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| | Why a virgin?Page 13 of 19 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19) | | OK OK OK I would like add to this post I thought men would go crazy for a woman who is still a virgin but I was wrong men want a porn star in the bed room half of the men on this site said so but I think virgins are better wanna know why cuz no HIV no STD's safe! ok thats all I have to say! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2006 7:31:41 AM | Hey all.
Interesting posts. I was a virgin myself until recently. I lost my virginity to a stupid ideot. I like this particular guy for 2 yrs. I have feelings for him, and I dont even know him a whole lot. Anway, he came to St. John's to study paramedicine, and he msged me. I went over and we 'fooled' around. Anway, we enevr spoke for a while, then almost 3 weeks ago, I went over and he took my virginity. I feel like crap now. I am taking a drug to help me feel better though.
My advice, people who want to remain a virgin, dont let anyone pressure you. You will know when the time is right. Make it sepcial! Do it so that afterwards you dont have the 'should, woulda, coulda' feelings, or feelings of self-doubt like I now have/had.
Take care all. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2006 10:20:07 PM | | Did it ever occur to you ladies that ones you sleep with somebody,you are not the same,but the guy is.And the first time you say o.k. i guess to a looser(you know what I mean)you also say no to any desent guy forever good luck with bar hoping though.Cheers! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 6:49:14 AM | OK let me ask what are men looking for a porn star in the bedroom or a virgin?  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 8:09:09 AM | WoW still and 10men at 35 keep up the good work . if that is true then take your self as a gem as that is very rare | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 8:51:19 AM | Can i still be a virgin with kids?
shh leave me alone its my dream | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 9:00:37 AM | "OK let me ask what are men looking for a porn star in the bedroom or a virgin?"
I prefer the virgin. Not to say that I would only date a virgin but I prefer a woman with more to offer than sex. If both men and women remained virgins untill marriage and sex outside of marriage was looked down upon socialy as it used to be marriages would stand a much better chance of lasting. Sex is only one small part of human existance yet is given so much play it cheapens it. Our society has become so self serving and so many people think nothing of using others simply for their own gratification that the elements of trust, loyalty and commitment are rare. In fact they are so rare that when one does find them they are suspicious and question if they are for real or just conning with what they think you want to hear. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 9:19:21 AM | Maybe some prefer virgins because they (themselves) are terrible in bed? The virgin wouldn't even KNOW thier S.O. sucks at sex....they would have no one to compare them to!! LMAO...just a thought. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 9:52:39 AM | | doesnt matter to me but i wont sleep with someone unless i love them | |
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dcx10
| | Joined: 9/13/2005
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| Why a virgin?
Posted: 5/17/2006 11:10:09 PM | I would only marry a virgin. Yes I am terrible in bed.  | |
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Posted: 6/17/2006 9:24:45 PM | Why men are looking for a porn star?
Well there are many reasons. If you are experienced, you might encounter someone who isn't going to be into the same things you are. It sucks being in a relationship with someone who isn't compatible. Yes, a person can learn to do things but if it's not what they like doing, it will show in their attitude and performance.
You also might find out that you aren't physically compatible. Size and style. Based on experience, you can find that you just don't fit well and another issue might simply be conflicting styles. One partner may want things really fast and hard and the other might want to take their time and just enjoy the experience. Those are just big issues you can't talk out, you just have to find out.
The final issue might be frequency. One partner is looking for sex on a weekly basis because they are satisified with once a week and their partner is more of a four times a week person.
Couple many of these issues together and you have a sexually incompatible relationship. If you find out early on by actually doing the deed, you know if you are at least in the ballpark. Variety is the spice of life and while some folks can be satisified with the same things over and over again, years later when you say, 'hey, how about we do this' and you get the 'are you out of your mind' look it's not going to be fun.
If you have the 'pornstar', you know you have the skills, experience, and frequency to satisfy and you aren't likely to get any 'surprises' like 'oh, I only did that while we were dating because I thought you liked it'.
Having been in relationships that didn't work out due to sex issues, I wouldn't date a virgin. You might invest a lot of time into a relationship only to find out that it's not going to work due to compatibility. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2006 1:11:37 AM |
OK OK OK I would like add to this post I thought men would go crazy for a woman who is still a virgin but I was wrong men want a porn star in the bed room half of the men on this site said so but I think virgins are better wanna know why cuz no HIV no STD's safe! ok thats all I have to say! ... OK let me ask what are men looking for a porn star in the bedroom or a virgin? - sweet_baby_girl_1976
This may surprise you, but there is a wide gamut of experiences between the girl who's never had vaginal sex, and the woman getting gang-banged in a quadruple-penetration orgy with 500 guys lined up down the block for sloppy seconds.
