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Posted: 5/29/2006 5:45:23 AM | why don't you post your pic ?
I thought it was a matter of common courtesy.
I mean I am no handsome devil but I still made the effort to post a pic because that's manners and the way I thought the site worked.
Having said that though people who toally blur thier face out of pictures or have pictures chopped in half which obviously have thier ex in it are just as bad as no pic :p | |
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Posted: 5/29/2006 5:59:45 AM | I don't mislead people, I mean I take pictures every week and I like to upload pic after pic.
But I also think that people that complain TOO MUCH over a stupid pic especially if it has been taken a few years back , shouldn't complain or whine about it that much. It's just a pic after all and there is MUCH more to the person you are dating then their pic and appearance. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 9:40:05 PM | | Everybody realizes that the real person won't look like the pic, but when there's a vast difference... it leads to disappointment. People try to say that they don't go on a second date because they judge the person to be "deceiving".... give me a break! They are just not attracted to the "new" person, feel a little shallow going for looks, which they shouldn't, and instead of realizing this blame the "deceiver". I mean, would they feel the same way if the person turned out better looking than the pictures? Also, most of us try to put our best pictures up and some people just have more insecurities and poorer judgement than others. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 1:27:07 PM |
I have been browsing profiles in search of the one true love. Much to my surprise though, I look at the pic, go gaga over it, until I read the profile. That tall, slim, athletic, big breasted babe is not the same as the discription. In the pic she's blonde..... profile she's bruntte ( ok maybe a change of hair color). The pic looks like she's in her 30's ..... profile says she's in her late 40's ( maybe she ages gracefully). In the pic she looks tall, and slim with an athletic build ...... her profile says she's a BBW, yet the date on the pic was a month ago this year.
These are likely fake profiles. The profile text usually contains a lot of non-specific information, location of the photos don't match where the profile says they're from, the woman is often looking for guys 10+ years older than they are themselves, etc. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2008 8:02:00 AM | theres this picture trend I like to call it the "myspace face" and I guess its appropriate if your 16 but what blows my mind is how this pose is now the goto pose of women of all ages. Its this kind of head tilted making a kissy face pouty strange angled shot that some woman invented who more then likely had a double chin but still wanted to come off sultry in her photo. IT LOOKS RETARTED please stop doing it especialy if your in your 30's. I understand some women not wanting to be that upfront with their bodies so I notice theres not a lot of head to toe shots but hey dont cry you want an honest man if you cant be honest with yourself about yourself.
When you repersent your actual self you will find your actual mate whos into you for you.
so for the record "myspace face" is the geh. (actually myspace is pretty lame now I mean even ppls grandparents have a myspace page that should tell you that fad is over)
and most men would rather see a head to toe shot then decide what to do then to have to be fibbed to and discover someone wasnt so upfront about their weight or something like that. Guess what ladies we dont like our time wasted either.
happy fishing-
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Posted: 3/23/2008 8:23:23 AM | Why do people post pictures of their animals? I'm not looking to date your dog!
Anyhow I can pretty much tell someone who may have an older picture. Check on their fashion style and hair. Also check for dates on the bottoms of pictures! Common sense.
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Posted: 3/23/2008 10:09:22 AM | A few weeks ago I met someone off here for a drink. He looked nice, clean and his profile stated he was a non smoker. We chatted on the phone a few times and he seemed nice enough.
Well, lets just say the picture and profile was not true to life. lol Anyway he looked nothing like his picture and the first thing he did when we met was light a cigarette. The guy was honestly horrible, went on to tell me that he spent 3 years in jail for stabbing his wifes lover etc. Then wants to know why I would like to end the evening after 30min and why I was not prepared to pursue a relationship. That scared me a bit... I thought oh my god I am doomed, then I met someone else off here earlier this week, nicer looking than his picture and he has a great personality and makes me laugh we have great rappor.
My pictures are current taken the same week I joined the site that is body wise and facially. I get angry when someone contacts me has no picture then takes offence when i ask him how come he has none. Also why post a picture of your car on here, or of you posing topless or in undies?
