| younger guys older woman
Posted: 9/16/2004 6:43:26 PM | | hey all this is my second thread on here and it was basically the same what i wrote in the younger guys older woman subject.but neways i prefer them rite now .i think its cause at my age (40 and i do have lots of pics btw).....we dont want no commitement well not now neways , depends on the situation in ur life or what u been throu , and i been single now for 3 yrs since age 16 so i no younger guys wont want a commitment, . besides there more down to earth strate to the point and no bullshittin..the older ones are stuck in the time machine usually have bagage and what not . and i have to admit they make me feel young again and bein very down to earth and very sponteanous , its more my thing .i find a guy my age to "old" for me i am into rap and dancin and havin fun but i am also a grandmother and luv it .but i am picky and i do beleive in that hot eye contact across the room .and if ur goin to have a one niter it mite as well be wid sumone hot and sumone u connect wid .so younger guys just have it the way they dress , carry themselves , talk .its not hurtin neone so who cares.......also for those younger gurls that said they prefer a few years older .well of course u do ur young to young to be havin younger guys like hello...(u wil change ur mindin time).....u want to be whined and dined and well us older ones we can do that ourselves...neways chemsitry is not predjuice so hey at my age i am old enou to do what i want dont u think | |
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Posted: 9/16/2004 10:28:07 PM | I am 25, and my age range for dating is 21-30.
I think alot of you had excellent points, that are all probably true for different people depending on the situation.
If someone older than 30 wanted to date me, the emotional compatibility would have to be very strong. | |
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ben76
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Posted: 9/17/2004 12:16:15 AM | babygurl, watch how 'attracted' you get to those younger guys. I mean, your only 18 and there are laws.. lol Or were you saying to say younger as in your own age?
yna, 'changing horses'? am I picking up a prefered position? lmao
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silken
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Posted: 9/17/2004 6:23:52 AM | Candycanegurl, I am 38 now (just turned recently) and I certainly am looking for a commited relationship down the line so I would have to say it's not so much about age as it is about your station in life.... a lot of people who have done the marriage/kids thing may say they are not interested in commitment but I have never done it and even if I never have kids I would still like to someday be very happily and vigorously mated. ;) hehe
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Posted: 9/17/2004 10:29:22 PM | Hi Silken, Im sure you will find your Mr Right.. It will come before you know it..
Initially, I was not looking because I was married (now separated). I do everything for my kids and I dont want commitment or to settle for a guy who is younger or outside my race.. But now I found one not only younger but he is white. So when I found love, it just happen.. It can for all of you too, just let nature take its course...
Cheers,
Hui Ching
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ben76
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Joined: 6/5/2004
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Posted: 9/18/2004 7:06:44 AM | Ben,
Touching on race is a very sensitive issue.. I do not want to offend anyone here and in one of my previous posts, I mentioned that I am proud of my race but I do not always agree with everything we do. There is a lot of things we can learn from other race too. Bottomline is everyone should respect one another as equal and live harmoniously.. Take the best from each culture.
I was brought up in a very strict and traditional chinese family where we are not encourage to marry outside our race. I have many caucasian boyfriends before but often met with disapproval from my relatives (rather than from my own family). After my separation, I realised that its my life that I want to lead and I dont have to please my relatives anymore.. Personally, race has never been an issue with me.. If so, I would not be here contributing..
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ben76
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Joined: 6/5/2004
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Posted: 9/18/2004 10:34:01 AM | Hui, but those who say don't marry outside of your race, are indeed racist, so like your parents and so. I've heard so many people say such things and it's sick, they have no way of backing it up, other than to be saying 'Well they're just different than us'. I can't count the number of times I've heard my mom say 'oh it was a black guy that robbed that store', or stuff like that, while failing to realize that 100 other crimes may have been commited by our own race since that time. But it seems people who are like that feel it's not such a big deal if their own people commit a crime, they don't go 'oh it was a white person who robbed the bank', they just let it slide as if it was a raceless crime. I've met tons of people like this, they don't seem to realize what other races have given to them. Take comedy for instance, a lot of black people are very talented at comedy, the racist people have no probs laughing at their jokes, but to them they're still 'niggers' and in the same breath they will find someway to point that out. Or how many times have you heard someone say 'I met a new friend' and for some reason they feel the need to let it slip in that 'oh they're black', etc... That sort of forewarning could be one of two things, either the person thinks you might be racist or they themselves have a touch of being racist in them.
