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Posted: 1/27/2005 3:24:45 AM | I think if any of them had answered it would of been to say thoughts are one thing, actions are another!!! 
and theyd also tell you to start supporting a decent football team!!
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Posted: 1/27/2005 9:22:38 AM | | to steve, you are married and have a profile up on a dating site, doesn't that say it all. No there is nothing wrong with flirting, but there is something wrong when your looking to meet someone for a drink if they are the right one. That tells me you want to cheat on your wife because your bored. The whole thing about mid life crisis is totally transparent crap and a bad excuse to try and make yourself feel better because you know you are being a dick. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2005 9:31:21 AM | | Gee thats funny soul but in an earlier post you said no flirting if you are married and I said it was okay to flirt, that would be a disagreement don'tcha think? | |
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Posted: 1/27/2005 12:09:32 PM | Married and Flirting... well like others have posted.. If in fact you are hitched and flirting is your other half doing it ?.. Are SURE you are JUST flirting ?... Does the person you are flirting with know you are married ?...Does your better half do the same as you ? What if the single person you are flirting with takes it a little more then just flirting.. Do you allow him/her to indulge more ?..
Ok lemme bend ya ear and tell ya what I think... I just feel since this is mainly a " singles" site and you are married you might wanna ask you inner self this.. " Darn its bad enough I might hurt my better half much less a single one that is looking for REAL love "
Its wrong ! Personally I despise it ! Makes who ever is married cheap/looser type DOG 
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Posted: 1/28/2005 6:50:30 PM | Steve, if you truly love your wife, you will want her to feel secure in the relationship. No one is going to feel all that secure if their spouse is flirting with another person. One post ask if you would be ok if your wife was doing the same thing.
Here is the real problem with flirting. I'm sure you would never cheat on your wife. However, the first step to cheating is flirting. You are 41 and you still have "it"! Yippee! Then, one day, you meet someone who really isn't being fulfilled in her relationship. She isn't getting the respect and attention that she needs. You give it to her. Sparks fly as you are both needing something more. You are actually saying by your flirting that you wife just doesn't measure up.
Next thing you know, you are in an affair. You could get the other person pregnant, catch STD's, but the worst thing that can happen is you get caught. Your trust is gone! Your wife might choose to get even. Or, your wife may just file for divorce! Then you kids will be calling another man "daddy". You have to pay child support and alimony. I could keep on adding to the list of what could happen. Perhaps the worst thing is that you have to look at a fool in the mirror every morning.
Steve, I found out the hard way. My friend, it all started with a flirt. It wasn't worth it! I lost my family, lost everything that I owned, lost the respect of many friends, lost my daughter's respect. But the hardest thing for me is knowing I committed adultery. There is no undoing that! A bell rung can never be unrung. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2005 6:18:34 AM | I guess when u put it like that...then yeah...its dangerous...
But i'm not into the chat,etc for that...just wanna have contact with other women/people...
If u wanna know the truth.....she cheated on me 2 years ago....i forgave....and we carry on. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2005 7:39:00 AM | I have read the replies to this with interest:::where do you draw the line if a woman talks to a man in a bar for instance and there are people she knows there well word gets round she was talking to a man and it wasnt her hubby/partner thats how the gossip starts, i found out the hard way my ex did cheat on me big time he even phoned me to tell me what he was donig with his other women,it scars you mentally and physically how i would love to find that special man who could make me smile again. if you have a wife/hubby i cant see anything wrong with talking to another member of the opposite sex but if it offends ur partner then dont do it, if you value ur relationship think before u act | |
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Posted: 2/3/2005 4:01:08 PM | You know....I don't mind when my partner flirts. It brings out the best in her. Rosy cheeks, girlish delight and a swish of the hips. FLirt away!!!
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Posted: 2/3/2005 4:40:04 PM | | I'm all for flirting, both for me and my wife. We we both great flirts before we met, at that's what attracted us to each other. If I go out, or she does, we always ask if we had a good flirt. There is a line to cross, but a d*mned good flirt does not involve crossing the line. Flirting does not lead to sex, the same way smoking a joint does not lead to heroin. They are two seperate things, if you flirt for the pure enjoyment of flirting the go for your life, if your flirting to get someone into bed, then that's NOT flirting, that's seduction. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2005 1:40:53 AM | | Steve....Are you sure you aren`t lookin` to get even with your wife for her cheating???? redneckgirl | |
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Posted: 2/12/2005 1:25:32 PM | | well not sure i should answer this but i am in a long term relationship and my partner and i are very much inlove but its seems to me that u ppl are very closed minded and are not up to trying new experinces.I and my husband are very flirty ppl and we are both sexual ppl and if sex happens to fall in with the flirting then so be it its sex no love no respect and no attachment. my heart soul and everything i am belongs to him but my god sex is just what it is sex. I would hope that ppl are very secure in there relationship and that u can tell the diff between having sex and flirting to u are my life and make love................. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2005 3:49:55 PM | | ermm....................wat can i say..except....up tou...but not 4 me..xx | |
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Posted: 2/14/2005 4:47:12 PM | Wow! First time in the forum, well actually found this site in the last hour and sent a few friendly emails, because I am just a social butteryfly.
