| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/23/2005 7:22:22 PM | It's really hard to open up to someone once you have been burned. It seems everyone has baggage, and thusly, we are all suspicious of eachother! Some people are honest, some aren't, some are but you think they aren't, cuz you can't trust cuz of what happened in the past...it's all too compilcated, which is why I have stepped back from any dating whatsoever. When I'm ready to trust someone again, I'll get back into the scene, unitl then, I am picking up lots of hobbies...lol.(xbox,knitting, harry potter books, crocheting....)
I think a lot of people feel incomplete without a mate-it's how I used to feel. Maybe it's why there are so many out there trying anything to find someone.
Merry Christmas | |
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Joined: 5/30/2005
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/23/2005 7:29:35 PM | | Wanna: I know exactly how you feel. "Some" women can be so cold and heartless and love to just play games with us men and f**k with our emotions. Anyways, I and plenty of other guys have also had out heart broken so hang in there, your soulmate is out there somewhere. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/23/2005 7:38:52 PM | A worried man with a worried mind
No one in front of me and nothing behind
There's a woman on my lap and she's drinking champagne
Got white skin, got assassin's eyes
I'm looking up into the sapphire tinted skies
I'm well dressed, waiting on the last train
Standing on the gallows with my head in a noose
Any minute now I'm expecting all hell to break loose
People are crazy and times are strange
I'm locked in tight, I'm out of range
I used to care, but things have changed | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/23/2005 7:45:00 PM | | Hey Vette, i know what your saying, i`m with you all the way, we folks who wear their hearts on their sleeves, seem to feel the pain the worst, some say we are "saps" or such things, but nobody can give love and affection like a big hearted kind loving guy, i`ve been hurt bad a couple of times, but ya know what, when they say' I JUST DON`T KNOW WHAT I WANT RIGHT NOW!" its usually not you!!, when the right girl comes along, she will be the most, loved and looked after woman out there...and you will be appreciated ...good luck. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/23/2005 10:40:37 PM | Maybe thats my problem. I do wear my heart on my sleeves. I mean im the type of guy who is one of the BIGGEST smart asses probably in the world, but I know how to be serious and romantic. I try to reel em in with my personality and really try not to throw it all out there at once, but its like if you dont then they dont think you are interested and if you do you're moving too fast. ****!!
And I think I know deep down that someone is out there trying to find me or whatever but Im just so damn tired of waiting on it, and everytime between the last one and that certain one its like Ground Hog's Day. The same shit happens over and over and over again. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:29:15 AM | For me, it's really not about being in love and having your heart broken....it's more a matter of never being accepted as a choice b/f altogether. Before I keep up with what I'm trying to say, I'm new to the forum ...and to PoF. (...I've been here all of 4 days)
I saw an earlier post here, that said something to the effect of "This is a new age, ....gone are the days of romance/caring/being genuine....it's a new era".
I think that's the most depressing thing in the world (well ... if there was a list, it wouldn't be number one, but it would be one in the top 3)
I'm by no means a pessimist, but ....you can't shake the fact that people seem to have callouses growing from the callouses on their hearts.
Very few people actually give a  anymore . It's about playing some snot-nosed, public school game all the time.
I belong to another site where I posted something related to the discussion at hand...and one of the fellow posters called me desperate. He said dating is like a game..... the more you play.... the more experience you get.
Here was my response to that gentleman.
"...maybe that's why I'm at such odds with the whole thing.
I don't play games. never have. NEVER will.
It throws people off, because as you said ..."it's not about how good-looking you are it's HOW YOU PLAY THE GAME"
and I don't.
Duck, duck goose is for kindergarten. not a relationship (think about it)....
(duck) her hair's too long
(duck) he doesn't make enough money
(duck) she's a nerd
(duck) he's not a thug
(duck) she's an emo chick
(duck) he's too short
(duck) she's not curvacious enough
(duck) he's not that muscular
GOOSE: you finally find someone that suits what you've been looking for, and you spend however long you do, chasing and being chased, that both of you end up somewhere wheezing for air, to go sit back in the same pile you were just at.... to do it all over again
....sounds more like BAGGAGE to me ...more than "experience"
Noone's saying ya can't be attracted to things, hey, we all are. What I'm saying is, don't make it into some game, because when the dust settles.... the only person you would have successfully played; is yourself. That's what this whole thing has become..... one big GAME. ....it's like the lottery. The premis IS for you to lose, so you keep coming back to spend more than you have....and you never really feel ike you've won anything."
