| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 12/30/2007 12:01:32 PM | That was funny, but true. I get the overwhelming impression on this site that women generally still wait for the guy to initiate contact. I've come across numerous profiles that have left me stumped as to how to post a '1st contact' message w/o sounding like a complete idiot - "Hey, babe...How You Doin'?"
Okay, back to the original posted question. I'm a bit of a technical guy so I'm really turned off by pics that show women in washed out or too dark of pictures; highly pixelated pics captured with a camera phone; over edited shots; far away shots of you; tongue sticking out; the 'fake' sexy pose; scenery shots (save them for the official album viewing date). So, I guess I've just opened myself to riducule regarding my pictures not having anything other than head shots of me in them, but I still value other people's privacy, unless they're okay with me posting their pics all over the internet.
To each his own. This site is free and extremely popular. Can't complain too much over the possibilities it brings. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:00:40 PM | guys posing with guns - even if they are in the military
pics with tongues sticking out of their mouths
pics with people looking drunk
pics where the guy obviously posed with his shirt of and took it himselff...if it was a pic where he's like on the beach with friends and someone took it its different
pics of children - it just creeps me out to see people posting children online. I know it's not intended to be that way but protect the privacy of children. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 12/31/2007 6:23:00 PM | Off-topic:
I'm not fueling the tussle between *Jay and Greeneyed, but I had to add this lil episode of mine: 2 coworkers, who are bigger than me, both told me on several occasions that I should eat a cheeseburger for a change, and no, I didn't say a word to provoke nor retaliate, cuz one of them is my boss.
I'm no health-food fanatic, and I love fast-food, but it hits a raw nerve when they took it out on me because of our differences in "shapes".
What happened to inner beauty? I know, that's another topic that's been done to death 
On-topic:
Flipping the bird
If you hated having your pic taken, what does it say about you if you decide to put that picture for all to see? | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:04:55 PM | I don't spend much time on the forums, but pop in to read now and then... This topic has caught my interest twice, and I've actually read every page. AND changed my profile, as a result! (Thanks for the help!) LOL
I do have to comment on the people that dislike "pet pictures". I am a "country gal" and horses, and activities involving them, are a big part of my life. Consequently, I'm most interested in meeting a man with similar interests (tried it the other way - didn't work).... So, when I see a picture of a man and a horse, I immediately read his profile. Men with their other pets... I usually check those out, too. And, sadly, men in cowboy hats attract my attention as well, though those are usually just "props" and tend not to be relavant to that person's lifestyle.
What I'm trying to say here is that the people who post pictures of themselves with their pets usually really love them, spend a lot of time with them (walking the dog, playing fetch, whatever), and hope to meet someone with similar interests - and whom are TOLERANT of that time spent.
So I say: "Go ahead - post your pet pictures! And I hope you meet the person who will appreciate the whole package that you are - critters and all!" | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:33:08 AM | Webcam pics are an immediate turn off. To me they suggest that person is into cybersex. Perhaps that's an unfair assumption, but the first thing that pops into my head when I see those pics is "Oh here's someone who can't be bothered to get to know a woman personally before disappointing her in the sack.".
Military dress uniform pics taken Heaven knows how long ago in front of a Canadian flag. It's not that I mind military guys, it's just that if your profile says your 44 and that's your photo from when you finished basic training, the message seems to be a self-aggrandizing "Like me. I'm a hero. I served my country." to the exclusion of all other information such as what your face looks like. And then there is the issue of how appropriate such pictures are. I don't recall ever seeing a police officer's picture here in uniform. And they have just as much, if not more claim to the hero label.
I don't mind one picture of the motorcycle, it lets me know where your interests lie, but more than that seems excessive.
And I actually rather like photos of Dad's with their kids. Some people have attempted to argue that it exploits the children and leaves them vulnerable to predators. Hogwash, I say. It demonstrates their affection for their children, that they take their role as a parent seriously and that any woman who wants to be with them is must be accepting of the whole package. Very admirable in my books. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:57:10 AM | I love my kids and spend a lot of time with them, but I don't think I would ever post pics with them. That is what facebook is for. I know and trust all the friends I have on there. As for pets, I should get some pics with my cat...
As for turn offs in profiles, pictures taken with previous significant others who have been cropped out of the picture. Fake pictures where you know they are not that person and of course the no pictures profile. I also like to see something real written about themselves. All the looking for a funny guy one who makes me laugh one or two line profiles really make it hard for anyone to want to contact them.
