| | I need help PLEASEPage 5 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | well missie glad to hear you are ok. did he get all of his stuff out of your house? how will you ever know if he's gone for good? that is so sad that you can't even feel safe in your own home. wish you all the best. hope everything works out for you. i'll be praying for you. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 2:31:42 PM | | well missie glad to hear you are ok. did he get all of his stuff out of your house? how will you ever know if he's gone for good? that is so sad that you can't even feel safe in your own home. wish you all the best. hope everything works out for you. i'll be praying for you. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 6:16:53 AM | | thank you. I really appreciate it. I have only been to the house once and from what I noticed his stuff was gone. But I really didnt have time to walk around and look for everything. But eventually I will feel safe in my home again and I will be able to go home. Cant wait for that day | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 8:55:58 AM | | GET OUT, GET AWAY, DON"T WAIT. GO. NOW. THIS VERY MINUTE. I am very serious. Don't wait to see what will happen, don't. Follow your instinct that is telling you to leave. You will end up a statistic. And if your not careful it will be domestic violence that ends in murder. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 10:11:15 AM | | Marilynised...whatever made you think of that? If I were a man I'd be wary of a woman who would damage herself in order to frame him.In most cases(not all) if a woman wants out..she can get out. I recently found myself in another country in a pretty scary situation and pretty sure I was facing violence if I tried to leave.It's a long story.But I made up my mind that I was getting out alive.I took my ID and my debit card from my wallet and hid it in my vehicle..I took my car key off my key chain and kept it on my person.The rest..my clothes..my toiletries...luggage was replacable.I had to rely on my wits.I got out.Throw his crap out..change the locks...change your number...adopt an adult rotti..keep his loaded gun...tell him to consider himself evicted...most important cut off all contact..no don't talk to him about it...no don't sleep with him one more time for old times sake...no you can't be friends... | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 11:06:25 AM | | People, read the thread before commenting. The OP left. She just posted an update about how she is doing right above your posts. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 11:16:33 AM | oops...I know I want a roomate and all, but girls...take some time to get to know if your dating a psyco or normal, loving person.
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Posted: 1/20/2006 11:49:10 AM |
well I am still away from him and he is leaving me alone now. I have not heard from him in almost 2 weeks. So I think that he has taken the hint and went his own way. I am still not going home though. No until I am sure that he is gone and not comin back. So I think things are starting to look up now. Just wanted to give you all an update on how things are.
I'm glad you got out. However, you should be aware that women are at risk for up to a year after they've left an abusive situation. I'd still get that restraining order, just in case. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 1:49:32 PM | | It is better to walk out on 2 legs than to be carried to the grave by 12.---Seen it before | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 1:59:30 PM | i would get away from that deranged idiot we do no need another casualty/ just get away before it is too late .it will get worse if you stay .you are too precious to be in a environment like that .call your parents or your friends they will help you. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 12:37:51 PM | | Hmmmmm, A year later, and your profile says you are married. Hopefully, not to "him". | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 3:25:41 PM | Missie,
You have small children in the home, take the kids and get out. Screw everything else. Your FIRST responsiblity is to protect the kids.
Sorry, posted that before I saw the update. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 5:20:28 PM | | I am thinking there were problems if you are on a dating site. This is not the place for advice as each state has different laws. The shelter hotline and services are only good when utilized as instructed. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 6:11:21 PM | | yes, install a mini camera into multiple parts of your house, make sure it's hidden, move into a friends house for the time being, take only the most important things with you, material items can always be replaced. have all the legal paperwork in ready for him for when he gets home on the table or fridge and your not there. eviction notice and all the goodies. if he damages any of your things it's on camera, if he physically hurts you then it's on camera, the only way is to make him be without you, change your schedule, you should stay with friends he doesn't know if he knows them all rent out a room and board for a couple of weeks, meanwhile have new friends check on the house on a daily basis, hire a private investagotor or a personal security company to watch your house and look for any suspicious behaviour. this will be expensive but it will work men are idiots and they make us good guys look terrible. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 6:26:33 PM | Like some of the post advised. Pack your bags and get out.
