| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/25/2005 4:15:49 PM | | You're wrong tarheelman.... No way money will do a thing for me~~ I learned that "what" I have will not make me happy... I just gave away almost all of the belongings of a 5 bedroom home and moved into a 1 bedroom apartment, and have been sleeping on the couch for 1 1/2 years.... I'm happier now than I was then...... I just will never get it, sorry~~ | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/25/2005 4:45:50 PM | | Of coure that is you...Not everybodyelse...I live in FLORIDA and work hard all my life for what i own..Never ask the goverment,parents,or anybodyelse for that matter for anything...I will not give that up for nobody....I use to think like that back in my 20s when i got screwed over that really brought some light in my life...There is more to life than paying bills..And thank god for that...Take for example.My ex so call girlfriend is hook up with a real winner(52 years old,No driver licence,no car,no pot to piss in,In and out of jail all his life,ex-con)Yes that is a real winner..That is what i call a nice guy...Usually when people think that way usally have no abition to have anything in life...And about 90% people become the person they are with.....You know what makes you happy..Then that is fine...But what makes you happy may not make somebodyelse happy...There is truth to that..There is women that will love a man that turns 4o that does not have a pot to piss in(Because he drank all his life,drugs) that will worship the ground he walks..To each his own!!!!!LIFE IS CHOICES!!!!!!!Sleep with dogs get up with flee bites!!!! | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/25/2005 4:56:56 PM | Im glad I dont have daughers. I think there are issues on both sides. I think the old man doesnt want to go to a nursing home and with his luck he'll probably die of a heart attack in bed and if he has any money little missy will be laughing to the bank 
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/25/2005 5:23:46 PM | | Age is no indication of wisdom. It is however very unlikely to work out. Each generation is different from the other. Too bad we all have to age on the outside. No one has to age on the inside though. Life is so short for all of us, we should celebrate it no matter at what age and not discriminate as we will all be old someday, hopefully. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 12:06:53 PM | | My 18 and just got married to an 39 yearold man and that god that I'm really not alone in this, I really hoped that the're so people out there that go though the same stress and the same comments out there. I got married on Jan 5 2008, its going on 2years now. like who knows whats going on in there lives, no one will know till they eccept our lives ,anyway I just e-mail to try to reach out. Thanks-Shannon. M | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 12:11:03 PM | No, she found a meal ticket for life! she can have a kid or two, probably have him put her through college, divorce him when he hits 50, be in her prime, get hella child support and half of what he owns (or stay 15 years and get half his retirement too!), and then find herself someone 30 and start afresh.
Hell, she probably MET him on "Sugar Daddy dot Com"
DAMN SMART KID!
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All you 40 year old men who think you can marry someone 20 years younger and they are going to stay with you forever deserve exactly what you get. At least the women on the "older woman younger guy" thread look at their dalliances as just that. "No future" dalliances. You men live in huge denial.  | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 1:00:05 PM | celine dion has been married to her husband since 1994.. he is 26 years older than her... apparently they are very happy...(and she def didn't need the money....)
so, who knows...whatever the reason this couple in question got married, it could work... good luck to 'em, i say | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 1:37:41 PM | I'm a 18 yea old wife and got 2 kids with my going on 2 years 40 year old husband. I' m not bored yet so bring on the comments. I happy with my children and man, and I would not change a thing . You could come back and say he's some what of a father figure but it won't change a thing. You can't help people if the they don't want to be helped. I wouldn't beleave the comments and put downs I get. thanks you, the people that stick up for use the, Hope a good life to the ones that hate our gutts for no reason!  | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 1:51:05 PM |
I'm a 18 yea old wife and got 2 kids with my going on 2 years 40 year old husband. I' m not bored yet so bring on the comments.
AND this begs the question: How old were you, when you started having sex with this 'mature' male ?
Of course you are happy, you have two kids and a place to live, for now.
The general concensus in many instances; by the time puberty kicks in, he will be fishing for younger females to pleasure him. This has nothing to do with who you are, but rather what this male WANTS .
What do you have for a backup plan, if this man decides to abandon you and your two kids? Welfare?
THAT is the reality of this life. Good luck.
