gypsy1
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Joined: 6/16/2005
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 7:36:12 AM | I've come across the 24cc Craftsman WeedWhacker a time or two.
But I keep growing back.
I am much a private person so I don't ask for numbers or addresses or give them out too readily. POF is not a difficult place to exchange email. I have experienced other dating sites where it was a real pain; you have to type this bizarre, unreadable codeword or go through 100 steps to get to the point of contact only to find out you've been climbing the wrong staircase.
I like my POF. | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 1:41:15 PM | | I was on here for a month with pictures....not only did my bloody inbox explode with all the notes, but I had over 100 favourites saving me....I got e-mails galore that were explicit for shock value...I had raging e-mails that asked me constantly " why " I deleted their notes...or men giving me their phone #s. So, now, no pic...and very little details . | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 1:45:50 PM | Yes I understand where you're coming from. I always reserve my msn list for real life friends, not pof acquaintances. I know myself and if I accepted every Tom,**** and Harry on my msn list, I'd eventually lose track of who everyone is. Nothing is more embarrassing than asking "Who are you again?"
When guys feel jilted because of this, it is a huge indicator that they aren't the ones for me. Always give a girl an out! | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 1:48:17 PM | That's the reason why I have my IM feature turned off and why I put into my profile for guys *not* to send me their phone numbers or ask for mine. Email on here is what I want for the first few weeks or even months. If they're not okay with this, then it's their loss. If a guy gets nasty if you don't want to put him on your MSN or Yahoo, then you know right there that he's a jerk. I screen them out by saying so in my profile. You might want to try this.
Ninki | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 1:59:02 PM | I'm not quite sure why they do it...
Though I have an MSN group on mine where anyone I add from a dating site goes and if they start acting like a nutter, then I block and delete them.
Depending on how the emails go, I will generally give out my MSN sooner or later.
What I find disconcerting is when they are on your MSN list and they expect that your world should revolve around msging them and if you don't respond in a few seconds they send knocks and all that jazz.
Or they don't understand that as a single parent that sometimes I have to leave the com and attend to my child and I may not always have a chance to write an away msg...
This may or may not be along the same vein but, what about men you add to your MSN who complain about how all woman want to do is chat?
I was having such a discussion today and I pointed out that women can never be too cautious & I got a mini-rant in response... | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 2:11:24 PM | | I believe that you have crushed their precious wittle egos, poor babies, did mommy never say no to them? Sorry, girls, some of us were taught manners and aren't convinced that we are God's gift to women. As I have pointed out in similar threads, these are the same guys that think you owe them a roll in the hay if they buy you dinner. | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 9:04:19 PM | I didn't realize IM knocks were considered rude...
Sorry, but I still don't see what the big deal is with giving out your IM ID. If you want to talk to him, talk to him on IM. If you don't, hit the ignore button.
Why do you guys have to be such drama queens about it??
"Oh my god, he has my IM!!!"
"OMG, he sent a knock when I was AFK!!" "EEEK!" | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/5/2006 9:42:45 PM | I find that the IM on POF isn't very reliable. Especially if you have popup blockers, internet security, etc. Sorry to hear that this goes on, gives men a bad rep.
I have to agree with wespauley's points. I was raised to treat everyone with manners and that includes women. I don't blame them for being cautious with the MSN/Yahoo addresses. Email should be a good enough. If you don't really click within the first few emails, then IM probably isn't going to go well.
As a side note, I do appreciate it when a woman takes the time to send an "Not interested" response back. I'm sad to see that some men's egos cannot take that. I look at it as the woman's way of showing you respect by being honest with you.  | |
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jcdcam
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Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/6/2006 2:14:35 PM | I have to agree with crane man. I've been getting this too from women, believe it or not. All they're doing when they do this is indicate what they want. I've been in an e-mail exchange with a lady around my age from southwestern Ontario and when we first started, I wasn't too sure I wanted to get involved. But the more we talk, the closer I feel to her. Amazing for me since I haven't been involved with a woman for the last 21 years (my choice). And she hasn't called me as my phone number can easily be found in the telephone directory on the net. I know her full name and it hasn't even occurred to me to look her up (should I? He He).
Now there is another thing that's been bothering me... I belong to two other sites and I'm constantly getting mail from Africans with scams to help them get possession of money from a dead relative (supposed). If any of you get these letters, I guarantee they are scams! Also, I'm getting letters from young Russian and Ukrainian girls. Obviously they are looking for a plane ticket to Canada and sponsorship. This doesn't bother me, as I just don't answer. However, the bothering thing is that they are fully exposing themselves to unscrupulous men who run "Human Trafficking". I watched a two part TV movie (named, of course, “Human Trafficking”) about this problem and I cried almost all the way though it. It was heart wrenching. I now send a standard warning letter to these women. If you’d like me to send you a copy of this letter to use, please feel free to contact me with your request through this site. You just have to go to the bottom of your search page and key in my handle and you’ll find me. If you do request and would like to add something to the letter, I’d like to know what it is. Dennis | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:26:01 PM | | i wrote it right in my profile not to ask for my msn,if i want you to have it ill give it to you, I am not meaning to be snobby but i say it straight and if it bothers them than they dont need to speak with me. If you dont even know the guy, why do they think women are just going to hand over msn addis and home phone # after 5 minutes of chatting? | |
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| Why do men go so hostile when you tell them you don't want their MSN or Yahoo!
Posted: 1/7/2006 7:30:38 AM | | Virgo, just being helpful in case you don't know.... When you post to a forum like this if you want to add to your post or make corrections notice that after you are done posting it takes you back to the forum and you can read what you just posted. On the left side of your post, under your mame, is a link called "Edit Post". If you click that you will be able to change or add to what you have written. Carry on, soldier! | |
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