| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:17:45 AM | Well the other day a gf of mine told me her obverstation on why I am still single ....... she said " honestly you just dont look the type too ever get married " to my reply I said "why not" and she spoke back that" it is because you have a wild nature side to you , you have this way of not letting anyone close enough to you to really get to know you. You attract the bad boys"
So I thought about this and yeah most of my life I have seemed to attract men whom shall I say excite me men whom are thrill seekers but in all honesty at the end of the day trully do want someone to just curl up next to and just watch the sunset . To be able to share ideals hopes and dreams. Is that so wrong to ask for I dont know but most men I run into see only the excitement and thrill as I tend to bring out in myself.
And that is basically in a nutshell is why I think I am still single!!!! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:33:01 AM | Omg I love being single. And I love it when guys ask me that!!!
I have never had so much fun in the last couple of years of my singledom. And you know what, I have come to realise there are just too many REALLY unhappy couples around. My friends and family cant believe how I have changed in the last couple of years. I came out of a 5 year realationship and woaaaah I have a new life..... Its great being single because you never know who you are going to meet next!
Hey celebrate it, enjoy it. There is nothing wrong with you.
Maybe people get just a tad jealous........ xxx | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:35:13 AM | it's taken me years to figure out what the real answer is.
my new (& true) answer is - i just haven't found anyone that makes my life better than it is already. everyone that i was with wanted me to move to another state - or country - or didn't offer me anything that i didn't have already.
the guy i said that to said wow, that is really harsh.
You know, I gotta agree with that. If life is already good - you don't want to date someone if it's going to be worse. It's rare that you can date someone and have it the same or better. So you tend to pass on most of it.
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:30:45 AM | Maybe most of the people asking that question are in miserable marriages themselves. You know what they say, "misery loves company".
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:57:00 AM | Be sure that the one you choose is someone you can't live without rather than just someone you can live with. He/She has to be someone you can't wait to get home to; you just have to call during the day to hear his/her voice even though you can hear it in your heart. You will see his/her smile and hear his/her laughter even when he/she is not with you. You will feel his/her caress and taste his/her kisses even when he/she is not there. You will want everyone to know he/she is yours and you are his/hers, You will be proud to be seen with him/her--anywhere and by anyone and you neither need or want any other. Build his/her trust in you, make him/her feel secure in your love. You are better off with no one than to be with the wrong one. Don't just settle to keep from being alone. Believe me, it is much easier to be singularly alone than to be in a relationship by yourself.
The movie line is true: she will make you want to be a better man. Watch "Ghost" again. That is the kind of love you seek.
Life is all about the choices we make.
It is only with the heart one can see clearly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.
Maybe because I did not listen to my own advice. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/8/2008 10:45:57 AM |
Hey WRX-boy75, I'm in exactly the same situation as you at 32.
good to know, im not the only one then, hey. lol | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:24:53 PM | | Ni you are not I've only ben single a year and the minute I put up profile here almost all asked why I'm still single. I think it may be just conversaqtion so I don 't take it personel. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:32:46 PM | I get this ALL the time..... that and 'you won't be on here long before you're snapped up'...... They never stop to think that it's ME who has the standards and is the discerning one - I'm not desperate to need a 'better than nothing' partner - I'm happy to wait for Mr Right, not Mr Right NOW.....  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:47:46 PM | | Nobody has been able to steal my heart, so I keep it for myself. It is better to be alone that in a relationship in which one does not feel safe. Meglio soli che mal accompagnati, we would say in Italian. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:23:43 PM | i am single because i work 60 plus hours a week! and at 35 i am also very picky with my free time and who i spend it with.  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/9/2008 3:22:24 PM | I believe that is the most dreaded question out there. Not only does it show a complete lack of conversational imagination, but it is insulting and disrespectful. It's implying in not so many words, that there has to be something fundamentaly wrong with you if you are still single.
It is a true fact surrounding us that relationships and marriages started in the 20's are falling apart by the time people are in their mid-thirties (not all of them, but a significant number). It is simply because you finally know who you are in your 30's, you figure out what you want out of life and out of your partner. In other words, you become a true adult who knows where he/she is going. Hence so many of us looking for a lasting relationship now.