To answer your question, I don't care how many sexual partners a woman has had, because there is absolutely no way of verifying whether or not she's telling you the truth. Maybe she CLAIMS to be a virgin, but you know, I've been told stranger lies. Do you think I'm going to whip off the condom, because hey! She's a virgin? Do you think I'd feel safer?
Hell no. As a matter of fact, at my age, I'd be more suspicious. Why hasn't someone had a serious relationship before now? What's up with that?
I'm not inclined to be someone's training wheels, and I don't find the thought of popping someone's cherry to be sexually interesting, or give me a feeling of potency or manliness. I'd probably be more inclined to tell someone, "Go get some experience, and then we'll come back and talk." | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 8:18:02 PM | Hi Everyone, I'm basically new to this site and I've never posted on any of the forums yet, but this one caught my eye and I had to give a response.
I'm 21 and I'm a virgin, so what. Would you like to know why?
I am still a virgin at 21 because I never wanted to sleep around and lose it to someone who didn't mean anything to me and who I would just rather like to forget. No other reason.
It's your choice, your life. If someone doesn't like it and gives you flack for it, screw them, you aren't alive to make them happy, let them go elsewhere if they are that superficial.
For those who have the idea that all virgins are "innocent", "naive", or "clingy", you've got another thing coming to you. Some of us virgins know a thing or two and are just as horny as the rest of the non-virgins and could teach the non-virgins a thing or two.
My friends, the ones who have sex all the time, come to ME for advice and information because I know more than they do. Virginity does not equal ignorance or complete innocence. That idea is completely outdated.
I'm not saying virgins are better than non-virgins or vice versa. I would date a virgin and I would also date a non-virgin. It really makes no difference to me whatsoever.
Anyways, that's what I had to say, I couldn't pass up the chance to say what was on my mind. Take care everyone. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 8:21:13 PM | | Virgin or pornstar? Are those our only choices? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 8:31:34 PM | Let me direct you all to the following news article. Virginity is overrated. Let's explore!!
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/gate/archive/2006/05/12/notes051206.DTL | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 8:34:17 PM |
What is the deal with men wanting to be married to a virgin ?
It's not that big a deal.... just a psychological bonus. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 9:35:50 PM | guys who want to marry a virgin should build a time machine and go back to the 50's
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Posted: 6/24/2006 7:44:39 AM | alot of guys want a virgin but then again not to many girls that are lol
a virgin to some are the holy grail and guys relish the fact that they took it
FACT MOST WOMEN BY THE AGE THEY GET MARRIED HAVE A AVERAGE OF 26 SEXUAL PARTNERS have you seen girls gone wild typical girl mind set these days now i know alot of girls don't cosider them selves like that but go to any local bar set like ybor city in tampa florida see the debauchery the hoes and you wonder where all the virgins go
THEY ARE FU*KING EVERY JERK WITH A PRETTY FACE THEY SEE also see about every rap video there is about money then see above text | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 1:08:18 PM |
alot of guys want a virgin but then again not to many girls that are lol
I was just curious...... of ALL these men hunting a virgin female..... How many of them would be virgins themselves?
And to the males who believe ALL women should remain virgins until they marry... while its not a requirement for men.... who would that leave for the men to F**K if women waited? Each other?
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Posted: 7/31/2006 1:19:27 PM | | Um, that's a no for me, don't really care so as long as the woman enjoys who I am. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 7:52:34 PM | | Im a virgin myself and im 39 and i would love to meet a fellow virgin. There, u satisfied? | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 9:35:30 PM | To the OP:-
Quite frankly, when I read your post, I was stunned that someone could be such a (Insert appropriate swear-words here)-head! You are sooo much better off without a so-called-man like that! I am glad you walked from him, he obviously didn't deserve you, and with that attitude, I hope he doesn't land anyone else either! Good on you girl!
Now, I am sorry about any reactions my post may be about to cause, I don't actually intend to insult anyone, but I really do find (From my personal prospective) the majority of posts in this topic extremly shallow! The only time that I have heard talk in a vein simular to this is in the Army, and it generally wasn't about marrying a virgin... (And if you don't know what army talk is like, just think REAL crass! Then double it!! heheh)
I can honestly say that I don't personally know a single person that thinks like many of the posters here are proclaiming. Are so many of you people honestly saying that if you found your soul mate, dream woman, whatever you want to call it, but then found out that she wasn't a virgin, then you would call it off????? SERIOUSLY?????? I'm sorry, but I find that sort of close-mindedness a little worrying. Is it just me or so many of you on here think that it is soooo important for the woman to remain "pure" but the guy can do whatever he wants, as much as he wants?
