| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/18/2008 2:50:16 PM | Shiloh,
I just read what you wrote about men and I agree 100%. It seems most of them are just looking for sex......that they think because a woman has her profile posted, she is looking JUST for sex. What a bunch of BS! And yes, I agree...why do they have to start talking about sex right from the beginning. This is no way to get to know someone if you are serious.
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/18/2008 3:10:12 PM | Not all men get bent out of shape over rejection in fact I have had some real polite men respond back when I said that I didn't think it would work ... I think women get bent out of shape too ... women just show it differently most of the time ...
They called you fat cow ? WOW Some ppl still haven't grown up ... The outside of a person can make you happy for 5 min to several hours but then when ya see the inside you wanna runnnnnnnnn ... 
Now I have had some guys who have had a little bit of a tude cause I don't answer them fast enough ... ... I am on msn and its a b@tch to reply to ppl on dating sights and some times it can be days before I can answer ...
So what if they think you are easy , they can think your easy all they want but you make the decision ... So what if they get mad at you , it don't mean you have to get mad ... Just go with the flow hun and don't let them get to ya the best ya can ...
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/18/2008 3:13:12 PM | I blame you in the sense that you replied their lurid messages politely to end the conversation politely. So in all politeness, that was naiive of you really. If someone is trying to use you as a cheap thrill you either ignore them totally or give them a piece of your mind politely.
As for the bit where they think if BBW are cheap... oh yeah... they do. It does not come to their minds that some men love BWW and some BWW are spoilt for choice if they have the personality and take care of themselves well enough. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/18/2008 4:17:41 PM | As I said,
It hurts, it sucks, it makes you want to downright hiss at the source of your frustration ... but you don't because how you behave when you're upset is a statement to YOUR true social advancement level and class
Always be polite, always have manners, politely decline and BLOCK the lowlifes.
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/18/2008 11:48:19 PM | omg! i know exactly where ur comin from! had that happen to me in the past, its very 2 faced of someone to be like that. ive had guys tell me ur such a sweet brownsuga baby, id like to do xyz with ya. i told them sorry im not lookin for a **** buddy im looking for xyz. its so funny i either get called a racist name (makes me laugh so hysterically!) , the best part is i get called fat and ugly (being sarcastic here)! i get called those more than a racial name!
its very immature, it really shows their character as a person. i find it funny u call me a racist name then go back to hanging out with ur so called minority or foreign friends like nothing didnt happen! yea, thats a dr jeckle and mr hyde for ya! yea, thats what u call a big ego! these are men who had never had any probs with women turning them down, its all about the ego of being a God and that all women love me crap!
if someone tells u they are not interested, take it with a grain of salt and move on to the next person why are u still wasting ur time and theirs trying to convince them about doing xyz when they are lookin for somethin else? that really bugs the **** out of me! relationships dont work if 2 ppl are lookin for 2 different things! tell these men this, next time they say sweet things and u politely say no thanx. if they get nasty, tell them: "one min i was a sweety pie now im a fat ugly whore? u didnt think that way of me when u 1st contacted me! if u saw my pix, knew i was a BBW, and ur sayin im a fat ugly whore then as u were reading my profile, u should of moved on to the next person and u wouldnt have to deal with me! use common sense u ****in ***hole!" thats what i would say.
when im not lookin for somethin and if they are still trying to convince me, it just shows they are insecure and desperate. its not that hard to seek out insecure ppl. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/18/2008 11:50:47 PM | | forgot to mention: if they think ur easy, if u were so easy u would of been gotten off that computer to go meet them. obviously, ur not easy if u didnt move from that computer and ur not the type of person who wants a piece of ass! so, thats not an easy person. those men got their definitions of an "easy woman" wrong! | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/19/2008 5:27:56 AM |
Because men don't like rejections. Enough said. And it's vice versa!
Sure, you could view a "No" as a rejection......or you could view it as an expression of physical incompatibility. Imagine what the world would be like if we were physically attracted to every person we looked at - we wouldn't get any work done LOL! Who said rabbits were lazy - they're just visual creatures :) | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/19/2008 6:13:43 AM | Let's face it ~ who really "likes" to be rejected? No one I know. After all ~ we all have egos (both men AND women) that can be bruised. I just wanted to say a few words about the "good guys" who are mature enough to take a no thanks like a man ~ and they respond back with an I appreciate your honesty comment. Granted, I've had a few respond back so rudely I've had to block them, but more often than not, (thankfully) I've managed to mainly attract the mature ones who take it with a grain of salt ~ and we become friends.
Kudos for mature "men"! 
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/19/2008 6:14:30 AM |
forgot to mention: if they think ur easy, if u were so easy u would of been gotten off that computer to go meet them. obviously, ur not easy if u didnt move from that computer and ur not the type of person who wants a piece of ass! so, thats not an easy person. those men got their definitions of an "easy woman" wrong! Some men feel they are so desirable that a woman would drop everything just to meet him. NOT... especially if he starts talkin about wanting to do xyz . .. major turn off ! and totally disrespectful. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/19/2008 6:22:16 AM |
I just read what you wrote about men and I agree 100%. It seems most of them are just looking for sex......that they think because a woman has her profile posted, she is looking JUST for sex. What a bunch of BS! And yes, I agree...why do they have to start talking about sex right from the beginning. This is no way to get to know someone if you are serious. Because some men on this site are horny and desperate and looking for cheap women.. occasionally a man will come along that is respectful and genuine, we just have to weed out the jerks !
