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Posted: 1/24/2006 4:00:20 AM | Hey there.... billstv
How old is you'r kid/baby? mine's not born yet lol and it dont even let me sleep yet, can't wait to see him/her when they get here and be a mom to him/her i will love this baby no matter what happend's in my life. Or no matter who try's come in and take him/her away from me nothing will make me stop loveing him/her no matter what people say/do. And i'm sure when him/her is born as soon as his/her daddy take's one look at him/her he'll fall head over hill's as well. No matter what his family is trying to do to us nobody can come between the love of a mother,child,father. The doctor's think's its going to be a boy and i just prey when i have this baby that nothing goes wrong and nobody try's take him away from me or my (soon be husband.) Right now he's in ouactia correctional center over an no insurance no open container and an weapon (just say) he brought w/him, for protection when his boss had him working late one night in a bad part of town down here. He's trying get released on recodence so he can be here for me and the baby and help us out and pay his court appointed lawyer. if he can not get out he's looking to 15-20year's in that place.
And what his family is still putting us threw is messed up and it's more like playing childish game's with, us and they are GROWN UPs just like we are and the rest of us are. I just don't wan't to loose him over some bs his mamma is trying get stired up.
Read my story on this same post, because i posted what has happend from Day 1-now.
That'll give you/yall better outlook on whats going on. I'm supposely 7month's pregnant and the last time the doctor told me, i was 5months pregnant almost 6. I do NOT think the doctor's in this state/city know what they are talking about. I'm from Louisiana. WM.
But best of luck to you all on this site, with whatever come's yall's way i wish you luck. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:12:32 AM | | Wow! I wish my son was lucky enough to have a father like you, we go through your same experiences... | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 8:58:42 AM | | no I think its great that there are people like you.. I know what your talking about men scared of single mothers.. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 9:14:20 AM | | Check the date of the OP. It's 2005. Don't even think that he is responding on here anymore. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 4:17:00 PM | | I think it is a very attractive aspect for a father to be raising their children. Shows you what kind of man he is. I think you will find a lot of women feel this way. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 4:28:21 PM | I can't imagine why? That's a sign of a great man in my book. My brother has majority custody of his kids and they are very well adjusted happy kids. Their mom is a bit of a flake and has been involved in some weird stuff so she doesn't usually even want her kids.
I would never think of that as a bad thing. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 5:37:20 PM | | I agree single dads are great to date.....kudos to you for stepping up to the plate for your son, he'll never forget you for it!! It says alot about a man that can say kind things about your childs mom, even though you may be thinking otherwise. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 2:17:25 AM | I personally think that to a single woman with no kids , a man with them would just be seen as baggage. women already with there own children seem to be more accepting.
I have a daughter and through the yrs some gf's have accepted it but the majority had a problem bout it. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 2:44:26 PM | personally I would prefer a guy who has kids. I am 40 now, and due to a youth full of lofty career aspirations, and a medical condition in my 30s I find myself without kids, yet wanting this in my life.
I have found that men who have kids understand what responsibility is....and I'll tell you that's a NICE CHANGE!! The only thing I struggle with is that they usually don't have as much time......but with patience, compassion and a lot of understanding, I've found that single dad's make the most amazing dates!! :) | |
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Posted: 11/2/2008 11:32:48 AM | | thats true.. I'm a single mother and my son's father choosed not to have anything to do with my son.. its not like I tryed.. we broked up way before he was born.. he tryed to control my life and he was mental and social abousative to me so i'm kinda glad that he isn't but like you said child need there daddys.. I should know that one like many other women and men have come from broken homes.. my son needs more then what a women can provide him at times.. i'm doing the best that I can.. and its not like i'm letting every guy I date try to be daddy.. at least right off and if they don't want to then thats fine but to date me comes with the package.. not to sound meen but I have a son and I need to look out for him too.. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 10:00:07 AM | I will go you step farther. Yes, if given the opportunity a boy is going to lean towards wanting to spend more time with his dad, good or bad. Hopefully good. Yes, moms can raise boys successfully, but unless they are men they have no idea how we are built on the inside. If a boy has a dad in the picture, not matter how the mom feels unless the dad is abusive, moms need to encourage dad to spend more time. Mom may not like dad but if dad is willing then let it be.