I know my pics aren't great and if my daughter hadn't dropped my camera in the lake, I'd have some less scary ones up in a flash. Payday is Friday, time to get a new camera. At least my pics are of me and recent, but man I need to smile for the camera. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 7/25/2008 1:13:57 PM | Why do grannies pose with their grand children , They are great little people no doubt but come on who really cares. I find it a giant turn off like people posing holding their dogs up . Whats compelling about someone kissing a dog. I want to meet a nice lady if I was looking for a dog I would go to the SPCA not PoF | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 7/28/2008 12:11:58 AM | - Photos that don't show the person's face
- Outdated or misleading photos (ex. high school yearbook shots)
- Photos with children (a lot of guys find this intimidating)
- Photos with exes. (Is that her brother?)
- Cleavage shots (nice boobs but I really want to see your face)
- Pictures of women intoxicated or drinking.
- Pictures of 3 or more people. (which one is she?)
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:18:25 AM | I probably posted in here already... but one thing that I hate is people who are say "50" saying they look and act so much younger. Looking at their photo's they pretty much look their age. What are they hoping for? Are they looking for someone to contact them who are looking for a 40 year old? Maybe they look exactly like what someone SHOULD look like at 50??? And who's to say what someone should look like or act like at any given age? How does one measure this anyway?
This turns me off every time. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 7/28/2008 9:08:19 AM |
ya...i worry about pics that look proffesionally done. They can be someone elses......the pic that came with the frame.....or it is them and hte camera man made them look alot better than they do in real life (lighting etc)
I'll have to go ahead and disagree with this. I'm a professional photographer, and I've had many people on here approach me to have photos done specifically for their profiles here.
Just because a photo is professionally done doesn't mean it's not the person. A lot of my clients get an ego boost by having shots done where they look amazing. There's nothing wrong with looking great in a photo. Just because they don't ALWAYS look that good shouldn't discredit them.
Plus, having a professionally done image as your profile picture gets you WAY more interest. Much better than the cellphone mirror pic. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 7/30/2008 3:23:36 AM | I took a really average, ordinary pic of myself.
I get asked to take pictures all the time because I am a pretty good, but amatuer phographer. I also have fair to middlin' photoshop skills.
I just don't belive in false advertising, and, I really belive that anyone that can not get past a photo of me during my early morning coffee is not gonna be "relationship" material anyway, so why bother. An honest photo will sort out the silly, image based twits right off the bat.
I can look a LOT better than that photo...just not all the time
so, what turns me off is a photo that I can see has been manipulated, or is not honest...
I don't shop by "lable", and no one who is really interested in me won't either...
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 8/5/2008 3:25:29 PM | - profiles where ALL the pictures show the person wearing a HAT/TUQUE/DU-RAG (i.e. there is no uncovered, clear view of the man's actual hairline or headshape)
- pictures of ABS only, with no head, self-portrait in the bathroom
- blurry pictures
- far-away pictures where you can BARELY see the person's actual face/features
- out-dated pictures
K. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 8/12/2008 9:03:47 PM | I agree anti-date, what's with the favorites list and those people who list double digits? Personally its a turn off for me if I see a guy who has 84 favs. Why bother communicating if you know you can't even get his attention. It doesn't take much effort to delete yourself from others' lists if they haven't even contacted you.
My other pet peeve is bad comb-overs or pics taken in ratty clothing. Have some pride in your appearance people! | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 8/19/2008 11:27:08 AM | Oh my goodness, I just joined POF, I started reading the forums today and am totally hooked. You bring some important details to the table and I appreciate the insight.
Please let me share some questions with you.Why would anyone be reluctant to post a picture? Further to that, why would you post a picture that looks like it should be on "America's Most Wanted". Why would a man with a belly hanging over his belt, wearing a hat and sun glasses think that he clearly looks like a catch. No smokers allowed, people please, the criteria here is they should have a pulse. If the worst possible thing you can say about someone is that they smoke they probably have a lot going for them. I am, like many women my age, younger than my years, in tune with what is happening today because I shop, use the internet, listen to people younger than me and older than me. I have a day time wardrobe and an evening wardrobe, I colour my hair, wear makeup, watch TV for entertainment and education, if I find a class that interests me I take it. If I could give references both personally and professionaly they would tell you I'm a pistol. In summary, after all this babbling, yes a picture is important, make sure it is clear, up to date and for god sake smile. Men get off your high horse and start communicating, if you are not sincere or worried about a woman tapping into your resources ie: pension etc. remove yourself and stop playing games. | |
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| what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away?
Posted: 8/23/2008 7:21:10 PM | One thing that bugs me is a picture of them at every wonder of the world and THEN some!
Makes me think they've been everywhere/done everything/have a closet full of t-shirts! What could possibly be left to do when they find someone? It makes me not want to personally contact them because I'm not as well traveled.
I can hear the dialogue already:
"So where would you like to go?"
"Paris?" ... "nope been there"
"Ok, Egypt?" ... "nah that was last year"
"hmm ok, well how about England?" ... "no sorry been there 3 times already... BORING"
"Well, (insert anywhere here)" ... "Been there too"
*shrugs* | |
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