| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/12/2007 9:33:52 AM | | I am 33 and Im still single.It sucks but I think when you get to a certain age there are things that you look for now.Things you may not have wanted when you were in your 20"s.I have changed my views alot. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/18/2007 3:01:17 PM | Why am I still single? Oh yeah, I have been asked this question many, many..times. I say..."Are you kidding?" in this day and age, it is so hard to find the right person. It's a little scary I must say, with all the crap out there (AIDS, HERPES) today. Plus, where do you meet someone, other than here or another internet site???
If you don't like meeting a person at a bar, then where do you meet them???
It's a little hard to meet someone off the internet too, ya never know who you are talking too, not everyone is totally honest (Talking from experience). I have met some men off the internet and it was ok but they definitely weren't what I was looking for in a man and I found out they were not honest w/ me. So, this is why people are still single.
Now, I do believe though, there is someone for everyone and when it's my time to meet him, I will know it and we will grow together. Looking for a friend first and grow together for a healthy strong relationship. I will marry my best friend, someday.
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Just keep searching for that special person... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/20/2007 5:11:39 AM | I am also asked this question almost everytime I talk to someone on here, it seems to be one of the first questions men ask me. My answer to that is always the same: I am single by choice because I havent met the right one for me to settle down with ....(yet). I was married for 15 years and stayed with him for alot of the wrong reasons ( #1 being for my son). I have met alot of great guys on here and outside of the internet dating site but I am yet to meet the one that I really fall in love with. Someone who can take my breath away and make my heart skip a mile a minute when hes near me. I fell out of love wiht my ex husband 3 years before I divorced him, I have been single for almost 2 years now, if you think about it I havent been in love with anyone for almost 5 years. Thats a long time for someone not to feel in love. Some friends and family say I am too picky, maybe I am to an extent but I figure if I am going to start a new life with someone for a long term relationship I want to make sure it is the right person for many reasons, not to just end up being single again a month down the road. Does this make sense? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/20/2007 7:22:52 AM | I can relate to this topic. I will be turning 33 in a few days and have always been an independent girl. Is it bad to just have not found "the one". So many of my friends are in bad relationships or the ones they are in now are just for convienence. I always say I would rather be single and happy as to involved and miserable! I have the same response when i ask friends to do something... Eventually you just quit asking!
I do think us independent girls intimidate the guys... So I do think that is part of having a hard time finding the right man. Ladies you know if we are independent it is going to take a very strong and independent man to make our match....
Hope everyone has a blessed Holiday!
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/20/2007 3:04:48 PM | I have had several relationships and was even married once. I think that's just life. There is no "One" because no one is perfect. Even if there was someone perfect, people change constantly so the next day they wouldn't be perfect for you anymore.
I think the key is finding someone who can put up with your faults and at the same time you can live with theirs. I think that people who are too picky are likely to find themsleves old and gray without finding anyone.
Take a chance with someone new, even if they don't seem perfect at first. Anyone who judges too quickly without giving someone a chance is probablly going to end up quite lonely in the end.
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/22/2007 5:45:15 PM | | Well around here........if a guy is folicly or verticialy challenged.....he might as well be a pitbull at a postmans convention...... they're not going to come within a hundred yards of you. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/22/2007 9:10:55 PM | Because the parts for my "man-picker" are still out of stock. It appears they are permanently unavailable so, this is my fate. Without a properly working man-picker, I'm screwed and I know it, so I don't even bother.  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:52:48 PM | the question is why am I single?
Not by choice, my Ex-wife a year and half ago left me because she fell out of love..and never came back....
Now, I am single because I know what kinda of women I would like to have around, and it's not a pairs hilton type or girly girl....as you might think that would be easy to find, but it's not....When I do find it I will know right off the bat...no question...
Actualy this is the first time in my life I have been single, kinda new to me..kinda like it kinda don't...
