| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/11/2007 7:23:35 AM | I'm divorced and have 2 children (14 & 8). My intention is to stay single until my youngest is at least a couple years into high school, maybe until college. I don't feel like I have the emotional strength to raise my kids in a split environment while investing myself into a serious, long-term relationship that could lead to marriage.
That's the choice I have made for myself. It's one thing about which I agree with Dr. Laura Schlessinger (sp??). | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/11/2007 7:57:43 AM | Art that is so true, and I get tired of the 'are you picky'? comment. I believe that even at the age of 35 we still have some options...we haven't been put out to pasture yet and they haven't loaded the shotgun to put me to sleep. I think just because we are of a 'certain age group' does not mean that we should lower our standards to take any walking train wreck with more baggage than paris hilton on holiday.
Not to mention its hard to find guys that don't want to have kids. I have one who is 13 and I'm done...cool with guys that already have kids but don't want to start the baby train again. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/11/2007 8:16:25 AM | Well it rained the day I had a date and was too lazy to leave home
The question should be whats wrong with being single its fun | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/12/2007 7:35:18 PM | I'm still single because nobody has gently taken my hand and said lets get off the net and build a life together...LOL | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/12/2007 10:08:18 PM |
guys keep asking me why i'm still single. is it wrong to have led an interesting, independent lifestyle through your 30's? maybe i have had my share of fun, hard times, and other things to focus on other than marriage. i'll be 35 next month, and i never felt that something was "wrong" with me 'cause i was still a bachlorette...until everyone started asking this question!
am i the only one who hears this kind of thing?
other than the fact that I was married for a couple of years in my 20's....I cant' figure this out either ~ why just because I am mid 30's, not married or shacked up is it assumed there is something "wrong"?
Really, any man who has a career and isn't married in his mid 30's is looked at as a great sucess...that double standard again! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/16/2007 8:14:39 AM | | ummmm basically the women in GA, all carry their luggage with them, have zero capability to understand anything other then southern culture, and I hate to say it are mostly gals of average intelligence. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:07:26 AM | simple answer to why im single, just look at my photo, im not photogenic which does not help. I dont feel sorry for myself before you say, i have a good personallity which is good enough for me | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/16/2007 5:25:18 PM | I get this question sometimes myself... I have a dear friend ~ WWII P-51 Mustang Pilot named Speedy ~ who finally got it right. He said "Your smart, your stable, you're attractive (to which he added ~ but I see you've picked up a few pounds ~ LOL) ~ and I can't figure out why someone hasn't snatched you up and ridden off into the sunset with you... unless you just don't WANT to go..." And that's why ~ I haven't wanted to go.
I'm so glad I survived that thing that happens when women turn 25-ish that tells us, "I have to get married to start a full and happy life!" I personally have been so selfish at times in my life that I would've taken a hostage rather than a husband. I'm grateful I have spared the potential husbands and myself the pain that comes with waking up next to someone and knowing I just couldn't stay there any longer, and hurt them and me in the process of extricating myself. Some of those guys are still my friends and we completely agree that we've gotten a lot more mileage out of our friendships than we ever would've as a couple. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/16/2007 6:01:09 PM | Teagmháil,
Sometimes I see keywords and because of reading certain things I look and say hold on, lets clear something up. Our societies around the world have been hijacked and one of the quickest indicators is our language and its distortion and manipulation thereof. Now you stated that you have been so selfish at times, but you are defining that word by what was forced upon you. I believe that you would agree with the following statement (leave out the fact it says man, I'll get to that in a minute...)
"To love is to value. Only a rationally selfish man, a man of self-esteem, is capable of love—because he is the only man capable of holding firm, consistent, uncompromising, unbetrayed values. The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone."
Agree or no?
If you do, that is a quote from Ayn Rand and I suggest that you Google Objectivism and Ayn Rand. I am not saying I am sort of weird disciple of dead writer but she has some things that she has written that has made me think. Selfish? I hate to tell you but it sounds like you have been anything but...at least to a thinking person. For the mindless sheep more interested in Britney/Paris/Lindsay/Anna Nichole? Well, I'm running around telling them the Titanic that is the society that we have today, has definitely sprung a leak and they are clueless.
That's why I finally "Shrugged..."
