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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/22/2008 6:10:07 AM | I wouldn't go there, myself...far too much of a physical, cultural, and emotional gap I'd have to bridge...
But...if it floats your boat...AND it works...then Gung Ho!
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/22/2008 6:13:23 AM | it just kills me how people will start to judge other peoples choices on who is right for them...  .......
if 2 people are of legal age and want to marry... its nobodys business but theres. Mostly you hear a lot of BS from scorned middle aged women of how they think its bad/ wrong and every sort of evil. It makes you think how untrustable many middle aged women are. If they had their own romantic life... they would not be so worried about other peoples and who they are hooking up with/ date or marry. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:25:04 AM | What I find comical is when people refer to the sexual aspect of the relationship. "The man is just using her for sex."
Having been an 18 year old male and a 40 year old male I can assure everyone I viewed sex at 18 differently than I did at 40. Condoms, pregnancy, disease, commitment,......name it.
Anyone who feels the average 18 year old male is more respectful, considerate, caring and loving than a 40 year old male has never been an 18 year old male. More 18 year old women or "girls" are going to be used by more 18 and 20 year old males than any 40 year old male.
The point is it has nothing to do with ones concern about the 18 year old as far as being used for sex or used for anything else for that matter. How many 40 year olds are going to run around if they have an 18 year old girlfriend? On the other hand how many 18 or 20 year old males are going to be faithful to their 18 year old girlfriend?
Which male is going to treat her with more respect and love? Which one is going to take better "care" of her, for lack of a better word?
I'm not sure if some of the posters here are extremely naive or their jealousy and bitterness is oozing out.
People talk about the 18 year old having to learn about life. Just what does the average 18 year old learn? How to survive on a student's income? How to drink in clubs? What, exactly, are they missing by being with an older man? They'll probably be enjoying skiing weekends. They'll be sleeping in a decent hotel when on vacation rather than sleeping in a hostel. They'll most likely be eating properly and not considering a bag of potato chips the main course for dinner.
So, for those who find such arrangements "disturbing" perhaps they could specify exactly what is disturbing? What, exactly does the lady miss? If she finds the man appealing and is there on her own free will what 18 year old male can compete with what a 40 year old can offer? More love? More commitment? More respect?
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/22/2008 7:35:06 AM | Well my father was 40 and my mum 20 when they first met. Its upto the individual some people mature faster then others and feel they can settle down quicker.
Age doesn't matter its really what is felt but the two people that want to get marriaged. Single life just has different rewards and problems to married life.
I think people give single life too mych hype especially those that have had bad relationships. If this couple of 18 to 40 has a good one then why not. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 8:59:30 AM | What I find humorous Dave, is your justification of why guys in their 40's should be marrying 18 year olds.......For every one guy who truly loves his 18 year old bride, there will be 100's has mastered the art of manipulation and control who seek out these girls who have " daddy complex"
A girl or young woman, who is in school and never been out from under the protective wing of her parents is easy prey, especially if he is an authority figure. In her young life she will have had many male authority figures and she has learned to trust them. It doesn't matter whether it's a teacher, principal, doctor, boss etc etc .
The only difference is that today, it's much harder for a man in one of the first four categories to get away with seducing a young school-age girl or woman. Society will not allow it!
People talk about the 18 year old having to learn about life. Just what does the average 18 year old learn? How to survive on a student's income? How to drink in clubs? What, exactly, you think life is defined by these things? living life is one of them
so by marrying this guy you think she will live in domestic bliss and live happily ever after? well the reality is he married her for her youthful appearance and innocence and when she has a baby or two and her body and moods change I wonder what happens next? 20 years old stuck with a couple of children hubby decides that working and making a living to support the family is important, and she gets to come on to POF and look for friends because she bored? yep sounds like a great life bud.
Even if the marriage survives and most likely she will out live him, so what happens in 30 years the woman is a widow and wants to date again , she has no idea what to do, if you dont believe me go look at some of the forums about women who are having a hard time dating because they married young and wasn't experience enough dating, married older men in the beginning, but you seem to have forgotten , older men gets older in time.
Sorry I but I believe in letting the 18 year old be a 18 year old, experience life dating the ups and down, the loves and heart breaks, its part of defining one's character . | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 9:08:56 AM | ewww saggy balls Well if the old coot can handle an eighteen year old then kudos to him. You go old guy!!!! Eighteen year old anythings are dingy and don't know chit about chit...oh wait I am on the backside of 40 but I KNOW I don't know chit!