She is out there, I know it...just have to find it...
jay | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/26/2007 4:39:56 PM | | Can we say....didn't settle for the first guy who asked to marry me, or the guy who promised the world and couldn't come up with a job...the list goes on....a coworker once said to me, you'll only end up with someone as high as your standards......sage advice from a guy who has been married more than 30 years already to a woman he loves and still adores! Now being in my thirties, I won't put up with alot of the stuff I would have when I was younger, plus had the experience to know what I am looking for. When people ask me this question, I always say the same thing.....I just haven't met the right person yet~!.....so there! lol | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/27/2007 2:05:46 AM | | One of the "joys" of being me is that most people who've actually met me have stopped asking if I'm seeing anyone. They figure that it's highly unlikely.. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/30/2007 3:20:07 PM | I'm sure any former girlfriends would have there own submissions but let's not get them in on this...no need to kick a guy when he's down...
So here's a partial list...
I won't date a smoker
I prefer women without kids
I prefer women that have never been married
I like petite & thin women (I'm 6' tall and weigh 160 lbs.)
I have a job that requires extensive travel
I still watch cartoons (Family Guy & Fairly Odd-Parents RuLe!!!)
I have a farmers tan
I'm too old to get the women that share my interests (not too many 30+ women still playing softball or air hockey, and love driving ranges & bumper cars)
I'm the last man standing from my circle of friends (all the rest have taken the plunge)
I'm new to CA and don't know anyone (not exactly true, but that 1 person isn't exactly the friend I thought they were)
I won't settle just so I'm not single
wow...I feel so much better...that was cleansing...I feel reborn 
If anyone needs me I'll be sharpening the chef knives and practicing my noose knots!!  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/31/2007 12:39:55 AM | Why am I still single? Still haven't found anyone that isn't insane.
I'm not miserable about it either. I'd rather wait and find the right person rather than just settling for anyone and any situation just to say I'm not. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:11:07 AM | | I think mostly I've lead a sheltered life. I spent most of my life with my nose in a book, studying for a degree. I've always been self-conscious about the way I look and never had much confidence. I've went on a couple of dates but no one seemed interested in me. I liked this one girl in college and I thought things we were well between us but I guess I was wrong. She left one day and I never heard from her again. That sort of messed me up for a while and I thought better to concentrate on my studying. Now I think I'm a bit of a geek and socially awkward. It's hard to find anyone interested in me romantically. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:10:11 PM | In my case, I'm single after 7 years because I finally decided to walk away from the relationship I was in. The girl just couldnt control her temper. So, I've been single for about a year. Now I find that teh dating world is quite intimidating... so I'm trying this dating site to see how that works. Some people have been quite receptive, while others have gone out of their way to be rude...so far its been fun,though.
My biggest obstacle is what to write in a "first-contact" message to someone. Any suggestions on how to break the ice? I'm rather new to this, so I would appreciate the feedback!
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:06:59 PM | HeatM1ser....
I was with someone for 3-1/2 years and walked away for various reasons. So I can completely feel your pain with regards to A) walking away from something bad, but something that you've invested so much time into, B) the intimidating dating world and C) the Obstacle of the "first contact. I felt like I was the only one with "first contact" issues. I seem to try many different "approaches" (for lack of a better term) but to no avail. I'll let you know as soon as I figure something out!
Best of luck to all and Happy New Year. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:53:49 PM | | I almost always find myself uncomfortable around new people & with people approaching me. It's not always easy to tell whether it iis them making you uncomfortable, or if it's just the situation. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:50:13 PM | Once you're in your thirties, I see that many people have already done quite a bit of living and made choices that now limit your marketability.
I have three sons and had a vasectomy, that narrows my choices quite a bit. I've met women that think I'm great BUT they want kids of thier own, have thiers raised and don't want more, etc.
I don't want anything to do with drugs. It's scary how many people can't pass that hurdle.
Dating is daunting nowadays. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 12/31/2007 6:18:31 PM | | There's probably something to that. I'm at the age where I should have had kids, a wife, divorce or whatever but basically have the same lifestyle as someone in their mid twenties. Makes it a little hard to relate to certain people but luckily there are probably some women in the same boat. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 1/1/2008 12:50:26 AM | | I have found that we who are different and have not chosen to follow the path of marriage and children are not seen as marketable, maybe because most seem to follow the popular idea that if someone has not chosen the marriage and children path that something is wrong with them, rather than see them as a person, possibly one who marches to the beat of a different drummer, or who has been wise enough to not marry the men or women they have encountered in their lives just for the sake of getting married. | |
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