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Posted: 1/6/2005 4:52:10 PM | | I think all those people writing negative things about weight issues are sad need to get a life if thats all that bothers them. Their are way more important things happening that ppl could right about. I mean i do agree being seriously over is not good, as we all know the risks their but come on guys all you ppl who ask frankly pathetic quetions like '' Would you date a girl heavier than you?'' or '' Would you date a girl whos a few pounds overweight?'' are truly pathetic!! I think guys like that have problems, its not the girls. Its more a reflection of themselves and their own insecurity. Im curvacious, not fat im a size 12 and have been called fat by guys, and it used to really upset me but i realise come on im definately not fat! It just gos to show not only is these constant bombardments of perfect women in the media affecting womens self esteem, its doin it to the guys too! | |
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Posted: 1/6/2005 5:09:48 PM | lilello welcome yes I agree the people who say those type of things are simply masking an inadequacy in their own life some need to put others down in order to feel good about their life ,situation,their own self issues or their self imiage I have learned troughout life it is far simpler to see other peoples faults than our own for me I realise now the only thing I can change is myself I cant change others and I cant change the things others have said, the only thing I can change is the future and knowing this I look at other peoples good points
so I try tro live each day to be positive yes it is hard many days impossible but I agree there are many more important things to worry about in life than how to make some one else feel like crap.but for some it seems this is the only identity they know.
Cheers and welcome to the pond
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Posted: 1/6/2005 5:41:03 PM | | I dont mind the large ladies one bit, I'm currently 'getting over' one myself. But I have an annoyingly practical rule about such things... keep it under 200. If I can do it, my lady can do it. Personally, I have much stronger feelings about things like smoking and drug/alcohol abuse than weight, so as others have said already, there are more important issues to be concerned about. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2005 5:48:43 PM | | COSMO!! You are totally awesome! This has to be the coolest thread...eva! I just have to say...props to you and that is cool...someone who will finally admit that there is nothing wrong with being "thicker"! I am a lil bigger than I wanna be...but I am getting used to it and as long as I have confidence...it's all good. I have to agree with LadyO...."I am sexy, I knows its hard for everyone else to deal with." | |
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Posted: 1/6/2005 5:55:51 PM | | oneofthefew thanks for comming out and saying so I think it takes gut s to go against the flow in this small pond thanks for joining the thread . it is apreiciated by many not just me. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2005 6:04:09 PM | pnkflyd welcomeand thank you for the compliments and the warm words you are absolutly right there is nothing wrong with being ourselves at all and I still think more of the world thinks that big is beautifull than are letting on but as we create our own little backeddie in the flow of this pond I think more fish will come swimming in so to every one cheers
thanks for the kind words .keep them comming we are making the pond a nicer place to be .
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Posted: 1/23/2005 11:23:39 PM | | just bringing this back up so people can read some positive feedback on wieght issues and how I see them | |
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Posted: 1/24/2005 12:39:50 AM | be it overweight or underweight, as long as the person is smiling then its all good to me.
a smile says a lot about a person and if they can't do that...then i'll be one sad lady.
The weight thing has always been an issue for me..all throughout my childhood too, i figure as long as i keep active i shouldnt worry about it so much, but of course i do...and to a certain extent everyone does...but who cares, it could be something worse..i mean i dont smoke i dont do drugs and i rarely drink and i havent had fast food since i was a wee little kid, so if a guy doesnt like me...then maybe i smell funny...haha :)
all i can say is...SMILE!! everyone looks hot when they're smiling. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2005 12:51:15 AM | | that is right nicola every one look's great when they smile no matter if they are thick, thin or average, a smile looks great and if you are happy with your self there are many others out there who will be hapy with you too.And if you smile at them he may be the one who comes over and talks to you because of that smile.You just never know untill you try and at the very worst you are happy, what is the harm in that? not much really . | |
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Posted: 1/24/2005 1:23:47 AM | Briefly to Heavy
I was a size 10 until about 2 years ago. I think since you are so into the health issues you will appreciate this. I quit smoking 4 years ago Kudos to me it was the hardest thing Ive eve done after 25 years of smoking However the food tastes better and i put on weight. Quite a bit of weight. Im now a fair bit overweight. I joined a gym and did weight lifting and on my limited budget even hired a personal trainer. Needless to say Im still Fat but hey YOU may have lost weight but you are losing alot more by not having the opportunity to know me or other large people. Im Smart,Fun, Sexy, Spontaneos and fat. Im not ashamed of who or what I am. We know the health issues butSometimes it does not work. I refuse to let people like you ruin my glorious moment of quitting smoking and increasing my health by leaps and bounds. Dont like it dont look! I dont find any less dating opportunities except among people I dont care to date anyway therefor my search is easier as alot of the shallow people others have to sift through I dont. I have a pic on my profile because I believe in honesty and people who are overweight and put a pic are at the very least honest. Point set match
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Posted: 1/24/2005 7:24:45 AM |  EZgoing, congrats on quitting smoking, I did that too, when I was much younger, never went back. Unkind remarks should never be said to anyone, especially if no pic from the commentor is up. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2005 8:24:54 AM | | this is a great thread, cosmo. you are absolutely right to say that the ideal weight charts are bullsh!t. according to them, i am 20 lbs over weight! i carry a lot of muscle, so most women my size are about 30 lbs lighter. have been overweight before and really wasn't happy about that so i got back in shape. this isn't easy for a lot of people. most of the food that's really good for you tastes really bad... i have often thought it was really horrible that people feel the need to put down overweight people. all that accomplishes is making someone feel bad. i wouldn't let something like that keep me from being with someone i really cared for. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2005 12:53:05 AM | Really, I am only 40# overweight. That doesn't seem like much. But if someone is so much as 5# overweight they are often called 'fat'.