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 2:06:07 PM | | I don't think it's an ideal arrangement myself but it's just one of hundreds (thousands? who knows the actual number?) who do so. She's not the first. Won't be the last. Time will tell. And it's really none of my business. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 2:06:23 PM | Yet shannon, you're on a dating site looking for friends ??? I would suggest if youre looking for a friend why not buy a dog?
The more I read these forums the more I think I should make a beeline to the nearest church and praise Gawd that my life is normal.
A 18 year old who just got married to a 40 year old man, and you have 2 children, which means 1) he was with you when he was minor, shame on him 2) you dont strike me as too bright, youre going to end up as one of the illiterate house wives with a litter full of children and when your hubby passes on, you will be the one complaining that men dont want to meet a woman with a litter of kids, shame on the men.
Good luck to you kid.
English Lass, I don't know if you're aware of this, but Celine Dion's hubby met her when she was 13 years old or 14 years old, he was lucky there was the statue of limitation ran out years ago, so Celine and her perv hubby isnt a good example. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 2:19:45 PM | | She is blessed according to the great grandfather of the prophet David, Boaz by name, for not choosing one of the younger men. In my opinion it's because when babies marry babies, like i'm thinking your parents did, look at how the kids turn out - i mean you obviously didn't grow up studying to show yourself approved, a workman that needs not be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 2:28:27 PM | | better yet what was the 40 year old thinking, my brother did the same thing 11 months later she ran off with a 27 year old man...and my brother to this day didnt see it comming or understand why she did it..her reasoning was, her and the new guy liked the same kind of music.....lol | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 2:54:49 PM | While I feel 18 is a bit young the girl has an opportunity to make a good life for herself. She can continue her education even if part time. The guy probably has a home and car and a few $$$ so that worry is over.
They probably won't be heading to the bar every Friday night. How many young people get mixed up with booze and drugs? Then there's STDs.
A reasonably healthy 40 year old can do most activities young people enjoy. Not only that but they'll have the money to enjoy more expensive activities like skiing, for example. Not too many young people starting out can afford a skiing weekend unless their parents foot the bill.
As long as the guy is decent he can provide a better lifestyle than she'd find with a guy her own age. Not just financial but a better role model, in general. In all likelihood he will be appreciative and treat her well.
I think the man is taking the bigger risk although how long do relationships last today? The divorce rate is around 50% even when couples appear perfectly matched. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 3:02:07 PM | So Dave...how about that 40 year old woman and the 18 year old male? Would that be great too?
Not to mention that women live longer, so that would be a better match...they are matched in their sexual wanting....AND if he wants kids, she definately can still have them.
So would you say that a 40 year old woman and an 18 year old male would be a great match too? In this day and age when women (if they are a CAPABLE woman), don't need a male to "support" them financially?
Because "as long as the (woman) is decent, (she) can provide a better lifestyle than (he'd) find with a (girl his)own age. Not just financial but a better role model in general. (The older woman) in all liklihood will be appreciative and treat him well." Not to mention, knock his socks off better than he can ever imagine. Also "A reasonably healthy 40 year old can do most activities young people enjoy. Not only that but they'll have the money to enjoy more expensive activities like skiing, for example. Not too many young people starting out can afford a skiing weekend unless their parents foot the bill.
So he can marry "mommy" and have THAT parent foot the bill.
What say you Dave? | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 3:49:24 PM |
English Lass, I don't know if you're aware of this, but Celine Dion's hubby met her when she was 13 years old or 14 years old, he was lucky there was the statue of limitation ran out years ago, so Celine and her perv hubby isnt a good example.
she was actually 12 when he became her manager... no one has "confessed" to when they became lovers (why assume she was under age?) she did proclaim her love for him tho' in 1993, when she was 25 years old..
i wouldn't be surprised if she came to love him because he'd assumed a kind of father figure role in her life when she was very young.. because he'd always supported, guided and protected her..... or maybe she just has some sort of electra complex toward him....whatever the reason for their ending up together, my original posting was to show that it is possible for a younger woman to be with a much older man and for them both to be happy together, without there being any kind of monetary sneekiness involved (well on her part.. i guess if someone wanted to be very cynical they could say that that was why her manager "seduced" her - because of her obvious talent and potential income..   ) | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 4:02:53 PM | | I probably wouldn't marry a 18 yr old woman. But if another man decides to marry a much younger woman, then that is their business. Not mine or anyone elses. An 18 yr old is a legal adult in most places, if not all. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 4:10:40 PM | I have no problems with a couple having a large age difference, and I've posted my opinions on this often enough to make it very clear that to me, it's no one's business who you decide to bed or wed;)
And I don't care whether it's an older man with a much younger woman or an older woman with a younger man. It makes
absolutely no difference to me, it's all the same IMO.
