| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 6/10/2006 11:18:56 PM | when it happened my to me a few years ago, everyone told me to:
a) do the person and move on
b) do someone else and move on
I didn't do either and I wish I listened to my friends | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 2:54:57 PM | | LOL hey i know that feeling belive me, Theres not much to do but wait it out, It bites but what r u going to do | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 2:58:55 PM | hobbies what ever they are  focus on them  that and your profession should keep these desires whether mentally or phsycally at bay  stay active and keep yourself honest | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:08:14 PM | | To the teacher...you slept with him twice in two weeks and got nothing...think you are in the wrong bed then..find another one with a much nicer/hornier guy.. your a sexy lady | |
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Joined: 9/2/2006
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:13:16 PM | Take up a hobby!!!......Like me for instance.....started to knit and knit and knit and knit.......now the d@mn scarf can reach around the world 2 times over!!!!!!........ | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:20:22 PM | I just thought I'd take a moment to say that the redhead and I have sex 5 or 6 times a week even after a year of dating. (Admittedly, once or twice a day is a bit of a stepdown for us, since we used to be able to empty a 32-box of condoms in a 36 hour period, although if you count oral as sex, the number of times probably almost doubles.)
Muhahahahahahahaha!!!!!!
(You may all shoot me now.) | |
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Joined: 9/2/2006
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:28:01 PM |  What has that got to do with this thread??????........Talk about bragging!!!!!!......And you know what they say about people who brag about their sex life don't you!!!!????????...........LMAO!!!!!!........Surprised you have the time to type and read the forums!!!!!!! | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:34:03 PM |
What has that got to do with this thread??????........Talk about bragging!!!!!!......And you know what they say about people who brag about their sex life don't you!!!!????????...........LMAO!!!!!!........Surprised you have the time to type and read the forums!!!!!!! - jo~
I'm just exercising my cruel streak.
I don't know what they say about people who brag. I probably wouldn't have believed me, either, before this relationship. It's just nice - being someone with a high sex drive - to finally find someone compatible who can keep up.
And oh, the chemistry! It's a new experience for both of us.
I was going to say something about understanding people's pain, and all that jazz, and then Mr. Hyde took over, and I started laughing maniacally, and flames started leaping up around my keyboard. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:43:47 PM | I could be Samantha from sex in the city and I will give you really good advise:
Everybody wants, everbody needs, this is the cyber era....prove your mature...emotionally and sexually! I can't ever imagine wanting someone as bad as they want me! Learn to laugh hysterically at the crazy things you do...and realize he'll be enjoying this for a lifetime if it was fun and eccentric! Crazy or psycho is not good....and any hot girl must never chase her mark! Ha Ha...I'll take shit for that one I'm sure....anyway young apprentice....stay cool....wait it out is right...break every one of those fingers if you have too..never, and I mean ever let him see you as vulnerable....it works....never been disappointed....and I get men, it looks like you do too.
Lots of Luck | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/11/2006 3:44:48 AM | Hi
It has taken me along time to even understand what I wanted and needed.
Is wanting some so bad it is an obsesssion? Is that healthy?
Surely if we are healthy people we should be able to fullfill our own needs and wants?
If we then meet soem one we share what we have?
We learn to be equals yet remain as individuals?
There is emotional and sexual needs and wants yet is only what we are about?
Surley there is a deeper quality than that in all of us?
If the only thing we have to offer another person is just sex we are selling ourself short?
Sex in the measure of a relationship takes only a small part of our time.
What about the other 23 hours a day what else do we have to offer other people?
How many people marry thinking that will fulffill all their needs and the issues of the past will fade away?
As we grow, we change, hopefully we grow closer together?
How honest are we willing to be?
As we learn to trust each other so much our fears fade, we get to know each other so well.
You even get to read the person so you understand what state of mind therre are in.
So many people get confused that talking is communication in a relationship.
Communication is far deper than that, it is getting across the way you feel, sharing your self.
Ladies often expect more than a man can offer her, at an emotional level.
My wife explained ot me once that by her sharing she just wanted me to lsiten. Not to fix.
That is hard for a man? It is also hard to understand?
Yet if you love some one you will not own hear what they ay but also listen.
At 60 years old I am able show my son how much I love him and give him a big hug.
I just woke up from a nightmare where I was tracking down my wife.
I was filled with so much pain and fear that I literally lost it completely.
I became a threat to myself and to every one around me.
I was willing to burn a house down I was that bad?
I understand logically that I love her more than any other time in my life.
But I only want her back if she wants to be wth me. It is not about what I want?
35 marriage and I am on my own. Do I want pitty? No.
Yet what is it we want and what is it we need?
Do we fully appreciate if we are ready for commitment?
And able to give ourself completeley unconditonal?
