| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 1:02:20 AM | How many sites do you want to be on Rob ?
Stick to this free one if you do not want to pay.
Life is too short for you to start complaining about a dating site just because you havent met the woman of your dreams ! It's not their fault that you are single ! But they will make money from it of course ! Spend your energies elsewhere like joining a salsa club where you can actually interract with humans and not cyber mates ! | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 1:08:45 AM | | I am guessing scamming doesnt exist where you come from and every scam is caused by a Nigerian, very broadminded you are " latintango" | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:52:18 AM | I remember when practically all the dating sites -- LoveAOL, Yahoo Personals, American Singles, etc -- were free. Then some bright bean counters realized how much money could be made by charging people for the opportunity to interact with each other and off to the races they went. At first they didn't gouge and still offered a lot of free components, like non-paying members able to respond to paying ones, but over time they eliminated pretty much everything. I have a Match profile but not a paid member (which means you can do literally nothing), so it's hidden. Maybe I'm waiting for the day when it will go back to what it was, but I doubt that horse will ride again...lol.
Btw, notice my space and facebook are free, but with just a little tweaking they could be presented as dating sites, too....wonder when they'll go pay? 
Just enjoy and appreciate sites like these because you'll miss them when they go away. And for those that bitch at POF because it didn't provide them with relationship happiness they think they deserve, don't let the door hit you on the way out. | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:47:38 AM | I still use match and there's a feature to forward profiles to friends. There have been people in the past few years successful with match.com and some were even getting married.
I think that paying a dating site sounds like prostitution. I met some girls on match.com. I was writing to one girl for a few weeks and the point of us not hooking up is when we stopped writing to each other since we weren't meant to hook up. | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:27:56 AM | Hey hun just to say dont ever subsribe to them!
I did and have had big trouble with them.
I signed for the 6 month trial and if u dont suceed you get 6 months free!
Well........ 6 months and nothing, had 19 messaged in total in 6 months no meets, no man that matched what i was looking for and they dont tell you but set up an automatic subscription renewel! So they took £50 to start with then 3 days befor xmas another £50 without my saying so! I rung them next day and they would only refund £30.
So i'm at a £20 loss, met noone and still fuming from the cheek of them!
So word of warning to anyone thinking of joining Match.com beware, its not what it seems atall and you will get conned! They dont inform you when your near to the end of your subscription, and dont make it easily accessable to be able to cancel without being conned, you'll know when you see your bank statement, thats what i did!
Stick to the fishies!
Sarah
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:37:22 AM | altho its irritating with Match.com ..they arent free.
I dont think you have a complaint because they want you to subscribe....if POF or another FREE dating site did that, it would be different. and they dont guarantee you will get a date.
But, you pay for what you get, so stop complaining. Its not free. | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:49:41 PM | well I have no luck with match as a matter of fact a lot of contact I had were spammers
alot of bots and people trying to get money off of you and yes match yahoo and evene harmony want money off both sides to reply to messages, and a few other new many to mention.  | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 5:10:57 PM | | Well, I think that is jsut awful to trick people like that. Jdate does the same thing. YOu make a profile and you can;t contact anyone and both parties ahve to pay to contact one another. POF is the best ddating site ever becuase its 100% free to both make a profile and contact eachother and you can even Instant message eachothers with webcams and microphones for a video conference. I jsut with POF had mroe members. The mainstream sites hould take a que from POF and pay for their site with advertising. OR POF should advertise more on social networking sites and advertise that it is not only 100% free to sue but 100% free to contact other members as well. I love the forums great place to chat it up and hear otehr people's experiences. | |
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| Match.com and others
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:36:10 PM | Hey hippe. match.com is really good too. easy to keep track when people email you.
if you both are members . you can get around their email changing system by doing this
hippe at yahoo dot com (no spaces)
they do that other thing to protect you or her from having to use your real email address to contact people until you are ready or she is ready to divulge .. you or course can give your phone too
this way someone you don't want does not get your email if you don't want them too
their system reconized hippe@yahoo.com and converts the @aol.com addresses but not if you space it out
Joel
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| Match.com and others
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:15:02 PM | | Match.com have a free three days membership. You can join and contact who you want for three days free. Just make sure you sign up under the three days free and cancel within the three days. I have been a paid customer on match for six months. Since I didn't find anybody to my liking they did gave me the next six months for free. There are some rules you must follow to get it though. Read the info. Since it is free I am keeping my profile on for now. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 7:17:53 PM | Mrs. Jan, you are also a woman and women get preferential treatment. Just like POF there are 1000 men for every woman searching.
The woman has and always will have the advantage...
