| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:22:53 PM | | Trust me. If they are writing books for women about it, not just a few men are doing it. Never saw a book rise to the 10 top sellers about how to figure out women. And I always assume, wrongly, that most people realize that not all men do this. I am basing my opinion, which is just my opinion, on my personal experience, the forums, books, Dear Abby, etc. A lot of men, (not all), do this. I am just confused as to why they would deliberately hurt another person rather than just say the truth. Or shut up? . I would be interested in hearing where you got your statistics. Women cheat more? Are you now not doing what you accused me of? Categorizing:? Both men and women cheat. However, men seem to be worst when it comes to being honest. Just my opinion. Just my experiences. And judging by the posts on the forums, experiences many other women have experienced.I may have a hard time telling someone I don't want to date/be with them, but telling them I love them and will be with them tomorrow isn't the way I handle it. I know both men and women lie sometimes, seen both,but, again, men seem to avoid honesty at all cost. Some Men. There. Better? | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:25:45 PM | I say "I really Hate you and everyone like you, You are wasting oxygen you two faced hypocritical baby of a shivan born of a mother of 5 legs who smoked a pipe and did too much drugs blah blah blah"
no Just kidding...I dont waste THAT much time (only on forums)
Just say "NO"
If I am not into you and you need a reason. Here's a question...will you lick my...will you let me... will you...can you....Oh NO YOU CANT??? Oh Ok then, I dont like that you cant and you wont, BYE! | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:27:33 PM |
I would be interested in hearing where you got your statistics.
I think I might be interested to know where his stats came from also. Could it be he picked up the recent issue of "Bitter Bobs and The Women Who Cheated Them"? | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:27:51 PM | | Above post shows why I am in such a pissy mood, and ready to give up on the male species. Damn. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 107 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:38:17 PM |
The question behind that, Marie, is WHY do some men seem to avoid honesty?
Because women can't handle honesty. They can just dish it out. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:42:57 PM | | I prefer to be "handling" other things on a man rather than handling his "honesty". As they say on the movie sets.... SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH... ACTION!!! | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:43:09 PM | Arri, that's not true and we both know it.
I would much rather hear "I'm just not that into you.", then "He's just not that into you." | |
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FNUGLY
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Joined: 1/12/2006
Msg: 111 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:44:34 PM | Supply and demand. Books about 'men' are more abundant because there is a greater market for it, not because there are more scandelous men than women. If you look at the difference between magazines targeted towards women and the magazines targeted towards men and measure it up on a 'drama' scale how do you think they would compare? The number of articles written in complaint from women about men are certainly going to be more abundant because women are far more vocal about it...just look around you.
I don't see how national surveys could be misconstrued with a generalization on my part, but if it seemed that way I do apologize. I have a lot of faith in people and think the better of them, however I am aware that there are both men and women who don't measure up to each individuals expectations.
I will say that as we have previously discovered, women are better communicators than men and have an easier time expressing themselves. I know from personal experience it's hard to really talk about how I feel at times, opening up isn't a god given gift to everyone, it's a skill that everyone needs practice. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 112 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:44:55 PM | | It is a part of the sub culture ... there isn't a man out there who doesn't know that the answer to "Does my ass look big honey?" ... is NO .. unless he wishes to face the wrath of hell for eternity. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:50:47 PM | If I *ever* asked that question, then yes I would want the truth instead of you lying that it doesn't, and I go out in public looking like that. Again, I respect when someone tells me something I don't want to hear, because that in turn, means they respect ME enough to be honest. Your passive, lying by omission stance in relationships is appalling. So yeah I'm glad I took you off my 'list'.  | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 12:59:12 PM | "I will say that as we have previously discovered, women are better communicators than men and have an easier time expressing themselves. I know from personal experience it's hard to really talk about how I feel at times, opening up isn't a god given gift to everyone, it's a skill that everyone needs practice."
How do women get passed this fact that men are not as good at communicating? Or, how do we know the difference between not knowing how to communicate and not willing to communicate? | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 1:01:40 PM |
How do women get passed this fact that men are not as good at communicating? Or, how do we know the difference between not knowing how to communicate and not willing to communicate?
Grab another cold one and chalk it up to... there are some things you will never understand and cannot change. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 116 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 1:02:38 PM | | We are trained from childhood not to be mean to girls, girls are sensitive and be careful what you say. Then you come out and ask us to be selectively honest. It doesn't work that way ... | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 1:06:08 PM | Wondering what you mean by selectively honest...
Men are also sensitive...about different subjects. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 1:11:15 PM | | You can't figure this out?? They vanish into thin air. If you calling/looking for him all the time. . . they say if you stalk them enough they will give in from panic. Not for me, he's gonna have to show some interest with his actions or it is a waste of my time. | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 1:12:58 PM | | I have read that book.. I usaully think if a guy doenst want to have sex with me he is not that into me | |
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Kellyp
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Joined: 8/7/2005
Msg: 122 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 1/14/2006 9:31:37 PM | | I loved that book alot of it was true. Some people spend so much time trying to make it work, trying to change people, etc. but at the end of the day, if you need to change someone then maybe he/she is not the right person for you. If I am not happy I cut my losses and move on because wasted time is just time wasted. I loved when they wrote about "if I were into you you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day, which would be a day where I would never be to busy to call you" Thats awsome because its true. if someone really likes you and I mean really likes you, they want to get to know you, screw this I am going to wait five days b4 I call him/her, bc if someone waits that long to call me, chances are, i've already moved on. | |
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Joani
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Joined: 10/10/2005
Msg: 123 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 4/9/2006 10:38:02 AM | Kelly!!! You go girl!! I totally agree.
I hate that 5 day or 3 day wait..your right..move on..., the call is just a common respect ...
Pleasssseeeee how hard is it to pick up the phone, say "I was thinking of you", does that make them less of a man??? I say it makes them more of a man... | |
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| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 4/9/2006 10:52:40 AM | | I imagine a boat..you two are in it..it's a nice flow..everything is fine..the sun if shining..and everything is PERFECT...all of a sudden a storm comes up and the boat capsizes..he grabs onto you to keep from drowning..your being held under the water while he is getting air...someone drops a life preserver and HE grabs it and paddles alone..to the awaiting lifeguard boat...not looking back..not thinking of you..just making sure he is fine...once into the boat he is given a blanket and something warm to drink and tells the crew a tale of what happened to HIS boat and your left there in the water... waiting for the next life preserver.. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 125 | |
| He's Just Not That Into You ...
Posted: 4/9/2006 11:26:03 AM |
Then you come out and ask us to be selectively honest.
This is a myth about women. When I ask a man for his opinion, I want an honest answer. I then use that opinion as a reference point to determine my own truth. I may not always like the opinion a man gives, but I appreciate it.
I have no respect for a man who lies when asked for his opinion. That violates my trust and shows me that I cannot rely on him to be there when it counts. | |
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