I understand that there are issues sometimes with heritage and culture, but I feel a parent who really wants the best for you should want that regardless of race. I don't let my mom pick my girls, if she has a prob with who I care to spend time with in regards to how they look, be it weight, race or whatever the 'issue' may be, then I just tell her that thats my choice and the person is a good person.
It does go beyond race though, many people are also willing to turn a blind eye to other things as well. I know my mom downplays the seriousness of the child abuse in the catholic church, because she goes to church a few times a week. While going to church isn't a bad thing for anyone, I wish they'd realize what has gone on and how serious it is. I always get the impression that these priests live a good life and that it's almost forgiveable for them to get a little action on the side, or its less of an issue than a non-church person commiting the act of sexual abuse - while in fact it should be more of an issue. So many people are just plain two faced about a lot of things... | |
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Posted: 9/18/2004 5:43:42 PM | Ben,
I agree with what you are saying generally.. A lot of the people here are like that too but they don't say it openly. I guess everywhere is the same, there are some who discriminate against us too.. That is why I said earlier on that I don't always agree with all the things we do in our culture.. My parents taught us that everybody on this earth should be treated equally and they never discriminate but its our relatives and friends who will talk, its them whom I am referring to when I said we are not encourage to marry outside our race. I will always be mindful of what my parents will get from all these. In fact its my mom who (She is still living), gave me the blessing and support when I told her I am dating my caucasian bf.. She is the one gave me the full encouragement to settle down with my bf.. I know certainly you and I are not racist..
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ben76
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Joined: 6/5/2004
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Posted: 9/18/2004 8:16:01 PM | | yep, whenever I hear someone saying 'nigger' this 'nigger' that, I start to question who the 'nigger' actually is... Honestly, I think there are way more non-black people who deserve to be called such a thing. All racism is is ignorance, and when I hear a person calling someone else a name because of their race, I think its a sad thing for everyone around, the person saying the name, the person being called it, and also the race of the person who is calling the name. Racism will have no end, because one feeds off another, ie: blacks hearing whites call them name, then the blacks view all whites in that way and return the favor by talkin badly about whites... The best I have to offer is to not be part of it, and perhaps prove people that no all whites are like that. I find it dissapointing though that because how each race looks at one another, a neutral person as ourselves not picking sides, sometimes end up unable to make a friend in other races because of what that person has been taught themselves growing up... | |
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Posted: 10/1/2004 6:16:42 AM | | i wish you older women, would bite for me..lol seems the younger ones arent intrested either | |
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silken
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Posted: 10/1/2004 5:44:25 PM | | hi ben i have just read your and hui's postings about race.well this thing called race the way i can see it does it really matter if your partner happens to be white,black,oriental,indian,european.as long as they are from the human race.i am not trying to be frivolent here.surely most would agree that two people being happy is the most important.roaul | |
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Posted: 10/1/2004 8:55:11 PM | younger guys older woman
i dont have a problem dating someone younger than me - i just dont go for guys who try to be something they are not - when they try to keep up and they are just not where i am - if that makes sense ....
i guess if its meant to be then its meant to be ... | |
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Posted: 10/1/2004 10:07:04 PM | @ silken - you are welcome :)
@ Raoul - yes agree with you that generally its between two people in love, race or age shouldn't matter. Like Zee said, if its meant to be then its mean to be...
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| Re: how many woman like younger men then them? and why
Posted: 10/12/2004 7:16:10 PM | | My ex-husband was 4 years younger than me. The guy I am dating now is 7 years younger than me. The major difference is he is light years more mature than my husband was. I think it all has to do with the maturity level of the guy...and your maturity level also...lol. I like this guy because I can sit down and have an actual conversation with him. We have several different things in common, despite his age, or my age. I met him off of here, and originally just sent a message telling him I liked how he came across on his profile, especially considering his age and to keep it up and he would find what he was looking for. He wrote back asking about me...to my shock...and we began talking. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2004 8:28:08 PM | | I must admit initially I do not want somebody younger than I am but once into the relationship, the age becomes a non-issue at all.. I don't even think about it anymore. Its the quality of the relationship and the person you are with.. Nothing is right or wrong anymore as long as you treasure and love one another. When you love someone, everything becomes unconditional.. Love is a many splendour thing.. as the song goes... | |
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Posted: 10/12/2004 9:54:28 PM | Okay good thing your like peter pan,
Back to me, honestly I have never really dated many guys much younger, I usually go for the older guys...they are more compatitable for me to date,perhapes not for everyone though. The guy I am with right now is 7 years older than me | |
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