Again if put in the situation moms can raise a son and vice-versa a dad can raise a daughter, but do we really understand what makes a girl tick, no! Haven't been there or done that. Our kids did not choose to be our kids we chose them.
Moms shoube be looking for mentors for there boys and dads for their girls if the other parent is not an option.
I have my three boys more than my ex because she is not available as much, and she left. I am very thankful though that I have boys, as a single dad because I understand them.
I never date while the boys are with me, ever. They are the first priority. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 1:06:21 PM | Well My Brother , I am going to back you 100%
I too am a single father , and I have been raising My 10yr old son By Myself , No Help for the past 9yrs , I seperated from his mother ( who was only a gf ) and I took son to live with Me. I refused to be a Weekend Dad , I felt that since I brought him into this world that it was My responsibility to raise him as a father should. and I DO agree that only a Father can raise his son to be a Man in this world. I had no father in My life and My mom raised Me and I feel that I could and probley would have ended up better if I had had a father in My life.
Now Im not saying that Moms cant be good parents , they can without a doubt or question ... but to say you raise your son to be a Man maybe with some but doubtful with alot of you , sorry.
I tried very hard with My ex to even get her to See her son, she did for like the first month then after that NOTHING! she totally whiped herself out of her own sons life. Her Choice Too , I wasnt mean to her when she came over , I didnt start fights or arguements , however she just felt that apparantly her son was better off with Me and she chose to remeove herself from the picture, she stopped comming over , she didnt call or write or anything. How can someone do that to their own child , just erase themselves from their existance ( without dying ).
How can a Mom not be a Mother to her own child ?? I cant make her see her son, I cant make her call him , I cant make her remember his birthday or xmas , I cant make her be a mother to her own child , and she chose this .. it was all her choice and decision.
She gets involved with another guy that has two kids and she can play mom to them , but not her own son, how ****ed up is that.
I dont see any support either , I get My disability and thats it and its just enough to survive for the two of us.
I didnt mean to really post this but I saw your vent posts and felt that I had to as well , Ive grown quite bitter towards people who claim us to be Dead Beat Dads , or just Weekend Dads , there are those of Us that Take Care Of Our Responsibilities and Our Children and We do Ok without a Mom in the picture, its Hard and its Tough but We can get through it just as a Single Mother can. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 1:12:35 PM | Sarge
I hear ya loud and clear , I dont know if I would be as an effective parent if I had a daughter , how the hell am I supposed to explain that " monthly occurance" or other women things that normally a Mom would teach her daughter, what do an Internet search and try to not sound like a total idiot when explaining. Yeah I think I would go out and hunt down a mother or get My own for that sort of thing , and Boys to worry about when she gets to be a teen OMG!! I would think that I would have to take out a shotgun for every boy she brought home to introduce to Me just so that they knew better than to mess with My daughter .. Id be pretty hated for that by her Im sure.
So yeah Im glad that I have a son and it is ALOT easier for Me to raise him, sorry ladies its not personal its just a Guy Thing , Mano to Mano .. Father and Son | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 7:10:44 PM | | I personally think it's great to see a mna with custody of his children. And if a woman doesn't appreciate that your children are a part of your life, then she obviously isn't right for you. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 10:08:39 PM | | Ya I dont blame you, same happens to me with my lil girls dad.. Now as far as woman being afraid of the packet.. Not as much as men from my point of my view I used to have a lot of girlfriends who would date guys w/kids but my guy friends would always think twice about it.. Me... Hmmm if he seems like a good guy ill take my chances. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 10:15:02 PM | | From experience the guys who have their kids, are great dads, better then some females... And we have that natural thing to us.. But ya single dads out there who are doing a good job keep doing it.. Your kid will love u for it later, and just remember its not your fault the mother chooses what she choose. My ex is like that w/my daughter he doesnt call her for her bday, Christmas, holidays nothing, like she doesnt exist and it makes me soooo mad.. Shes a wonderful kid.. But hey its life, its ok. | |
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