| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 2:38:20 AM | | means that she takes her health seriously and wont accept BS excuses for not having or not using a condom. I personally think that shows simple self preservation and intelligence on her part it doesnt make me think oh she's easy | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 6:29:36 PM | I have to have a say as well. First of all, Sparda, men do try to get a woman pregnant on purpose. My ex tried that w/ me one time. But before he got the chance, my friend gave me the heads up. I didn't want to believe it but didn't wanna risk it either. So when uit came time, he had the condom ready, but I told him I wanted to try the new twister one. He happily obliged after much of my puoting. Needless to say, I took "his" condom in the restroom and ran water thru it. Low and behold, holes all thru it. Why you might ask, I think either partner is capable of doing such a thing when they are afraid of losing you. I myself keep condoms due to the fact that nowadays you can't rely on the man. I'll be da$$ed if I miss out on their stupidity. LOL  | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 6:32:37 PM |
So you meet that girl you connect with and your making out and its getting to the rip the clothes off part. You realize you dont have condoms and she whips one out in a heartbeat. Is that a good thing? I guess it is as far as the safe sex part goes but does that mean she's perhaps a little too sexually active?
Maybe not: if you're good.
Conversely, if SHE'S good, that is not a bad thing....what's with this double standard crapola?
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 6:37:45 PM | Just to throw a thought out there, how do you know whether or not the condom has been tampered with. I have heard of girls who want to trap guys with a "surprise" pregnancy in just such a manner, after all there's always the great excuse "the condom broke".
Hopefully there will be the ability to whip one of your own out instead, and see about her reaction to it?
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 7:04:57 PM | I find it's highly unlikely that a female in a fairly new intimate relationship would tamper with a condom.
One would think that it only makes sense to do that if the male has given the female a reason to do so.. IE.. a breakup ... her being bitter,
or they could be in a long term relationship and he already expressed he doesn't wish to have children yet and her clock is ticking.
To me, it doesn't make sense to trap a brand new 'relationship' ... | |
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Joined: 9/10/2005
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 7:33:35 PM | For all you posters(including women), who are thinking the woman is probably sticking holes in the condoms, sounds like you have a trust issue anyway and you shouldn't be sleeping around.
I have condoms in my house for the very simple fact that a.) I don't want anymore children right now b.) I would like to live a std free life. It's called being a responsible adult.
Besides, condoms aren't always 100% effective!
If anything.. why don't you BOTH put the two you have together and double bag that shit.. just to be on the safe side!? It'll put both your minds to ease! LOL.. | |
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Joined: 12/4/2005
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 9:41:57 PM | | I think it depends, if you just met her an hour ago and she hands you a condom, yikes!!! If it's someone you've been dating, it shows she's a responsible adult that doesn't want to get pregnant or a disease. | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 9:49:11 PM | You realize you don’t have condoms and she whips one out in a heartbeat. Does that mean she's perhaps a little too sexually active?
That is such a horrible double standard. I realize you posed this as a question and not a statement but sheesh no wonder why things are so rough out there in the dating world......
Let's see Guy "A" is really getting along well with Gal "B" they are really hitting it off, she probably would like to get a lil' intimate, maybe do a lil' touchy feely but she has to second guess herself why..... Well because if she doesn't go all the way well yup, you guessed it - she is a tease...
BUT WAIT it gets better, if she does decide to go all they way well damn then she's just a skank, but now on top of that she has to wonder if her decency will be judged by her responsibility in regards to safe sex and being prepared.......
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 9:58:41 PM | | I have a basket of condoms next to my bed... does that make me a bad girl? Am I using a color coded system for the guys I have sex with? NO. They are there "in case" as I respect myself, my body, and my life (and his too). I don't consider myself too sexually active or loose by any means. To be perfectly honest, I don't forsee any basket usage in the near future... lol what can ya do? lol | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/18/2005 10:14:56 PM | I find it bizarre this question even needs to be asked!?
ewww god she carries condoms, she must be a total slut, whore, whatever, christ maybe she's a prostitute and you just don't know it yet!
grow up for christ's sake it's the 21st century!
nobody wants to get an STD and women (and men) sure as hell don't want an unexpected pregnancy.
