| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 9/25/2008 4:45:41 PM | Atlantadayguy1,
Yeah there is a definite conflict. On one hand good and caring men want to please their ladies - but on the other hand they have to act like animals about it. A guy just can't win, can he? :-) Aww...
You have to remember though, that just like you - most women get the most pleasure from pleasing YOU! So what turns her on is when you go down on her out of pure selfish lust. Whereas, if she gets the feeling that you are going down on her only to please her and not yourself, how can she be turned on? (can't generalize on this of course, but that's how I personally feel about it)
Therefore, the trick is to make your woman think that by going down on her, you are in fact pleasing YOURSELF. This also takes the focus and pressure off her, as you immerse yourself in your own little world. She becomes more of a spectator than a performer.
I hope that makes some sense.
I'm glad you responded, because it made me realize that perhaps my points were put forth in an insensitive way. I really should have stopped to remember that at the end of the day, the man is only trying to please his lady, whether or not he's enjoying it himself.
Oh and about not getting an orgasm from oral, it's merely because women have different kinds of clits with varying levels of sensitivity. This can be because of many reasons, like how hooded, how deep, how small/big the clit is and so forth. And I'm sure there are sensitivity differences in general. Just look at tickling for example - some people are ticklish, others aren't. I happen to have a clit that can only get stimulated from very hard rubbing and the sensations of oral are simply too soft to get even close. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 9/25/2008 5:04:50 PM | Any ladies that hate receiving oral can avoid my profile!
I'm down for it 100%
It actually turns me on more knowing and hearing her pleasure level go up! | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 9/25/2008 11:01:20 PM | For the record
The only thing better than eating a woman is eating a woman to climax... over and over
Some women taste so sweet I wonder what their sugar level would be if tested.
I love the taste I, love the smell, I love the texture .... I truly am addicted and in no uncertain terms... I feel like I've missed a most important treat if I cant include this pleasure in my love making.
While I prefer a woman climax when I eat her..... if she doesn't.... I still want to dine in as it were. Oh and I really get off on pleasing my partner....
When we are done I get a hot wash cloth and a soft dry towel and clean her up giving her sex a final kiss after I'm done drying her. I can be an animal but as a human I'm a thinking animal so place a towel on the bed even before we start so nobody sleeps in a wet spot.
Then snuggling up so she can drift off in my arms as I run my hands over her soft skin.
What a gift shared loving is ... wow      | |
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Debi36
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 9/26/2008 5:21:43 AM | Personally, I like to include knowlegeable and experienced fingers with my oral sex play.
Like the rest of me, my fingers are very capable of being soft, delicate, and sweet................or hard, firm, and a bit rough.
MY fingers can go where the tongue can't and they know what they are searching for, once inside. My finger tips are soft and easily detect differences in textures.
Depending on the woman, I hear that there's nothing like a finger in each, and a tongue on top! If that's what she likes? I'm more than happy to oblige!
There's just so many "other" great things that you can do while down there, to stimulate and excite her.
And if/when she cums......I love it when she squeezes my head with her thighs! | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 9/26/2008 8:52:35 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^
holy self-promotion postings! :)
sound slike you are EVERY WOMAN's DREAM "CUM" true..
"almost" makes one wonder why you have to be on POF ? | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:26:19 PM | This is an old thread, I know, but I'm bringing it back.
they just haven't gotten it right, if they *hate* it, IMO
so annoying. Hating it doesn't mean it hasn't been done right. Might mean they actually hate it. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:31:23 PM | Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
Its been a LONG, LONG time,...
since I've even had the pleasure of giving Oral Sex.
So,...Who Knows,......as good as I thought I used to be,.......I might of,..."Forgot",..how to do it proper !
Thats ,...Exactly,......WHY........You Ladies,....MUST,.....guide us in the right direction !
A little help, as far as "Encouragement",...and "OH YEAH BABY,...THATS IT !"
GOES A LONG WAY,.....LOL | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:31:06 PM | | I am one who hates receiving it! I'm learning as I go though that you have to at least give it a chance. First, I couldn't have an orgasm then I let myself go and was able to. Then I learned how to squirt. Next I wouldn't ever play with myself but I did and now love it. Then I couldn't see myself being another woman and I tried it and liked it. Now...I guess, whether I want to or not, I have to let myself receive oral and hopefully will learn to like it. But as of right now, I don't. | |
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bsg789
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/18/2009 7:34:09 PM | | I don't hate receiving oral. But I like giving oral sex better. I just really enjoy the feeling of having a man's 'package' in my mouth. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2009 12:16:14 PM | Here we go,.....
i agree with bsg789 lol and esp younger ones mmmmmmmmmm
If a man your age, were to say that statement,...we would be called "Dirty Old Men",
"Perverts" and such,..and we would be looked down upon, shamed.
I know you didnt state any age group,...but in general,...it can be taken the wrong way.
We see lots of grown men and women, thats obviously with someone that much younger then themselves,..and its seen as if its OK,...if its a younger male, in the company of an older female,........
But turn the tables around,.....and gawd forbide,...its an outrage.
Myself,....Im used to it,......I have to practicaly ignore these younger Ladies thats in their 20's,..or so,..that have a fancy for older men.
It was fun once, but I've got to the point where I perfer someone close to my own age.
At least with someone close to my own age, when it come to Oral Sex,...I dont have to "Teach" or give "Instructions",...I feel we should both be able to do it to each other, without being worried about our performance, or if we live up to the other persons expectations.
