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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/21/2008 9:12:58 AM | | Most my friends are married or getting married. However most of them are not really that happy. So there is your answer. I am not getting married until I am ready. I think most married people are jealous of the single. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/21/2008 2:16:15 PM | this world just has to much superficial crap and everyone is wrapped up in to it...thats why it will never be good enough....reach down and touch the earth people......about 90% of the people on this site will be single forever... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/22/2008 7:47:28 PM | dunno, but I like it. My twenties were quite special, while others may be clubing or enjoying motherhood, I was settling down in a new environment.
If I were not single, moving to a new country, adapting to a new culture, traveling to other countries, etc would have been a lot more difficult. I can't see it better than how the puzzle came together.  it's a matchless experience, I'm glad I did it! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:17:17 AM | | One observation, Mr. Tongue; it is fine to have your preferences, but attacking those of us who have chosen to have children (comparing us to smokers, etc.) is doing to others the very thing you are enraged about as having been done to you. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/23/2008 2:15:42 PM | | i got to agree with my man, these people aren't trying to hookup, this is a popularity contest, what up with rating chart, that's basically a contest for those of us who are getting old, to make sure that we still got it, and whats up with emailing women, and they don't respond, no thank you, no kind of acknowledgement at all. most women tend to go by looks, definetely not the subastance of a mans heart...............i would love to get married, meet misses right, but if i counted on POF, i would be single the rest of my days. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:22:19 PM | | So, tonight my grandma actually asked me if I had a boyfriend, or was dating anyone. I guess she does think it's still possible. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:26:11 PM | | I think everyone who gets offended by this question, should just stop and think. Consider the idea of assuming that it is a compliment, and is only intended as a compliment, when you are asked. Then answer the question. I bet you'll all feel better, and it will lead to a better conversation than you getting riled up about the question. If you're single by choice, just say so. If they thought something was really wrong with you, they wouldn't have to ask the question now, would they? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/24/2008 1:12:18 AM | because fate has decided to fill me with hate and spite and rage and anger with a life that would crush anyone's hope in humanity;
and gee, no one seems to be able to cope with that | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/25/2008 12:55:00 AM | That's funny. When I was in my 20's before I go married, I used to resent that question. More often than not, they were trying to pair me off with someone. I used to really be offended especially if it was coming from someone whose marriage was so so, as they say.
Now that I am single again, nobody asks me that question except POF guys. ;) And I am not really offended. I take that question with a grain of salt and presume it's just another pick up question. And it is really my choice and I don't owe anyone any explanation.
You see, it seems a presumption by some that if you are single, there is something wrong with you. It is never because you want to be! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/25/2008 5:25:28 PM |
I think everyone who gets offended by this question, should just stop and think. Consider the idea of assuming that it is a compliment, and is only intended as a compliment, when you are asked. Then answer the question. I bet you'll all feel better, and it will lead to a better conversation than you getting riled up about the question. If you're single by choice, just say so. If they thought something was really wrong with you, they wouldn't have to ask the question now, would they?
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/26/2008 4:31:21 PM | My answer is: "I don't know!"
Because I don't want to be single but I don't know how to be un-single. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/28/2008 6:32:58 PM | I like that response....maybe there is some truth to that!
Actually, why am I not in a hurry to get married in the future? Having seen what's out there, there is something to be said for taking one's time. I would love to be with someone but I have gotten to the point where I am happy with my life and I feel like I can wait for that right person. It isn't necessary to settle for the first person that comes down the road! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/28/2008 7:58:11 PM | Good points there, PSunit.
Personally, I have no idea why I'm still single. I have many theories, (or maybe many issues lol.....joking all) but no concrete proof in which to support them. Offhand, I'd go with money, or the lack of a vast accumulation thereof. Yeah, that could be it. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:52:09 PM | | It has to be better then somebody looking at you and saying "Oh, I know why you are still single". | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:39:46 PM | I know why I'm still single, and I bet I could put it in a book. Granted, after reading the original post and discovering that it isn't a question directed at the forums, but the actual question is... Am I the only one who hears this kind of thing?
Smart assed answer, yes, if you have discovered that the earth is flat and revolves around you...
Honest answer, no. I hear it in various forms all the time. Oh you're cute. Why aren't you with anyone? blah blah blah... Then they see that I'm Disabled, and my income and suddenly. Well hell, I might as well just disconnect the phone. not even the bill collectors call me anymore.
