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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/22/2009 1:32:54 AM | | I am also 35. I have also never been married. And yes, I also have a lot of people that wonder how that happened. Came close a couple of times, it just didn't work out. No, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Yes, I agree that many people think there must be something wrong with you if you couldn't have found a life mate by now. Look at it this way. We may have avoided the mistakes made by all those divorced people that got married in thier late teens or early twenties and then changed. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/22/2009 2:38:35 PM | so, why are you still single?
Apparently because I refuse to camp, fish, hunt, or 4-wheel myself to death anymore. I'm beyond sick of those things and in order to keep my sanity, I had to finally just say, "NO MORE." Give me hiking, walking on beaches, candle-lit dinners and massages and I might actually find someone I'd like to hand my heart to. (Oh wait, I don't really believe that many people do those things ~ guess I'm completely screwed.)  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/22/2009 6:16:00 PM | I, too get asked this question often. I used to get annoyed by it. Now, depending on how the date is going and how I read his sense of humor (or I want to find out if he actually has one)..I respond several different ways.
So, why are you still single?
1. I have deep seated psychological issues. Or
2. I am looking for a rich, fat old fart but haven't found one, Hey, is your dad single?
But more often than not I just reply truthful, which means for me, " waiting to find the guy that I can't wait to run home to after work".
Just grin and bear the question. Have fun with it! You can't change the curious! LOL! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/22/2009 6:45:51 PM | | LOL, from reading all the posts, it seems most women as well as men do not want a real relationship, because if they intered into one then they would have to show some responsiblity for the realtionship, and not many want to do that | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/23/2009 12:08:05 PM | Have any of you seen that show "Tough Love"? One of the women on there was posed this question on a date and she had a meltdown. She was SO mad that this guy seemed to be asking "What the hell is wrong with you? Why has everyone you've ever known decided they DID NOT want to be with you? What kind of freak are you?" Of course, he didn't mean it that way. He was wondering if she was too good to be true and how anyone would let her slip through their fingers.
I've been asked this question before and I have been married. But I've been single almost 11 years, so after a few years the clock starts back up. I'm not really quite sure what people are looking for with this question. I mean, do they want me to go down the line, man by man who I've been involved with and share all of the dirty details as to why we parted ways and why it didn't work out? I doubt it, and I'm not about to do it anyway. It's a trick question. If you start talking shit about past relationships-that's a big red flag. They are looking to see how you answer, not really to know WHY. The why is obvious.
I am "still single" because I don't have someone special in my life RIGHT NOW. I probably did a year ago, I probably will in a year. And how it'll all end up, I have no idea. I would HOPE that I meet someone who fits with me like I've known them my entire life, I hope I meet someone that I fall deeply in love with. I hope we have lots of inside jokes and have lots of sex and people are jealous of us. And, I hope we die at the same time when we're old so no one ever asks me again, "Why are you still single?" | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/23/2009 7:59:51 PM | Why am I still single? That's easy, because I want to be.
When I meet a great women I mesh with really well and I feel bowled over by her, than, I won't want to be single anymore, and, I won't be single anymore, I'll be with her! See? Easy answer!
Next tough question please? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/25/2009 2:17:41 PM | One of the women on there was posed this question on a date...
Her response should have been: "It's just your lucky day, I guess!"
Why she would go into meltdown mode is somewhat mystifying, considering how women are all supposed to be so emotionally intelligent.
It's a trick question. If you start talking shit about past relationships-that's a big red flag. They are looking to see how you answer, not really to know WHY.
Right. A simple question seems to demand a simple answer, which is why one should never fall into the trap of giving the real answer (if there is one), especially if it might entail going on for more than about 2 or 3 sentences.
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:13:30 PM | Now i feel like chopped liver - nobody askes me why I am still single...
My problem has always been that I just don't know how to do the transition from friend to more. I get to know women and I enjoy their friendship so much that I end up missing that point where it either has to stay friends or become that little bit more... and I have somewhat low self esteem so I always assume that I like them more than they like me so I can't bring myself to try that little step. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/25/2009 5:03:08 PM | I seem to be what 99.99% of the men my age are not seeking.........
5 feet tall
plump
no children
have not been married
educated and employed in the same profession for over 20 years
personable
do not suffer fools gladly
enjoys dating
tries not to be involved in dysfunctional relationships
I rarely date. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/25/2009 8:28:16 PM | Why am I single?