BUT.... having said that, I still think that 18 is too young to get married to anyone, regardless if there's an age difference or not.
If that girl had been 22 or 23 and had already been to college or had worked for a few years, preferably while living on her own a while, then it wouldn't be so "bad" in my opinion.
But at 18, you've just graduated from high school...you haven't been out into the world on your own yet, which I feel is an integral part of growing up.
Anyway, this isn't about the age difference to me, it's about the extreme young age of this girl. If a fifty year old man wants to hook up with a 25 year old who works and who already lives on her own, I say go for it...but 18 and fresh out of high school?? Gimme a break...let her grow up for god's sake and let her get a few life experiences of her own first...sheesh! 
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 4:46:06 PM | Shannon 3917, your headline reads: 'Tell me some think I don't know'. You have tons of exclamation marks after the word friends just to drive home the point that you are married and not here looking for a date. Rather you just need someone to talk to. Seems like you've been approached for other reasons...even tho your interests are 'joking around'.
I usually don't get on someone's ass about spelling, grammar, or reading comprehension because we all make mistakes (I do)...but in your case I will. Doing so just drives home the point that so many other posts are trying to make: that marrying very young to an especially older person deprives a person of an education and a social life amonst their peers.
Your mail settings say you are looking for males between the ages of 18 and 35 which is your business. But it also says they must NOT be looking for friendship. Check out what the mail settings help notes have to say about this and you may be told some think you don't know. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 5:24:48 PM | Wow the insecurity of this thread. It amazes me to the length we will go to put another person or group down. People (even young people) have a choice as to how to live their life. They have a choice as to what happens in their life. So many comments here and those that made them have pain in their own past, so how can YOU say that just because you took a bad path in life everyone else needs to follow your lead? Me hell yes I have made some huge mistakes but those mistakes made me a stronger person. I am sure I have broken a few hearts but mine has been broken also...do I become negative just because I have hurt? NOPE!
I choose to live my life, I choose to forgive myself for hurting others and I choose to forgive all those that have hurt me. Would I change anything in my past? HELL NO!! All those things are what made me whom I am today so why would I wish for a different, unknown me as compared to the person I am at this moment. To be honest with you I think ALOT of younger women should date older guys. The reason is that the maturity of older men is (most of the time) are AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT A WOMAN SEEKS IN A PARTNER? The drama that goes around in our younger adults lives is worst than it was in my teen age years. I also defend the right of younger guys to date older women...an older woman is so tinder and kind to a young lover as compared to the same age girlfriend.
Now the big question...why is it everyone thinks things are supposed to last forever? Does love last forever? Divorce rate backs that one. Do we live forever? Not in mortal bodies. Does the earth stay the same? No it changes everyday. So when we put a TIME limit on love or relationships (thinking each time it must last forever) by placing the time limit on it you kill it that very moment. You destroy some thing that is pure and real because it is not happening as fast as you want it to. Instead of enjoying that single moment in time we want it to last forever...will you be alive in a few minutes...will you be alive tomorrow...next week...next year? I, we, you don't know the future so why not enjoy today tomorrow is unknown.
So if any 2 people decide that they want to be happy around each other it is their business not ours. The time they send together today will help make them who they are tomorrow. It is sad so many that disagree with this thread are the ones that are jealous that it is not them. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/19/2008 6:30:31 PM | My opinion is simple. I have met a lot of people in my life. A very high number of those people wanted to ruin other people's relationships, out of jealousy, and a need to control other people's lives. The rest, just wished people well, and dealt with real problems, like the men who will ensure that a man who beats a woman stays out of her life.
I have the utmost respect for men who stand up for women, and stop them being subject to domestic violence, especially by men of their own age. The people who interfere in other peoples lives when they are not wanted by either partner, and ruin their happiness, are control freaks, and I have no respect for control freaks. | |
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