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Posted: 12/23/2005 1:38:21 PM | | My pictures are all within 4 months of each other and the main picture I just took today. no angle shots or slimmers on my profile. If someone don't like what they will meet fawk em hahahaha....... why fool people? | |
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Posted: 12/23/2005 7:42:04 PM | Of course I would prefer to see someones recent pic, but what I think when someone puts up a misleading pic, is that they aren't happy with how they look. If you can't accept how you look, how do you expect anyone else to? I would hate for someone to be attracted to my misleading pic, and then have to deal with the embarrassment of being blown off when they see what I really look like...that would be harsh.(Although I would deserve it, because I had been deceitful)
I redo my pics if anything in my appearance changes. I even have a goofy-as-hell pic of me hamming, just because it shows me head to toe. Yeah, I'm chunky, if someone finds it repulsive, better we not chat. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2005 1:00:04 PM | | You don't seem to have either the personality nor the window dressing! | |
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Posted: 12/25/2005 1:10:27 PM | I recently went to a pof outing where I didn't recognise very many people.
Current pic with honesty as to what your body type is would help us all in the long run.
I guess average is 20-30 pounds overweight these days.
dishonesty always finds its way back to its source | |
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Posted: 12/25/2005 3:10:54 PM | | Simple solution to the pic thing.Cam before you meet.It saves time.If he/she isn't the look you are wanting you will know before wasting real time on that person. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 12:27:15 AM | | I tried to be honest on this one....I put on some pix from last year. I haven't changed drastically, but they are nice pix I think because they are professionally taken....I also added a very recent pic of me at home off my webcam with no makeup and in just a normal environment. I thought this shows them what I look like both real and made up...lol. Check the profile out and you'll see what I mean. bye now | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 4:57:20 AM | I recently met a guy I had talked to for almost a year. Saw his pics, sent him some. When I finally met him, holy sh*t!  Sure he saw the shock on my face. He had gained at least 50 lbs since the pictures,( I am guessing more), guess he didn't think that was importatant. While I don't mind bigger men, the shock of seeing him in person and finding that he looked "nothing" like his photos, made me doubt his honesty in other things. He also got real "friendly" real quick, so I said I needed to go outside for a smoke, and went home. Felt horrible about doing that, but come on. Lying is lying. Now I realize that if someone is saying to me "I hope your not disappointed", etc., that they are telling me they were not truthful. Read between the lines. Most of the important information about a person is in there. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 6:11:05 AM | | Although I understand why we want to post our better pics, I'm beginning to think we should post our worse. Though we may get a little less attention on-line, imagine the pleasant surprise at our first meeting when we both show up looking better than anticipated. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 9:04:24 AM | well i see it this way,when going to meet a potential match,yes it would be disapointing if she wasnt,who she described her self to be, but i would still make it a nice time so i will not have wasted my time, enjoy the evening and conversation and call it the night. who knows maybe she has a cute sister! lol. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 9:52:05 AM | Although I understand why we want to post our better pics, I'm beginning to think we should post our worse.
I agree, if they talk to the bad pic then they meet ya they say HEY your much cuter in person Great for the self esteem  | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 10:55:46 AM | Some quick observations:
(1) It's natural to want to put a better looking pic up for a profile. When we first meet someone we like to put our best foot forward. It's why we usually dress better-than-average for the first date, why we clean up the house when new neighbors visit, and so on. So I think that putting a nicer looking pic up is the expected thing to do. There's nothing wrong with doing that. I also think that means that those seeing the pic should understand that it's probably one of the nicer pics.
(2) There's never an excuse for deceiving. So putting up a 10-year-old pic is, in my opinion, deceit. The profile picture should be something that is recent and gives an essentially honest representation of a person's real appearance. Someone noted in one of the early posts that putting up a picture that is not representative is a reason to have a concern about one's honesty and integrity. I agree.
(3) A single picture, good or bad, never really show's a person's true appearance, anyway. In the reality of everyday life there are so many facial expressions and situations that one picture just does not do it. In my profile pic, I am smiling. And I AM a happy guy. But I don't go around with a smile on my face 24/7.
For what it's worth, my pic was taken about 2 months ago. I was sitting in the cab of my son's new 18-wheel tractor trailer truck. He had just gotten it and was bringing it by to show me. I took some pictures of him, and he snapped this one (it's a crop of a bigger picture). That's why the camera's orientation looks like it's a bit below me. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 4:50:08 PM | "I guess average is 20-30 pounds overweight these days."
Well thank god I'm not your average north american, i'm just not "athletic" so I chose "average" as the best description.
