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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/23/2008 4:50:32 AM | First you have the general belief that people are supposed to settle down by a certain age. There are a lot of preconceptions out there. I get asked why I don't have kids... as if I was supposed to just go knock some girl up in my 20's as a right of passage!
People like things to be simple. That's all. If you have settled down, it makes you less complicated, easy to understand. When you do something outside of the pattern everyone else follows, it can look strange to others. They make assumptions about the way things should get done and kind of expect you to follow the herd... | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:52:57 AM | Yes it is annoying when someone asks that question they say to me why are you single your a nice guy who listens and is friendly and enjoys going out and doing things then they say I guess your afraid of commitment,and why is it just because your over 30 and not married that people think theres something wrong.
Most of the time when you hear your not married its generally thought of as theres something wrong with you people are to fast to judge others they have this thought in there head that by age 26 you should be married and ready to have a family.
Sorry for the ranting on. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:01:03 PM |
Maybe a woman sits at home in some place like Kansas, for example, expecting that the world's good men are going to find her there. Well, they probably won't.
What, is Kansas some kind of euphemism for nowhere, or "no mans land"? 
I get what you're saying, though. I do have my life set as I enjoy it these days and probably am not willing to be terribly inconvenienced for a relationship. Most likely that is why I'm still single.  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:01:16 AM | | The men who are attractive to me are very difficult to find. They are availaible, have a small amount of baggage, have intelligent, inquisitive minds, appreciate confident women and understand that sexuality is much more than a pretty face and a perfect body. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:41:07 AM | Ha this makes me laugh. Let us look at most people our age.
1. they are divorced
2. they are broke because they are divorced
3. they have lots of drama in their lives
Really, I like the fact that I have made it for this long and live alone, have a car, a career and pay my own bills. In all honesty, a guy should appreciate that. I did not get married when I was 18 because I had dreams that would never be met by being a house wife (that is what he wanted). And now who can you trust?
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/24/2008 12:35:20 PM | | Jenny: Very well said. I'm pretty much in the same situation as you and think the same way. In my opinion there's nothing odd about never being married and it's a lot less stressful being your own person without all the drama that goes with marriage in a lot of instances. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:29:41 PM | | i havent found someone who finds me to be what and who they want, until i find someoneone happy w/who and how i am, i will probably be single | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/26/2008 3:13:01 AM | | Here’s the sad part on the guys asking you “why are you still single?” It’s their icebreaker. If you were at a bar and through small talk came upon divulging your age and bachelorette status these are the types of guys that will follow it up by saying “why are you still single?” because they lack intro convo skills. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you or being unmarried in your mid ‘30s. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/26/2008 9:40:29 AM | I read this post, and I thought - whoa, does this compute?
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Posted By: turbo4363 on 5/26/2008 754 AM
Subject: so, why are you still single?
Message: Try being single(divorce)at 45,turns plentyofish in to not so many fish
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At 45 I was out of my first marriage and felt liberated. so why were those years great for me, but this dude seems unhappy?
Well, for starters, I think I was so busy enjoying myself that I didn't care about fishing for a new relationship. As a newly single man, I was free to try out lots of things I had never done. I painted pictures and was ecstatic when I sold one. I taught myself to cook and to use a sewing machine. I sold my car and started riding motorcycles. Best of all, travel in Europe ... you just can't help making new friends when you ride the trains and buses and hitchhike around. You have to be alone and vulnerable to make it happen. It was a good time of life. And as for meeting women they just seemed to appear all over the place. One European woman, an artist, came to America to live with me a year later.
So what is the problem with this poster's life? I looked at his profile.
Ah! Now it's clear. He's in Akron, Ohio. I was in San Francisco. Another world!
Thank of Akron, and what comes to mind - rubber tires? But think California, and it's exploration of ideas, opportunity, new frontiers to explore every day.
If this dude were to go to Berkeley for a year, and work in expanding his mind, in an environment which is mentally alive, his world would explode in color and excitement and I'll bet his new personality would soon attract all the people he wants in his life. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:14:06 AM |
What, is Kansas some kind of euphemism for nowhere, or "no mans land"?
Toto, I've got a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:27:34 PM | everyone asks me this question aswell.
