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Joined: 11/9/2005
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 12:09:42 AM | Hmmm. Well, I suppose the main reason that I am still single (in the technical sense) is because I value my 'independance' whole-heartedly.
THAT, and the fact that I have YET to meet someone who can COOK better, SEW better, keep a cleaner house, GARDEN better, JOKE better and do household repairs better than (or at least EQUAL to) ME!
Not to mention the fact also that just about every 'available' female who HAS kids DOESN'T WANT kids.  (sigh) | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 2:11:05 AM | If you've been single for any length of time, they ask that question out loud but the unspoken questions are "What's wrong with you? Too picky? Can't make a commitment? Noone wants you? If you're so great, why hasn't someone snapped you up? What was wrong with your last relationship anyway?"
If you've been single for a short time, the questions are "Aren't you on the 'rebound'? Do you think you're ready to date? Shouldn't you 'get to know yourself' for a while? Shouldn't you 'grieve' for a while longer? Didn't you even care for the ex? Don't you think you're still too emotionally attached to her? Why did your last relationship end anyway?"
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 8:37:31 AM | I think the question intimates other things, which is why it bothers people. Such as "what's wrong with you"... I don't think anything is wrong with being single, and there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship, either.
However, if you turn the question on it's head, and consider it - asking "why are you still single" is a million times better than asking yourself "why am i still in this relationship".
Wow. A bit of depression there. Merry christmas, and all that.
Cheers! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 10:46:33 AM | Some excellent comments. I will also add that when I was just out of high-school a LOT of guys I knew then, either friends, acquaintances, neighbours or even cousins got married early for the main reason that they simply wanted a 'replacement' for their mother. Most were so 'helpless' that they lacked enough basic 'life skills' to do things for themselves. That is definitely less of an issue in today's world. (at least I hope so)
Like I mentioned in my profile I had to grow up very early. I had my mother for the first 19-1/2 years but gained responsibility and although she was 'there' for me I didn't really NEED her. Then she left and I NEVER SAW her again for the next 29 YEARS! So, (she lives 3000 miles away and) the next time we met was just over 2 years ago. Then it was a year later and again last July ('05) when she first met her newest (and likely last) granddaughter.
So now, with me 51, and her 82, I truly believe that I need her more now than I ever did.
I recall a 'Simpsons' episode where Mrs. Crabapple said "most of us won't find love, but (eventually) marry out of fear of dying alone". At this point in my life, yes, I would even settle for that. sigh.
And Bless you all and please have a safe, happy and healthy Holiday season. | |
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
Msg: 34 | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 8:28:28 PM | | b/c someone is looking right now for a single woman and wants to build a family... and I don't want to dissapoint him. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 8:55:12 PM | I'll have to admit I have some high moral standards...but shouldn't that be an attractive quality??
The other reason why I'm still single is cause 95% of the gals I email read and delete my message without responding....lol... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 8:58:26 PM | Hey fitfather....
(and the fact that I have YET to meet someone who can COOK better, SEW better, keep a cleaner house, GARDEN better, JOKE better and do household repairs better than (or at least EQUAL to) ME! )
I have the same problem with men!!! LOL
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 10:24:16 PM | Heh, heh. Well, you DO 'joke' better anyway. 
I know what you mean about the 'guys' being so helpless. A wife (or girlfriend) does NOT want to 'be there' for her man primarily as a replacement for his mommy.
There are 'downsides' to having certain talents and genuine 'initiative'. Believe me. I can't tell you how many calls I've had from friends' wives or g-friends asking ME to trouble shoot the family car or truck. OR, when it's the lady (who's the friend) and SHE calls to say " my new boyfriend is having trouble with the charging system in his pickup. Do you think you can take a look at it tomorrow morning?" GOOD GRIEF! Yeh, 'good old Howie'. Like I have nothing better to do. Every New Years I hope the next year will be better. Perhaps I will 'resolve' to use the word "NO" more often. (it has been brought to my attention more than once). I can't tell you how many times I've helped out friends who don't have the talent, knowledge, savvy, (or whatever) to repair their g-f's or wife's vehicle. No wonder I'm nearly broke. How many 'technicians' work for free? And now I have the greatest responsibility that nature (and God) can provide. sigh.  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 10:28:03 PM | I had a "boyfriend" stay at my house and house sit and take care of my animals while I went on a trip. I had the gas tank filled up before I left because of heat.. when I got home I asked him how it went and if he stayed at the house. He said "No.. I came and fed up then went home because YOU RAN OUT OF GAS, there was no heat"... I was like... hmmmm....
"Did you check the pilot light?"... and he said "huh?"... NEXT!!! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/23/2005 11:18:25 PM | mesna ...
come up here and ill make you my world famous ribs .. after that nothing else other than our sex drives matter :D
j/k btw ....
although its also semi true , my 25 year old neice told me ...
"next time you want a lay , make her these ribs ..."
im not sure they can instantly make any girl wanna shag ya , but they come close as a bargaining tool after the first date ..
ste
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/24/2005 6:22:33 AM | Why am I still single after all these years?
Just look at my pics and maybe you can tell me the answer..I really dunno.
Anyone?? Anyone?? Bueller? Bueller? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/24/2005 8:55:52 AM | | The next time anyone asks that just reply with another question: "Why aren't you divorced"? Then sit back and watch their reaction to such a personal question...... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/24/2005 9:31:20 AM | | I guess you do not recognize them huh? WWE Divas Stacy Keibler and Torrie Wilson, Team Canada's Captain of the women's Olympic Hockey Team Cassie Campbell and Country Singer Shania Twain. All celebs...dunno why that woud be a problem. It is people I have met on my journeys | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/24/2005 10:12:19 AM | cause I'm still pineing over my last great lover...and unless you can top how wonderful he was then what's the point?
j/k kinda
really I'm not going to waste my time playing with someone who doesn't meet my high standards | |
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