If anyone has a brain about them, they can tell when they are pleasing their Partner,
or if their not,......and Im not above asking if there is a certain way my partner enjoys it best,.....
One Lady, always loved for me to have an Ice Cube in my mouth, when I went down on her.
Different strokes for different folks......all in all,....I used to ENJOY, very much. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2009 12:48:45 PM | | xxxxSquirtxxxxx in other words, you know how to find the G spot and what to do with it. Maybe you could give lessons. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2009 1:05:34 PM | I know its true as I hear some of my male friends and lovers complain about it. I think its a shame if a woman cannot enjoy it because it is so pleasuarable. I consider myself very fortunate that I have had some very orally gifted lovers. Some of them just couldn't wait to go down on me because they loved it so much. And who cares whether or not you orgasm from it?? I love a good orgasm as much as anyone but sometimes I think we get way too hung up on it. There is so much more to sex than just having an orgasm!!! | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2009 3:42:18 PM | My opinion!!!! These women for sure had someone that did not take pride in what they were doing or did not enjoy doing it..... But for those that claim not to like it for sure don't know what their missing.. I for one love it and if a man does not go down south then I will have to pass... I aims to please with the one I am with and expect the same in return and I must be pretty good because I have never received any complaints from previous partners... NOPE! Never!!!
(By the way I am considered a southern belle  Taco Belle that is  )
Going South ROCKS!!!   | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2009 10:09:48 PM | | My ex-wife didn't want it. She almost always stopped me if I started heading south. I pretty much forgot what it tasted like, what it felt like to slide my tongue across a clit, etc. The new GF likes it. I also like it. I can't figure out the ex's attitude. I guess that's one reason she is the ex. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2009 11:48:24 PM | | My ex would not allow me to give her oral, and it was a huge sore point for me. I actually think it was a bit of a deal breaker. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2009 11:52:56 PM | | I don't hate it but I am one that would rather give it than receive it too. I don't get much out of it. It's no just my current bf, because I've had several LTR. It feels nice but I wouldn't say it feels fabulous. There are other things that feel way better. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/20/2009 12:49:15 AM | I personally don't understand a woman that doesn't enjoy oral sex.
I do have a friend that has the theory that it is gross because it is the same spot as urine comes from. I have had this conversation with her multiple times, explaining that as long as she keeps herself clean, she will be amazed at the feeling and the sexual "doors" that will open for her. She still will not allow it. I am very close with her husband and he has been there for our conversations a few times and he loves her to death, but just wants to experience it with her. He enjoys it and wants to please her every way possible.
I don't understand the lack of desire for it. For me it is the number one sexual pleasure that I enjoy. It is amazing, especially when your partner is willing to work with you and accept contructive critisism..such as a little harder, softer..etc....
For me it has been a favorite since I was younger, which brings back a fond memory...of course sex was not allowed at home so my bf and I had what we called the sex blanket and we kept it in his trunk and I would sneak it around the side of my house, into the laundry room door, wash it and have it ready to go back into his car...those were the days...that blanket got plenty of use, and the majority of it came from him performing oral, to the point where a towel joined the blanket  
The body is such a natural creation, enjoy every aspect of it sexually as long as you possibly can take it.
For those woman that don't enjoy it, relax, take time let your partner explore...maybe try it a little at a time...I repeat relax...the more you open up to it the closer you might find yourself becoming to your lover....
Happy Munching 
and maybe  if your lucky ;=) | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/20/2009 3:24:07 AM | Ok this once came up in a class I was taking.
The professor said that it comes down to a few items which have an impact.
1. Some women become oversensitive and Oral stimulation can overload the brain and can cause the pain/pleasure centers to flipflop.
2. Psycological Modesty Complex. Not understanding this coompletely but.. in some cases a woman or even a man has had it wired into them over and over agian that this act is just wrong/unclean. Therefore they just do not enjoy it.
3. Power. and this goes both ways as well. Why do some women enjoy giving head to men.. because (acording to the professor) it is the amount of control that the women exerts on the man that gives her the pleasure not the act itself. This control has 2 factors. Pleasure and fear of pain (chomp chomp) that she has over a man while performing. Now in the reverse, some women do not enjoy the reversal of this, or the loss of power that is percieved.
make sense?
sorry its late and my ability to spell went to bed an hour ago. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/20/2009 3:33:33 AM | More importanly, why do some women hate giving oral? :)
Personally, I prefer oral, petting, kissing, etc. to straight up banging. I'm all for a good ****, but I think the other aspects of sex can be way more fufilling overall. When I go down on a woman and make her cum to a point that she's a quivering mess that you can't even touch because she's just electric from multiple orgasms, I've done my job. Most ot the times, a lay never seems to satisfy her in remotely the same way. So if she doesn't like oral, it's her loss really, she's missing out. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/24/2009 11:18:12 AM | | The ones I have, have always liked it. You reallyhave to know how to give it to them - so they can really enjoy it! If not, they will just have a bad experience from it. | |
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| Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 3/24/2009 12:47:23 PM | | I myself have never enjoyed it EVER. I think the problem might be the way the guy is doing it. They always just go right for the clit. I know what sounds good to me but not sure if I would love it or not. In my head a lil sucking and nibblin sounds like it would be pleasurable. I guess time will tell. So far I have hated every experience. | |
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