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| What is going slow in regards to a relationship?
Posted: 4/26/2009 3:39:40 PM | Personally, I've made the mistake in the past of not going slow enough in certain areas. I allowed my hormones to get me into trouble.
For me, jumping into bed with someone too soon, is a sure fire way to sabotage the relationship. I enjoy sex, but sex too soon, does not allow anything more to develop. So as as far as sex is concerned and learning from my past dating experiences, that is one area I prefer to go a little slower with. (sorry guys) Not forever mind you. I do enjoy that part of a relationship, but some things to need to go a bit slower, to allow other things to develop.
If things feel right early on, I don't think you have to keep everything at a slower pace, but it really depends on the individuals. For example, if I'm dating someone with kids, I don't want him to introduce me to them right away. We need time to make sure this is something that's going to work, for both of us.
Another example is friends and family. Nothing makes puts more pressure on me then when a guy wants to introduce me to his friends and family right away so that I can "fit" into his life quickly. That makes me horribly uncomfortable. I'm not ready for that yet. I want to get to know HIM first, for a while, before he throws me to the wolves with his friends and family. But you'd be amazed at how many guys want to do this to girls early on and honestly, it's a huge turnoff for me. To me, it means he doesn't really care about what I'm comfortable with, as far as the pace of the relationship, and he just wants to fit me into his life as soon as possible, without having the patience to see what I'm ready for.
I'm not perfect obviously. I can be impatient in certain areas too when it comes to dating, and its something I'm always working on. I think the key is to be patient with each other, and to set certain boundaries early on, as far as what each of you can handle. Me personally, I don't want to meet all your relatives and family right away. I don't want to meet your kids right away, unless we both know this is something more exclusive and serious. I don't expect you to meet my family right away, etc.
Setting boundaries early on, as far as how fast you are willing to go with certain things, is very important. It makes a big difference in the long run. | |
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| What is going slow in regards to a relationship?
Posted: 4/26/2009 3:48:38 PM | What I think is, take the time to get to know each other before you jump in the sack. I mean, what is the big hurry with these guys?
I'm not an old prude or anything. People who already know me, know I have a sense of humor. I just don't want to jump every Tom****and Harry who walks by.
Take the time to build a friendship, which is a foundation for a relationship. | |
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| What is going slow in regards to a relationship?
Posted: 5/3/2009 10:43:06 PM | the same rules apply to a man as a woman
if a man or woman has sex~ a relationship has to be determined as monogamous and a couple or just a f uk.
CUT AND CLEAR
no games
what is so difficult with that???? what are these coo coo bananas fu kin problems that they just can't be honest??????????
Either you are ~~~~~~~~~~~~~IN or OUT~~~~~~~~~~~
*******************************TADA************************ WEEHEE
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| What is going slow in regards to a relationship?
Posted: 5/6/2009 11:35:20 PM | In and out?????.......I like that, but it has little to do with relationships, and much more to do with fornicating.... 
OT.......So, a relationship must be monogamous or it is just intercourse? Where did you come up with this tidbit of knowledge????
Is this like saying that you can only love one person at a time, or ever? Do not situations dictate what may or may not be reality?
There is never anything that is clear cut.......and life has a way of making black and white.....much more gray......go figure
Just my opinion........   | |
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| What is going slow in regards to a relationship?
Posted: 5/8/2009 8:11:32 AM | My definitions of going slow:
Physically: Not having sex right away
Emotionally: Protecting my heart until I can trust the person
Actively: Seeing each other too much too soon, maybe they want to take it slow in regards to time spent with each other. | |
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