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Joined: 12/17/2006
Msg: 402 | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/8/2007 3:17:39 PM | | I get the same thing all the time... I agree with some of the other responses when they basically say, at this age, you have learned so much and know what you want, and you're not going to settle for anything other than what you are looking for. That is what I am doing and a lot of guys don't understand that, they get mad when I don't want to go on a second date... but it's my life and I can afford to be picky after what I've had in the past... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/21/2007 4:19:13 AM | Wow...
re:
" And finally, I can't escape the feeling that I'm not supposed to be where I'm at right now. Like I should be moving on somewhere and if I went for someone here where I live I'd be miserable the rest of my life wondering how I messed up, and why I didn't go where I wanted to, like I'd missed something important."
...I moved to the east coast after divorce. I've been here for 6 years now, and yet
I can't seem to "root" myself in my mind. I keep getting that doubtful feeling
about where I am.. as if I need to stay mobile. What a crazy feeling, that can really
hold a person back from 'getting into life', where they are, in the present.
There is always lots to 'do'... and I live a busy life... but I do know that feeling of
not being confident as to 'where I am located'. ... and the longer it takes to
reconnect with others and rebuild a life here... the harder it is to believe that this
is the right place for me too.
What an uprooting feeling!
Thank you, BlackbirdXIII, for putting this to words.
I can relate to it, in a way.
As for 'still single'.... that is better than 'single again'.
Imagine being married 6 months and then being told that your spouse
doesn't love you anymore and wants other partners.
Taking your time before tying the knot... is not cliche.
Even after 3 years of living with a person, and marrying them, things can turn.
Why am I "still single", since moving to the east coast?
First - I moved too much. Hard to get to know people when you don't sit still.
Second - I did meet someone - and learned that sexual compatibility is not enough.
Third - night shift / shift work, makes it difficult to get involved with social clubs
and venues where people can 'find you' and get to know you.
Getting off at 1am..and then going to a club... most people are drunk by then.
Fourth - Recovery from life changes takes time. Getting to know new people takes time. Rebuilding life and social involvements takes time. Try moving to a different
province and starting over ... it takes time.
Fifth - I'm not good with the whole dating scene. I am used to relationships.. not
casual dating. So I guess this would mean 'a lack of dating skills'???
I think that life happens.... 'still single' or 'single again'...often happens by
pure necessity. (Sucks, doesnt it?)
-firefly121m | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/21/2007 11:03:15 AM | | When asked why I am still single...Just like in my profile I am single by choice not chance | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:04:38 PM | when i'm asked if i have a girlfriend, i usually answer, "yes, but my wife doesn't know about her."
that usually shuts them up really quick, or steers the topic away from that subject.
win-win situation.
I'm single cuz I like being single. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:29:21 PM | I hear this ALL the time....it is society's "pre-occupation" with age.
 For having led an interesting & independent lifestyle.
I am 34, but spent 13 years in a common law relationship, that looking back now, should have left way sooner OR not been in it from the start. I won't go into detail here, suffice it to say I met him when I was 19, he was 34 and I never took my mom's advice when she said,
" You think the age difference is nothing now, wait until you get older". It was not just that, but also that he used me & was an alcoholic....SO here I am FINALLY free!!
BUT, I do want the whole thing, marriage, kids pets...just I am looking more carefully now and heading into it with my EYES wide open to make sure he is the PERFECT match for me.
You just never mind what ANYONE says to you and if they ask you say you are just waiting for YOUR perfect match too!
Good luck to you & thanks for the excellent post! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:04:36 AM | I get asked this too ..... Simple answer is that I am single because I WANT to be; it's my choice. That usually shuts them up and it's the truth ....  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/1/2007 1:42:25 PM | | I guess i can say that the reason why i am still single is because some guy's are just too busy flirting with other woman online once involved with another. It's become a game for them....competition! No wonder we can't get them to settle down. What's wrong with them. I know it's not about me but it would be nice to fianally be spoken for. Tired of the games guy's .....that's what the bar's are for! So tell me what the heck is up with that? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/1/2007 9:41:48 PM | I do not enjoy being single.
I have not "settled" simply because I have not found "the one" for me and refuse to "settle" for less than my perfect match....many of my friends and people I know have mates and are unhappy.....I do not want that for myself, Id rather be alone.......many are afraid of that. Those of us who are not, well,
it takes as while, I think.....press on, my friends, press on | |
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Kame
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Joined: 2/5/2007
Msg: 413 | |
| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/1/2007 10:03:56 PM | | Because I haven't found what Im looking for ....and intel I do Im happy in the mean time being single ...Iv been single almost 7 years now, so Im pretty adjusted to it anyways. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/2/2007 12:06:05 AM |
guys keep asking me why i'm still single. is it wrong to have led an interesting, independent lifestyle through your 30's? maybe i have had my share of fun, hard times, and other things to focus on other than marriage. i'll be 35 next month, and i never felt that something was "wrong" with me 'cause i was still a bachlorette...until everyone started asking this question!
am i the only one who hears this kind of thing?