WE are visual creatures and it is first impressions that attracts the opposite sex | |
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Posted: 3/23/2008 9:52:51 PM | | I keep my pictures current. It's only fair. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 9:41:07 AM | Sometimes it is not always possible to post a recent pic....but posting one that is obviously a decade or so older is not realistic when trying to attract someone of the opposite sex (or same, dependinng on your tastes...). I try to keep my pics as recent as possible... that way I never have to worry about having a forum posted about me and my 'deceptive' pix I have up...LOL!! (maybe I fit into other forum categories , but not THIS one!  ) | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 10:28:05 AM | all my pics were taken within the past 7 months, i never post anything more than a year old, and my main pic is only 3 1/2 months old. i have mostly face pics up, and one which shows my upper body, but nothing full length...however my profile is very honest. i describe my body type right down to my dress size...why should i lie? yet so many people do.
i had an ex roomate who used to have a PoF profile. he also only showed face shots of himself, but he listed his body type as "average" when in reality he was 6'2" and pushing close to 300 lbs. he used to complain how he'd meet girls and for some unknown reason they'd rarely give him a second date. no one likes to be deceived...delude yourself if you like, but don't misrepresent yourself to me. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 8:21:25 AM | I don't post my photo because I don't want to be easily identified. I realize that it is discourteous, but right now privacy wins over courtesy.
If someone contacts me, I am happy to attach recent, accurate pictures privately. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:54:24 AM | | Sorry you got dooped by someone on here but believe me we arent all like that. Another way of looking at is that looks arent everything. Yeah they help for the first physical attraction but after that there better be some personality to back you up! | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 4:20:14 PM | I want to be the "nice" girl and say looks don't matter, but face it that's bu**sh**! If you don't have chemistry with someone then the relationship isn't going to work.
That's just reality, so do us all a favor people and put up real pictures of yourself, not something that was done ten years ago. When guys do that it makes me think they are liars from the start. :) | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 12:59:16 PM | I had a friend flipping through photos of herself when she was a good 50 lb lighter to post them for internet dating. HUGE NO NO. Being that her intentions are to MEET someone online, her picture should represent who is now and save herself the disappointment of meeting and having the guy find out she's essentially not the same person in that picture.
I honestly believe all photos posted should be as truly representative of what ya look like NOW as possible. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 2:16:24 AM | | Ahhhh. The art of deception and a very poor attempt at entrapment is all that is happening here. I am not a shallow person but i do believe there has to be some physical attraction before further dates are to happen. There is nothing worse than chatting to someone online with their pic firmly embedded in your head and then meeting them to find out they dont even resemble their pic at all. I know that appearance is only part of the equation but hey, if you cant be honest about what you really look like then how do you expect us to believe that the convo's we've had have been honest too. I dont take too kindly to this form of deception at all. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 2:21:35 AM | I update my pics every Monday :) i get on cam as well and wouldnt meet anyone now without seeing them on cam first as ive had a couple of shocks to say the least.
One man claimed to be 42 but turned out to be more like 60.. another claimed to be 6ft turned out to be 5'9, another said he was average build, turned out to be so skinny i could put my fingers round his wrist.
Camming beforehand.... its the way of the future. lol x
ps: i note a lot of people posting in this thread dont have pics up at all, yet are telling everyone else what they should and shouldnt be doing with their pics. :p | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 9:37:57 AM |
i note a lot of people posting in this thread dont have pics up at all, yet are telling everyone else what they should and shouldnt be doing with their pics.
IMO using old and deceptive pics is worse than not having a pic on a profile. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 9:57:13 AM | | ohhhhh, here I thought this thread was about the lady who was "leading" in the pics category.... | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 7:20:03 PM | LOL there's this one guy here and I swear he has pics from the 70's, 80's, 90's and I think maybe one from 2000+ You can totally tell by the clothes and the hairstyles (or the increasing lack thereof) in the pics.
Good times!
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Posted: 4/28/2008 8:30:01 PM | There's a lot to be said about pictures.....
Although chemistry is something you can't feel by looking at a picture...my experience has been that if I am not attracted to the picture at all, it will usually be the same in person.
The fact that I am attracted to a picture does not mean there will be chemistry though.