I bet ya the youngin' drives the old coot to drinkin' within six months or worse...dun...dun...dunnnnn... she might drive him to cheat with an "older" woman just for the conversation!!! | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 9:29:21 AM | Just like always you are looking at "things" from a different angle
Hey I just thought about something... when this girl turns 21 and starts hitting the bars that ole boy with the saggy thingies will really have his hands full. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 11:01:16 AM |
Just like always you are looking at "things" from a different angle
Hey, it's my duty to please your booty. Someone has to bring a different perspective into these otherwise dull forums.
Hey I just thought about something... when this girl turns 21 and starts hitting the bars that ole boy with the saggy thingies will really have his hands full.
Wouldn't she have her hands full then? | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:15:06 PM | RE msg 155 by mahogany_rush:
What I find humorous Dave, is your justification of why guys in their 40's should be marrying 18 year olds.......For every one guy who truly loves his 18 year old bride, there will be 100's has mastered the art of manipulation and control who seek out these girls who have " daddy complex" I quite agree. There are other things to consider as well:
1) Now this is happening in large numbers to women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, too. Just read the forums, and you can see just how often women get into abusive relationships.
2) One thing that seems to be prevalent nowadays is the "protector complex", the need for women of all ages to be with a man who makes them feel protected, often physically. This has not escaped the notice of players and abusers, and they use it regularly to great effect.
A girl or young woman, who is in school and never been out from under the protective wing of her parents is easy prey, especially if he is an authority figure. In her young life she will have had many male authority figures and she has learned to trust them. It doesn't matter whether it's a teacher, principal, doctor, boss etc etc . A few more points:
1) 18-year-olds in our society are considered "easy prey" because it is expected that they have not yet learned about what life is like, because it is expected that they haven't been exposed to it. So protecting 18-year-olds until they are older will just produce inexperienced 25-year-olds who are "easy prey". So we need another way of dealing with the issue.
2) Players and abusers follow a rule: if she's been played/abused before, she's more likely to let herself get played/abused again. Call it Stockholm Syndrome. But it's real, and it works. So cutting 18-year-olds out of the picture, does not change the problem for everyone else.
well the reality is he married her for her youthful appearance The reality is that there are now many women in their teens who are not that attractive to many men, and there are many women in their 30s, 40s and 50s, who are incredibly attractive to many, many men.
when she has a baby or two and her body and moods change I wonder what happens next? Men are marrying women in their 30s, and experiencing exactly the same problem. She has a baby and everything goes haywire.
The only difference is that today, it's much harder for a man in one of the first four categories to get away with seducing a young school-age girl or woman. Society will not allow it! This is also very true. Unfortunately, 18-year-old women are allowed to date 18-year-old men, and now, as many 18-year-old men are skilled players and abusers, as they have learned from the Internet, their brothers, and their friends, and they have been getting involved much younger, so by the time they turn 18, they are very experienced as players and abusers. What is even more problematic, though, is that sexual offences in men statistically form 2 groups:
1) Young men in their teens and twenties, who tend to become immaturely involved in criminal acts, and see sexual assualts as just another form of exciting criminal behaviour. Many of these men grow out of this behaviour, and some regret their former actions, but often not before they have committed sexual assaults against young girls. There are statistics stating that something like 40% of young girls admitted that they were coerced into sex by young men, some violently coerced.
2) Men who are not generally involved in criminal behaviour, who commit sexual assults against women. These men tend to commit the same assaults as young men, and right throughout their lives.
Basically, young women have as much or more to fear from young men their age as older men.
Even if the marriage survives and most likely she will out live him, so what happens in 30 years the woman is a widow and wants to date again , she has no idea what to do, if you dont believe me go look at some of the forums about women who are having a hard time dating because they married young and wasn't experience enough dating, married older men in the beginning, but you seem to have forgotten , older men gets older in time. There are plenty of women who married young and learned enough from their marriage to understand how to handle men. There are plenty of women who have dated for a long time and still don't know how to handle men.