STICK TO YOUR VALUES. THEY ARE YOURS AND YOURS ALONE AND ONLY YOU ANSWER TO YOUR VALUES. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/17/2007 5:58:14 PM | yes I get this all the time too...I was in a long term relationship early last year so I am enjoying being single but having said that if a guy I really liked were to ask me to date him...yeh I'd go for it...I would have been taken by now if that one guy I liked decided to be more than just 'friends'...
Oh well it's fun at the moment being single....it does have it's moments but for now I'm single because I choose to be...had plenty of offers but no not my type...
But isn't it the case ? The ones you want more from just want to be friends and the ones you would rather just be friends with want more...lol
And yeh when guys ask if I am single and I say yes I am, they always reply back with..."It's hard to believe that"...huh ? why is it so hard to believe it ?? lol...yeh i'm taking it as a compliment...but anyway... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:53:31 AM | I have had this question asked tons of times....most men I run into think I have guys standing in line at the door....NOT! Finding someone when you are older is more difficult because you are not in the Social scene as much...unless you frequent bars. I live in a small town where there really is no place to go (unless your in college and enjoy rap crap!) I am a waitress and get hit on but I joke it off simply because this is my work place and I am not there to find dates.
Another obstacle with age is finding someone that has been down the same road....when I was young any road was one I hadnt yet taken...but now, I no longer want the same things...Example: I have 3 children....I do not want any more. I am financially stable and expect the "man" in my life to be the same.
Spending the vast majority of my life "singe" was not what I wanted or planned when I was younger....but the years went by and thats where I am. Result: Internet dating...we will see what happens next!
If all else fails in the next 15 years....I can always go to the Senior Center....they always have stuff going on.. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/18/2007 2:21:58 PM | | i hate when my family asks me this question. all i hear is how picky i am...and i should'nt be. do they really want me to just settle?? yikes! thats scary! my grandmother actually asked my mom if i would ever consider a sperm bank. she must think i need to at least have a baby if i can't find a man... | |
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Posted: 2/18/2007 7:38:13 PM | | I hear the same thing all the time! I just say because i havent found anyone good enough that likes me back! very simple! Your not alone! All I can say is follow your heart . Im 30 and never had a realationship longer than 3 weeks. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/19/2007 12:25:51 PM | | The reason I am single...is cause I am divorced "AMEN AMEN AMEN"...she was crazy, controlling, a cheat and "FOUL" in every way...thank goodness we didnt have any kids...that would have been a real mess.....she would probably have them confused about who their daddy was...if we did have kids...thank God we didnt.... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2007 2:35:23 PM | | Nope, I hear that one all the time! *big beaming smile* Six years..ha ha! Guess people are just curious why? *giggle* Be darned if I know! | |
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Posted: 2/19/2007 6:37:12 PM | When guys ask I think they're just trying to get information...either to see if you're avoiding marriage or if there's something 'wrong' with you, because based on what they know at the time you seem cool, so there's got to be something they're missing otherwise you would have been 'snatched-up' by then...take it as a compliment...like the other guy say...worry when they DONT ask!
It's also used sometimes a lead-in to asking questions about what kind of relationship you're looking for. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/19/2007 10:50:03 PM | yes this is the question i hate the most . why are you still single or not married? jeeze i hate that question . there have been alot of other things going on in my life so getting married was not top priority and still is not . if i meet a guy who treats me decently and like he is happy i am in his life and we both feel the same for each other then i will get married. its not like i couldnt have gotten married but it would of been a big mistake . its like people see having been married before as some sort of accomplishment . well if i had been married before and now single then what did i accomplish but a divorce? i may get married some day and i may not i dont know the future . either way i am ok with being single . that doesnt mean that i wouldnt like to meet a great guy . after all thats why i am on pof. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/20/2007 12:50:36 PM | haha that's too funny *wishonastar* i get the same question & the same result :) well, dating is not that bad... it shows me what i don't want & reinforces what qualities i do want in a mate (god, mate sounds so national geographic!) hahaha :) | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/20/2007 5:09:35 PM | It just got to be the most annoying question.
The second one that hit home is, Why dont you have any children. Single women now day dont have to be married to have children you know?
If I could get a dollar for the amought to time I get ask that ,I could quit my job and retire.
Why don't people ask married couple if they would married their partner again given the opportunity.
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