| HAVE YOU DATED A MARRIED MAN??????
Posted: 1/10/2005 7:57:00 PM | | fortified... i happen to be a hetrosexual woman so i'd never have the opportunity to date a married woman therefore i can't honestly speak for a man. so whatever with you flamin' me here! i never said what works for me is what has to work for anyone else... what IS your problem? | |
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| HAVE YOU DATED A MARRIED MAN??????
Posted: 1/10/2005 8:11:39 PM | | i just read your other post fortified... and you know what... i think you need a divorce! even if i were a single male... i would not date a married woman and it would be for the same reasons... i would not want to hurt some other guy over a piece of hiney! and that has nothing to do with me judging anyone... it has everything to do with the fact that i choose not to date people who have taken their vows, for better or worse, richer or poor, in sickness and in health, to death do you part! you do what you wanna do man! i couldn't care less... but like it says in my profile... i don't even bother responding to married men and that's my choice! i don't knock you for wanting to cheat on your wife so don't knock me because i wouldn't be the one to help you cheat on your wife. i'd say try marriage counseling but i doubt that would help you... you seem angry & i'm not your wife so i can't help you man. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2005 8:15:07 PM | | no but i kissed a married women with great passion in the middle of the dance floor.. until i found out she was married then i told her nope.. i cant do that.. i did not know you were married.. i dont play that.. and i was bombed on jager at the time.. she was pissed and tryed even after to get me to go out with her after through a mutual friend... NO WAY. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2005 5:28:11 AM | I am not angry, really. And I am not asking for your help. I will not get into what my situation is because it is personal. I am upfront about being married on here, or with whoever I meet. And with those people I have no problem discussing my situation. In the meantime if you want to guess what it might be, that's fine. Whatever makes you happy.
No one is knocking you because you don't want to date married men, I support you 100%!! I was 'knocking' you because you could not remain objective, and take NO point of view. You immediately assumed the 'the wife is hurting' and only the man is to blame.
I am beginning to think you are the angry one. My posts obviously got you inflamed enough to write 2 replies, back to back. Can't we just get along?  | |
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Posted: 1/11/2005 6:29:39 AM | | well what kind of sense does it make for me to try to step into a man's body and mind and try to explain what he might feel when i'm not a man fortified? that's why your post towards me got under my skin. like i've said... i've never been hit on by a married woman and don't expect i ever will be. but if by some chance it does happen... i feel the same way about it. husbands and wives should not be looking to cheat on each other. what part of that is not open minded? i'm not open minded because i respect the sanctity of marriage... come on man, you've gotta be kidding me! you should have never gotten married if you weren't done playing around. and yes, it does anger me when someone like you flames me for absolutely no reason. i'm not the only woman in this forum, on this site or in this world that won't date a married man. and you read way too much into my post... i never said it's always the woman that's hurting... i said i don't date married men because i wouldn't want to hurt another woman. i wouldn't want that done to me. did you not understand my english? and furthermore... i never said it was always the man that was to blame... the topic of this thread happens to be about DATING MARRIED MEN! | |
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Posted: 1/11/2005 6:34:44 AM | the topic of this thread happens to be about DATING MARRIED MEN!
What's your point? This topic should be for women only?
I see you really struggle to be objective. As for me, on to a topic more interesting, like oral sex..... | |
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Posted: 1/11/2005 4:24:30 PM | Hi Jaytea,
Others shouldn't knock you,as you say.
Most don't know the complete story,maybe the wife has a boyfriend of her own. Who know's. He obviously doesn't feel desirable & the excitement at home as he feels or felt with you.
