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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 1/11/2006 8:17:45 PM |  SingleMalt
LOL
and Morefunwithu - over exaggerating is also a turn off - and you would be surprised at just how smart women are about weeding out the liars.
We are not asking for your life history in your first email, just enough so a conversation can be started - as for answering questions - if the woman won't answer your questions (except crude ones of course) - move on.
I will answer any reasonable question asked of me - what's the poiint in lying or not answering if you are here to meet people.
I also like to meet as soon as I feel it is safe enough to do so - meaning I feel I know enough about the other person to feel comfortable at meeting and oh yes, that meeting will take place in a public place in daylight with lots of people around LOL I believe the sooner you meet, the less time wasted if there is no chemistry.
People should also realize that not everyone you meet is going to like you nor are you going to like everyone you meet - but you know what - that's ok and contrary to the male belief that woman will shatter on hearing you are not enamoured of them - we won't
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 1/12/2006 1:15:20 AM | whispersoflove , Or anyone else that thought I was exaggerating(1)
Well the truth comes out,
When you get what you want, you just want something else, so intellectually and logically thinking.......DON’T ever give a woman what she wants or she will stop wanting it. IT is the oldest cartoon on the tube. Cat and Mouse. DOG and Pony, etc. the bait and switch. Get the drift.In these cartoons or real life scenarios,’ the object of desire is beyond reach and therefore becomes an obsession ....until it is captured...then they want something else. GUY PLAY HARD TO GET, TREAT THEM BAD. Promise the world and give them nothing Thus again proving why there is a high divorce rate.
Everyone wants what they don't have. Women are just better at not giving it . . . so guys will continue to want it.
When guys give to women what they want, the women want something else.
I finally have solved the mystery of the sexes. NOW Venus and mars will crash into each other the world will be a better place! Exaggeration just for you, but obviously a joke not a lie.
(1)"over exaggerating is also a turn off - and you would be surprised at just how smart women are about weeding out the liars.
We are not asking for your life history..."
What kind of statement is that? ( Is that an overstatement? snicker) You obviously don't understand the point being made and took the nongeneric, first time printed point, (just like right now.) and well thought out imagery, (to aid in your visualization of that point), the wrong way.
The poetry was written by me and has been applicable to many dating scenarios on this site. It has been awarded the editor’s choice award for 2005 from a well know poetry publishing company that I will not mention. It is reprinted as a reference to the "WORDS" comments in multiple postings from earlier in this particular thread. The hyperboles were inserted for laughter in order to emphasize the contrary behavior of a woman reacting to what they have asked for to happen in their emails. WHEN they get what they want, they want something different until what they want is unattainable.
Only people willing to think and read to understand rather than read to respond will ever get the whole picture. Sorry that you missed the point. Maybe this short version will help you!
If a guy will check out the woman’s favs or voting history, he will find those underwear guys with the six-packs. This will tell you that what I said wasn't as far off as some of these ladies imply. That first post of mine has to be considered in its entire context, not by any single statement without the surrounding conditional statements measure less.
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 1/12/2006 1:28:23 AM | message 25 tells us to be generic after having been told by other posts to not be cutting and pasting. Many people in this thread have not even read the earlier posts! THen they make comments to the effect that shows that they did not read the posts that they are commenting on. As they state what they are saying, anyone who did take the time to think about what they had read, will be laughing hysterically at their(commentary post-ers) comments. This is not because they are funny, but because the comment reflects an idea that proves they missed the point.
I shaved my head to see if it was pointed! LOL get it?
---Robert
ONlY FOR THOSE THAT MISSED THE .........!
I will go back to the threads where people actually comprehend what they read in addition to having actually read the posts that they were commenting on. LOL | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 1/12/2006 7:40:39 AM | morefunwith - a poster does not necessarily have to direct their post at the entirety of the thread. sometimes that is impossible. they only have to respond to the op's question or a particular posting. in this case, i was replying "in general" to the posts made by women tired of receiving crude, vulgar, or "wanna chat?" simplistic messages that do not encourage replies. if a man wants a reply, he's got to say something a little more.
if you want specific examples of the "points" i didn't miss - refer to posts #2, or 5-7, or....actually there are a lot of posts from women on this thread who specifically ask for the details that i offered in my sample email. and it's not so much cut and paste - a person actually has to think about his/her response before filling in the blanks....besides which, i was answering the op's original question that started the thread.
as for your comments on post #30 - you are sounding very close to a misogynist....at best very bitter. if you think that all women are really as you portray them, why do you bother? sounds to me as if you've already played defeatist at searching for a positive fulfilling partnership....and throwing the "it's a joke" after having a mini rant about the fickleness of women doesn't let you off the hook.
the subtle insults and demeaning remarks do little to endear you to women. the outright negative generalizations make you even less likely to attract a female. it's kind of ironic b/c your actual profile sounds quite lovely. it's your posts that really seem to reveal who you are and what you really think. | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 1/12/2006 9:13:18 AM | a poster does not necessarily have to direct their post at the entirety of the thread. sometimes that is impossible. they only have to respond to the op's question or a particular posting. in this case, i was replying "in general" to the posts made by women tired of receiving crude, vulgar, or "wanna chat?" simplistic messages that do not encourage replies
Point well made, See what a good stereotype can accomplish...wanna chat about it? LOL
No really wanna chat, you have a nice smile!
