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Posted: 11/17/2007 4:45:17 PM |
I am single because of the choices of women -- they chose someone else other than me
its not rocket science when you get to the basics of it
Myself also being qualified to answer.... i'm going to have to go with that answer as well.
Doesn't bother me at all... I actually learned to enjoy my peace & quiet while i watch others' marriages and soap opera relationships fall to pieces... i become more and more thankful for my freedom to the point where i sincerely don't want to live in that world. I love the quiet drama-less life.
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Posted: 11/18/2007 4:17:31 AM | I fall into the category of been there done that and now I'm enjoying my time as a single... for me I'm comfortable with who I am and I know where I'm going. I don't need someone to save me or someone who wants to be mothered. Being independent and enjoying it only comes when you know who you really are and for a lot of people both men and women solitude can be painful.
There are times when I long for someone to place their hands on my shoulders and feel a warm breathe on my neck when I sit and watch the rain fall or to stand with me on a beach headland and watch the sun come up... as all of us do from time to time but I'm not prepared to sacrifice my freedom for a relationship. I still enjoy going out with guys and spending time with them as friends but at the moment I'm not looking to settle down again... | |
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Posted: 11/18/2007 5:13:16 AM | | I am single because I live in a smaller town where there is not a lot to choose from, either I liked them and they didn't like me or vice versa. Many men will not date women who have been not been married. I am cute, plump, short, brunette and childless. Many of the men I have met seem to want women who have long red or blonde hair, are thin, divorced with children. Seems very closed minded to me, but guess that is how the cookie crumbles. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 1:13:53 AM | The biggest mistake a man can make is....
The Biggest Mistake Men Make
By Henry Makow Ph.D.
(Note: This may be of value to single men and women who are frustrated or
confused. It doesn't apply to people who are happily married.)
The biggest mistake a man can make is to put a woman on a pedestal and give
her power over him.
Men, no less than women, are suckers for romance and sex. Romantic love is
the ersatz religion of our pagan era, a form of idolatry based on sexual
infatuation. But no one is worthy of adoration. No one is perfect.
A man might benefit by regarding a woman as a means to an end rather than
an end in herself. A man needs a woman to create a home and family, for
companionship, emotional and practical support, intimacy and you name it.
A "means to an end" may sound harsh to some. But in fact, nature designed
women to make things happen. Mainly babies. My first girlfriend said, "I
want to be used."
A man might think of a wife as a race driver thinks of his car, a cowboy
his horse, a shepherd his dog, or a carpenter his tools. Men treasure what
belongs to them, serve them well, and are true.
A woman expresses her love by her devotion to husband and children. She is
loved for what she does, not for her appearance. Women (and men) earn love
by their deeds.
The romantic model of male-female love, based on lust and idealization of
beauty, does not work. A man who "looks up" to a woman is destined to
remain a child. On the other hand, a woman wants to look up to her husband.
For a man to provide leadership to a woman is masculine; for a woman to
accept that leadership is feminine. Of course, a man is going to consult
his wife because his goal is to make her happy.
Beauty is skin deep. There is no correlation between beauty and
intelligence or character. Women have used sex to control men from time
immemorial but they want men they can't control.
A man might also abandon the notion that there is only one special woman
for him. There are many women who will fit the bill. Finally, a man should
not expect his lover or wife to think like him. Vive la difference!
"A MEANS TO AN END?"
Women are human beings worthy of the same dignity, respect and fulfillment
as men.
I'm talking about the way many men really love, and how many women really
want to be loved.
Women are designed by nature to implement a man's vision and to be
cherished for it. When a woman loves a man, she often wants to have his
children.
Sex is the symbol of a permanent relationship. No matter what "liberated"
people say, sex is an act of possession and should be exclusive.
The feminist idea that women are "strong, creative, independent" persons
loved for their repartee and sex appeal doesn't work. People get bored and
move on.
Henry Makow is the author of A Long Way to go for a Date
. He received his Ph.D. in
English Literature from the University of Toronto. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 4:20:31 PM | Hmmm This is an interesting way of thinking. I have read it over a few times now and still don't know what to think or how its relevant to actually meeting people!
I'm single because I "don't have enough time to hold down a relationship". This is true, as i work 50 hour weeks and manage a club 3 nights a week ontop of this, however i don't see how things can work when couples see each other every second of every day.
Comments anyone???
