| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 3/20/2006 2:03:17 PM | | Emma Goldman once said, "All lovers do well to leave the doors of their love wide open. When love can go and come without fear of meeting a watch-dog, jealousy will rarely take root because it will soon learn that where there are no locks and keys, there is no place for suspicion and distrust, two elements upon which jealousy thrives and prospers." | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 4:18:14 PM | | I would NEVER do that. People are entitled to their personal space, no matter what you suspect is going on. It's wrong, and if my significant other ever did it to me, there'd definately be a fight. | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 4:25:16 PM | | No It wouldnt happen ,, respect is what its called and i think that some things are private and unless you want that privacy breached why would you breach someone elses no matter who they are ,,,if there is no trust in your relationship then i dont think that you have a relationship do you ? | |
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jty98
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Joined: 1/3/2006
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 5/1/2006 4:52:36 PM | One thing that all people should know and fully understand......privacy on the internet does not exist, for somewhere, someone is reading and can read your email.
I do agree that trust and privacy are important in human relationships but honesty and faithfullness is required for it to work. | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 5/1/2006 4:56:07 PM | | I think if you have to question things too far..then you aren't ready to be in a comitted relationship. I have to agree with the OP though..if i saw such a thing? I'd be kinda worried...I don't think I'd let it bother me TOO much, but yes..I'd worry. Nature of the beast? Of course the depth of my worry would vary based on certain elements..like..do they have children together? A house unsold? etc.. | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 5/12/2006 5:56:43 PM | | never, no way, no how, under any circumstances. we've got each others passwords to everything online, but there's also mutual trust and respect. my girl has never accessed mine either. her ex read through these things last year and pulled some passive agressive/moral superiority bullshit, when she'd done nothing wrong and he repeatedly cheated. without asking for clarification, it would be easy to make false assumptions, especially when most of her contacts have always been from real life, sometimes sent inappropriate material or suggestions, which she set straight either in person or by phone. she never hacked his pc out of loyality and integrity; rather, he got busted cheating with his previous ex, among other females being juggled, and fessed up when his back was to the wall. the guilty are usually the mud-slingers as a means of trying to save face; talk about projection and denial. | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 5/12/2006 9:24:26 PM | I had an ex who continually checked my cell phone log and if he saw a number he didn't recognize he would call it and demand to know who the person was.
I usually ignored him until one day I was at his place and checked my email...needed to tinkle and went....came out and he was busted reading my stuff....I laughed it off but he was cheesed because I have the tendancies to call my friends "hun" "babe" "baby" etc. and my emails usually reflected my personality...easy going....laid back kinda gal.....
Anyways I just laughed it off and ignored him.....
One day while he was at the computer I watched him from the side ( I was cooking) and recorded his password...when he went to shower and came out I had his inbox wide open and on a page from a girl who had emailed him...I continued cooking....he was LIVID!!!!! I also made a point to check his phone and left messages for any girl's names I saw on his list and I told him straight up that I did that........He was white one minute.....then red...then blue....then green....it was like a rainbow coalition
Well I set the table up really nice.....got out some wine....shared his dinner on the table.....lit the candle......told him bon apetit...."we're done!" and walked out!
At first it was cute that he did that and I had nothing to hide....then it became something else.......dark.....definite control issues there......
I would lose the password and learn to start trusting someone...... | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 2/20/2007 9:41:10 AM | I did read my bf address book once to see if he put me in and what he put about me. After one year of being in love, ready to marry him on a drop of a dime...
Here it is in a nutshell, to read your lover's emails? Hmmm... well, it would depend on the curcumstances...
Was I just being nosey?
Was I insecure?
Perhaps just a girl in love and hoping to find something he wrote about me.. ? NOT
Well, I did find other womens names, numbers and ratings of them... So, I did further engage in my nosiness................. HE had an add in many dating sites with very nice pictures of himself. WOW!! To not read... that was the answer...
NOPE! I'm a girl!! I'm wondering at this statge what they looked like.. Who they are.
LONG story short he came home to no furniture, no electric and no more ME!
So, my answer is yes! READ if he has something to hide then your better off not being a statisitc... Divorce hurts worse ~~ | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 2/20/2007 9:56:13 AM | Well i myself had a very bad experience with this same thing. a guy i was dating..used my pc while i was at work..of course i trusted him, cause that's what your suppose to do, right?..well he read ALL conversations i've ever had on my msn..read my e-mails..and ended up putting that program on my pc as well that gave him access to ALL my passwords..we didn't end up working out..as i'm sure you can all guess why..so before he left..he changed all my passwords to everything and wiped out my c drive completely! formatted it!!..so needless to say..i don't give my password to ANYONE anymore!..trust issues..absolutely!!
if you do something like that to her...my god man..you'd be evil!
and i'm sorry ..once you experience something like that..trust is almost impossible to obtain again!..no matter how hard you try! | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 2/20/2007 3:47:05 PM | To finish the story ... I am a computer security IT professional. I have a keylogger on my computer that I can activate at any time via a hotkey. To make a long story short, I now have the password to her e-mail account ... though I have not logged in to read it.
What would you do ?
I can't beleive that you think this is somehow even imaginable. What you have just done is scuh an invasion of privace it borders on illegal. I almost thought it was a line from a book about a stalker you should be ashamed of yourself, i realize that i have not answered your question and the reason for that is because it is ludicras to even ask and i will not dignify it with a response. Never mind thinking about trust thats long gone with you two now and i can only hope she finds out and kicks you back to where you belong (out on the street with all the other freaks!) | |
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| How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ?
Posted: 2/20/2007 5:20:29 PM | Man if you'd of been my friend and told me that... I would have come over and opened it for ya!!!
Get goin dude stop being an ass and find out what the heck it says, the suspense is killing me!!!! | |
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