I have ideas why I am still single:
1) I'm not the flirty go lucky, anything & everything goes type person, and most guys now a days want someone who's gonna flirt with every guy around, I'm not built that way. If I find a guy attractive, and vice versa, then flirting is in the future!!!( but not to every guy I know or see)
2) I don't have sex with every guy I meet either. I've got to know that person & trust that person.
So that shoots down at least 85 % of the single male population in my area. Crap.
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 5/28/2008 9:25:15 PM | | One thing that makes it really tough is no single friends, not into the bar, and no single people at work. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 6/5/2008 11:53:07 AM | Mike, try introducing yourself to every pretty woman you see, there's no harm in an introduction, and you never know what kind of connection you'll make....
CT | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:45:11 AM | Well, the answer to that is simple. I think it has to do with money and looks and trust me I still have women interested in me that I meet in places like work and the occassional coffee house, but online poeple are looking for people in perfect shape and that's okay. When I was 40pds lighter I got emails all the time and now, I'm working full time again, I was out because of a back problem and not moving around tends to make me add a few on, so from experience, there can be too many superfical people on line. I gotta say too, I know there are guys that post fake profiles and put fake pictures on and when they meet a woman, they get shot down and that's the way it should be. But I WILL NEVER post anything false because t's a waste of time and being dishonest with someone you want to start a relashionship with, well, that's not the way to go. So it does seem like good guys finish last, but sometimes the underdog gets a break and comes out on top. There are good people online for dating and are genuine. It's just a matter of being in the right place at right time..I don't know if it's the moon lining up with the stars or what??? lol | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:39:24 AM | | Why am i still single? I have made bad choices in the men I date... But ever the optimist! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 6/7/2008 4:09:55 PM | theres nothing wrong with you you Im 47 still single with child and guess what I dont care what anyone says about it.....you like me for who i am not what u want me to be if not dont talk to me!!!! life is what u make of it not what it makes of u either being single or with someone your a whole no matter what. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 6/7/2008 5:26:20 PM | | I'm not sure, why are you still single? I'm single. Your single! A match! Just kidding. Over the years I've actually started finding more people in the 30's who are single, me being one of them. Not so much because I couldn't find someone, but different career paths and a few moves and whamo...not exactly a stable person. Hopefully this new career keeps me in one place long enough to meet someone. Good luck if your searching for someone, if not...being single has a lot of positives too! Don't worry about what other people think, just enjoy life. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 7/14/2008 5:45:42 PM | SO WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?
Do I have to co-habit my life with someone? I could have a f**k buddy. A friend. Do I need, must I, go out with someone as a couple? Who is that pleasing? The passers-by? Sorry but if and when I get int a relationship it won't be to stay in the good books of society thankyouverymuch | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 7/14/2008 8:03:49 PM |
i never felt that something was "wrong" with me 'cause i was still a bachlorette...until everyone started asking this question!
Same here. I really get sick of that question. Why should I have to explain myself? Sometimes I just want to lash out and say I'm single because no man is interested in me. Is that a good enough answer. Sheesh. I actually had a guy make me feel like I was some freak because I didn't have children. Um, hello, I've never been married and I'm not thrilled with the idea of being a single mom. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 7/14/2008 8:21:36 PM | ...I used to get that from my mom all the time, rest her soul..." I don't understand why your still single, whats the matter with you?" And I still hear it from aunts, uncles and friends I haven't seen in a long time. Thats almost the first thing that rolls off their tongue, " So why are you still single?" aarrrgh.....
I don't know what to say anymore, it just works out that way sometimes, but they never ask if I am happy.... I think they take for granted that because I don't have a boyfriend or I'm not in a relationship, I'm miserable.
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:02:14 PM | | Depending on how a guy asks that question, I may take it as flattering. If he says it out of surprise, he may be implying that he finds me attractive, nice, etc and he's wondering why I haven't been snatched up by now. But my answer will always be the same: I haven't found the right one yet. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 7/15/2008 1:52:09 PM |
Because I can't find anyone who wants to have a picnic under the stars at midnight listening to Dean Martin and dance with me or to just to sit in the back yard around a campfire relaxing toasting marshmallows.
That sounds like a perfect date!
I'm late to this thread, and I admit I only skimmed most of the pages, but I say, if you're getting that question a lot, take it as a compliment, which is probably the spirit in which it was asked.  | |
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