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/19/2008 6:23:37 AM | No one likes to be rejected. Frankly, although most men get used to it - What choice do we have? - it is never enjoyable. Most of us simply learn to shake it off and move on to the next woman.
From my experience women handle rejection far worse than men. "Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned." | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 8/19/2008 8:55:42 AM | All the men that complain about "no response" need to read and re-read the posts form women about the rude and angry e-mails they get when they do say "Thanks, but no thanks".
All a woman needs to do to avoid getting any angry responses is either ignore or block a man AFTER she has rejected him. I also think that some women might get angry responses because they rejected a man in a rude or tactless way. In other words, it's not always the rejection iteself. It's the way a woman rejected a man. BTW some women can be very rude after being rejected as well. The only difference is that men get rejected more often because men are more likely to make initial contact than women are. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/18/2008 4:36:48 PM | | I try to reply to everyone but have since stopped. The last few men who for various reasons were not a match, chose to use nasty names towards me. Then after the nasty email they will block me. So saying no thank you, we are not a match,I will just NOT respond and save myself from some nastiness. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/18/2008 7:37:56 PM | I don't have time for such idiots...I don't let such things bother me.I keep it moving. Clearly these men have issues and need to grow up. If someone politely declines- a normal, adult should know how to graciously accept this. If you don't...that is too effing bad and you need to work on that.
Men who message me about sex....the same thing goes.They are idiots and clearly don't have any game whatsoever, I can see precisely why they wouldn't be getting any and I IGNORE them. I would love to help all the idiots of the world but I cannot so I just leave them to their own devices.  | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/19/2008 12:17:17 AM | | It's rather rude to not reply politely to a person who wrote a note to you expressing an interest..saying nothing or something rude etc..is not the way to go..its not hard to write a few lines saying that you arent interested in a polite way..gosh.. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/19/2008 5:14:04 AM | | Men and boys have a role in social society that exposes them to rejection much more so than women. Men traditionally are expected to do the first step of initial contact or asking someone out, therefore leaving them exposed to acceptance or rejcction. I would say the odds are at best 50/50 in real life situations. Online the odds are stacked against you because its much easier for a women to reject you or just not correspond to an email if your written profile or photo doesnt meet thier criteria. Remember in todays busy world most people dont really have the time with thier busy schedules and careers to put much time in a new relationships, sadly thats the facts. My advice is to place your bets more carefully, realize the odds online are like slot machines, a small payoff for a lot of play. Real life enviorments allow more realistic approaches because women can give you a signal you if they show an intrest leaving you less vulnurable to risk and rejection and more chance of acceptance. Remember know the odds and if your secure with rejection online can be a place where you may find the right women in time. If you are less secure with rejection take a more targeted approach and review profiles for common intrests and remember this is a virtual experience and lots of what people write profiles to entice others, they might not be what they say in real life., hence caviet emptor, let the buyer beware.. Lastly I would forget about talking about sex, if your fortunate enough to find someone online or offline, sex is a natural progression that will evolve if its meant to happen between two concenting adults. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:03:01 AM | you are rare, I yet to meet a guy that just want to be friends, i am looking for a friend if you are game, whenever i chat to a guy it isn't long before they want to talk about sex, it make me so mad. common guys there are more to life than just sex, get a grip, you want just sex get a prostitute, it's their game, I am a decent woman.
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 10/16/2008 9:34:16 PM | | seas the day, exactly! just be honest upfront i hate finding out ur all about sex makes me think less of ya. one guy i met in the past told me ur such a **** and have no respect for me im like gee i wonder why. i find it funny how they always contacted me from 1-5 yrs later when i dont even think about them, moving on with my life concentrating on school. all of a sudden they claim they dont remember the name calling they did to me! i still didnt even bother to meet up with them again. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 10/16/2008 10:12:15 PM | Girl, you hit the nail right on the head. A couple of days ago, I spoke with someone over the phone for about 15 minutes. It became immediately apparent that he was not my type. He talked way too much we didn't have all that much in common. Later, online, I told him that I thought he seemed very nice but that I didn't think we'd be a good match. All of a sudden he busted out the, "Well, geez, maybe you should be a psychic instead of a teacher since you obviously already know we're not a good match." He continued to be nasty, and all I could think was how stupid he sounded.
If there is zero attraction, that's it. End of game, buddy. I've made up my mind, and I can assure you that you are wasting your time trying to make a girl feel bad about her decision, and in the end you only make yourself look like a total jerk. | |
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| why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 10/17/2008 3:11:50 AM | | It simply shows them up for what they were in the first place..... Being nice to get what they want, then the real person coming out because you had the audasity to say you wont do sex talk. Thats the reason for the 180. You were not playing their game. I wouldnt even answer them, just delete. Sometimes they like to argue, its attention . JUST DELETE | |
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