| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 10/12/2006 5:06:03 PM |
what to do? ...embrace the passion...and make it so...nothing else satisfies....
F*ckin 'A' LB......i'm with ya on that one, "make it f*cking so".....nothing more, nothing less. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/8/2009 4:45:20 AM | | Nothing you can do but turn your energy around to something else in your life- anything else. It will subside. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/8/2009 5:22:21 AM | I have wanted someone for 4 years. We play but there is never penetration. The time apart (can vary from one month to six months) just makes it more worthwhile when we are together.
If you can't get a grip then do as others have suggested, get a hobby, direct you energy elsewhere. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/19/2009 9:42:50 AM | Oh sweetie I feel you!! I believe the technical explanation is the wanting of something you cannot have makes it all the more intense. But that doesn't help, I know.
I have been corresponding with a guy in the navy who's been out to sea for the whole 3 months we've been chatting. I've only seen his picture and him mine, but we talk about how it feels when we see each other's emails, the anticipation of our first meeting, all that romantic, unrealistic stuff...We both know, logically we couldn't really be feeling the intensity that we do, but it's nice to fantasize about it. The mind plays funny tricks on the body you just have to be able to differentiate between hormones and reality....
Have you ever fantasized about someone for a long period of time then when the meeting happens, and sex if you're lucky, it turned out to be no big deal? Nothing like you anticipated?? Or it did but then it fades over time? That's reality and since it's not pretty or glamorous, we often ignore it.
Long story short, it happens and luckily it passes with time. I would focus on other things if you can or find someone else to occupy to your time. There is no harm in feeling those things and they can be pretty humbling, but don't make yourself miserable, it's not worth it in the end!! Good luck! | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:14:19 AM | I'm there now.. The only thing to do, OP is wait it out and it subsides......eventually.
It's no less painful then going cold turkey from drug withdraw.. because in effect it is a drug, right?...
That meteoric high you get when you meet someone whose image, invades your system, gets all under your skin and hits you hard... It generates that state of euphoric nirvana... 
Then you're strolling around with that trance-like grin on your mug..
Alas, when your "drug" is no longer avail.. sure you crash... crash hard.. and it lingers.. ugh
It sucks bigtime 
Time for a new drug
vvvvvv aww thanks hun... *Hugzzzzz* | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:27:17 AM | ^^^^^^^ I heart Sepia777's attitude!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wanting someone so bad
It sucks big time.
There comes a point when you just have to determine that you are worth more than scraps. Better to be single and unattached than attached to someone that doesn't seem to want you as much and won't spend the time with you.
Great point Motherbear.....It takes too damn long to get to that point though....Big SIGH.....
My question is why does the heart want what the heart wants....when it obviously so wrong for you? anyone, anyone...... | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/19/2009 5:07:59 PM | I will tell you how I handled it. I met a woman on another dating site and from her profile, I knew I had to meet her. So we dated for a while and we became intimate. She accused me of things that were not true and even when presented with proof, would not accept reality. She decided that we would be only friends, nothing more. Of course I was shattered for I loved her so much. She was a true game player and a master of manipulation and I realized that everything she accused me of was actually a reflection of HER. I finally asked her point blank if she was willing to work through our issues once and for all so we could go on and she said, "No." And this was in contrast to her profile where she said, "How to work at being a good partner and working through our differences. To always be loving and supportive no matter what."
Finally, I decided that I had enough and that I had to be true to myself, good to myself. It was 2009 and a new year, a new beginning. I told her to NEVER contact me again unless she was willing to work through our issues and press on towards a permanent relationship leading up to and including marriage. I am convinced now that I will never hear from her again. And as time went on, I realized that I was in love with the person I thought she was (based upon her profile) and the person I thought she could be. It took a while, but life goes on. And I am happier now that I had showed respect for myself. | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/19/2009 5:29:53 PM |
wanting someone so bad
ummm ya creepin a bit? coping mechanism, desperation, insecurity? take your pick
winding up in to a hissy fit isn't gonna have them eating out of your hand . Be patient and the more time that passes between live interaction with a psycho, the more nutsy the notes and messages become. "Hey, it's me" morphs into "I've called 12 times...where are you?" and finally "Pick up the phone or I swear I'm gonna boil the bunny."..ummm ya you get my drift!!!.....LATER!!! BU BYE!!!!
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 1/19/2009 5:50:07 PM | Yeah.......I'm wanting someone right now....
u just deal with it....
and sigh alot.....
and keep lots of batteries on hand! | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 4/13/2009 5:31:41 PM | if i were you, i'd get out and run several miles. i'd do it daily, if it's that intense. that kind of wanting needs to be in a good relationship and not lingering after a bad one. all i can assure you, at my age, is that several years later, you'll wonder what you saw in the person. it's a lot "biological" . gotta find ways to let off the steam and find the right person for you or you will evaporate from the boiling over. also try lots of dancing and working out.  | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 9/8/2009 9:43:11 AM | Hi
I have learned I do not stay any where I am not wanted.
Is what you feel love or an obsession?
Are you only hurting your self setting a goal for your self you can not reach?
Is it not time for you to move on to a healthy place in your life now?
Love
Dave | |
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| wanting someone so bad
Posted: 9/8/2009 10:15:07 AM | My guess is the OP who posted this back on January 1, 2006, managed to get the New Years loving by now. What a silly thread to bring back up.
Probably over the hangover from New Year's Eve as well. | |
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