When you finally arrive to the stage in your life when everything else you worked so hard for is in place, and you simply want to find someone who enjoys the same things and has the same outlook, you get shot down by a stupid, irrelevant question like that. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:20:39 PM | | I am still single because I choose to be! I don't have to settle! I have enjoyed my independence. I hear it all the time also! I am waiting on a special man, because I can! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:47:42 AM |
I believe that is the most dreaded question out there. Not only does it show a complete lack of conversational imagination, but it is insulting and disrespectful. It's implying in not so many words, that there has to be something fundamentaly wrong with you if you are still single.
Don't you think the question means something different if you have never been married as opposed to why have you not remarried?
I agree with the poster, in that, I have met people who were never married and they have stated the right one never came along, another said no one ever asked--this was voluntarily--I would never ask that question.
As one who has been married, twice, I am single because I apparently make bad choices and don't want to do so again. In fact for my divorce anniversary, I purchased a dinner ring for my left hand to remind me, the man better be pretty darn special to replace it. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:55:33 AM | | The word still makes the question sound demeaning to me, as if singleness is a plight worse than death. I usually answer that I have not met the right man at the right time, or that I do not want to be a divorce statistic. or that so many people seem to be unhappily married that I prefer my singleness over an unhappy marriage. One does not have to be married to be a complete person, and some people do not understand that concept. My answers are always realistic and never negative about me, since most of the time the person who asks already has negative ideas anyway, so I definitely am not going to feed that fire. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:48:29 AM | | Havent been on too many dates since getting back from a deployment back in Oct during which a woman who I was going to marry left me mid tour. Ive moved on and have just been in a rut in the relationship world. Despite this Im not in fear of being 40 and still single like most, but it is said to see couples together and think " Why the hell cant that be me ? " | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:02:58 AM | ^^^SED, you're still pretty young, good looking and look like quite the catch based on your profile - I doubt you'll have much trouble. But it's good that you're ok with being 40 and single...it's not a big deal, as long as you enjoy your life and have fun. Life's really too short to worry.
I suspect you'll be off the market pretty quickly (unless you don't want to be, that is). | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:41:30 AM | Outofthedesert says she is twice married - well, welcome to the club, sister.
But she says she made "bad choices." Well, I made good choices. Things do not have to last forever to be good.
She doesn't want to be married again. Well, neither do I. I am very happy to be exactly what I am - living alone and liking it. There is no law that says you need to get laid every night. You cannot find happiness by depending on other persons to be the source of what you lack within yourself. In fact, unless you develop your own self you really don't have much to offer others and they will soon find that out. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:18:24 AM | Ah lads live and let live ... Im Irish reason Im not married and never have been is coz you have to do a course before u get your marriage license and makes u realise your not ready for the jump ...would of made that leap a few times if it wasnt for that ...
People are to eager to take the next step .. engagement, Marriage, to feel connected instead of feeling happy waking every day and choicing to stay instead of having to  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:31:35 PM | I am happy alone, its certainly much better than living with the wrong person as I did a couple of times.
It would be nice to have someone in my life but it has to be the right person and not just anyone who comes along. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:55:16 PM | | I'm still trying to figure out why i can't get a date. I'm an honest kind of guy and maybe too nice is the problem. I mean i see people that i wonder how come they have someone in their lives and i don't have anyone in mine. What gives?????? What are women really looking for? Do they all just want someone to give them money or what because if that's the case then maybe i should move to Nevada. I'm in FLORIDA , Where are all the available women in my town? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:04:00 PM | Well.... geez... holy ..... its been .... SIX FECKING YEARS since I last had a relationship!
Woah.
What does that say!?!?!?!?
It was a baaaaaad one . .. .. .
But am looking. Also I am INCREDIBLY shy.
Co-dependency? Am I in some kind of denial!?!?!?!?!?
At least am opening up to all you guys!
Can't you feel the LURVE in this forum!?!?!?! | |
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