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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:18:18 AM | Buy a copy of Sex for Dummies, Kama Sutra and Tantric Sex. Make a romantic dinner, candlelight, and suggest you experiment with the new manuals.
If that doesn't work..grab a blowup guy, strap on a vibe and show him what you want!
If that still doesn't work....tell him his brother would be happy to show him the finer points of an orgasm. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:32:39 AM | I Stopped faking orgasms, showed him just how bored I was..
He didn't seem to care he just carried on..Hence why we didn't last..I can't tolerate a selfish man.  | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/12/2006 4:18:34 PM | I had the same problem, my ex was REALLY bad and unwilling to learn anything, mixed with the ego problem of not caring if it was working for me. I don't think he ever gave me an orgasm :(
I know it's him and not me, though. His wife and I used to laugh at his pathetic attempts at sex (and his gf while he was still "with" me, for that matter) He's bad, end of story.
I sucked it up, it was better than no sex(I was pregnant for most of the relationship, okay, like all of it) I let him know afterwards how bad he was and eventually I convihnced him to buy****ings, herbal viagra and to use toys on me, but I don't think he really "got it" | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:21:51 PM | While they sleap you get dreased make sure to leave a dead fish in your spot on the bed and tip toe out the door. (LMAO )
Actually Be honest and tell Him or Her streight out forward and Blunt exactly what was good IF ANYTHING what was WRONG if list not too long And that it's finnished. This will enable Him or Her to reflect on things after they calm down ofcourse and in doingso maybe they could learn something about themselves and their technics. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/12/2006 8:42:32 PM | well you dont have to tell them they suck ,just hint around to things that you like.Gotta speak up sometime ,or u will find yourself heading elsewhere | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/13/2006 2:22:02 PM | Thats a tough subject that I learned from experience must be handled with much tact.
When I was married, I remember once laying on top of my wife after sex and I said "Honey, you have a really, really tight ya-ya and absolutely no titz"
She told me to get off her back! | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:16:56 PM | Because of my advancing years this topic is close to my pen.., ummm I mean heart...lol
I wonder about a couple whose sex life declines because of advancing years and the complications that come with aging. I guess in those cases a couple should try to replace quantity for quality. I mean we all can't be this guy 
Just thought that we should be prepared for the time where we can't perform the way we can now.
With this said I don't care to reflect on the fact that my parents are still tossing the sheets on occasion (too much reality there).  | |
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Joined: 11/23/2005
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:50:47 PM | | Yeh a 12 year relationship with a man that wasn't into experimenting, toys, porn, wild monkey sex. Sometimes it was good. But when I told him the bag boys at the grocery store were starting to look real good to me he changed his tune pretty quick. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/13/2006 8:09:56 PM | This was not effective:
My ex used to yell at me in detail how I sucked in bed, right in front of our kids. I gave her the choice to change her behavior or leave.
What works for me:
Tell me privately you have some ideas or requests to make sex even better, and let's start practicing tonight! I'm the type of person that really trys to listen and wants most of all to please my partner. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/14/2006 8:42:45 AM | | I was being fairly serious, maybe I'm just really down on myself but I think that could be a a reason why my ex who was older and more experienced left me. Though the more I think about it, she wasn't anything fantastic, especially after the initial fun wore off...So how do you just get "better", like ways to last longer or whatever. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/14/2006 7:42:55 PM |
... maybe I'm just really down on myself but I think that could be a reason why my ex who was older and more experienced left me. ...
There are three things that must occur in the life of every young man in order to set the stage for the sort of adult man he will become:
1- He must learn how to groom himself.
2- He must learn the ropes of the bedroom from an older woman willing to show him.
3- He must have his heart broken.
As far as getting better, lasting longer, blah blah blah, stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and take the time to actively study up on things. Tantra, kama sutra, withholding release, proper diet... the list goes on and on and on, but none of these can begin to compare to communication. | |
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| How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/14/2006 8:02:29 PM | "Honey, I'd like to teach you how I really enjoy doing... Wanna learn? We can play teacher and student... and you'll have an opportunity to practice too..." and you say it in the most coy and sexy voice possible.
Don't tell your lover they suck in bed, teach them how to be your best lover.
Trust me, they won't be offended as long as you make it a learning experience and not a derogatory experience.
Communication in this context is key.
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