The problem with marrage & most real longterm relationships is.....routine........people get bored...... | |
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Posted: 1/11/2005 7:57:12 PM | | fortified... is my english really that bad that you don't understand my point? i'll say it again for you slowly this time... i am a woman that doesn't care to date married men or even flirt with them... if i were a man i would not care to date or flirt with a married woman. so... with that said... from either perspective... I WOULD NOT DATE A MARRIED PERSON. but seeing as this thread is about dating married men... as a woman, i made a simple post in this thread sharing my opinion and you've tried to twist it into something it is not. what you choose to do is your business & i don't knock anyone for doing what they want to in there own lives. if you're married and you flirt or you cheat, that's your business... i simply don't care participate in those type of games. just because i don't share your point of view doesn't make me wrong, it simply makes my opinion different than yours... was that a little easier for you to understand? cause if it's not... i'd suggest you sign up for some college courses in the english language... it's doubtful i could make my point any more simple than i've already made it for you doll. ;) enjoy cheating on your wife. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2005 9:44:24 PM | | Calm down, "whosyourbadkitty"...calm down. Now you are predicting what you would do as a man? I mean, really now.....you don't have to prove anything to me, nor I to you. Have a good evening. Peace! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2005 5:21:32 AM | The truth is women and men do date married people. Some of them are married also, and others are single. There are a variety of reasons. Some like the idea of non-commitment, etc.
I am surprised so many people are appalled like it's some kind of sickness that has befallen society, when next to prostitution sex outside of marriage has been around for eons.
I am not justifying or legitimizing it. But it is a fact of life, as are the appalling divorce statistics. I believe many should simply not be married, as some people should not be parents.
For those who are single, and think that too many married people are dating single people you could be dating, look at this way. At least those are men and women you probably would not want to date based on the poor choices they make. They have already been filtered out for your convenience. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2005 8:53:58 AM |
I am upfront about being married on here, or with whoever I meet. And with those people I have no problem discussing my situation.
@ fortified. It is great you are honest about your situation fortified. It is easy enough to lie on here,or be less than truthfull at least.
The real question is are you being Honest with your wife? .Your reasons for being here are your own, but if she still has faith in you as her husband and you no longer love her SHE is the one you need to be honest with. Not us here on pof.
I am not judging any one simply asking everyone to reflect on how their choices can affect
others around them.
Cosmo. | |
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| HAVE YOU DATED A MARRIED MAN??????
Posted: 1/12/2005 10:32:50 AM | "Poligamy is worse than homosexuality"
Well, I guess I am super screwed...I believe in polyamorous homosexuality!  | |
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Posted: 1/12/2005 10:37:43 AM | | I would have to agree with that...to a point...isnt there a ratio of more women vs men?? By all logical reasoning...shouldn't there be two or three women for every man?? | |
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Posted: 1/12/2005 10:53:22 AM | Well, cosmo, I appreciate your honesty and intelligent response.
Of course, it's very important we are honest with oursleves first, in everything we have to deal with, in our relationships, work, etc.
The arguments I present here are simply for discussion. Everyone's situation is different and they have to find the best way to deal with it.
The last thing I want to do is to advocate anything that goes against a good loving relationship, a healthy family life, and a life well lived. I think we if we all had the ideal relationships we desire, we would be spending very little time on forums like this.
I respect all of you, and wish you all the best. It is never my intention to judge or offend anyone either. Some of my humor is tongue-in-cheek, and I realize not everyone can appreciate that. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2005 3:14:54 PM | | yes i have dated a married man and it went on for over a year..we both fell in love with each other then he told his wife about us because he was going to leave her,well s*** hit the fan then.....she threatened both our lives and well i guess that pretty much ended it...now she has him on a tight leash so him or i are any wheres near each other,but if the day come i would see him again, i guess she will just have to go postal on us or whatever she may want to do,,,,,,this has been over 3 years ago and yes i still love the guy and i know he feels the same about me......but i guess its time to move on cause if she has her way he'll never get out of her site | |
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Posted: 1/13/2005 4:20:59 PM | You are a pretty lady, Katie, and seem very articulate. You should have no problem meeting someone with less baggage.
But love can work in myserious ways, I know. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2005 8:26:58 PM | Yep...five different times....and not proud of it....friend once told me I was born to be a mistress and not a wife. Irony there is I am currently getting divorced - couldn't cheat on my own husband, left him instead as soon as I wanted to start another (unsuccessful) relationship.
No idea why I have done this cos fundamentally I believe in total trust and fidelity.....and desperately want the sort of relationship where there is noone else..... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2005 8:36:53 PM | | I dated a married man once. I did not know until after we broke up that he was married and had a child. I was furious. I could never date someone married, if I knew about it beforehand. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2005 2:26:31 PM | First, I want to thank those of you who support me in my honesty and in what I had to say in my previous post about dating a married man.