I think being overweight is usually sexier than being underweight. I just associate being skinny with nearing death/endstage dementia.
I saw Anna Nicole Smith's new commercials and she looks so sick I could vomit. I thought she looked better fat. I also preferred Christina Ricci fat, now she looks like an Alien.
The same goes for men. I think a really skinny man would snap in two under my weight.
Being overweight gives you large boobs and a big luscious butt. I like to wear heels that accentuate the fact. Being a little larger makes you feel... powerful and feminine. No wonder I haven't been able to get this weight off!
But I don't like the strain on my knees or extra effort I need to expend when exercising. When it comes down to it, I'm for my health. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2005 4:36:36 AM | I dont know if this is a compliment or not, but here it goes.
When I met my last girl friend she was very skinny, and wore a B cup. She was very attractive. After about a year of dating she put on a few pounds( about 40 ). At first I was sort of turned off by this. Then she brought her new found D cup to my attention. This was an immense turn on.
So I say bring on the extra servings. You eat em, I'll watch your boobs grow.
**NOTE** Yes, I do realize this is the most immature post I've ever had. I just had to let everyone know that I do apreciate thick woman too. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2005 4:55:49 AM | Hey, you can come keep me warm ANY TIME YOU WANT! 
**NOTE** before you ask, yes I'm forum stalking you... lol... not really. You just show up in all the right places( pun intended ). | |
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Posted: 1/25/2005 5:06:44 AM | You're absolutely right. It's not far at all. As for
fortunately i also suck.....nevermind...wrong thread
I'm gonna go take a cold shower now. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2005 11:05:29 AM | Thanks for posting this cosmo.
I have been up and down on the scale. I have had positive and negative experiences being fat and being (well as thin as an Irish, Finish, Native American gets) thin. When I was at my thinnest, I had a man tell me I was to fat and should loose 10 pounds. I still have pictures from that time frame and I can’t believe how thin I was, I lived on popcorn and orange juice. lol
About 10 years ago, I finally decided that I can only be what I am today.
Yes, I have goals, needs, and plans about what I want or find acceptable. My outside package is symbolic of where I am at in my journey but it’s not the whole picture. Sometimes I think that some skinny people who want to eat that piece of fried chicken or whatever, can’t because they hate fat so, they take there anger out on people who say, “I want to be skinny but I want that piece of fried chicken more.” Don’t worry be happy. That’s what I say! Rescue and owl it will make your day, week, month, maybe even the whole dang year. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2005 6:10:07 PM | love me, love my fat....
and, love my insanity
and, love my quirks
and, love my mind
and, love my sarcasm
and, love my giggle
and, i could go on and on....
i'm a whole package..... you take it all or you leave it all, but i refuse to feel ashamed for who i am and what i look like...
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Posted: 4/6/2005 6:22:46 AM | So I say bring on the extra servings. You eat em, I'll watch your boobs grow.
^^^lmfao!!! gotta love that :)
ya for confident bbw's...ya for confident women in general...now wheres the men who like us :) | |
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Posted: 4/6/2005 8:56:13 AM | 5'8" 200 lbs of pure woman here. curves, hips, and a waist thankyouverymuch. still haven't figured out the definintion of BBW, don't think I qualify as my weight tends to be further down on my body. not boobylicious but bootylicious. used to be skinny as a rake back in the day, couple of kids, couple of years, life inbetween, no matter, I still love me, thats what really counts.
Cosmo, thanks for starting this thread, nice to hear positive side of us "above average" folks, who wants to be average anyway! | |
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MikeJ
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| the positive weight thing thread
Posted: 4/6/2005 11:25:03 AM | I'd be more impressed if you were ripped.
A flabby guy saying he likes flabby women isn't all that impressive. | |
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Posted: 4/6/2005 11:27:36 AM | | ^^^^ quick glance at profile^^^^^ surprised he has anything to say.......not surprised it negative though....... | |
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