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Posted: 11/30/2007 9:04:17 AM | | i hear it constantly,i tend firstly to go for wrong uns,head****s,ones who didnt really wanna leave their husbands,ones thayt constantly change their mind about how they feel,need i go on.ive heard every excuse in the book.your single cause your too good for some and others see you as not good enough for them | |
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Posted: 11/30/2007 6:42:22 PM | I hear it from others as well saying "How can YOU be single?", "You're such a great catch", etc.... I'm 30 years old and no kids (none!)... Yeah that may not sound like a big deal but for this area that I live in it's the same odds as winning the lottery.
WIth as many women that I've dated around here, they seem to be all crazy and what-not. I'd rather be single than end up with someone who will drive me up the wall.
Plus I'm the type that wants to "get it right". I want it to last. I don't want a broken home or anything of the such. I just want the RIGHT person -- not just ANY person.
I just don't know... I have a great job, my own place, doing my own thing and I just can't seem to find "the one".
One day... one day... | |
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Posted: 12/8/2007 1:06:42 AM | | I am still single do you the "Trust Factor". Through my relationship experiences in life I have found it very hard to trust women. I've had them cheat on me, lie to me, and on one occassion abort a child without my knowledge or consent prior to it happening. I list in my profile as not wanting dishonesty in actions or behavior. Well I have never cheated, and am always upfront and honest. Perhaps one day I'll find a woman I can trust, respect, and love with all my heart. I havent given up hope yet. Tis why I am trying again via this site. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2007 1:18:35 AM | Well I will add to this why am i single..
I choose to remain single after being in realtionships that were either abusive, physically, mentally and even verbally. Now dont it mixed up i've had a few dates and everytime I start to push away because i see them do something that the last realtionship did. And instead of getting hurt again I walk away quickly.. I guess If i was to let the person know maybe we could work things out but i just run and run fast.
Ive also noticed that BBW (such as myself) dont get alot of attention. Well shoot i get more attention online from men who love bbw's, but cant seem to find them in real life..
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Posted: 12/8/2007 1:21:14 AM | | I'm single because I chose a life of fun by learning, and experiencing the world over a family-oriented one. I almost got married twice but international marriages are hard to get just right, that's the way it goes though. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2007 8:13:33 AM | I'm still single because my standards I guess are too high. I expect the person I spend the rest of my life with to be my friend and that requires trust and loyalty.
They say that the 40's are the new 20's right? I guess this time around, I'm not as willing to do the casual fling thing.
I want the real thing :) I deserve it | |
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Posted: 12/8/2007 10:55:10 AM | Hmmmm very good question....I feel the same as many of you on here..and have been asked the same question...why are u still single, making me take a good hard look at myself and wondering the same. lol I have read some of the posts on here and have come to some conclusions ...be i right or wrong...all of us are here looking for someone to love, cherish, have in our lives to enjoy the awesome things that being together in life has to offer. Unfortunately..we have all been hurt...been there ..done that...and the risk of involving ourselves with someone else although appealing can also be frightening. There is so much time and effort to put into a relationship that is to be a lasting one...what with work scheduals ...those of us with children who also have scheduals not to mention "weeding" out the people who may eventually take a part in our childrens lives....it can feel like a juggling act. I have a friend who in his profile on here says we are always looking for that special someone...just one more click of the mouse...well close to this..and he is right. We see someone whose profile is appealing..same and different interests looking for the same and or having the qualities we are looking for in a partner...till u click the mouse again to find someone else. It is all baffling to me to say the least. My friends tell me...he will come along...when u least expect it...lol i have been least expecting it for a long time. I have now taken on a new thought...if it is meant to be for me...then it will...big sigh...time will tell. good luck to u all!! Maybe if were all good...santa will bring that special someone...lol | |
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Posted: 12/8/2007 10:16:09 PM | | i think its better to be single than in a relatuionship and misserable!! Wait for the right one. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/8/2007 10:53:28 PM | | The nearest I can figure is, I'm single because I suck at dating. I happen to be very good at a lot of things. I'm good at my job. I'm good at singing. I'm good at drawing. I'm good at cooking. I'm just not good at dating. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 3:11:37 PM | This just happened to me today, and then I remembered this thread. My gf asked me when we were first dating why I wasn't already seeing someone.
So my highschool x-gf befriends me on facebook and asks "how do you know this person", I put "dating 1997-2000", and I left out the details of how it ended and that we haven't spoken in a few years (because she is mean).