Sorry I but I believe in letting the 18 year old be a 18 year old, experience life dating the ups and down, the loves and heart breaks, its part of defining one's character . It would be nice to believe that experience is a definite answer to learning how to deal with life. I thought so too as a young teenager. Unfortunately, it's not. The lessons that one needs to learn about life, that define one's character is not a long list, and the experiences that teach one each lesson is not a long list either. You can learn it all in 3 months, if you choose to learn from your experiences. That is the problem. Most people just don't learn from their experiences, and keep making the same mistakes, until they encounter an experience so horrible and difficult, that they are forced to change. Many people don't even learn then, and just get stuck in the fear of a repeat of that experience.
Most men would love it if all 18-year-olds would be immature, experienced the ups and downs of dating, and all women over 30 had already learned this and developed character, because then 30-year-olds would then have the following attributes:
1) Great looks. Nowadays, with healthy eating, gyms, and various skin products, there are plenty of women in their 30s who are far more attractive that women in their 20s. So if all women over 30 were mature, they would all look after themselves for their own health, and would look as good as a woman in her 20s, but with the advantage of maturity.
2) Great in bed, because they would have learned to let go of all of their hang-ups about sex.
3) Great for a relationship, because they had done their time fooling around, had got rid of all their insecurities, and any arrogance and anger.
4) Reliable in a relationship, because they had learned to spot players and abusers, and would not be enticed into an affair, because they weren't feeling wonderful about themselves.
5) Willing and able to resolve problems in a relationship, because they would have learned to identify which problems are real, and which are just imagined, address any problems in a direct and forthright manner, and would be willing to work at a relationship solidly, and also willing to acknowledge when the problem is purely the man's fault, and not enable his bad behaviour by blaming themselves.
6) Not suffering from problems caused by past relationships, because they would be mature enough to find resolution to problems in previous relationships, and mature enough to not stay in something really emotionally or physically damaging, so any emotional or physical damage would be relatively short and thus most such problems would be easily overcome.
7) Knowing what they want, so dating would no longer be a long-drawn out affair.
8) Confident in themselves, so they would be apt to approach men who they could see would get on with them.
There are lots of other possible benefits, to a mature, beautiful, physically healthy, emotionally stable woman.
Such a world would mean that 18-year-olds were not worth dating, because their youth, beauty and emotional openness would be just as much present in women over 30. So there would be no downsides to dating 30s women, and far more downsides to dating an 18-year-old woman.
Men who would want to use women selfishly, would never get anywhere, young or old, because mature women would be smart enough to spot them, and would protect young women from them. So all men would be forced to treat women with respect, would be forced to become celibate or involve themselves fairly with women, would get regular great sex with a great-looking woman with a great personality, and everyone would be happy.
If you can figure out how to solve all of the above problems, and the others that I can list, and somehow ensure that all women over 30 have the character to do all that I have listed for themselves, that is automatically going to make men's lives fantastic, please let me and every other man know how to do this. Because our lives would be Seventh Heaven. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:20:52 PM | | ^ Interesting comments, but I can't help but notice that you talk about women as if they're some sort of helpless, innocent lambs. There may be players out there, but there are just as many skanky ho's that are just as bad. Also, there are many women that are responsible for their own decisions, like chosing the bad boys over the nice guys. In some cases, it may be a case of a player seducing a naive girl, but I'd venture to say the majority, or in at least in half of the cases, it's silly girls pursuing bad boys/players. C'est la vie! | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:21:42 PM |
Interesting comments, but I can't help but notice that you talk about women as if they're some sort of helpless, innocent lambs. There may be players out there, but there are just as many skanky ho's that are just as bad. Also, there are many women that are responsible for their own decisions, like chosing the bad boys over the nice guys. In some cases, it may be a case of a player seducing a naive girl, but I'd venture to say the majority, or in at least in half of the cases, it's silly girls pursuing bad boys/players. C'est la vie! I believe that is the basis of the argument.
Most posters who believe that a 40-year-old man should not be allowed to marry an 18-year-old girl seem to be of the opinion that the girl needs "protection", as if she would never date an older man if she was in her right mind.
Posters who believe that a 40-year-old man should be allowed to marry an 18-year-old girl seem to believe that 18-year-old girls are quite capable of making up their own minds, and if one chooses to marry a 40-year-old man, she knows exactly what she is doing, and is therefore making the right choice for her. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 10:25:06 PM | Hey I just thought about something... when this girl turns 21 and starts hitting the bars that ole boy with the saggy thingies will really have his hands full.