I put long-term on my profile, because I (despite how many don't believe me) don't play games. Hense, my decision to join PoF. I'm more heart-broken that these are the things we do (not as individuas, but as a collective society), as people to attracting a partner. As you can see, I have a WHOLE lot to say about the matter, but I've exhausted (pun intended)
my space here. Anyone interested in furthering this, can always come see me (profile) or stillfire 7 (aim) . Until then, I'm  with a wish to find that special lady
~solewolf22 | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:44:36 AM | It is the ongoing process of dating. Has ben like this for decades, and it is also expereince you look at it as. We all go through it and all have to deal with it. But life just move forward and not backwards. Ask the ladies who get shafted by many men, and we guys think we got it bad?
Remember they get hit on umteen times by us guys...they gotta tolerate alot more BS. So getting your heart broken is a good thing, at least you know what to watch out for next time.
Pick yourself up, get back in the fight and have some fun while you do it...we only live once, so enjoy.
Trust me it is a learning experience and I have been there before. Makes you a better person after a while. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:58:55 AM | | it only takes a few questions, reading the profile carefully to weed out the many you wish not to be a part of your life. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/24/2005 3:47:32 AM | | im so with you on that. Everytime you think you've met the right person you get your heart broken. But without the risk you will never no,gotta take the chance, trust me ive had mine broken more times than ive had hot dinners lol | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/24/2005 5:15:22 PM | | It especially sucks on Christmas. Im with my whole family and Im the only one is not with a "significant other". Its really depressing!!! | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/24/2005 7:07:22 PM | Look at it this way wanna... It's only depressing if you sit around the house with nothing else to do..
You are 33 years old. You aren't over the hill!!!! Go out, meet a woman who interests you on the street say Hello, and smile... See where it goes from there!! What's the worst she's gonna do?? Other then call for help?? I find smiling and saying something half decent at least gets a hello back...
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/24/2005 8:28:59 PM |  whoa whoa whoa.... Im only 22!!! I do "believe" she's out there im just so tired of waiting and having to go through the motions trying to find her. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/27/2005 7:43:52 AM | | My apologies vette... Mistook the message postings as your age.. Sorry man.. Pretty new to this site myself still learning how to "fish" around on it.. And looking at guys profile's... Well not my cup of tea... | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/27/2005 8:55:03 AM | | well this just happened to me recently also, but you know what? if yiu don't keep taking chances, your never going to find it either, and it does pass, and there will be a next person that will come along. my situation was meeting someone so like myself it was almost scary, but i found out she had a flaw that i didn't, she can just shut you out of her life, and i could never do that to someone. people like this will never find anything more then short term happiness, cause they so believe that it's going to go bad that they destroy it before they think it will happen, so be happy that it happened, i am, if she could this know, she could do it anytime durring the relationship. and am betting she has, so take a close look at what ever has gone bad, and look for the flaw, and remember it, and avoid it again. for me when she walked out, another walked in, and it is her loss. i will always care about her, but am glad i didn't get in any deeper before i found how selfish and self centered she was. beware of people that only care about how they can deal with things, cause they will tear you apart without giving it a thought. well all i can say is move on, i have and am happier for it, think about it, look at what happened, find the character flaw, and look out for it next time. then move on. and if that takes more then a week to do, then you better get some help, cause your just obssesing and feeling sorry for yourself, and thats even a worse thing to go through. well good luck, and hope this helps. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 6/22/2006 2:53:43 PM | | heart break we can all prevent it but we dont...when we look for the other person we look on how a person looks and not how the person acts....like me for example im not the smallest person but i think im cute and and what im attracted too is out of my rate... but i still go for it and i get droped on my butt every time...when a guy looks for a girl he looks for a trophy for his arm if you stop and look at the big picture shes hot and can get any man she wants....she really dont need you just with a hot guy and an ok looking girl he really dont need her he can get better. and if you dont do as they say your gone. you need to look for someone whos going to make YOU happy and you not haveing to make them happy all the time its a 50/50 thing.and in my case it seems that every guy out here is looking for one thing and thats nook nook. and you think you found a good guy and wow you start to see he only calls or wants to see you when he thinks he can get some nook nook from you and when you tell them no they bring out their age card and go back to the elem. school cut down's its old. if we just stop going by looks alone and go on personality i bet you will find the one for you.....well thats my .02 cents yall guys have a good day | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 7/21/2006 12:14:16 PM | | Yeah it sucks. Been there. I felt like leaving and going home and going to bed. which i did go home. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 11/1/2006 10:56:59 PM | | Oh do I ever know how you feel on this one! You are a hottie I am sure that you will find someone soon and when you do I hope that it is great and that she makes you happy. Anyways just wanted to let you know that you arent the only one that is the only single person at christmas time with the family. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 11/1/2006 11:03:18 PM | I would just like to say i Know where you are coming from
Its like impossible to meet someone thats not a liar cheat or thief
my heart goes out to you bc i feel the same way but dont give up hope
bc life is so much better than u know
Have faith
much heart to u
JK | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 12/14/2006 12:22:44 PM | who isnt tired of getting their heart broken??? i am.......its good that you still know shes out there though and you havent given up all hope! | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:41:53 AM | Well this is an interesting subject! The heart it is complicated and confusing! I believe that you will find your special someone. It does take time, and patience. I believe once you quit searching you will find your sole mate.