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 8:01:04 PM | Hey all,
I'm amazed to see this thread is still going strong long after I left it :-)
I'm back because a couple of people just emailed me offering to contact that Match.com member for me, so I'd better give an update!
I did manage to contact her and met her once, but didn't really click. Ha, oh well. Not to worry though as I have just started seeing someone, so we'll see how that goes.
An answer to chali71:
> Stick to this free one if you do not want to pay.
Here in Australia, there are very few people on this or other free sites, so there's little chance of meeting someone here. I don't mind paying on respectable sites, and have done so before. Match.com is not such a site.
> Life is too short for you to start complaining about a dating site
> just because you havent met the woman of your dreams
Don't jump to conclusions. That's a weird connection to make. I'm happy to rave about RSVP (Australia only I think). I've had maybe 100 times more contact through that site than any other (and I signed up for a bunch).
> It's not their fault that you are single ! But they will make money from it of course
I never said it was their fault, but since you mention it, yes I think it would be match.com's fault that some people can't hook up. Their marketing strategy seems to be to make it as difficult as possible for people to contact each other through their site, thus keeping their customers single to make more money. Other sites like RSVP don't behave this way.
Match.com have changed since I first posted, unfortunately for the worse! Let's say you browse for free and see a profile for someone you like. You may pay in order to contact them. But what they don't make at all clear is that most likely you still won't be able to contact them, even after paying! This is because only other paid members can read emails or even see who has sent them an email, and I'm presuming that most "members" are unpaid. If people realised this, they'd never sign up because they'd realise that there's little chance their emails will be received. Other sites don't do this. At RSVP if you pay you can be sure of being able to contact someone if you like their profile, and I think most dating sites would be the same.
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 8:15:58 PM | The best way to have someone email you when you are the only paid member is be creative. I had a Yahoo account for a bit and the way I got a couple of people to contact me was to send many one word emails.
e.g.
first email
SOMEONE
second email
AT
third email
SOMEWHERE
fourth email
DOT
fifth email
COM
Only one word per email, they will see that the email is:
someone at somewhere dot com
and if they are really interested, sites like match and yahoo etc. only trap emails that have x@x.x type of words in the body and some are starting to trap the above single line x AT x DOT COM series spelled out.
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 8:49:42 PM | The responses you got are a long list of false accusations without merit. I am a repeated paying customer of Match. Think about it: Why would a pay site that is in it for the money ban some user when they are paying money? People get banned for being a psycho with problems.
The big site that deserves to be trashed is eharmony. They are run by hardcore right wing nut jobs that make no bones about banning homosexuals and anyone who doesn't live up to their code of acceptable christian morality as defined by the folks at Focus on the Family (that was from their own promotional material).
Match has a much better interface for managing searches and removing people from your searches. For a free site Plenty Of Fish is awesome but I still pay money for Match. | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:25:32 PM | Rob,
Had you tried using the lady's profile name as part of an email address by adding "@yahoo.com" or "@hotmail.com" etc. Sometimes that works. Or go one better...set up a new profile just to get a free 3 day trial and email her from your new profile. Explain who you are and that you are no longer a member but did want to contact her. When you give her your contact info...just spell it all out...but throw some spaces in there or double up the letters to throw their automated searches for these things off the track. So for example put Rob at ya hoo dott com. If she is remotely intelligent or interested, she will find you from that. otherwise, just write her and tell her how to find you on here (the free site!) ;-) | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:29:58 PM | | I have dealing with this company for some time and trying to resolve payment issues from years and months ago. What I found out is that when you are a non-paid member, the company will have their employees send you an email that is expressly intended to get you to pay (even for the trial period) so that you can reply to this "interested" persons message. Of course, after you pay up, that person's profile is unavailable. Now the trick is to get your money back during the trial period or to keep your credit card from being charged after you resign. Both Match.com and Chemistry.com are run by the same people. Check out BBB.org for details. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 6:21:42 AM | | I was on Match for six months, called and got the six months free. Cancelled. Have received more emails and "viewed you" than I did the whole year I was on. I think with Yahoo you can see the emails but not respond, as least you know if you want to join--not a pig in a poke as we say in the south. Match and AmericanSingles, you can't access any place on the site except to search. I did receive an email on one site and wrote back, the man said he never sent the email and was not interested. Did he or did they? I will never know. I stick to the free sites. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 8:15:02 AM | Yes, I believe non-paying members cannot see emails on Match, so it doesn't matter how creative you are sending messages (i.e. VenicesKurt's post). The person won't be able to see them unless they pay, which of course defeats the whole purpose?