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Hey yourslef.
Did you think that girls waited till 21 to hit the bars. Get real. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:39:49 PM | | Well I certainly didn't but I developed early and dated the bouncers. Yes I thought that 21 was the legal age for drinking in most US states...how many have you had tonight..you are slurring your typing...yourslef... | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 3:04:33 AM | JMHO, of course, but I find it rather distasteful. I can't imagine what a 40 year old man would have in common with an 18 year old teenage girl. He sounds like Page #4 of the Mid-life Crisis Catalog.
Where did he take her on dates? Chuck E. Cheese? Toys R Us?
Sounds as though he's looking to take a dip in the Fountain of Youth. Blech. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 3:20:46 AM |
Most posters who believe that a 40-year-old man should not be allowed to marry an 18-year-old girl seem to be of the opinion that the girl needs "protection", as if she would never date an older man if she was in her right mind.
Nup...she doesnt need protection except from predators.
Posters who believe that a 40-year-old man should be allowed to marry an 18-year-old girl seem to believe that 18-year-old girls are quite capable of making up their own minds, and if one chooses to marry a 40-year-old man, she knows exactly what she is doing, and is therefore making the right choice for her
Yeah thats exactly the argument predators use.
The only thing worse than people who break Law...are predators that inch along the boundary, feign innocence & cite "rights".
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 6:39:49 AM | Scorpiomover , some things I agree with and some things I obviously dont agree with
18-year-olds in our society are considered "easy prey" because it is expected that they have not yet learned about what life is like, because it is expected that they haven't been exposed to it. So protecting 18-year-olds until they are older will just produce inexperienced 25-year-olds who are "easy prey". sorry disagree there, protecting our children doesn't mean locking them in their rooms and protecting them from the outside world, its means teaching our children about life and letting them experience life whether its teaching them how to be responsible, how to find there first apartment to financing to how to avoid certain types of people.
I believe kids when turning into adults should learn how to live on their own, so they can develop the self esteem and know how and what it takes to live on their own, so if they get into a relationship and if something happens to the partner they already know that they can live again on their own, because they did it before, most of them who develop high self esteem dont fall into certain traps set by these sick perverted f ucks out there.
I dont believe for one f ucking minute any 18 year old should be married period, I dont know what the stats are but most of those who marry under 21 years but many of them are divorced by 30 year old, most of them seem to be somewhat bitter towards men, you want proof look at the threads started by women who were in abusive relationships, most of them have the common trait, they met their b astards when they were YOUNG.
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:08:03 AM | hmmm well i can understand if they were dating for a couple years already and just got engaged at 18 but... what about people who marry at 16? and i don't mean to someone a lot older maybe both at 16 or 16 and 20 w/e, it relly depends on the induvidual, i fail to see why marriege ends the possibility of post secondairy education why should it? even some single parents who had their kid when young still manage and without being rich either. as for what they see in eachother.. really depends on the induvidual
i know actually of a 16 y/o and..... 35 y/o who married..... well he was just a pig and shouldn't have knocked up his daughter's 15 y/o best friend but... neways as for the status of thier relationship last i heard he was in prison for dealing drugs and she(with thier kids... 3 i think?) was back home with her parents (think she around 21 now)
suffisive to say the daughter and son(original) moved to live with thier aunt when they first found out what was going on , maybe it turned thier stomaches as much as mine.
anyways the moral of this story is... she seemed happy married to him and havng kids, everyone is different....... | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 9:33:43 AM | look at catherine zeta-jones and her hubby? she's hot and he's...well..not...but they're both uber rich and happy. she was smart. older men bring security emotionally and possibly financially.
Personally I wouldn't do it. I have a close-minded family. And I like to do active and sometimes stupid silly things for fun which an older man may find, immature. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 10:14:30 AM |
(Msg 155) What I find humorous Dave, is your justification of why guys in their 40's should be marrying 18 year olds.......For every one guy who truly loves his 18 year old bride, there will be 100's has mastered the art of manipulation and control who seek out these girls who have " daddy complex"
In msg 89 I did say I felt 18 was a bit young but for the sake of argument I’ll stick to 18 and 40. Today, the vast majority of 18 year old girls are anything but naïve.
so by marrying this guy you think she will live in domestic bliss and live happily ever after? well the reality is he married her for her youthful appearance and innocence and when she has a baby or two and her body and moods change I wonder what happens next? 20 years old stuck with a couple of children hubby decides that working and making a living to support the family is important, and she gets to come on to POF and look for friends because she bored? yep sounds like a great life bud.