Another problem is that people do change physically and the older we get the faster we seem to age/change - gracefully or not. A person can gain 20 pounds in three or four months and look totally different but not really realize it.
My biggest concern is that I do have a recent variety of photos that represent my current physical condition...(weight, hairstyle,color,tan,latest fad etc.). This way when I meet someone in person I will know they indeed wanted to meet me. I'd feel pretty bad if someone was not in the least attracted to me. It is obvious in the first seconds of meeting whether or not someone is "happy" to see you or "disappointed."
Having said that - it's time for a photo shoot!! Even though my pics are less than a year old...change has taken place...all it takes is one bad haircut!  | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 1:17:16 AM | The thing is, as long as you have a photo and it's of you, that is really all you need as far as a photo is concerned. Maybe have a close up of your face too that would help. But people who whine about photos being "old" and stuff like that, they really have it messed up, that is very immature for someone to make a big issue out of the age of which a photo was taken. If they are that shallow, they should be ignored because they obviously seem to lack character. People who complain to people and even have the odacity to acuse someone of lying when they post a pic that is alittle older then they might have wanted it to be, those people that whine about that should not be dating at all. I would avoid them like the plague, and they really need help in some way truth be told. That is unacceptable behaviour for "adults" to complain to other adults over things like that, and even go so low as to accuse them of lying because their pic was alittle old. Listen, as long as IT'S THEM IN THAT PICTURE, just be happy that they are willing to let you see them, and that is what matters!!
Those that disagree really need to reconsider their motives for dating and mate searching, because I don't think you should be walking around with that kind of attitude and shallow ideas about people. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 4:39:45 AM |
IMO using old and deceptive pics is worse than not having a pic on a profile
You would say that though wouldnt you? as you have no pic up? :p
But im joshing, i actually agree with you in a way. I dont reply to mails from people without pics that mail me asking me to get on cam, or send them more pics etc when i havent even seen them. As i said, i now cam with everyone i intend meeting, saves a lot of crap.
Love on Fire..................
But people who whine about photos being "old" and stuff like that, they really have it messed up, that is very immature for someone to make a big issue out of the age of which a photo was taken. If they are that shallow, they should be ignored because they obviously seem to lack character. People who complain to people and even have the odacity to acuse someone of lying when they post a pic that is alittle older then they might have wanted it to be, those people that whine about that should not be dating at all. I would avoid them like the plague, and they really need help in some way truth be told. That is unacceptable behaviour for "adults" to complain to other adults over things like that, and even go so low as to accuse them of lying because their pic was alittle old. Listen, as long as IT'S THEM IN THAT PICTURE, just be happy that they are willing to let you see them, and that is what matters!!
You really sound like you have an issue with this? how old is your pic? and to say that people are shallow is the biggest cop out of all. And then you go on to say it shouldnt matter and have a right go at people who think it does? of course it does, this is a dating site, and if you are here for a date then people have a right to see an up to date pic of who they are about to meet. Attraction isnt purely mental, there has to be a physical as well, for you to berate people like this makes me wonder just how old YOUR pic is. Having looked at your profile you dont have ONE clear pic up, so i see why you have this attitude now.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:21:07 AM | You really sound like you have an issue with this? how old is your pic? and to say that people are shallow is the biggest cop out of all. And then you go on to say it shouldnt matter and have a right go at people who think it does? of course it does, this is a dating site, and if you are here for a date then people have a right to see an up to date pic of who they are about to meet. Attraction isnt purely mental, there has to be a physical as well, for you to berate people like this makes me wonder just how old YOUR pic is. Having looked at your profile you dont have ONE clear pic up, so i see why you have this attitude now.
My pics are recent, all of them. Also again, I didn't say it's not important to have a pic, ....it is important to have a pic up and obviously attraction is important. But when people criticize someone for having a photo that is alittle old, that just doesn't make sense to me. I mean if the photo is literally someone else, then obviously thats another story, but if it's the same person but just happens to be a few years old or something, then it is immature for people to whine about that.
Also I put my pics up how I want them, simple as that, they are all recent, none of them are 10 or 20 years old or anything. But most importantly, they are all ME in them.
I said what I said and thats that!! | |
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