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| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 11:46:50 AM | there is nothing wrong with saying to someone what you are looking for to a degree, as long as your not giving it in a form of a list. lol but no one is gonna fall into every one of those..and you might find some new things with this person you didn't know you actually liked until you saw it with your own eyes with her....that happens alot...
someone who brings the best out of me and visa versa is a good trait to have....that's part of the "chemistry" 2 people can have. | |
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| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 1:15:07 PM | I am not worried about commitment
Don't think about it.
That doesn't lessen the relationship that I have with a man
those looking for commitment just seem to be looking for something that is not the true essence of the relationship
I am looking for fulfillment. | |
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| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:24:04 PM | | I know some day I will be committed... I am looking forward to it.. I hear those lil white jackets are very comfy.... | |
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joesch
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Joined: 4/21/2003
Msg: 182 | |
| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:26:59 PM | | hmmm what white jackets are you reffering redmamma?"scratches his head" in confusement. | |
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| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:27:19 PM |
I am looking for fulfillment.
I am looking for an ice-cold beer ... aka, fullfillment  | |
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| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:41:09 PM | | Well i guess he let that one get away.lol. Due to his own fears of commitment, but hey theres plenty of fish in the sea, you just have to find the right catch and you'll know when that happens!!! | |
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| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:47:16 PM | | LOL @ Joe... silly.. the ones that they put you in right before they throw you in a padded room because you went insane from 5 children.... | |
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| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:51:47 PM | | After being involved in a seventeen year marriage ? I think I am over the hump.... | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 11:58:31 AM | | Gee, I didn't know Seinfeld was a latter day philosopher. | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 188 | |
| Men and commitment
Posted: 1/10/2006 12:02:53 PM | I'm loyally comitted....to the POF forums... | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 12:05:19 PM | | ^^Good for you! LOL Even that would be a big step for some people who cant commit to anything | |
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Posted: 2/9/2006 8:08:54 AM | | When I got married for the first and only time I thought it would be forever, but I was wrong. When I found myself alone for the first time it was an eye opener, mind you it was not my choice to leave. The first time was the worst ordeal I ever encountered with the Ex taking me through the wringer. I was called all sorts of names in the book, but evenually I just took my kids, became a single dad and close the books to commitment. You know when I looked for help as a single dad there was none, but when my Ex had my kids that was another story. I had the law on my butt with court orders that left my head spinning. The single guys around me who have had kids out of wedlock are tormented by their Ex lovers. I often ask myself why is the laws so unbalanced and more in favor to the women. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2006 4:48:11 PM | Response to Reply To #1: Guys I have some real problems here. First, as a guy, I agree. Divorce is a minefield too dangerous not to consider. It creates emotional and financial damage very hard to repair. But I think the problem here is that men have had such a laizez faire attitude about what's going on in the legal system that we now have a tight noose around our necks as a result. Where were our men's organizations when all male senators, congressmen and such were passing these laws? These guys should have had some serious guidance from other men. I think the call girls and escorts got to 'em. Probably blackmailed 'em with pictures and video.
I also think we wait too long to really deal with the issues that make us vulnerable to the lsass.virus. Know what that is? It's when your womans ass disintegrates, from weight gain, she gets cottage cheese where thighs used to be and you can't look at her anymore without lying to her and yourself. That's when lsass.virus comes in. Ella's ass starts looking really good. Because Ella's Ass is firm and tight in her jeans. Now you have a real problem. Your woman looks wistfully at Ella's ass too because hers use to be that tight in her jeans. And she knows that if she sees Ella's ass, you do. She now starts to eat to console herself because exercising the weight away is too hard. The mean ones try to knock your head off if you show any sign of the lsass.virus. You don't take a stand. You help her bury herself in fat by ignoring the problem when all you ever have to do is say:
Baby! I want you to stop eating all those twinkies. If you don't, I am going to go across the yard and spank Ella's Ass. I mean it baby, please don't make me do this. This is going to hurt you more than it's going to hurt her! | |
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Posted: 2/9/2006 5:11:05 PM | | I'm really serious about this, baby! Every time you eat another twinkie, I am going to go across the yard and SPANK Ella's Ass! | |
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Posted: 2/9/2006 5:23:47 PM | Alright, enough! The fact is, men get off too easy when it comes to much of the drudgery of family life. "Baby, I gotta work late" is paradise for the man when he has to come home to what a woman has to deal with all day, if she isn't working. The time she spent looking good enough to eat before she got married is gone. Try spending the day around a bunch of screaming little simians with advanced brains and complex issues, week after week. A woman has to smell the poop, change the poopy diaper, wipe up the vomit, endure top-of-the-lungs screaming-that alone would drive me nuts-from an infant she can't throw out the window without going to jail, wash the soiled infant garments with gaggable spoiled milk smell, at the same time clean up poop behind the stupid puppy you brought home so it could grow up with the kid, buy groceries and pay bills on your sorry salary, deal with your shrew mother and ogling father-lsass.virus got him too-and worry about why you bought a ping-pong paddle when you don't play ping-pong, including why you and her father are over in the corner checking out the ping-pong paddle like it's a shiny new Corvette over by the window where Ella lays out to get some sun.
Any wonder she looks at you the way she does when you walk in fifteen minutes after the last kid had to be chemically sedated for bed? And you want her to be Victoria's Secret? That's asking quite a lot don't you think? I think the question is, why DO women ever commit! | |
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| Reply To #1
Posted: 2/9/2006 5:31:24 PM | Most women like to talk about feelings and relationships; most men do not.
But men have plenty of ways of expressing them, if a woman knew where to look.
Affection, for instance, can be found in the meticulous way that a partner makes the bed every morning with an extra blanket spread across his partner’s side. Or in a mans' glances at his partner as she dozes in the passenger seat. Or in the pleasure that he takes in his partner's company as they tear the old wallpaper out of their home.
Talk is just talk; men act on their feelings. So women don’t talk the talk, just walk the walk. :) | |
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Had that happen once and didn't work out, but still hopeful maybe I'll bump into someone like that for which it will 
