how come?
Posted: 3/15/2008 12:57:51 PM | annikat
The common denominator in all of your previous relationship was you.If all you ever had were terrible boyfriends then the fault was yours for choosing them, not because they were white.
You couldn't said it any better. | |
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| Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:36:06 PM | This is just an extension of the "How do you feel about interacial dating?" thread.
My question is, and correct me if Im wrong. It seems like Black and White people are quicker to accept an interacial couple than any other race. Why is this? One of my good friends is East Indian, and she is always commenting on "sticking to your own".
Feedback?
Well,...seeing as how this thread has suddenly came back to life,...after such a hiatus,
I'd like to re-address the Original Post,...and say,.......
I believe that with the passing of time,.....American Society, in General,....has became more lax in their opinion of interacial dating,.......
The older Generation,...that, to me,...that had "Stricter Morals", and deeper ,..."Family Values",.......raised their children,.... in the belief,...that it was NOT RIGHT,...for humans to date, ......nor Marry,...OUTSIDE THEIR RACE.
Gee,......Common Sense, tells most people that.
But as the older generation has died off, and replaced with a generation of swine,..... that are thoughtless degenerates, ..........who dont care if their babies are brought into a world of hate, and prejudice,.........it has become the norm,....and more accecpted,....
because of,.... MTV,.....MADONNA,.....
and all the other supposed "Role Models",..that our children are subjected too,...with a TV for a "Baby Sitter",............
What do YOU Expect ???
I dont think,....from what I see,...that Black and White people are quicker to accecpt
an interacial couple,........
I know,...there are still a lot of narrow minded folks out there,...that cant stand to see a white woman with a black man,.....you still hear remarks like,....."Thats disgusting",...or,...."That Tramp has no respect for herself",......and stuff like that.
But man,......its really odd to see a white man,....dating a black woman,.......
Oh My Gawd,........you get dirty looks from both the white people,............
and the Black people,...alike.
Now maybe in HOLLYWOOD,.....you all can mix, and mingle,..and not raise an eyebrow,.........but here in the Mid West,....or any where in the Corn Belt,..or the Bible Belt,........if there is a mixed couple,.....it gets attention,......BIG TIME !
My daughters sister,.....is mixed,....she is a doll,....a grown woman,..with 4 kids of her own,.......and the rude, snide remarks, she hears,..is down right horriable.
Her children go to school, or play outside,...and the other kids pick on them,...cause their Mixed,.....the whites dont want to play with them,....the blacks dont either,......
Now that is sad,.......
Now I dont mean that none of the other kids wont play with them,......just "Some"
And thats a shame,...that even little kids,..carry on that way,.....but when you consider that their learning it from their peers,......its understandable.
My daughters first boufriend was black,.......I didnt like him,.......and made sure they both knew it,........I didnt interfeer,....but I didnt encourage it.
Thank goodness my daughter finaly saw him for what he was,.....a player.
I dated a beautiful ,......."Lady of Color" for a couple of months,.......she is one of the sweetest women I know,.......
When we would go out,.....I would see all the disproving eyes on us as we dined,.....
we both agreed that neither of us was seriously interested in a relationship,.....
(she told me her dad would "Flip Out" if he knew she was dating a white man)
so we decided to not date anymore,,...neither of us needed, nor wanted anymore stress in our life.
So,...we remain friends,....we chat with each other once in a while,....but were not interested in having to fight against the narrow minded people, the rest of our lives, if we would of decided to make a commitment.
Common sense.
It all comes down to your own personal feelings,...and if their strong enough, to face the struggles your up against, everyday.
All that should matter,....is if two people truly Love one another,
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Dready
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