That is the question that every girl has asked me through my 30's. I often feel like I'm at a job interview when on a date. As far as being single goes, I have met many married people who are not in heaven, so don't be in a hurry to hook up just because some people suggest that the grass is greener over there. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/3/2007 9:35:02 AM | "Maybe you are just to picky"
I find it very interesting that it'is always women who are expected to lower their standards, yet men expect women to fit their idea of " perfect" and won't be seen with anyone they think isn't, and if she happens to not fit that idea, he will subtley do things to change her so she does fit the 'model'. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/4/2007 11:18:03 AM | Regarding Ladysunicorn, msg 400: Okay, girlfriend, I read your profile. Your photos are pleasant. Why are you ashamed of how you look? You need to get some self-esteem going on. Also, the "separated" part is a turn off. Unless you have a terrific reason for remaining legally tied to someone who is out of your life, I would do something about that too.
Good luck to you | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/4/2007 11:42:05 AM | | I have yet to meet anyone who was single where it wasn't soon obvious why they were, from their wanting to be to some problem they had. I think when someone asks it is to make conversation, possibly to find out if the person is looking, or for what they are looking. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/4/2007 7:22:22 PM | Once there was an apple tree.
There were many apples on the tree.
People came by and picked of the apples that sat low on branches.
They really didnt put alot of time in choosing- they were in a hurry and "hungry"
The apples on the top branches felt unwanted and believed that there was something wrong with them that they were not picked.
In reality, those were indeed the best, reddest apples but because in order to obtain one a person had to climb, work hard or wait to due so.
It takes a while longer for those apples to to do what it is an apple is designed to do but in the end~ you get the picture | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/5/2007 12:13:37 AM | So many answers to this one...
1) The Arrogant Answer - I've never found a woman who deserved me!
2) The Spiritual Answer - God apparently has other plans for me, and who am I to argue with the Divine Creators' plans?
3) The Low Self-Esteem Answer - I'm fat, ugly, and unambitious. Who'd want me?
4) The No-Luck Answer - Some day my ship will come in, but with my luck, I'll be at the airport.
5) The Descartean Answer - I think, therefore, I am. Other than that, the rest of this world seems to be an elaborate illusion...
6) The Casanova Answer - What?! Sex with the same woman for the rest of my life? Yikes!!!
7) The Soulmate Answer - There's only ONE woman for me! And judging by some of the messages I've received on other personals sites, I swear she lives in the Ukraine.
8) The Real Answer - I've never fallen in love with anyone who's fallen in love with me.
Sure, I would love to say I am single by choice, but I'm not. And as I get older (I'm 38) I date less, as well. There are several women I've met over the last year or so that would go out with me, but I know in my heart that my interest in them could lead to no more than friends with benefits, and I don't want that. So we flirt a bit and I leave it at that. Anything more would be disingenuous on my part. I've also met a woman that I really care about, but she's dating someone else and doesn't seem interested in going beyond friendship.
In the words of Kurt Vonnegut... "And so it goes." | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/5/2007 7:04:26 AM | My best mate asks me this fairly regularly, which can be a tad annoying. I usually tell him that if I knew the answer to that then I wouldn't be. It mostly just boils down to not having met the right person. Mind you, going by some of the couples I know that hasn't stopped a lot of people | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:14:23 AM | | Like others have mentioned, for me, it's also about finding the right person and not just anybody where the chances are slim it will have any kind of lasting power. I still get shy and nervous around woman, especially ones I'm attracted to, so I'm sure that doesn't help, but I'm looking for a woman that will be my best friend and vice versa. Just rushing into something wih someone you don't really know is not smart and so many have done this and I don't want to be in that situation. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/5/2007 12:42:37 PM | | Perhaps by choice. Finding a diamond in the rough can tend to be a daunting task. There's alot of cubic-zirconia mixed in with the rough. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/6/2007 8:27:14 PM | | answer # 8 is perfect....it's exactly what I said to someone who asked me why I wasnt married...I got so tired of just smiling and being subjected to that 'you poor thing' look.....thanks for being on my side even though we have never met. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/8/2007 6:09:40 AM | | I have find this question to be somewhat challenging as, to me, it implies the most important aspect in life is to be involved. In my opinion, this is rushed into too early by many including myself and after I got divorced I realized the significance and value in growing first as an individual. I respect those of you who have waited for the perfect person. Further, I believe experiencing life, obtaining a formal education and getting to know who you are as an individual are much more important then being involved in the beginning of our lives. I think it is great people focus on themselves and their lives first and then when they are established, they may wish to seek a partner but only if they desire ... at least then you know who you are, what your needs are and what kind of person you can share values with . This, in my mind, is what makes a good relationship and one for longevity. Besides if you meet someone on your 40's, according to statistics, that still gives you 30 years to share with one person... isn't that long enough? This is just my opinion | |
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