That means being with out fear or pain and confident in who we are and what it is we have to offer?
Only when we love our self can we trully love some one else?
Yet not be obsessive about it?
Is not affection nurturing?
Are we trully ready to commit ourself?
Regards
Dave | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/11/2006 10:49:28 AM | | lol tell me about it , lol has the same problem . I just keep hoping the days go faster , and for the most part they do, But theres been days were its been so bad lol. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/11/2006 10:57:24 AM | Hola mi amigo's,
I understand how you guys feel....I have had a harsh experience of wanting someone so bad and knowing that I couldn't get them because of stupid reasons....It's bad that you know why more than not knowing....Not knowing is less painful....Hence the saying
"The more you know, the worse it can be" but that obviously doesn't apply to everything
Anyway, if anyone is going through that situation...Trust me...I am a proveb fact of everything will eventually feel much better.
Jt | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/11/2006 11:42:31 AM | | Find an open minded sex partner. I had a girlfriend that would do anything for my in bead. Ya she is gone now oh well.. She new how bad I wanted Angelina Jolie. So for my b-day one year. She dressed up like Angelina (tomb raider style) and had her sex scene playing in the back ground. Then just let me have my way with her. Funny thing she looked damn close head on to Angelina too. Only thing off was the breast size. lol. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 12:05:31 PM | | I have met someone who is a great friend and knows that I am going thru some stuff in my life but as I continue to talk to this person I am becoming more reliant upon her. I like her a lot and am scared that it is just a fisical need. I have been single now for 10 months or so and I mean alone. and I do not like it. I miss that person in my arms and I always end up thinking of this person. She is truelly a friend and I will always want her to be. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 1:29:01 PM | Wow are u fine, can we get married in the bedroom right now????!!!!     | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/11/2006 9:29:06 PM | Hi
Parting with some one who you are really close to can be very painful.
It often feels like a part of you is missing when they go.
Yet why should some thing so perfect to one person be so painful?
Is it abandonment? Feeling rejected? Or the fact you have trusted so much you feel brtrayed?
The sad fact you very emotionally vulnerable.
You are unable to deal with the pain and the simple things in life.
Some even feel that love ahs been torn away from you?
Is it the nurturing of each you enjoyed so much?
That with some one so close you felt secure in your self?
But do we really need another person to feel secure?
Are we not able to nurture ourself?
In loving soem one else are we not able to love ourself more?
For what ever reason for parting it is painful.
The walls of fear go up, trust levels are reduced, and the pain never seems to go away.
Yet we need to face our fears and pain if we are going to trully love again?
Love should not be the end all of it? It should not be obsessive.
Yet we should if we are up to it be able to share ourself with every one once we are able to learn to trust again.
By facing our vulnerability by facing our fears we learn tolove again.
Who knows when we are ready?
Caution is required as we do not want to hurt our self or anther person again?
But for me I am a better person having been in love for sure.
I would no be who I am today if it did not happen.
Regards
Dave | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 9:46:30 PM | | yeh ive wanted someone so bad... hmm a crush i guess..... Havent had the person... just a really strong desire i guess..... | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 9:55:37 PM | wow, that's a tough one..............i was married for not quite 4 yrs with my 2nd husband, had a boyfriend for 2 years, and now i've been sleeping single in a double bed for going on 1 1/2 years
during the day when i'm not working i clean the entire trailer, do yardwork, or go to the store and buy lumber to build something...............at night, what can i do? i just hope that some special comes to visit me like he said he would like to. if not, all i can do is.... | |
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Posted: 10/12/2006 3:19:35 AM | Hello Dave,
i was deeply touched by what you shared in the forum,was going to write
you but it was written you were not excepting mail from out of the country.
It would had been nice to have a new friend to write to.
Sad to say i have never experience real love.
Not the type everyone is talking about on here.
Look forward to having an adventure when the right man comes along.
Pat | |
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Posted: 10/12/2006 8:24:26 AM | I suppose, I've been there once or twice in my past and Bill Withers with "Ain't no sunshine when he's gone ... only darkness everyday ... was helping my  But a part of maturing and being a mature person is also a recognition that one cannot have everything one wants or wishes soooo badly. The way I see your scenario is:
1. while dwelling on why / because / if ... you only torment yourself and do yourself harm with nothing constructive coming out of it;
2. leave your "den" and engage your body in some physical work or exercise and in this way let frustration and pain leave your system. Friends with patient ears and wide shoulders could prove friends indeed. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2006 8:35:56 AM | Wanting someone so bad....
... it's like being sick. You've got no choice in whether you want to be sick or not -- you just are. It's something to be got through. Let the fever run it's course.
You long to hear their voice. Will the phone to ring. Wish that all that 'other' email would stop choking your inbox so that they can get to you. Stop at something on shelf and remember a moment.