Do you think that after, say, five years of marriage when the guy is 45 and he has a 25 year old wife he’s going to neglect her because her body has fallen apart? 
Let’s look at the two hypothetical kids. Who is going to make the better father; a young guy in his 20’s struggling financially to make house payments, pay a babysitter/support his wife or a man of 45 who either owns his home outright or has a very low mortgage and has got rid of his “oat-sowing, partying, hang out with the guys” years?
If the wife is bored with the 45 year old guy she certainly won’t be entertained by a 25 year old guy. Assuming she loves her husband she will have access to much greater entertainment and travel by virtue of his financial position. Furthermore, he will be more appreciative of her. A 25 year old woman is not as special to the typical 25 year old man as she would be to a 45 year old. The only question is does she love him? If yes, she’ll live a much better life as will the children.
Even if the marriage survives and most likely she will out live him, so what happens in 30 years the woman is a widow and wants to date again , she has no idea what to do,….
If the marriage lasts 30 years that, in itself, justifies the arrangement. I do see your point about dating, however, an 18 year old in today’s society is not the same as an 18 year old starting out 30 years ago.
Technology and the access to information has changed everything. Also, I will assume over the 30 years she took some courses even if relating to hobbies. We’re not talking about someone taken from a remote area of the planet. As to dating it’s nothing more than meeting people and seeing what two people have in common. Surely she will have social skills. In fact, her social skills will probably be superior to most as she will have been exposed to a greater variety of situations. It’s pretty much a win-win situation all round.
(Msg 161) Basically, young women have as much or more to fear from young men their age as older men.
Exactly! Older men who are interested in young women are going to be more appreciative when they have one. It’s that simple.
(Msg 167) Nup...she doesnt need protection except from predators.
I find it rather amusing 40 year olds are considered predators but 18 or 19 year olds aren’t. I think it’s time for a quick review of “Testosterone And The Adolescent Male”.
(Msg 168) I believe kids when turning into adults should learn how to live on their own, so they can develop the self esteem and know how and what it takes to live on their own, so if they get into a relationship and if something happens to the partner they already know that they can live again on their own, because they did it before….
I don’t feel that argument holds up as there are many 18 and 19 year olds who marry and then divorce their partner a few years down the road. Obviously they didn’t have issues of self esteem or were nervous about living on their own.
I dont believe for one f ucking minute any 18 year old should be married period, I dont know what the stats are but most of those who marry under 21 years but many of them are divorced by 30 year old, most of them seem to be somewhat bitter towards men,….
My EX was 18 and I was 20 when we married. It didn’t stop her from having an affair at 30. She didn’t lack self-esteem, I assure you.
People do not stop learning because they marry. With computers and the available access to education and communication, not to mention public service announcements and social programs, it’s not like the stories from 50 years ago where the guy tied the woman to the kitchen sink.
As for them being bitter if their partner was such as a$$ and they lived with such abuse they now have access to hundreds of men. They should be shouting how great life is but, alas, such is seldom the case. If they felt their partner was an a$$ and now believe most of the men here are users and players what does that tell us? | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 11:34:16 AM | Dave, Dave,Dave.... im amazed that you can post that with a straight face, you really believe that?
Let’s look at the two hypothetical kids. Who is going to make the better father; a young guy in his 20’s struggling financially to make house payments, pay a babysitter/support his wife or a man of 45 who either owns his home outright or has a very low mortgage and has got rid of his “oat-sowing, partying, hang out with the guys” years? what was the point I was saying earlier, no 18 year old should be married period.
I find it rather amusing 40 year olds are considered predators but 18 or 19 year olds aren’t. I think it’s time for a quick review of “Testosterone And The Adolescent Male how many 18 year olds are considered predators going after 40 year olds?
not on this planet, now if a 18 year old was going after a 11 year old what would you think?
My EX was 18 and I was 20 when we married. It didn’t stop her from having an affair at 30. She didn’t lack self-esteem, I assure you. if you say so but she did have a affair for what ever reason.
For whatever reason you think its ok for 18 years old to marry guys in their 40's and I disagree with you I believe that 18 y ears old should go out and experience life, your argument is based on economics.