So it goes to her for approval, and she DENIES it. Now that's just plain mean. So I deleted her as my friend.
Then I told my gf about it and it actually really makes me appreciate how nice she is to me, I am glad that I am winding up with her other than my previous gf. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 2:58:44 PM | I have been happily seperated pending final divorce decree for almost five years. I will never in a million years let the ex come back. He spent me into the ground and really made me miserable, I can't do that again.
Now, why am I still single? The commonwealth of PA seems to be tying up my divorce because they can't FIND the ex. He's fled the U.S. (he is from Europe), which is fine with me but it has turned something that should have taken a year to finalize into nearly five.
I have to admit, I haven't been exactly proactive about dating since moving to Michigan. I really needed time to readjust to the surroundings and now that I've adjusted, I'm now looking at moving back to Texas by the end of the year and working again for my former employer in Houston. This will be the end of the line. That has pretty much shelved all of my desire to meet someone here in Michigan. So anyways, me and the cat are going to Texas with hopes to meet someone special there! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:41:28 PM | I get this question a lot, and I really can't answer it.
One of the reasons is that I've just recently relocated to Chicago from New York, so I haven't had a whole lot of time for dating. I work long hours and don't have the most active social life (which is one of the reasons I'm giving this a try!)
I was with someone for a few years before I moved out here. I made a bad decision by being with her for so long, something I've regretted ever since. She was completely wrong for me for reasons I won't go into here as I don't like to speak ill of people. After her, I just wasn't in the mood to date seriously for a long time.
Basically I'm single due to circumstance and choice. I want to make sure my life is organized and together enough to bring someone else into it. Relocating here has allowed me to do that, and I'm ready to date again! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/10/2007 7:44:18 PM | I am still single for my own reasons, none of which involve bitterness .. it just is what it is. But I am happy to say that I attended the very first Xmas party this year, where I felt blessed to be single, rather than getting the usual pangs of "awww would've been nice to .. etc. etc."
There's a time and place for everything .. so I guess this is my time and place to fly solo for as long as need be. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/10/2007 7:46:00 PM | As I've recently found out, I'm single because I'm not ready for a serious involvement with anyone. If I do cease to be single, it will be because she's extremely incredible.
I'm single because I refuse to settle!  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/11/2007 3:15:06 AM | Hey,
When I was 19, my grandpa asked me, "how old are you now?
"19, Grandpa."
"Are you going into the convent soon?"
"No, Grandpa." (he was a bit harsh and one would never use excess wordage around him)
"No man will have you now! You're too old! It's too late for you, go and join the Sisters, if you're smart enough to know what's good for you!"
This was 1986. I'm thinking that Grandpa was 91 at that time, if my math is correct.
Now I'm 40, never married, no kids. What would he say now? Up home, they call me a "spinster." Sweet. What's next, "hag"? "Crone"? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/11/2007 3:28:53 AM | This question pops up all the time, when I'm in a social mood and run into strangers.
Most of the time, after learning the "not married, no kids" thingy, the next question is, "are you gay/lesbian? Because if you are, I'm cool with that."
Ok, so,...I've been chasing my own life for a long time, I've been in and out of fantastic relationships, none of which ended up in the big "M" or the little chillun that that tends to entail. Egads, what the heck is the weirdness here?
Does anyone know a clever response to "oh, so you're a lesbian..." ? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/11/2007 2:53:00 PM | | Why I'm I still single? Well could be that I dont know where to met guys, I was in a relationship for 12 1/2 years if you hear enough "who's going to want you" You tend to believe their is no one out thier for yourself. I dont date / never really have I go from date 1 to relationship last couple months to 12 1/2 years. Strange I know. Not hounding anyone for marriage dont think about it( Never was Married), dont need anyone to take care of me do well by myself i want/need some one to love and to be loved is that asking to much in this society were relationships are as dispoable as razors..... . | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/11/2007 6:23:36 PM | Honestly? I've always been selfish. I have always enjoyed my own personnel freedom to go where I want to go...when I want to go... etc...
The next possible reason would be that I never appreciated the friends I've had which would have/could have turned into something more. I really messed up in college. I had one friend in college who I really liked, A LOT. I just never built the courage to ask her out in fear of losing her friendship. She even invited me to her home to have Thanksgiving dinner with her parents. I would do ANYTHING to live that part of my life over so I could tell her how I felt.
Now? I have nothing....... and its no fun. | |
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