| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 3:15:42 PM | | Montreal Man, you seem to have a good grasp of the female gender. Thumbs up to you and good luck in your search. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 3:32:06 PM | Nah...doesn't help in the slightest.  
Being raised by women helped me greatly there.
I even realized the same differences when talking to some gay friends. Even though they are homosexual, they have some important common traits with hetrosexuals. ( That's actually what started me thinking on all this.)
Talk to a young gay man, and you will find ( again not everyone) that their life is a mirror in a strange way of hetrosexual men. They young gay male will go to bathhouses and places where he can have sex with multiple partners. I met one guy that actually told me he had something like a dozen anonymous partners sometimes. ( I would find that repulsive even if he had of been hetrosexual)
When gay males grow older, and less attractive to the younger crowd, they tend to settle down. That seems to be very rare in a homosexual male starting out sexually.
Now talk to a young lesbian. Typically, they will tend to wind up with one partner. That might not last a long time, but I have yet to meet a lesbian who would have a dozen partners in a night.
So even when removed from a hetrosexual enviroment, those same traits show up. I find that rather interesting. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 4:00:42 PM | Well buffbomber...
I have to say its not a nice feeling to have to tell someone that you don't feel the same about them or the love is gone.... and I have had the experience myself once. Its very tough but the honesty paid off and we are still good friends even today.
No one wants to be in that position receiving or deliverying the message, but I think if you both talk and realize it isn't working -- like you say ----best to go your separate ways and work at starting anew... | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 4:05:06 PM | "He's Just Not That Into You ...
Men tell us what you do when you're just not that into us .. give us some examples. please? "
Ummmm.....just stop calling
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 8:20:48 PM | Wow stop calling.... ..........................now thats original..... tops my list of the 10 best ways to dump a girl you've been involved with long-term | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 8:29:46 PM | Very cute...patrickbeyond.... I love that.... and american guys luv us for our beer.... they just aren't that into us....
Its always good to get a giggle into these serious forums from time to time....luv it.... | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 9:01:32 PM | I would say when he stops calling, or doesn't make plans with you . He doesn't include you in his life basically . Time to move on. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 10:43:17 PM | hey maybe thats his version of an orgie...watching porn while having sex.... a guy can dream can't he....
still, I see your point.... might be a turn off or .... yeah, hes just not that in to you
But...the farther away he gets,,,,,the better you will feel | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 11:13:09 PM | | I loved the book and Greg Berendt's recent book (co-written with his wife) It's Called A Break-Up Because It's Broken is even better. There is humour which helps with the more difficult stuff. It sure helped me get my head out of my @$$ when I was making excuses for my ex while he mistreated me (which I allowed him to do-I am accountable). Another good book every woman should be given before her first date is Why Men Love ****es by Sherry Argov. These books are all about keeping your identity within a relationship. Many women lose sight of their common sense when they become smitten by a guy and even us smart girls can lose ourselves and give too much. Some guys do it too....but I guess they write the books for the chicks because we are the demographic that is more likely to buy and read the books. All I can say is that the books helped me...not for everyone I will admit, but definitely got me through some dark times.... | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/8/2006 11:23:18 PM | | Honesty and common sense....theoretically wonderful...but if these two things were utilized continually then nobody would need the books. People are not always honest and not everyone has common sense. Plain and simple. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/9/2006 12:44:07 AM | If he has to pop a couple of Viagras and 2 or 3 Cialis when he sees you naked.... he's not that into you..... | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/9/2006 8:05:42 AM | Hey dragonbabe20...
I agree, those books are all hilarious and sometimes helpful...take from them what you wish or don't read them... it is a free country..... and strong feelings for someone can certainly cloud your judgement, but no matter what, its tough to tell your heart what your head already knows...(but doesn't want to believe) | |
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Joani
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Joined: 10/10/2005
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/12/2006 5:12:07 PM | I am guessing when someone creates a forum it is because it is something that is of interest to them..If the rest of you who have a problem with that you should start your own forum...Like "have nothing to do with life other than try and make others look bad"
freedom of thought and speech...go pick on someone else!!!! LOL
and the "Why Men Love Bithces" book is wonderful!!!LOLOLOL | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 1:42:46 AM | | I own the book. It may be common sense but when your riding on emotions, common sense escapes you. It made me wake up and helped me to move on and walk away from the booty call of break up sex. I cherish that little book. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 11:07:02 AM | I bought this book a couple of weeks ago after hearing so many heated discussions about it.
After reading it, I related to so much of what the author was saying that it woke me up and made me realize how ridiculous I had been in the past by making excuses for someone else's behaviour! I wish I had it years ago, as it would probably have saved me alot of obsessing and heartache.
If a woman has to wonder or ask herself how a man is feeling about her, there's something missing. Sounds pretty simple, doesn't it. HA! Being of sound mind and body, I find it simple. That is, until I start dating, when all common sense seems to escape me.
I agree with you twilight, and cherish this book as well! Whenever I get into the space of losing perspective, I take this book out and read it. Good on ya for moving on and not settling for any less then the love and respect you deserve!
Hilarious, entertaining and very enlightening!
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FNUGLY
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Joined: 1/12/2006
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 11:31:05 AM | Chrissy is correct, studies have proven that men are better with their sense of direction and with mathematics while women are better at communication. On average women speak about 17000 words per day where men speak an average of 13000. This doesn't mean that men can't express themselves as well, it just means that women have an easier time doing it. Keep in mind of course that with every rule there are always exceptions.
If I am not into someone I generally just keep it friendly. If by the third date I don't make a move it's a pretty good sign. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 11:49:27 AM | | OK. Why are we guilty of wondering what men think of us when they say they love us, want to spend their lives with us, etc. Then ignore us. How are we to blame? The whole world has us thinking we have problems, books have been written, and still, when it gets down to it, men are just ignorant. If I'm not "into" a guy, I don't tell him I love him, I don't tell him I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Geez. Grow up men! You say things to a person, they believe and trust that what you are saying is true. We shouldn 't need a book to figure out what you mean. Just say it. Or don't say what isn't true. How hard is that? Sick and tired of men who hide behind lies. Then say we are stupid for not realizing they are lies. | |
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FNUGLY
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Joined: 1/12/2006
Msg: 100 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 11:59:00 AM | Hey Five Marie, is that what "men" do, or is that what a "man" did to you? What can be said about the people who take their personal experiences with a select few and categorize an entire species, such as man, without even considering that women do the same thing?
Statistically, did you know that more women lie than men and more women cheat than men? | |
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