| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/31/2008 5:26:23 AM | well, as there are a higher risk of difficulties with the birth etc as age increases, i think you'd be swapping one series of problems with another, even if your premise *was* correct
"the institution of marriage"... committed in an institution... who wouldn't want that...
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/31/2008 5:37:01 AM | | I think people should marry at a young age like 18 to 20 as it is the only true romance as we have nothing to lose and everything to gain and I have not really been in love since I was 18 years old and it lasted all most 20 years. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/31/2008 5:46:46 AM | Sadly the institution of marriage is not what it used to be. There are many reasons for this change,some because of our outlook in our disposable society and some due to changes in divorce law over the years.
Which came first ,the chicken or the egg type issue. Did changes in divorce laws make it so easy that we became an "easy out" society ,or were we headed there anyway and the laws just facilitated the advancement of more divorces.
Obviously legislation is not the answer.If so, could you then have a law about who you are to fall in love with? Would you say ,as a society we would rather have you live in sin than get married? What about the children of this coupling? What type of societal problems do we create there? You just can't legislate against stupidity.
I may be the exception to the rule but I was 19 when I got married,my marriage lasted 39 1/2 years,and only ended when she passed away.Are you going to tell me that I shouldn't have gotten married until 30 and missed out on 11 happy years?
I would be in favor of counselling for those couples wanting to get married but,regardless of age. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/31/2008 6:37:54 AM | "People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage."
Tell that to the students who go to those Christian colleges when most of the women go there to find a husband. 90 some percent end up doing just that before they hit thirty. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/31/2008 7:08:53 AM | | I don’t believe in marriage at any age, I’m not welcoming the government as a silent partner into any relationship. I don’t care what tax breaks or incentives they offer. They’re already involved in enough of my life weather I like it or not. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:52:52 AM | What the eff is the evolution revolution?
Um, "Yah". What the eff IS ^ ? 
Sooo, lemme get this proposed 'Law' in some perspective (for my lil ol self)...
Folks that marry at/beyond age 30? Um...'They' do NOT get Divorced? As 'Often'?
As folks whom marry at 29? 28? 27? , so ON?
I think SomeOne needs to get ta packin there luggage, booking their tickets, reserving their seat - For...Their *Trip Back To zee Drawing Board*
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:34:47 AM | | i dont agree with the marrage not allowed till 30 thing cuz im 22 i was married yes im getting devorce but it was not of my choice i did my duty i never cheated i treated her best to my knoledge i did what i thought need to be done but she couldnt keep her legs closed sounds harsh but its true.... so what do u do when the man is ready but the woman isnt y should some one with a level head get restricted cuz of some foolish kids... thats not fair | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:47:44 AM | I don't think age matters, I think that level of understanding of what you want and need are more important.
My grandparents got married when she was 20, and it didn't end until one of them died. I think that you need to take into account the changes in the institution itself.
(Pasted from something I wrote in another thread.)
The social contract that made marriage an effective system has been destroyed by the massive changes that our society has undergone in the last 50+ years. We now tend to take some of these changes for granted, but they still have a HUGE effect on how things work. (Note- I don't have a problem with feminism or gender equality.)
The old gender roles:
Men provided
Women raised the family
The new gender roles:
Anyone provides
Anyone raises the kids
The old system held couples together because- hey, if we don't work out our problems its going to be very difficult for the other to take care of their needs! We better work this stuff out!
Nowadays everyone says, "I can take care of my self!"
Nothing needs to be resolved because in the end, "I don't need you!11"
If you want things to work on any level you need to find something to be the new glue. That's why I think people are so picky. I think that we're starting to realize that modern marriages have to have a love (or something that we can't even identify) that holds them together. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:30:28 AM | | it doesn't matter what age you get married many fall apart for there own reasons...its silly to say its got to do with age...its got nothing to do with age only the people who are getting married why or how the divorces happen... | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:52:38 AM | I'd be for this just so I don't have to deal with all my friends getting married. LOL.
Otherwise, eh. It depends too much on individual personalities. Plus, for many people, you'd be delaying adulthood. Some ladies and men wait until they have their Big Relationship before going for the career and independent lifestyle. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:04:23 AM | under 30 cant get married ,??,very funny ,,you try telling those under 30 gay men with all there equal rights crap heading to canada to get married to stay where they are then ..
protecting or aresting our younger people will be impossible soon ..they have rights ..at least we are still talking about men and women getting together and marrage ..i say let it be .
the vows arent legaly binding ,,commonlaw is asumed even if they dont get married so why not stay out of it | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:15:46 AM | I agree whole heartedly!!
Younger people get married for all the wrong reasons. Actually..I think most people get married for all the wrong reasons..and It is so easy just to get divorced...people seldom give marriage and what those vows mean a second chance.
Another option that would be interesting..is renewable marriage licenses....when they expire at say...every 7 or 10 years..then you can consider renewing..or walking away with a preset contract, for division of assets. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:46:16 AM | | As one who is "under 30" and having seriously considered marriage at one point, having many friends happily married, some happily divorced and some sullenly both, I would diagnose the problem with high divorce rates at a different point in the development of our expectations within relationships. I've seen many friends get married because it was the next "logical" step, but the "logic" of relationships, marriage and society's expectations has changed. Young people live crunched in a socially-sustained contradiction of expectations: to be self-sufficient and independent and thus capable of making our own decisions, yet at the same time to always desire the companionship and perceived stability of marriage. This is only a contradiction because of how each of these is construed; not a contradiction per se. We are not allowed to "re-vision" marriage for the 21st century lest we be accused of diluting the institution, yet are expected to accept and even desire standards that we have had no say in creating. In my own experience (for what it is worth) recognizing what lies ahead of me in marriage definitely influences how, when and why I pursue or end relationships. It has altered the way that young people "date," has changed how we carry out our finances, and how we develop the expectations we have for our lives. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:48:33 AM | ^^^Rain^^^
Wow, that's food for thought...renewable licenses. Hmmm.
Having only married once, I think it's way too easy to get married and subsequently have children than it is to dismantle the arrangement if it doesn't "work."
Not trying to derail the original post, but people should be screened or have licenses to have children as well.
Problem is, who decides who can and who can't? | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 11:23:51 AM | | To heck with an age limit ... the whole damn institution should be abolished as it is outdated, irrelevant and unnecessary. As humans we've evolved beyond any benefit marriage can afford. The only reason anyone should get married now would be because of some silly religious dogma. Really, the whole institution is a sham. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 12:20:28 PM | Screened licenses to have kids?!
Come on now. How are you going to prevent that!?
Read "The Giver" - that's one of the things they do to "protect society" in the book. Everyone takes birth control. It is enforced.
(Also, it's a damn fine book that a lot of Middle Schools are teaching now...) | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/19/2008 1:23:34 PM |
Read "The Giver" - that's one of the things they do to "protect society" in the book. Everyone takes birth control. It is enforced.
While we're on the topic of reading books related to this thread, "Starship Troopers" by Robert Heinlein is appropriate as well.
P.S. - Watching the movie is NOT a substitute for the book ;) | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:59:01 AM | if young people dont marry..they would just live together....nothing gained. Young adults...teens would be better off if there was an education in regard to relationship building...commitment..and respecting others. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/20/2008 8:03:05 AM | I think marriage licenses need to be enforced the same way we obtain drivers licenses.
get a permit and have your parents guide you for a while
THEN you need to pass a course THEN you can get married but not before paying a 5000 dollar retainer awardable to the one who gets cheated on first.
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