Every moment is an escalation of that longing. Every day is a dim hope of seeing them or hearing their voice. There are those crushing moments of fear and revelation that you may never hear from or of them again. The desparate moments which bring you to the edge of tolerance.
The waiting and longing and hoping and wanting are conditions of the heart and soul. Sometimes for lovers and friends of our past. Sometimes for the longing of that touch or look or smile that promises blossoming love.
Want - need - have -- three irreconcilable consequences of the conditon of the human heart.
Understand them does not change them.
Knowing them does not help you identify them.
Want is that emotion that resides in the domain outside reason and logic. It just is. Primal and raw and wild. Wanting is that state of being that dissolves judgement and reason.
You spend your moments - doing things - making life normal - occupying the hands and mind. Want does not abate because you busy mind or body, it is a riptide of feelings and thoughts in constant motion just below the surface. In those quite moments when all else is still, want is there percolating back to the surface.
Wanting someone so bad ... resides in the state of recollection or anticipitation. It just is. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2006 10:49:35 AM | | Never wanted anyone that bad. Too many out there to choose from. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/12/2006 11:30:44 AM | Hi
Wanting or needing so some one so bad?
Frustration causes anger and people feel so helpless?
But serenity prayer tells us and guides us that we do not control other people?
The reason they left us only they understand? But do they?
Is it obsession? What it as healthy as we want to believe?
Was the relationship a two way street or were we the only one giving?
We often go into realtionships thinking that the past is rested?
How many times are we wrong about that one?
To understand how uch you love some one you need to be free of all fear and pain?
Is that possible? Did I love that person or was I besotted with them?
Did I see and feel myself as an equal to that person?
Is it healthy to see some one as they are not?
Do we need approval to love or be accepted by all people?
How much do we like and love ourself?
Once you let go of all fear and pain you can be your self?
Once you let go of all fear and pain you can love unconditionally.
Yet have boundaries. Boundaries built on peace not out of anger.
Are we able to say sorry that is not acceptable? Stop doing that or I you will leave?
Would I ask any one to do some thing I would not do myself?
People some times treat others better than they treat them selves is that healthy?
Is it just physical needs I need to fulfill today? Is that enough for me?
Are we willing to accept second best all our life?
Who I am? Is it the make up the shoes the suit, is it not what is inside that really matters?
When you offer your self is there reason to be cautious, most definately so.
People will say what you want to hear, but we al know that is not enough?
Do we want to lie to ourselves and to another what we are who we are?
Are we really fooling any body?
Those hard shells often have soft centers souls in them?
I do believe that when we got marreid my wife knew who I was deep down.
But she was able to see further than I thought.
Unfortunately I changed so much, more than she could have imagined.
I am who I am today, no deceptions worth woryying about.
I am the same person with nearly every one.
I do hope people will accept me for who I am today and not who I was.
I do affect people in a positive way today.
I try hard to leave people feeling better than I first them.
I have nothing to prove I am beyond all that.
I will treat all people with respect. I found that you always get back what you give out?
If you treat people with an attitude, you will get back an attitude?
Shirley told me before she left me that I still manipualte people in a positive way?
Now is that a bad thing or a good thing?
Maybe it is who I am?
So love or obesssion?
Healthy or unhealthy?
Only each one of us knows the answer to our realtionships with our self and the other person?
But is that what we want?
To look up to some one who is in fact just an equal to all and to us?
Are we not idolising people? Not seeing than as they are? Even maybe obsessive?
By putting every one on a petestal we are only belittling ourself?
Pain and fear fade once we face them.
What is it exactly what we want and need is our life today?
And are we healthy enough, ready for that commitment?
Regards
Dave | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/12/2006 11:50:00 AM | wanting someone so bad
Is: the longing for affection and attention, the craving of companionship, the desire for interaction with like minds and hearts. The attraction to fulfill a spiritual and social union propels people toward one and other in a search to find the complement to their own souls.
In not all cases is wanting someone a bad, negative or downcast fixation. By contrast, it is a calling toward a primal song that rings in our very being. It lifts our spirits and drives the imagination and most important it keeps alive hope. It is the human spirit reminding us of our evolutionary need for interaction with others.
The rawness of the emotion is alike to a visceral spasm. Though uncomfortable at times, it is not an unconstructive sensation. The kernel of those moments are a seminal part of human experience. They give rise to a result where companionship, love, affection, libido and spiritual fulfillment are fostered.
It's not always bad to find yourself wanting someone so bad. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/12/2006 12:17:58 PM | i never truly understood the intensity and essential need of the sense of touch...until it wasn't an option....longing for the slightest brush of skin on skin.........tortuously painfull at times...
what to do? ...embrace the passion...and make it so...nothing else satisfies.... | |
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