I was a virgin until I was 22, and got a lot of hassle in the army from the other guys (And some of the girls too for that matter), but I didn't care, I hadn't found anyone that I wanted to be with like that.
As far as I am concerned, it doesn't matter! What I feel for her and she feels for me is all that does! (And to the poster way near the start, a person's history is totally different to encouraging your partner to be a whore). If someone behaves like a tramp and is going with everything with a pulse then I wouldn't be interested, NOT because she isn't a virgin, but for the (Possible radical) thought that she would not have any respect for me if she has been with half the city, why would I be any different. There is a great difference between someone who falls on their back at the drop of a hat (wallet, drink, whatever) and someone who has been in a relationship that for some reason, just didn't work. It doesn't make her (Or HIM for that matter! Come on guys, get your heads out of the stone age) any less of a person, or worth less than anyone else. It's something that happened, and quite frankly some of the attitudes on this particular topic seem positively ancient.
Now, I am probably going to get a fair bit of stick for this post, but so be it.
You've put forward your opinions, and that's just what I am doing too.
Also, I admit I am only about half-way through all the posts, but I am just staggered by some of the comments here.
*grin* And quite frankly, it's been ages since I've been flamed, so carry on! heheh
(Oh yeah, once again, sorry for the length of my posts. I seem to get a little carried away!) | |
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pdhma
| | Joined: 8/11/2006
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Posted: 8/15/2006 7:57:09 PM | You are right about the hypocrisy about the virgin issues. I'm really sorry to hear that your fiancée was so insensitive and cruel to you.
I think I can imagine how you must have felt.
I'm an over 30 male virgin. The natural assumption that women are making (even as they read this sentence) is, "What's wrong with him?". Nothing is wrong with me. My looks are good enough and so is my personality. Some women have told me I'm good looking, some said I'm OK, and some said I'm better than OK. I know my looks are at least OK, and maybe better. I'm a virgin because of choices I've made in the past, including having turned down some offers.
I think I can relate to your hurt.
Recently I was very much in like with a woman. We talked about lots of things, including love and sex. We were going to go out of town on a week long vacation and enjoy each other's company and be sexually intimate.
However, I thought I should tell her I am a virgin before we got intimate. So I told her. She came unglued and swore a blue streak.
Part of what shocked her is being a virgin at my age. The rest of her shock was that'd we'd been discussing sex a lot and she never had a clue that I'm a virgin. Well, at my age, I've had plenty of time to think about it and learn (book learning anyway). Also, I do have prior successful hands on experience making out with a girl minus our clothes. So I know a few things and have a lot of ideas about other things I'd like to try.
Anyhow, after I told her I was a virgin she flipped out, swore, etc. I'd never heard her swear before. Suddenly she no longer wanted me. She didn't even like me anymore. She canceled our vacation together. I was so hurt that I don't have the words to describe it here.
I think that pain I felt and still feel is much like what you must have felt. Like you were stabbed in the heart by someone you really cared for. There is no pain like being hurt by someone you care for deeply. That's because your guard is down and they have a free shot - a free emotional sucker punch.
A few days later she started calling, emailing, texting, etc. She wanted to make sure I'm OK, wanted to make up. I wouldn't take her calls. I wouldn't return any of her messages. My pain partly turned to anger over time. Her prior guy had cheated on her. I wouldn't do that. I'm now having a difficult time finding sympathy for the way other men have treated her. I don't care anymore. I want to forget I ever knew her.
Is that the type of emotional pain your fiancé inflicted on you? I imagine so. I'm so sorry. You deserve better than him. He isn't good enough or kind enough for you.
Whatever your level of sexual experience, it does not determine your value as a woman, or as a human being. Just be glad that you didn't marry that jerk. That's the silver lining right there. Now you can find someone kinder and more considerate, someone who will treat you like you deserve. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 8:22:01 PM | | under 10 over 10, who cares! As long as she isnt a whore and treats you well. Hey can I take you fishing sometime? | |
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Posted: 8/17/2006 5:33:15 AM | "Hi...my name is Buster Hymen...."
A virgin...SHEESH!...Other than the constellation Virgo...where are you even going FIND a virgin? | |
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