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Posted: 1/5/2005 10:35:59 AM | Only 4 hours? Man, how about compromise? Move half way inbetween? 2 hour commute - I had almost that when I lived in Indianapolis... one side of the city to the other took almost that long...
Not pushing... but... I think I might have tried to figure out a better way that just not...
~~Dragon Rider~~
I know it is here somewhere...
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Posted: 1/5/2005 11:04:41 AM | Thanks for the encouragement amigo, but it is a long story
She also really wants marriage and CHILDREN, and I am not willing to give a woman children. I have 2 that I want to focus on. They deserve all the love and attention I can give them, and I just dont want to divide it up.
Plus, well I relocated from an incredible place in VT to live where I do now (the area I grew up in) and I am not moving again. I love where I am now.
But if the sitch was different, I probably wouldnt be on this site now, because she is fine. We still see each other, and I give her tips for finding men, but she intimidates most. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2005 12:47:19 PM | | I joined POF to make contact with two specific women that I saw while a female friend of mine was posting on this site while I was at her house. If I meet someone along the way here and dont hit it off with either one....great. What I wont do is have numerous phone conversations with a woman over a great length of time. I wont hesitate to get her a plane ticket to come here or for me to go there....meet and find out. Cant live in a 'what if' world...who has time? | |
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Posted: 1/5/2005 2:23:36 PM | | I say that its ok to talk to and meet more then one woman. I mean you have to see more than one to " Find the right one " so to speak. Unless it was implied to be strictly for each other. I think in this situation, it was "assumed" there was no one else. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2005 4:07:10 PM | | Lady, my advice to anyone on the net is to avoid personal entanglements. It's tough to post sometimes. Sometimes I think it best not to get as far as even e-mail. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2005 9:45:36 PM |
Bonnie - How far is too far?
Dragon.. that really depends I think ..
I have a child with a father who lives here, so relocating is not so simple. So if I were looking for that full-time, serious relationship, I would think that a few hundred miles is probably the most that I could handle .. lol.
However, I'm not in that head space at this point in my life.. and since I'm willing to keep the relationships reasonably casual, I don't think any distance is really too far. I've met several men who live long distances away from me in the past few years.. I enjoyed meeting them all and I still communicate with all but one. One even has future potential.. maybe I'll be ready someday...... but I'm not planning to sit at home and wait for that day.. nor do I expect him to.
In the meantime.. I get to play.. lol 
Busman.. cute... | |
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Posted: 1/28/2005 11:25:23 PM | Ok….I have looked and read all that you have been saying. And most makes a great deal of sense. And yes I never should have expected exclusivity from him. He asks for a relationship with me, he ask me to come over, but in reality he was still looking.
I have learned, but I have not become jaded. I have never ‘had, started, or sot out’ an Internet Relationship. I came to POF because of the forum, I enjoy the conversations, opinions and people, I have learned a great deal just by reading what you all have to say.
I travel for work and for pleasure, but I DON”T have International Love Affairs. I belong to a ‘site’ that aids people who travel in meeting other people in different countries as ‘friends’ and we ‘date’ on a plutonic level just to get to know someone from a different country.
The issue with the other 5 women was because this man had asked me to visit (Meet & Greet) because as he put it “I have very real feelings for you, and we need to meet and see if marriage is in the future”. During the 6 months we were in contact I made no effort to seek out or find anyone else, and my travel was curtailed while we were “building a relationship” (his words not mine).
I felt used because I was lead to believe he was living by the same standards.
· As to date: All but 1 of the 5 women did the same as I, “moved on”. And the one that stayed may well be the ‘winner’ of this man. And in all 5 cases ‘we’ all thought we were the only one.
But as life has shown us, something good did come from this mess, flying from Brisbane to Melbourne to see a girl friend of several years I set next to a gentleman who is now my sole interest. He has been here (Holidays) and I will be returning to Australia in April.
Sherlock
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Posted: 1/29/2005 12:03:20 AM | | The very nature of this internet way of meeting people makes it very easy to carry on multiple online relationships at the same time. I have found out the hard way that a number of guys, and girls from what I hear, are just online hoping for some cam sex, phone sex, cyber-sex or whatever they can find. I also have had to learn not to put all of my "eggs in one basket" so to speak and not feel guilty about talking with more than one guy at a time. This is the only way I am going to find the one that is right for me. I have also made some very good friends online and like staying in touch with them. You can always make your intentions known upfront, but that won't guarantee you that you won't get used, believe me. Just pay attention to the "red flags" that you know are there (but may choose to ignore) and go with your head, not just your heart. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2005 3:43:33 AM | | Well it all depends upon what you want from a dating situation....are you looking for something serious or are you trying to scratch an itch as many times as possible before you die? | |
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Posted: 1/29/2005 12:56:42 PM | I’m not sure in which direction I should take your comments, rrrockstarrr.
“something serious or are you trying to scratch an itch as many times as possible before you die?”
On the light and humorous side, I’m Scottish and the women in my family line lives to be well over 90, so I have a long time to “scratch”.
At this time in my life I am looking for something serious, I’ve played for a number of years, and it’s time I settled down. I have reached a point in my life where I can semi-retire (early) and I love to travel, sail, and play golf. I know very boring, but I guess what I’m saying it’s time for me…and I am looking for someone who feels the same way!!!!!
I will be retiring to Australia (I have friends and family in that country). And dancingmermaid, you are so right about the Red Flags, there were many, looking back I can see them now, but just didn’t want to see them at the time.
So I go forward.
Sherlock
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