Until they get him out of there or put him away,
There are womens shelters out there ,as well as victims services.
Don't talk to him or let him sweet talk you into going back. No one wants to live their life in fear, believe me I've been there.
Your life is more important than any material things, those things can be replaced
No use going to the Cops they aren't going to do anything until he uses that gun on you, | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 10:57:33 PM | | start what ever due process to get him out (whether it is through the cops or a lawyer) and until then you get out ... | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 11:07:05 PM | | im confused are you dating or living together? if you are living together give him the 30 day notice and find someplace else to stay until then. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 12:01:59 AM | It's a TERRORIST THREAT for a BF to take out a gun in front of you and load it.
It's a threat to kill.
I'd file a report and a restraining order, and ask the cops to take him the F*CK out of there.
I'm sure they would. I would if I was a cop.    | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 9:48:14 AM | | friend you need to repoet this to the police so they can have a record. i once helped with a female self defense class and most women did not report the kinds of incidents and that is why they continue. after that go to a friends or relatives house for safety. take some self defense classes so you will be able to handle yourself with confidence. also when you go around him take some male friends or brothers. most men that do those things to women will be less likely to try something when other men are with ya. next time if you can do a little research on the man you mess with so you can be safe friend. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 10:15:06 AM | | If the gun is still in the house,,,unload it,,,find the other bullets and get rid of them,,,,go to a lawyer and get a restraining order,,,,once that is done, the police must remove him from the house,,,,and dont make it a same order put a large distance with it,,,,,if you listen to the cops,,,they will end up doing your murder investigation,,,,,you need action done now,,,,,,you are dealing with a loose cannon,,,,, | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 10:36:25 AM | | YOU need to leave. Give him his notice, phone a trusted friend or family member to see if you can stay there, inform the police of what you are doing and why...then go stay somewhere else for the 30 days until he is gone! Even if you have to leave your stuff (which always sucks), it is better than something permanent happening to YOU. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2007 8:00:23 PM | UPDATE: I have been away from him for almost a year. He has not bothered me in over 5 months. So Everything is going good now. I have ran into him a few times and nothing ever comes of it. I think everything is ok.
Just so everyone knows, I did contact the police and shelters and everything. I had posted that on this thread, No one would help me. Everyone told me that there was nothing they could do. So I figured it out alone.I do understand that this is not the best place to ask for this kind of advice. But when you have tried everything else, I thought I could at least get other ppls opinions on what they thought about the situation. And I really want to Thank everyone that helped me through this, whether it was advice or talking me through things. Thank you all so much! | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 3:30:22 PM | You sure do need help. If you aren't gone already, then you are wasting time with this forum.  get the picture, get pissed and get out. stop making the excuses and stop excepting them, get out, get out, get out. Oh and if you are thinking about your things, try this, screw the things save your life. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 4:19:41 PM | OP I'm wondering where this violent attitude came from? Did you know that he had it before only he didn't direct it at you? I know that some women like violent men. Why did he pull out the gun? Did you tell him to get out or did you tell him that you would have friends remove him? You can't step on a man like thats ego without bringing out the violence. The story about the police telling you there is nothing that they can do doesn't sound right. Did you tell them about the gun? Does he have friends on the police department? I know in California if you file a restraining order they take all guns into their custody until it is over with. They tell the man or woman that they cannot have a gun in there possesion as long as the restraining order is in effect.
Whatever the reasons I agree with everyone else that you should leave and stay gone until he is removed from your home. I also agree with the girl that said that this really isn't the place to be going for help with this problem. If the woman's shelter doesn't return your calls, call everyone in the phone book under woman's aid topics until you find someone that can help you. If worst comes to worst most churches will help someone in trouble but you have to open your mouth and ask for help first. The bottom line is that we can't do much for you accept make suggestions and I think that this situation has gone beyond the suggestion stage. GET HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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