Good question, I don't want to be. I guess it's because I'm seeking a deep intimate relationship with someone, and you just can't force that. At 37 with no kids, I've come to except that I may not find my partner before it's too late to have kids. But, I won't be in a relationship unless it is right.
I have a pattern of breaking it off with men that "aren't into me". They don't seem genuinely interested in me, don't ask me questions about my life. So I move on. This is my pattern, and lately I'm wondering if I need to re-evaluate this. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/25/2009 9:17:11 PM | I have a brother that will be 40 this year and he is in the same boat with Lonewolf. He was a truck driver for several years and has just recently changed careers because he was finding it hard to have a relationship with someone when he was gone most of the time. He's never been married and a lot of women seem to look at that as a bad thing instead of WOW he's not been married good for him. Be happy in who you are and don't let the words of other's get you down. You will find someone when you are ready and tell anyone that has a problem with that "Bite ME"  | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/26/2009 12:45:04 AM |
I just don't know how to do the transition from friend to more.
This is troublesome. He seems to consider friendship inferior to something else. Why? Love affairs come and go easily enough but friendship can endure. It doesn't depend on hormones or momentary passions but on intelligence and informed commitment. Exactly why would anybody assume that friendship is just a transition on the way to something else? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/26/2009 11:01:41 AM | I have been thinking about that a lot lately, and I think I know the answer, at least about myself
I am a serial monogamist. Nothing wrong with that...however, I will try with any man i am reasonably attracted to. In doing so...it kinda leads me to believe that while i am being faithful to and dating only one man at a time...the 6 or 9 months I am dating just one man, i feel like i am maybe jumping in too fast (into the monogamy) and missing out on just dating.
It could be that i'm not getting to know the man very well before devoting myself to him, and then i waste time by counting up the red flags that i could have seen before devoting myself, had i just been "dating" and not devoted to just him.
Now i am not saying that i should be sleeping with them, just going on more dates...maybe giving it few or a couple of months before becoming bf/gf.
I am single because I am a jumper. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/28/2009 12:28:15 PM | MetalRulz, you hit a strong point in my view.
It could be that i'm not getting to know the man very well before devoting myself to him, and then i waste time by counting up the red flags that i could have seen before devoting myself, had i just been "dating" and not devoted to just him.
Funny thing is I don't consider myself oldfashioned at all but I absulutely strive to avoid the mentality of instant monogamy in dating. It's just not realistic to think that a good date or more equals compatability. Nor does it mean we're "going steady" (can't believe that term still lives - sorry, nuther thread) unless that is an open decision made unanimously.
'Course I'm single (again) too...
So wtf do I know ? 
But I stick to my instincts on this and I'm confident it will serve me well in the end. | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/28/2009 12:34:20 PM | | I still get asked, and I do resent the use of the word "still." Just last week I was asked, "so why is a beautiful lady like you still single", as if being attractive was a sure fire way to guarantee meeting someone compatible, when all it does is just attract the wrong kind of attention :P | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/28/2009 12:37:36 PM | | Agreed!!!! Although I am the only sibling (out of 4) in my family who is unmarried, I am also the only one who's not divorced! Note that my parents never ask me why I am still single :) | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/28/2009 2:53:26 PM | As I sit here alone in my house, I've been wondering about this question. I'm probably too nice of a guy, I'm probably too forgiving. I've considered becoming a real jerk, woman seem to chase the bad boys, but I want someone to accept me for who I am. I work hard, own my own home and 2 cars, I don't live in a ghetto, I have have fun when I can. I'm open minded and love women, Asian, White or Black, it doesn't matter to me. But I'm faithful, and like to date, sometimes after a couple of dinners a woman may start calling me her boyfriend, that may push me away. I enjoy the dating and courting process. I'm not in a huge hurry to jump in bed with someone.
Am I wrong?
What should I be doing differently? | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/28/2009 3:26:40 PM | I am still single because:
I dont lie about my status.
I am too nice.
I am not good looking
I dont have a lot of money.
I am actually considering to start acting like a complete a**hole to every girl I meet. This seems to work for all of my friends and it comletely baffles me. Why loads of women love to be treated like a punching bag is beyond me! | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/28/2009 4:22:03 PM | | nope. im hearing that same question. it drives me nuts. always answer that question the same way. i cant find anyone that can put up with me......lol | |
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| so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/28/2009 11:10:59 PM | Yeah yeah I hear that all the time..........right up there with why are you still single  | |
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