Why should it be the guy thats responsible for carrying the condoms when...
a) she's the one that gets pregnant.
b) she usually has a purse with her to carry that kind of extra crap around in.
c) she's the one thats going to decide if you get laid or not?
being as I don't always have one with me just in case i'd just as soon she whip one out of her purse rather then me having to make a run to the store for condoms...lol | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/19/2005 6:54:16 AM | | here's another one..the guy could be poking holes in it to spread disease, or it could be old from being in his wallet too long..you know recently(a month ago) there was a story in the paper about a guy 30 miles from where i live who slept with 4 women knowing he was HIV positive, one of the women made the comment in court he gave her a death sentence and no prison term should be long enough..hmm if only they woulda had condoms on them..at least they are 99% effective..so i say carry em..better to be safe than sorry | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/19/2005 8:18:30 AM |
So you meet that girl you connect with and your making out and its getting to the rip the clothes off part. You realize you dont have condoms and she whips one out in a heartbeat. Is that a good thing? I guess it is as far as the safe sex part goes but does that mean she's perhaps a little too sexually active?
How beat up does the wrapper look? If it looks like she's been hanging on to it for a while she's probably been waiting for the right time. If it's brand new, or she pulls it out of a crate, you may be in trouble | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/19/2005 8:37:48 AM | | Being a women, I have condoms. I am 22 and only been with 4 guys. The reason why I have them is because I don't want a baby right now. I am still young and have the next few years for me. I don't want to be worrying about a kid. So, no its not a bad thing. If it makes you wonder and you are really bothered by it, ask her why she has them and if she respects you she will tell you the truth. Or maybe she is too sexually active. But turn the situation around. Why should it be up to the guy to provide the condom? | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/19/2005 8:54:47 AM | If I were female, I probably would always have condoms and would be using Seasonelle (is that how you spell it?) . I don't think that would have anything to do with my level of sexual activity.
Take it from a logical approach. You may think: "If a person is very sexually active, then that person will carry condoms." However, do not make the inverse error. Even if that thought were true, which it is not, it would not equate to "If a person carries condoms then that person is very sexually active". It simply would mean that it is possible that they are sexually active, assuming the premise were true (which, again it is not, see below).
The statement that "All very sexually active people carry condoms in x location" is contradicted by a single counter example. A counter example is very easy to find.
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:12:39 AM | I used to get them free from a place i worked at, as well as at school...so I've built up a collection. It doesn't hurt to be prepared,whether it be for you, a friend, or a random you just watched pick up a girl at the bar that you give it to so they can play safe  | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:45:29 AM |
perhaps a little too sexually active?
I can't believe you asked that. You are either a very predjudice male or just ignorant. I dunno which. Hey there is nothing wrong with ignorance, just that you need to get educated...
Signs of ignorance in dating:
Someone that refuses to wear one... (and I hear ya whining about it!)
Someone that refuses to be tested for std's.
Someone that thinks that a woman having one on hand is a bad thing.
Sign of just plain predjudice (arrogance maybe)
Someone that holds women to a totally different standard than men.
Others have explained that elsewhere. TY
So sorry if im a bit blunt. LOL but the way I feel about it 
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:55:36 AM | | Catz, predjudice is a form of or caused by ignorance, so you're dead on to call him both, hon. Good advice to give him. He need not worry about her being intelligent enough to have condoms on hand, but should thank his lucky stars he's getting any for just how ignorant he seems to be. Lol. | |
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Joined: 12/16/2005
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/20/2005 5:55:27 AM | | This shows that she is prepared and is thinking with her head. A very good quality in a woman.. also since we all know men are slow and think with the wrong head at this critical time!!! | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/20/2005 6:11:13 AM | Suprisingly, I kind of understand what the OP is saying. I briefly dated a guy back in Chicago and we did not have an intimate relationship. However, as I suffer from horrendous tension, he fixed me up a killer drink one night and offered me a massage. So, we departed to his bedroom and the very first thing I noticed was a long roll of condoms on his headboard. Total turn off. I wondered several things:
Was he so confident in himself and his ability to lay me down that he thought I was a sure thing?
When was the last time he had sex...last night? This morning?
Thankfully, we had a decent relationship and I didn't seriously wonder because we were friends. However, I did rip him a new one for that public display, lol. Be discreet with your condom toting!
I have some because I was given them at a sex party. Hate the things, but I love sex and living. In my situation, it's absolutely necessary. I'm too old for babies, and I plan to stay alive a bit longer. | |
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| If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 12/20/2005 6:24:28 AM | snip snip long ago in a life that is just vague memory i remember a time. Yes, its just a little cloudy now but in that time I was on the table in a planed parent hood Doctors office and the lady that was at the receptionist desk kept walking to the door way to the room where i was on the table and she just kept looking in with this gleam in her eye as the Dr took and did the snip snip (to be honest about I think she just enjoyed her job just a little too much ) but I still use a condom now   | |
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