All my photos are within the last year, i don't see the point in playing games like that...my weight is healthy, now I just need to start working out and get in better shape physically. lol | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 4:57:31 PM | notmuchtime - good deal on the honest pics now how about being honest with your hubby about whats been going on.
either be honest and have a open relationship with your distant hubby so that he knows what your doing and is free to do the same or stop being a CHEATER. haha
doesn't matter your justifications your still cheating on him, is he cheating on you too? | |
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chukup
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Joined: 11/24/2005
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Posted: 12/27/2005 2:53:41 PM | | If you aren't confident enough in who you are at the moment then you shouldn't be on here. I love how I look...this is exactly what I have to offer & I think .....what a shock...honesty is the best policy! | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 66 | |
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Posted: 12/29/2005 1:06:57 PM | damn, giving me a complex here since I only posted one pic!
I did donate my hair to Locks of Love, so I guess my picture is misleading since my hair is now only shoulder length and not down my back. Just becasue I cut my hair, doesn't make my face look any different!
I stated I have a few extra pounds - so I am not lying about by weight. I just don't have a full body shot. It never happens that way for some reason. I'm either in a large group and you can't see my body or I'm seated at a table.
Now I suppose I'll have to hand off my digital camera and ask someone to take full body shots so as not to be accused of being misleading. Damn! And I thought trying to meet people in person was tough. Not only do I have to worry about how I word my profile, but I gotta get full body approval too?
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Posted: 12/29/2005 8:40:29 PM |
Not only do I have to worry about how I word my profile, but I gotta get full body approval too?
keljo, you sound great and look great, even play oboe (I am a former oboist) but you will not talk to someone 76 miles away - it is one mile too far. Is that sensible?
You might profit from a professional profile review - I know, I should talk.
But many say good pics of a variety and few restrictions as possible. I am not critical...I wish I stood a chance w/ you.
Lady told me last night she had removed her profile from POF and would chat w/ me on MSN...tonight I check on MSN and no-show...so I go on POF and there she is...why do people do this crap? I was nice, complimentary and pleasant.
Anyway, you look nice, good luck to you. | |
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 68 | |
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Posted: 12/29/2005 8:53:10 PM | I see a lot of females pic's where they have gone to extreme measures to pick out that pic from 10 years ago when they were under 150 pounds.
It's a shame, as they are trying to attract guys on what they use too look like. Or they are just so poor they can't afford a updated pic or a webcam, or a digital cam or a date at Glamours lol | |
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Posted: 12/29/2005 9:19:12 PM | Well wish the topic of pics has been much debated.
I look at it this way the forums are a great way to get to know someone pic or no pic. When I have talked to someone enough I will send one I just prefer not to post one. I like the fact that I do not receive many unwanted emails.
I think the problem is that we put too much into the physical and material part of the world.
Here is what I would suggest besides everyone just to be friggin honest for a change. After you connect ask for a recent pic. A pic with them holding the local paper so you can see the date!!!! lol
That way you won't have to decide whether to stick it out or bolt to the hills screaming.
By the way like the cartoon there was a thread on that too.
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 70 | |
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Posted: 12/29/2005 9:31:45 PM |
keljo, you sound great and look great, even play oboe (I am a former oboist) but you will not talk to someone 76 miles away - it is one mile too far. Is that sensible?
You might profit from a professional profile review - I know, I should talk.
But many say good pics of a variety and few restrictions as possible. I am not critical...I wish I stood a chance w/ you.
Ummmmmmmmm since when is Canada 76 miles from southwestern Pennsylvania? | |
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Posted: 12/29/2005 10:02:29 PM | What??? People post old pics on here????
What??? Some people are misleading on here????
I thought that only happened in RL!!!!
oh the bite of reality....the pain....the pain...... | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 11:06:33 PM | Hey I know what you mean with the missleading pic
Went out with this person she had a pic now so I thought the convo went good and it was interesting on line
When I showed up at the coffee shop she was not there or should I say the person who was on the pic. all of the sudden this person whom I never seen before taps me on the sholder asking me if I am Rob and suprised as hell I said yes why. She proceeds to tell me oh I am this person I looked at her and asked whats with the picture. She said this was the best pic she could find although I think she would have made other pics in the ten year span.
Needless to say the date was cut short after she have asked me if my bruise on the neck was a hicky. I looked at her and told her by the way I am not seeing anyone or have not seen anyone for a while bruise might of been from somewhere like the bush tranch or something not quite sure.
THe point is I dont get why post an old pic or picture of other then yourself not like the person you meet is not going to notice | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 12:23:12 AM | | I prefer to post a pic. that depicts my personality first | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 74 | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 1:08:31 AM | well, I added more pics.....pics with a tan, pics after tan faded....pics when my hair was longer, post hair cut and when it was darker and when it was redder.....
Now, all I gotta do is figure out how to set the timer on my digital camera and we'll have a full body shot. I'll be sure to include that days newspaper to proce it's current.
Now I suppose I should head over to PRofile Reviews to make sure that passes too?? | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 12:08:33 PM | | Well i have a pic on my profile and I have been told many times that i look in my early 30's..........but guess what....I'm not. Early 40's yes, and i guess i did age gracefully. | |
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