Do want to come to Steve's defense a bit. Am shocked how many women swore at him and his message and you do not know the guy. I have flirted all my life and by that, if I see a pretty girl, I will tell her just that - she is pretty. Hell, I will beep at a chick when riding my Hog even with my wife on back! I just think pretty women are one of many gifts from God....
Bells- as I said in my email - you crack me up. You also are quite social I see - ESPECIALLY since what got me to this thread was the "OVER 30" and you are 22?? Cracks me up...
Hi to all btw, I am from the Ann Arbor area in Michigan but currently in an academy killing time in Lansing till I make my nightly phone call back to my LOVING wife at 8pm... | |
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Posted: 2/14/2005 10:19:29 PM | In Europe .... they are not as conservative as we are here in N.A. In France, at a man's funeral the wife, and girl friends will often sit together. I personally believe that our "belief system" is what tells us what is okay or not. Our society has been geared towards a one:one marrage. But, fact is people do have a need / want to mate with others. So, where is the truth? We are pulled in one direction yet we wish to go another. Something to consider.
Mac ;-) | |
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Posted: 2/14/2005 10:21:19 PM | But, flirting for what it is simply is a way to exchange a little positive energy between people. That, in itself, can not be bad ;-)
Mac | |
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Posted: 2/15/2005 1:39:52 PM | Well, for my first post, I would like to add my 2 cents...
First, if you are a naturally friendly person, then it probably isn't flirting, however, a basic rule should be; "would this conversation make my wife uncomfortable, or if she heard a tape of this conversation would she be upset?"
If the answer is yes, then you have crossed the line. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2005 9:12:56 AM | Well Steve, being married myself I think I can relate to what you're saying. I think it's a shame that some of the responses here are pretty high schoolish. My husband and I are flirts, always have been.
I think that if you and your partner know each other well and trust each other then there isn't a thing wrong with flirting. If it's done out of any other thing other than just a friendly exchange, then something is wrong with the marriage and I would say to take a look at yourself and be honest with yourself and your spouse.
My husband and I both think flirting is actually a natural thing to do in any type of exchange. And with both sexes. No, I'm not bi-sexual and neither is my husband. But social flirting is an ok thing to do.
To say that flirting leads to affairs isn't really true either. I have a friend that is one of my best friends for over 20 years now. A male friend from high school. He's married, I'm married, we all know each other and are friends. And yes, we flirt. All of us do but that's the extent of it because we know who we are to each other. Flirting _is_ only flirting.
As in another post here that I read, when flirting crosses the line.. that's "seduction" and not flirting. I agree totally with that. I find nothing wrong with flirting or being friends with a person of the opposite sex. Just because I have my life partner doesn't mean that I can no longer be friends with other men. And the same goes for my husband, he has friends that are women.
And just for the moral police, yes my husband knows I'm on this site and knows why I'm here. Even though it's really none of your business. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2005 11:45:07 AM | I never flirt with women in any kind of relationship: why?
Because it's not worth my time! What should come out of it? Cheating, a fight with her man?
And they are being selfish, in my opinion, talk about having your cake and eating it too!
I never flirt when I am involved with a woman, just a smile, but nothing more! Good manners are enough. I have an interest in my mate, why would I need to f#ck around? | |
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Posted: 2/17/2005 12:35:42 PM | I agree flirting is ok but there are two kinds of flirts
natural flirt, they don't really realize what they are doing, smiles etc....some might see this as flirting to them its natural..
then there are the hands on flirts....rubbing arms, etc...these are suggestive actions, that can lead to more and if your in a relationship that is not acceptable...
flirting like some do on here is ok, but if you see that one person seems to be getting more and more in depth, time to back away....do whats right for your relationship.... | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 9:58:36 AM | Women and men Flirt all day long even if you don't like to admit it. Why do women spend so much on make-up products? Why do men live in the gym?
I find it funny that husband and wives get all dolled up in the morning, put on the "smell good" just to go parade around others for 8-10 hours, get home, scrub all the make-up off and put on their PJ's.
If you are not trying to impress the opposite sex then why go through all the trouble with the foundation, eye liner, lip liner etc.
Please don't say it's for the job either because you don't have to don on tight fitting dress pants, low laying shirts with 3 inches of cleavage exposed...
Perfume sprayed over the bossoms, the wrist, below the ears on the neck...every place where a man considers erotic...I say FLIRT away | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 3:33:28 PM | | With me I won't leave the house without makeup and yep I smell good...but honestly it's in the scent my husband loves. Yea married, been seperated and we're working towards getting back together. My husband loves Poison and Vanilla Body Spray ...shoot he likes scented deoderant etc. I like to spray my perfume on before heading out and kissing him goodbye...and it teases him....I'm one of those flirts that's just me. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 8:22:56 PM | you're cruel, spirit!
if you're married, it's still ok to flirt verbally, and maybe through actions - altho that's pushing it, and physical contact is definitely over the line. Hands off the property of another - nad if u r married, then you belong to your spouse, nad they belong to you, so think about how you would react if they did something similar...
JM2C
Ps being 30.5 qualifies me for this forum, yes? or do I have to be 31? LOL | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 1:11:40 AM | I'm married and flirt all the time...even when I was happily married (now separated). I like to make others feel good aboout themselves and a smile brings out the flowers like Poping corn in the micro...it does take time but when it catches on look out...lol | |
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