There are several reasons that a woman would date a married man and vice versa. The ones that I can think of offhand are no strings attached, no commitments, the ability to see the person when you WANT to and not all of the time, and knowing exactly where you stand in the relationship.
If I was younger I probably wouldn't feel the way that I do about this, but with age comes wisdom.
The married man that I dated I met online. He is 15 years younger than myself and is the sweetest and most generous man  that I have ever met. He had been married 10 years to the 'love of his life'. They have no children together, although she has grown children from a previous marriage. He had relocated from the east out to California before they were married where he knew no one but her. He has suspected that his wife had been having affairs in the recent past by her behavior, although she wouldn't admit to it. He financially supports his wife even though she works. She gets to spend all the money that she makes on herself and doesn't have to chip in for any of their living expenses. She has refused him sex for the past several months. He was starved for affection and he deserved affection and that is what I gave him with no strings attached. I have made it very clear to him that no matter what happens he must NEVER tell her about us.
My husband  left me a while ago (several months before I started the relationship with my married friend) for a younger woman whom was also married and living with her husband, which was a complete shock to me. After over 23 years of us being married he meets this woman who was out here visiting her relatives who are 'friends' of ours and he started an affair with her, which led to him moving out of the house where I and our children live so that he could be on his own to do just what he wants to do. This woman that he is with couldn't wait for me to find out about them. The first weekend that they spent together, before I knew anything about them, she made it a point to leave a hickey on his neck so that I would definitely see it and know. Shortly thereafter I found a pair of pants of his in his van and went through the pockets and low and behold found his cell phone bill, which gave me a lot of information. I called the frequently-called number from the bill and I tried to talk to this woman 'woman to woman' and I asked her to please leave my family alone, but she so much as laughed in my face. (Her husband and children were as equally upset about what they were doing as my children and I were. The good part about the whole thing is the fact that she lives 2000 miles away, and also is the fact that she is very physically unattractive). She flys out to CA from Wisconsin about every other month leaving her 5-year-old daughter with relatives for ten days while she continues the affair with my husband. The months that she doesn't come out here she buys an airline ticket for my husband so that he can go see her in Wisconsin. She spends a lot of money on him. After he pays my expenses, which I well deserve, he doesn't have much left.
The funny thing is that now that I am finally done mourning the fact that our marriage has ended, and I have moved on, and in fact I feel really good about it, and now that I am dating other men and having a lot of fun, my husband is changing his tune. He now calls me constantly, asks me what I am doing, asks me over for dinner, wants to go out with me, etc. He says that he thinks about me being with other men 24/7 and it is driving him crazy. I guess it was inevitable, but I find it very amusing. So far his girlfriend knows nothing about what is going on with us, but I have a feeling that she will very soon!  | |
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Posted: 1/14/2005 3:40:15 PM | | I haven't "dated" a married man. About two years ago I met an older married man on the internet. At first, he said he was only looking for friendship and then he admitted he was looking for a physical relationship because his wife had had a severe stroke and had no interest in sex. I met him for coffee and we talked but I didn't choose to take him up on his offer. I simply felt I could not, and I had to stop chatting with him because the subject of sex kept recurring. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2005 9:42:07 AM | I would have to agree with that...to a point...isnt there a ratio of more women vs men?? By all logical reasoning...shouldn't there be two or three women for every man??
Sounds quite logical to me!  | |
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Posted: 1/16/2005 5:35:31 AM | Ah, "It just sorta, happened", NOTHING just sort of "Happens"
lol
But, hey, as long as you learned your lesson, and never intend on doing it again.
Of course some men probably lie about being single so the woman doesn't know it, at least she doesn't know what she's getting into.
But if you do it knowingly and willingly, well, it's just plain wrong then | |
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Posted: 1/16/2005 2:02:26 PM | I wouldn't say that I have dated a married man. Had sex with a married man yes!! Dated no!!
Too complicated to get involved with a married man. Won't do it again!! | |
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