| Seperated and dating
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:19:52 AM | My friened who took him only a WEEK to get a divorce, is always wondering what the "Hold up" is with the people who have been seperated for 2 years.
And it only cost him like a 200 bucks? I think/ Maybe even less
I mean, he didn't have kids, but I figured, even with KIDS it wouldn't take forever.
I know one woman, a bartender, now she ddid NOT have kids...she just moved to the other side of the country, NEVER actually divorced him, just left his arse.....
I've seen people on here, there's this one woman in my area (attractive too, but a little wacked), been on this site forever..is listed as "Seperated"
But she says in her profile, "Dont worry, there' sno chance of me and my EX EVER getting back together!!" | |
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| Seperated and dating
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:47:29 AM | | As a Christian, I struggled with the fact that God hates divorce. I came to the realization that he also hated the fact that I was hurting. Which did He hate worse???? The bible also states, that (paraphrase) we are to respect authority, and the state laws concerning divorce, are an authority. If we are to respect authority and abide by the laws of the state, you are still married until the state says you are not. I was separated for 4 years, I know how hard being on the fence (so to speak) is, in a limbo situation. Best of everything to all of you that are going thru this sad, confusing time. I searched my heart during that time, and did right for me. I alone, in the end, had to live with myself and my decisions. I certainly cannot and wont tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do in their situations. | |
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| Seperated and dating
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:24:50 PM | | Dating a separated person is a waste of time & exposes your psyche to really being badly hurt. Why would anyone do that when there are so many truly single people out there. Life is complicated enough without stacking the deck against you like that. That is going to be a high drama scenerio no matter what. Go on to the next meet &/or date. | |
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| Seperated and dating
Posted: 4/24/2008 11:58:33 AM | | I left my husband after I caught him cheating but it took me five more years to get the divorce cause he left state. The state he went to doesnt believe in no contest divorce. I would have filed alot sooner if he had stayed here in california | |
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| Seperated and dating
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:56:42 PM | But if a woman is sleeping with someone else you risk STI's and possibly AIDS.
If the woman is away from home then its unlikely the man is going without and could be visiting prostitutes or local scrubbers.
Sex, these days, is a very dangerous game.
I got caught out a few years back and have never really been right since.
And that was from sex with a regular girlfriend who hadnt cheated ! | |
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| Seperated and dating
Posted: 4/24/2008 1:42:30 PM | interesting:
I have to say I have been on both sides of this coin. I dated as a seperated woman and I have had a spose date while seperated from me. I for one was really ticked when I became aware that he not only dated but moved in with the woman only weeks after our seperation. I will add that the relationships I was in while seperated left me very empty. As the guy would get closer I would instinctively pull away, after all I am NOT EVEN single yet! The bomb of being "the one" while in that situation or getting the "L-Bomb" left me with the longing to get my running shoes on in a rapid manner! I think people need time to deal with the issue of divorce. Not to say that a good friendship or relationship with good understanding of that can not be of benefit. Can one honestly to find "the one" while still dealing with the current "one.' It sure does take away the sting and hurt of going through a divorce but I also think it bringsd all the BS from that person's other relationship in with it. I will add that having a 3rd party involved in a divorce is the most toxic thing a person can do, not to mention expensive. as the new woman feels the need to pull on the puppet strings it leaves the two that most likly could deal with eachother in good terms fighting with the need for someone else rto feel secure in a new relationship. --UNREAL! | |
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