You think that kids that age aren't naive, of course they are, they are not equipped to make logical or mature decisions, look at how many teen pregnancies are out there
the only thing we agree on is that today 18 year olds are not the same as 18 year olds 30 plus years ago, times changed people changed.
If a 40 year old man has to resort to picking up 18 years old in this day and age, well what does that say about the guy besides hes a f uckin loser, because he cant meet women his age, either do something about it or get help with your issues on why he cant meet women his age. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 12:06:29 PM |
If a 40 year old man has to resort to picking up 18 years old in this day and age, well what does that say about the guy besides hes a f uckin loser, because he cant meet women his age, either do something about it or get help with your issues on why he cant meet women his age
Watch out mahogany...*people* may not like your *tone*...you may be misconstrued as being...*gasp*..."bitter"
40 year olds lusting after 18 year olds...?
Some people cant impose on themselves some personal boundaries instead of self imposed anarchy & wanna argue everything except the fact that they simply shouldnt do it.
Its like arguing with a perpetrator of DV or a paedophile or a drunk...always an excuse.
If less time was spent being "reasonable", having polite discussions & listening to selfserving rubbish of others who do things like prey on the youth, weak, ignorant & vulnerable for their own gain...and just told them NO, we will absolutely not tolerate it...half the crap in the world wouldnt happen.
Idealistically thinking everything can be solved through a friendly chat over a cuppa is BS.
Sometimes the only option is to apply the same boundaries to yourself ie. none... and inch along the boundaries of the Law as well to deal with people like these.
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 12:45:19 PM | Mahogonay.
Almost all of the banter, rattled about by "ladies who lingh" is crap. the one in four rape victims every year, the "provln" safe driving record of women. etc etc.
This "daddy complex" that you are rattling about is no exception. Despite hudge numbers of studies into the idea theres not a one that has come up with any conclusive evidence that there is such a thing.
Women, of all ages, show a preference for succcessful men and men in thier 40s have morre of the trappings of succcess then younger men even if those younger men often have a greater DISPOSABLE income to lavish on their lady love.
The modern young women is anything but "easy prey" (this is the old "poor me I'm always the victim" drivel coming to the surface again.) the modern woman is VERY well schooled when it comes to predators. Even to the extent of often rejecting genuine love mistaking it for predation.
And the modern young woman will have had very very few male authourity figures in her life. (Where did you come up with that myth in the first place?). Most families are single mums, most teachers are female, more doctors are male than female, etc etc.
As for the guy divorcing her after her youth fades. Crikey! Use your brains. Less than 10% of ALL divorces are instigated by the husband. The family law courts leave them broke if they do.
And if she becomes a widow age 45 and wants to date again so what! She faces no more probles or issues, than any other 45 year old woman who wants to date again.
ANY woman will look for a scapegoat for any of lifes problems. Most 45 year olds, who can't find thier prince, blame their children, rather than face the fact that there are men out hter and NOT princes. If they are young widows they blame getting married too young. They blame blam blame. And thats a prime reason they cant get men. Nobody likes women who continually play the blame game. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 1/23/2008 1:16:07 PM |
Women, of all ages, show a preference for succcessful men and men in thier 40s have morre of the trappings of succcess then younger men even if those younger men often have a greater DISPOSABLE income to lavish on their lady love.
Gee...ya know...thats funny...cos its absolutely not the case because as per the OP...it doesnt happen often (in the western world & this century) and...there are very few successful men in comparison to not so successful & yet they still manage to partner up.
Incidentally...wouldnt a woman who's happy to be "bought off" be a gold-digger at any age?
And wouldnt it be the responsibility for an adult male of 40 to be wise enough to spot these evil predatory 18 yr olds?
The modern young women is anything but "easy prey" (this is the old "poor me I'm always the victim" drivel coming to the surface again.) the modern woman is VERY well schooled when it comes to predators
^^^ Heads up...young women are not taught anything about *this* particular topic of conversation because its not the norm (like daterape & stranger danger) & doesnt need to be addressed en masse.
NEVER in Health Studies was it ever brought up to watch out for dirty old men trying to sweet talk or buy you off with "lavish" to get into your pants.
Being a woman...I can account for that...its life experience that teaches you.
wanna argue everything except the fact that they simply shouldnt do it.
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