Non-paying members on Yahoo Personals can see emails, but still can't respond. The problem comes with most people not realizing Yahoo strips email addresses unless you break up the words. I've had about three instances of that, and one woman got really upset with me for not returning her repeated messages containing her email addy, even if just to say "Not interested" (but I was "very" interested...lol). Of course I couldn't reply without paying up. She probably hates me, but doesn't know the circumstances.
Bottom line is why go through all the irritation and aggravation when you already have a wonderful free site like this? Many people are on multiple sites, so if they're on Match or Yahoo they could very well be on here. That's why I sometimes search profiles from other sites I'm on (but either hidden or say in my profile not subscribed) and see if I can spot some familiar profiles from here.
 Mo | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 11:28:47 PM |  Sounds like you had a lot to get out there, dovesfly. Are you just naturally wordy or did this subject touch a nerve?
 Mo | |
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/30/2007 3:04:13 AM | | That's how all those sites do it. That's why this place is better. Yeah, the site edited it. I wouldn't pay 'em. I'd just start sending all the e-mails from those places to my bulk mail and keep on the free sites like this. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 4:47:24 AM | I agree with Dove. I myself know 7 couples who have met on match and are now married. If I had the money, I would be on match or yahoo. My problem with free sites like POF (Even though POF is slightly better) is that people here dont want to meet. Maybe its becuase its free and they arent paying out 170.00 to just "hang around" and search profiles, or send messages over and over without ever getting together. My other issue with free sites is many people on them are lookiing for NSA, Married and looking or looking for FWB. Again, being free makes it easier to just hang around until something comes along who is willing to be the FWB or the NSA . Personally I know of more than a dozen examples of this, most are on here and .
If your shelling out money, I feel there is more of a desire for Long term, or actually dating and meeting.
As far as getting around e-mails on yahoo and match, I have sent and recieved messages with real e-mail addies, and they werent blocked. I had more of a problem posting a pic with match. every single one they decided wasnt a good headshot, and placed as a second or third pic, with no main one.. I submitted 10 pics, none were okay for them.
A creative way to get someone to e-mail you outside a paying site was a profile I saw on date.com , the header was "same name smily face" (yahoo.com being the smily face when you have your messenger on)
I agree to, that additude and commitment to finding someone is also key. Dating is supposed to be fun!
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Posted: 12/30/2007 5:06:42 AM | I'm a six-month "Love Guarantee" member of Match (complete with Dr. Phil add on benefits). I paid about 170 bucks, with a guarantee that if I don't find someone special after six months, I get another six months for free. There are some stipulations; you cannot hide your profile, you must always have a picture, and you must contact five unique people a month (winks don't count, responding to messages do, though).
Did you ever get taken! I had a 1 month subscription ($29.99) to Match just before they started the 6 month guarantee. When the one month ended, I called customer service and asked them why I should join match again. She gave me all the reasons and told me about the six month guarantee. The cost was $80 for 6 months and if you did not find someone within the 6 months you got six months free, but you had to call or you would be billed instead of getting it free. I told her the $80 was too much for me. She asked me if I minded holding, which I did, she came back and said she could give me a special of $60. They are so desperate for you to stay or join, they have negotiated the prices. I had a friend who did the same, but received an offer of $75, when she told them I had resigned for only $60, they lowered her fee. My point is if you want to join the paid sites, some times you can negotiate the price down. Most people just assume you have to pay the ticket price. I did date a couple of guys from Match, but no "match". When my subscription ended in Sept., I hid my profile. I have yet to figure out why my "viewed you" count keeps going up. I have been on American singles, yahoo and match-- some of the same guys are on all of the them and on others where I have just done a search but not joined. I do like a lot of the features of paid sites but paying the money did not guarantee success. Here I pay nothing and I have found nothing, but I am having a lot more fun doing it.
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| Match.com are irresponsible
Posted: 12/30/2007 7:12:40 AM | I just don't like the ones that plaster the word FREE! all over the place . And then take all of your time with all of those questions (for their profile). And only after wasting all of your time do they inform you of how they are going to take your money. Anyone else getting calls from these sites to set you up in person? If you come in to their office to sign up? JD | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 7:14:23 AM | I was just good-natured kiddin' ya, doves. I actually really enjoyed reading your post.
Outofthedesert enlightened me about Match indulging in negotiations. I didn't know that before. I feel even MORE angry paying as much as I did back when I was a paid member! The crooks!!
Like I said, why go through all the shenanigans and hoop-jumping pay sites put you through when you can have this for free??? To me it's a no-brainer? No site, pay or free, can guarantee relationship success -- that's always been up to the individual -- but at least you save the irritation trying to be creative getting around all garbage pay sites put you through. That Match negotiation story was the last straw, just frosted my flakes, and sealed the deal for me. Match sucks, POF Rocks!!!
Mo | |
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