| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/13/2008 10:28:01 PM | | Why am I still single? Haven't met the one yet. I'm in no rush and if it takes me to the end of my days to find "the one" that I want to grow old(er) with, then that's what will happen. I see people who rush into marriage or long term relationships out of loneliness more than love and those almost always turn out bad. So, I date. I don't endure just so I can't say I'm lonely. I'm single because right now, it's what I choose to be. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/15/2008 5:53:51 AM | | Looking for and having not found the love of your life aka soul mate is a common rationalization for staying single. A lot of people have never taken the time to sit down and think about what their perception of what their soul mate would consist of. To me a soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life. (~excerpt from The Bridge Across Forever by Richard Bach~) Prayerize, visualize, actualize are the key steps in establishing, working toward and attaining any goal...but you must first define that goal. If you have not established who and what your soul mate is, then how will you recognize them when you meet them? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/15/2008 6:18:28 AM | | I like it when guys ask me this........I ask them it back for the answer. Plain and simple............I haven't met the one yet. We all have standards and should never lower them and accept less than we deserve. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/15/2008 6:58:11 AM | | I have no clear response other than stating: If I was not single, I would not be on a dating site. I took time off from dating or relationships to discover the person I am and what I want to achieve. I know what I want and if it takes time, great! Cannot rush perfection. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/15/2008 12:59:28 PM | | I get that question all the time...it's as if someone is tr ying to figure out what is wrong with you...cause on the outside I look normal even attractive..I must be crazy!!! I will be 35 also and my heart hurts everytime someone ask me this! I don't know why I am single..I wish someone would tell me so I can change it. I feel that I am independent and enjoyed myself over the past 3 years, however I do wish to settle down as I am not getting any younger and I do want kids before I'm 40. What makes it worse is that my younger sibling is married and have kids now....so what's wrong with me?? It is getting to the point where my mother is trying to network for me...how pathetic is that!!! That is great that you feel good about it...go with that. Don't let others influence you and if they ask why you are single just reply "because my skrink thinks its best I don't commit to anyone incase I do something bad to them" ha ha ha...and then look at them with an evil face. ha... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/15/2008 1:51:12 PM |
I like it when guys ask me this........I ask them it back for the answer. Plain and simple............I haven't met the one yet. We all have standards and should never lower them and accept less than we deserve.
I laugh when guys ask me this. I think there must be quite a few men who don't realize quite how nasty & superficial a lot of the men in my age group can come off as. Especially if they aren't from Southern California. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/16/2008 5:53:54 PM | I am hopeless at finding new relationships, I rarely go out to the pub or clubs these days as most of my mates are prisoners of their girlfriends / wives and I get paranoid if I go out on my own billy-no-mates style. Also I am a bit afraid of getting hurt as the last girlfriend I had over 12 months ago betrayed me which led to my continuing state of celibacy! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/16/2008 11:53:53 PM | | I can be a bit of a freak.. Don't know how to date... and don't know how to meet men... and I am apparently out of the norm by not being permiscuous.. would like to actually get with someone differently... get to know someone before I let my heart gets involved... besides I am more in need of someone to talk to than a boyfriend right now.. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/17/2008 7:35:22 AM | | I say your just a free spirit if your not married yet. Not everybody wants to be "tied down" so to speak! Live free! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/17/2008 5:15:58 PM | | As I get older there are less things I will put up with. The bar is raised, my standards are higher. Finding very few who really make a great impression on me. But, I haven't given up yet. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/17/2008 5:23:02 PM | I really resent the phrase "still single" as if it's a bad thing, or something we should be trying to avoid. It's part of life, some are single and some aren't, but it's not a matter of good or bad, but just where you happen to be at the moment. If you're happy either way, neither will take on any negative connotation.
I'm single because I enjoy it, and because I simply haven't met anyone yet that made me want to change it. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:44:59 AM | Im still single because I chose to take time out after a turbulant period in my life, coping with grief and all sorts of things in general from early 2005 so I thought rather then drag it around with me I would deal with it
december 2007 I chose to date again that lasted till early feb 2008
so I am single again I guess | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/18/2008 9:05:08 PM | | No.........im 36 and still get it, plus the double whammy.....Gasp!!! I don't have kids! Run for the hills!!! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:16:22 AM | | Yes I get asked this....usually as a chat up line by men.........(very slick!!!).....and at least annually by my grandmother....who seems very perturbed that her grandaughter has not managed to settle down to the 2.4 kids and white picket fence......she usually asks me at christmas......on the last one, she cried (too much wine and whisky if you ask me) coz she said it was upsetting that I was alone with no-one to look after me......bless her for her thoughts but.....I'd much rather wait for the right person and look after myself in the meantime......oh well.... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:38:40 AM | yes i don't get this question either
"still" single - as if i should automatically be in a rel'ship based on what, my age? looks? hell i dunno
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/20/2008 1:29:01 PM | | Everyone asks me y i am single, i have even got my family asking me if i know what sexuality i am, I just think there is no point rushing into a relationship for it then not to work. I am happy on my own but would not turn love down if it knocked on my door, I believe love will find you, you cant look for love. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/20/2008 8:54:17 PM | | I don't know what to do. I'm 34 and I've never been in a relationship. WTF?!? I've always had friends, but that's about it. Sometimes people ask me, "so when are you gonna get married?" How about a coffee date first. Lol. I think the main problem is that I'm just too passive. I'm not afraid to talk, I just tend not to. Somethings got to give. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:29:52 PM | | I hear it almost every day! Maybe I wouldn't be single if I could find 1 guy that was totally into me and not into playing games on here. They don't like how many favs I am on and they don't like me answering forums and talking to my friends thru here. It is not like I would ever be a cheater. They have to trust me. So they get mad I'm on here and they have to play games with me. I am single because I choose to be single! I have not found a deserving man to give my love to yet. If I did I would settle down and get off this site. I have a lot of friends on here but that is it they are friends. Are there any men out there not looking for just sex that want to find their so called soul mate? Prove it! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/21/2008 6:22:39 AM |
There's something to be said for waiting until an age where you've done most of your growing up and figuring out who you are before finding the one.
This is great advice. | |
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