---Robert
PS I have said morethanenough to deserve responses to my emails thus causing the enlightened sense of humor that I am displaying. I can at the very least keep myself entertained since the interaction between many of the women and men on this site is reserved for "creeps and rude women" If the shoe fits,,,you must be it! LOL
Note: The postings I make on other threads that are not my own are in no way similar to the kind of email I send to a woman that I would like to know more about! IF you don't believe me then look at the difference in the way that I treat people in the thread that I started to help people with their profiles. It has bizarre humor but does truly address issues that they might be having with their profile keeping in mind that the opinion is based on the little amount of info that these people give out about themself.
My humor is my humor and works well when taken in context with the intention. | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 1/21/2006 12:14:32 PM | I dont mind the dancing pickles...I think they are cute!
IF your initiating...I would think some response as to what it was about me attracted you to my profile and identifying an experience that might be common.....good way to break the ice.
I dont mind stumblers...lol | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 1/22/2006 3:48:58 PM | I can tell you what we're NOT looking for. It goes something like this:
"hi U r So hot i wuld like to git to no U beter i work an i am good at talking call me at home an i will tell U more abut miself"
I have received many emails that are very, very much like this. I'm not kidding. No puncuation, serious spelling errors, pathetic compliments. Use an online dictionary and take your TIME. Spending an extra 5 minutes on an email will make a huge difference.
The best way to attract a lady is to tell her a bit about yourself, try and be somewhat funny, and yes, a compliment DOES help. But, more along the lines of, "Your smile compelled me to write to you...blahblahblah." A woman would rather be told she is, "beautiful" rather then, "hot." Or, God help me, "hawt."
Be honest in your email, but not too honest. It's a first email. Dont' come off as lonely or desperate.
Write more then one or two sentences, but, at the same time don't write a 14 page letter confessing your desire to paint her toenails, worship her until the end of time etc etc. And don't talk too much about your job. Tell her what you do, if you want, but don't get over descript. We really don't care all that much and if you're job is interesting you can tell us about it once we get to know you.
I guess that's about it.
Remember puncuation and spelling!!!! Most women don't want to date a guy that is illiterate and/or stupid. You may be a genius, but if you don't use a single period and spell every third word wrong you are certainly going to appear to be illiterate and/or stupid. (I know I already covered this point but SO many men on here really don't take the time to write a proper sentence.) | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 2/17/2006 2:53:49 PM | morefunwithyou-
I think you're pretty much right. Seems like if you write a couple of short paragraphs, asking questions & telling some things about yourself, no reply (generally). Conversely the short version doesn't seem to work either ??
Personally..... I'm lost!!! | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 2/18/2006 4:28:16 PM | I used to write longer "First" E-mails, but after you take the time to write them and then you see it was just deleted it kind of takes the wind out of your sails.
I don't see whats wrong with sending a quick polite sentence basically asking if they are interested. "Hi, would you like to chat sometime and get to know each other"
If they want to know more about me all they have to do is read my profile. Why waste a bunch of time on someone who isn't interested. I just move on to the next one. If I get a reply, then I will go into a deeper conversation. I am fully aware that "some" woman here are not at all interested in finding a date, this is just a place to get "Oh your beautiful" statements from random guys to boost their egos, and I am not gonna do that. I'm looking for women who actually want to build a relationship. | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 2/18/2006 5:26:47 PM | | I would like to know their name, where they are from, how long they been single. I would like them to be honest about some things I need to know, cause you know I will find out later. I just feel getting honest and humble from the get go breaks alot of ice and gives me reason to communicate. These one line messages are pretty shallow. | |
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| What kind of coments are ladies looking for on a first emails!
Posted: 2/19/2006 7:20:55 PM | How can anyone answer that question but the lady receiving it? I send what I feel. With the limitations of digital media sometimes that is not enough. I've read some profiles and wrote a 2 page letter and others just a simple Hi! To be honest, with out the expression, body language how can you know. Ive told a woman I loved her before and knew it was slight of what I meant. If you have loved someone you know what I mean. That is a question for an individual.
For you ladies that posted an answer................beware(oh did I throw a wrench in the machine or what........lol) | |
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