I'm also 22, and I have been married and I have a 2 year old daughter. I feel how you feel. I am tired of getting my heart broken but if you carry your past expierences along with you to the next expierence, it is doomed from the start. Trust is essential in a relationship, so is honesty.
Everyone needs to have their heart broken a few times. It's healthy. You learn from your mistakes or your supposed to. It might take more than one of the same mistake to get the point across, but eventually you understand and see what the problems are.
Keep your head up, like someone else said your only 22, you have a lifetime ahead of you and you never know what is planned for you. So try to keep from becoming negative about your situation. Remember just because someone broke your heart doesn't mean that the next person inline deserves their heart broken. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 6/19/2007 5:20:45 AM | Me too. I keep wondering about that old saying: For every pot, there's a lid. Where the hell is my lid??????? | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 6/25/2007 8:27:43 PM | it is true that it happens to the best of us i'm afraid! i am to that same point of wondering if there is anyone that knows how to be honest. it's harder and harder to believe the more you get your heart stomped on. sometimes we just need to take a break from dating i think just to catch our breath long enough to get gut punched again the next go around it seems! either way dont let the jerks who dont see what they got ruin your chance for finding happiness! i certainly am not. good luck!
mochawoman hahahahaha crack my azz up! that's funny! i want a lid too LOL | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 6/25/2007 10:52:17 PM | | You know... like so many people on here im tired of it too. i have been married twice. the first i take the blame for cause i was young dumb and well full of you know what. i just didnt get to know her. the second one things were going great till i left for new jersey from texas about 2 weeks after my son was born. now befor you start throwing tomatoes at me hear me out. i did this to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. i didnt want to but at that time we were about to be kicked out of our house cause we didnt have any money. it was the only thing i could do. now with that said she left me because of part post pardem (dont mind the spelling) depression and partly cause i wasnt there. she not only thought i was cheating on her but doing it with guys. now if that is your life style then please go ahead but its not mine and she knew that. well we got back together for about 9 months and she left me again saying that she just couldnt trust me. we were happy with each other and with our son but she couldnt atleast try..... i mean did i do somthing wrong here. i found the one woman that would do everything i asked and i would do everything she asked and didnt feel bad about it at all. have i lost is that the answer do i need tojust give up???? i dont want to but im thinking that maybe i should???? | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 6/26/2007 6:54:05 AM | | Believe in yourself, and persevere. I have met many good people. So will you. Just when you meet that person, make sure not to mess it up. Treat her right. | |
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| tired of getting my heart broken
Posted: 6/26/2007 8:02:07 AM | Perhaps if you stopped looking on the outside of the package first and saw what was on the inside this wouldn't happen so often... It will not necessarily guarantee it. Good looking girls can be as insecure same as the best of us... hence the jealously when talking to another female.
Your profile says you want a girl who knows her own mind - believe me this doesn't happen until your thirties - the age of emotional maturity and inner confidence, so if you are seeking out girls of your own age you may expect this sort of thing for a long time yet - it's got absolutely nothing to do with good or bad people - just the right or wrong one for you.
Stop taking yourself and life so seriously - there's plenty of good stuff to come yet believe me. | |
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