Why do we get asked this question? Because People are SHALLOW! Human beings are visual creatures. Advertising is everywhere about what we should like, and kiss my ___... I'll like whatever the hell I want to like because I LIKE IT!!! not because some prick in an ad agency says I should. We are conditioned to take things at face value and move to the next item on the shelf. hey that pic looks like what I want for breakfast, and then we discover that cooked, then flash frozen, then reheated in the microwave eggs taste like the material that they were packed in... and at this point probably have the same nutritional value even though the packing material probably has more fiber. So we try different brands of the same crap, until finally we hit that magical age, which can be literally any age. It's the magical age of a Pop! Slap! sound in rapid succession. It's the sound of you pulling your head out of your ass, and it slamming closed. Hey the air is nice out here, I can see better. and now you're off to the dairy section to buy eggs, in the shell, and off to the cookware section to buy a pan, and then to a bookstore to get a book on how to cook eggs.
It's also about time. Sadly, we have more time now than my grandparents were expecting at their age. Yet, we never have enough time. Other than the fact we have countless ways to waste time, many many more ways to waste time than when my grandparents were my age. We never have enough time. Instant Gratification will be the downfall of humanity! I have no room to speak, well, maybe just a little bit of room to speak. There's lots of stuff I want RIGHT NOW! But I have the maturity and the self control to only make a frivolous purchase after all my monthly bills are paid, and my monthly savings is put away, and checking down the list, till I have $20 bucks left to play with. I guess I'll have to get it next month. (exaggeration, you see the point though.)
The people that stay single for a year or more, know what they want, or at the very least, what they really don't want. I know exactly what I want. And doing the math based on the number of potential mates I've encountered in life up to my current age... The Magic 8 Ball says : Outlook does not look good.
I'm single because I'm picky. I insist on being friends first. If I have no attraction to you. (odds are I don't.) There's no need to go to the next level. we leave it at friends and just keep movin' along.
My short answer. "I know why I'm single, but do you know why you're married to a spouse that's screwing their secretary on those monthly business trips?" | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:22:53 PM | | no, it is just because you are a girl. I am very impressed with that which you have done with your life. I do wish you much happiness, whatever that may be. Do not be a part of that which a women should be; you are doing just fine. When it should happen, it will --it is that simple. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 2/29/2008 9:59:53 PM |
I think everyone who gets offended by this question, should just stop and think. Consider the idea of assuming that it is a compliment, and is only intended as a compliment, when you are asked.
This struck a chord in me because it just happened AGAIN the other day. A married guy at work, who has been working with me for a couple of years, asked the dreaded question. At first, I was thinking, well he thinks I'm cute, funny, capable, smart, etc. and is puzzled as to why the men aren't beating down my door with engagement rings. Since then, I've given it some thought and have concluded that what he's really thinking is, I wonder if she has webbed feet hiding under those shoes....She must be really good at concealing her mental illness when she's at work....The only thing that would keep single guys away from a woman like that is a house full of cat pee.
In actuality, I'm quite normal. I have normal good looks, eat right, take care of myself as much as I can, I'm honest (sometimes to a fault) and admit I have irritating qualites as well as endearing ones. I've not had a strong urge to have children, so the motivation to get married has never been overpowering. Now I find myself just about to turn 41 and still single, never married. Well that's all I know so it's not strange to me! It's only weird to those who had this strong urge to be married and couldn't envision life any other way. So when they, "the married", ask "Why are you still single?" it's a compliment and also a curiosity, the way the sideshow freaks used to be a curiosity. Like, Wow, that's a lady, but it's a BEARDED LADY. I don't get it!!! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/1/2008 8:08:49 AM | | I don't see being single as an insult or a compliment. However, if no one cared about being single or not, places like POF wouldn't exist. This question ran through my head last night. I met someone nice that seemed to like me enough to ask what I was doing last night and if I'd want to get together. We met through a friend. She was to call me after work, she gets done at 5. I finally called her at 830, she was on her way home from the mall and would call me when home. 11 comes and goes...so I call and tell her just to call me today. This seems to be a major trend lately. People saying they want to see someone, but never having time and always changing plans. So...why am I single? Because the women that I have met say one thing and do another. And I no long chase! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 3/2/2008 3:44:15 AM | | Yes, people are for the most part shallow, both men and women. What we're attracted to is a little bit different, but we're still shallow. Men are attracted to women who could be a centerfold model for Playboy or some other porn mag. Women are attracted to men who are tall or successful in their career (that is, makes a lot of money). These types of attraction are not a modern phenomenon. Even with women's lib, women are still women. They get pregnant and have to take care of the kids, and that necessitates for the most part having a man in their lives who makes enough money to take care of them all: himself, the wife and child(ren). Of course, there are women who do fine on their own, but that is very much a modern phenomenon. In a psychology course I learned that men are attracted to women of a certain waist-to-hip ratio. Again, that could be caveman instinct to find a woman who could bear children. In my experience, when I've gone overseas I was considered a heck of a better catch than at home just because I was an American, or a foreigner who had enough money to travel. Any American guy who's not doing well with women at home should give foreign travel a try. | |
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