| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/28/2005 11:20:51 PM | | dragonred, you could be right, but I know it hasn't happened often. I believe you've got to be honest. The more direct you are sooner problems go away. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/28/2005 11:21:22 PM | I just think that most of the people who post these threads have never been in a "long term" relationship, and don't understand that if it's not working, it's not working. My parents have been together for 45 years, yet they probably haven't had sex since my youngest brother was conceived 34 years ago.. To me, that's no way to live... Nope, no way~~~
**Although, I guess there are people out there who don't find sex important to a relationship, in which case, no big deal** | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/28/2005 11:36:49 PM | | After being married for almost 26 years total, I found that there are many problems that never get worked out. It's a nice illusion to think you can fix anything, but real life isn't always as pretty as that. God, now I'm a "bubble burster"...... Waaaa.... I only post stuff like this from life experience, not from reading a book or watching a television show. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 12:11:09 AM | | Tell them up front. I was seeing this one guy who sucked in bed. He was a very selfish and vain lover. When we broke things off I finally told him the truth. That I only kept him around so long because he was handsome and I had already had sex with him. If he had been an average looking guy I would have broken things off a while back because he sucked in bed. Being full of himself, he thought I was just being mean. He didn't realize I had told my friends this months before. | |
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 58 | |
| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 4:29:09 AM | Just one small; and it seems very unimportant point;
Three pages now and nobody has mentioned Love Making
If everytime we are with our partner we Make Love, we will quickly find that 99% of the time we will be very compatible
If we come home and virtually demand SEX, totally different story
If you treat every woman as you would like to be treated, you will find most sexual problems disappear
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 4:54:33 AM | I actually had to do this not too long ago.
She kept asking "whats wrong?" and I had to tell her it seemed un-inspired, and lackluster. Was it mean? perhaps, but I offered to work with her. See, I'm very passionate, spontaneous, sensual. She was lacking ALOT of that. It felt very mundane, thought out...
Turns out, she had some issues and still had a wall up from previous relationships (what I refer to a bag lady) so it wasn't going to happen...not untill she could let her issues go, so it was over.
Only way it will get better if you care for this person is to put it out there as delicate as possible, and suggest/try new things, locations and see whats up. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 6:05:52 AM |
If everytime we are with our partner we Make Love, we will quickly find that 99% of the time we will be very compatible
If we come home and virtually demand SEX, totally different story
sounds good in theory...
but in the really real world, sometimes the sex just sucks. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 6:56:57 AM | | well mayber one needs to lead it to another direction but NEVER tell your lover they suck in bed I think with some conversation of what is liked and disliked it all can be overcome .....so to speak | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 8:56:54 AM | by telephone or with a suit of plate resistant, telepone resisitant armor on... and with a bullet proof vest.
Don't you know it's ALWAYS the man's fault and that women are naturally sexual and it's up to us to read and LEARN things about how to please them?
You.. you... you DUFUS!!! :-p
*just getting you ready for what you're going to have to face when you tell her* | |
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CAlex
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Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 67 | |
| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 9:23:50 AM | | My question was not directed towards “just someone that you are fu*ken” but, someone that you want to make it better with.... but an extra sister never hurt ;) | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 1:28:18 PM | | Another man's garbage, is another man's treasure. Like how bad are they? Do they lie there like a slab of stone? If that's the case, ask them or experiment what they want in bed....experimentation together is good. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 10:04:08 PM | | Excuse me but... WHY do you have to even tell the person unless they ask you??? If it isn't working then just break it off. IF they ask then tell them but to just tell someone "hey you just suck in bed" that's mean and uncalled for. If they didn't have a complex before you came along they sure would now!! mean mean mean... | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 10:11:33 PM | | If you're finding your partner isn't compatible with what you want, then you need to end it and find what you really need. It can be very unfilling to meet someone who won't or can't meet your pleasures. | |
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CAlex
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Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 74 | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/29/2005 10:35:20 PM | | If you aren't compatible... then just be friends and find someone you are compatible with. IF you really care about this person.. then experiment and work on being more sexually equal. I just don't see the purpose of purposely hurting someone's feelings and giving them a complex about their lovemaking talents or lack of.... | |
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